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2023.05.28 07:37 Same_Criticism9969 After Graduation
Hi guys, I am thinking of finalizing USYD and as an intl student I will be paying 40% of the fees and for the rest, I'll be taking a loan. So, does anybody have any idea what might be the starting salary of a Comp. Science/ Data Science graduate (after undergrad) so that I have a rough idea as to how long it will take for me to repay the loan. Also, on average, how much is a student paid during internships?
Thanks
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2023.05.28 07:37 Warriorofjustice22 My case
 | When I was 20 years old I was invited by Jesse Daniel King / vincenzo king to live with him at Mt.tam Ridge apartments (now called Bell apartments) in Corte Madera, Marin. The way we met is he would constantly DM me on instagram until I gave in. He told me was Sicilian but had a lot of medication in different language. He would inject himself with what he said were “hormones”. As I was in a vulnerable state,I complied, it was a new experience for me, I had never lived with a man that was my so-called “boyfriend”. At first jesse was kind, I helped him pay the apartment and gave him my full trust. I gave him roughly around 8k-10k. He told me his mother died and that he had cancer, as well that he was a private contractor for the army and that he had killed people. He showed signs of deep trauma in which I could relate to, I felt bad for him and wanted to offer a loving-kindness as I believe everyone can heal. I lived with him for two years. After the first two months that I lived with him he started to become aggressive, getting mad for every little thing (for example: I once clogged the kitchen sink because I was doing dishes) or he would get angry at his boss “Tom” from Sausalito California an old man that he took care of but heavily complained about. I was very understanding of his emotions and the most patient I had ever been with anyone as I wanted to offer my full empathy. I did love him at one point but that was before I learned the truth and how I was backstabbed. Fast forward a couple months and I got pregnant. It was my first time getting pregnant, he immediately started to become even more aggressive and told me he didn’t want me to have the baby. I became heavily depressed and even dependent on him as I was scared to tell my parents and felt I couldn’t tell them what was going on. I was trapped in that one bedroom apartment, he would go out but I would always be stuck there for the sake of being loyal. He would always express to me how loyalty was important to him and I respected that. While I was pregnant he would flirt and go out to meet other women. He told me about his ex girlfriend “Katherine” of 7 years and how her mom and dad are powerful in the Air Force. I texted her once to ask her if Jesse was good to her, in which she replied “in hindsight”. I had no problem with her and left it at that. Jesse and Katherine kept in contact afterwards, I didn’t complain as I was scared he would get mad at me and call me toxic. During that same time he expressed interest in a neighbor called “Alison”. He said not to worry about her as her husband was CHP, but he also said that he bet she “fucked like an animal”. Very concerning to hear but I ignored it so he wouldn’t have a fit. I was constantly walking on eggshells. After that, that is when Alison lindemann (lindermann, might not be her real name) knocked on our door. Jesse explained what happened from his point of view in the email screenshot attachments above. Alison was very aggressive towards me, after the altercation Jesse choke slammed me and strangled me for a minute before he “realized” what he was doing. I suffered a mild concussion. He then gave me a pill and that is when I lost my baby. I had no health care so I had to heal the natural way. I knew I lost my child because I had never experienced that pain before, he locked himself in the bathroom while I screamed in pain in the bedroom, not once did he ask if I was okay. I tolerated his behavior because I was scared and he blamed his anger on Cancer and his dead parents. After the lease ended he said he had no where to go so I invited him to live with my parents, my mom helped us move our things, he never said thank you. He had an anger fit towards my mom, and he was still being aggressive in my parents home. That is when I kicked him out, I didn’t want my siblings to witness his anger and get traumatized like I did. We then went our separate ways. Afterwards I found out that he never had cancer and both his parents were still alive. I knew because his parents would visit my job at chevron in Rockville road and intimidate me because Fairfield is their town/turf. I then found out that his “sister” was Stevie king and her husband Alex , people I worked with at in n out in Fairfield when I was 18. I found this creepy and sad as I didn’t expect it from them. I also found out that he had a child with Shelby Larkin, and named her Kennedy at the same time I lost my baby. After I spoke up, my family and I dealt with retaliation. I have multiple evidence, from stalking, harassment from his friends and subliminals from his best friend kiana Melendez. I suffered a deep depression. I was scared to tell my parents so I posted it online instead. Hoping they wouldn’t suffer from retaliation but they still did. All of the attackers were from Travis Air Force, in Fairfield California (Katherine’s mom and dad people) He had access to all money that he “kept” for me. As well as my social security. Im first generation and he used my information to attack members of my family that were undocumented. An auntie in my family in Mexico was robbed significantly. I also suffered a financial loss. Since they won’t stop I am forced to publicly my case again. I wish I wasn’t so stupid and never met him. The first king that bullied me was Caroline king, she followed me to a thrift shop and laughed at me with her friend group. Not one was a person of color. I didn’t know they were related until now. I was targeted. I hope my case helps others not be as naive as I was. Katherine and her mom followed me to Mexico to spy on me and Mexico City. Im pretty sure that’s illegal but I don’t know, they do a lot of “tours”. It’s sad to see the US government abuse their power on the innocent. I was robbed, a family member of mine was killed, I lost my baby by force,i suffered postpartum depression, I was then gangstalked by Katherine and Jesses friends, My parents were intimidated by the Travis Air Force to keep me quiet. I felt trapped in that town as their beloved Air Force are “heroes”. What did I do that started their interest in me ? I went to a peaceful protest advocating against police brutality and for women’s rights. I missed family events and he wouldn’t let me go to Mexico City, I didn’t deserve this. My family and I also experienced a in house C4 bomb “test” the day before my birthday. On my birthday I spent it in the 707 North Bay hospital, in which the Spaniard nurses there all seemed to have the same face as Katherine. They told me I was paranoid and agitated,they did an EKG on me but didn’t tell me why or what the procedure was. They also injected me with a shot when I told them not to, I am 23 and a “legal” adult now so I would assume the doctors would have to respect my choice. But they didn’t, after my stay I felt like a zombie and suffered from a urinary tract infection that I didn’t have before my stay at that hospital. I don’t know how long I was knocked out but I spent a day and night there. I pleaded to go home and that I was okay and tried my best to not seem so “agitated” but they declined and kept me still. I have video surveillance evidence of the C4 bomb “test” as my parents have cameras inside the house. What was the most heartbreaking is that my little siblings also smelled the smell of C4. No kid should know what that smells like. I hope this spreads awareness on how dangerous these people are and how they abuse their power. I can forgive what happened to me but I am angry about what happened to my family. On my little sisters birthday, “Katie” another of Katherine’s people inserted herself and did a pop-up on my families property, even went as far to call me a bitch. Now Katie’s and all the kats protect their identities by calling themselves Kat now, reminds me of kkk. Which is still active is the 707 Bay Area. It seems as though the Travis Air Force uses the kkk to install fear into the lives of people of color in “their” communities, they also disguise themselves under being MAGA supporters. These are my facts, my story from my point of view. I’m sorry for speaking my truth. submitted by Warriorofjustice22 to u/Warriorofjustice22 [link] [comments] |
2023.05.28 07:36 metalheadgamerdude I love working for Trader Joe's. I know this sub hates shit posts but I genuinely wanted to get this off my chest. There is this group of coworkers at Trader Joe's who gets all the praise and recognition and gets to always do the most desirable work. It doesn't matter how hard I work, how funny I tr
Try to be. How nice I am to everyone. How much I want to improve. Whatever I do they are the ones that get all the praise and recognition. One of the mates is an asshole about it too to other crew members. I want to transfer. I think I am.
Either that, or I want to completely change this job because this is starting to affect me.
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Either that, or I want to completely change this job because this is starting to affect me.
2023.05.28 07:36 Ok_Spread4477 [Bulk] Krytox 205g0, XHT-BDZ, Lubed TX Stabs, Owlab London Fog, Neon, Banana Split, TTC Holy Panda v2, Zaku Linear, Epsilon, Gateron Ink Black v2, Box Black, Gateron CJ, Dark Amber T1, Milky Yellow, NK Cream, Cherry MX Black, Durock Koala, Piano, L5, Linear , Panghu Giant V5, Mauve, Lilac, Shogoki
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Hi, this is Kevin from Kevin W Studio Lube Service. I started my lube and film services in the second half of 2021 as a relatively small operation but have invested heavily in it after receiving so much positive feedback from the mechmarket community members. Thank you very much to everyone who has purchased from me; I am very grateful for your trust!
In addition to lubes, films, brushes, etc., I have invested in an ultrasonic cleaner for deep cleaning switches that come from the factory pre-lubed. The end result is a much more consistent sound and press feel. I carry a large variety of lubed and filmed switches in stock; please check out the descriptions for each switch to see what lube+film was used and whether or not the ultrasonic cleaner was used.
All orders will be shipped in ziplock bags inside a box. SHIPPING IS CONUS ONLY. I am unfortunately not set up to fulfil international orders yet; apologies for the inconvenience.
Switches, Lubes and tools
I have received questions regarding my experience, so I would like to share that and a few of my philosophies when it comes to lubing and filming switches:
I have lubed and filmed over 40,000 switches for other people since the middle of 2021.
** Please PM me with the quantity of switches and your PayPal email, and I will send the invoice.
** The price list below includes PayPal fees and shipping unless described in price column.
Lubricants
Finally got time to distribute lubricants into glass jar, sorry there is no small jars, but the price are roughly at wholesale price + materials/shipping I paid, should be cheaper than any other stores you can find online.
Linear switch
Tactile Switch
Stabilizers
Local pick up available, zip code: 95035.
submitted by Ok_Spread4477 to mechmarket [link] [comments]
Hi, this is Kevin from Kevin W Studio Lube Service. I started my lube and film services in the second half of 2021 as a relatively small operation but have invested heavily in it after receiving so much positive feedback from the mechmarket community members. Thank you very much to everyone who has purchased from me; I am very grateful for your trust!
In addition to lubes, films, brushes, etc., I have invested in an ultrasonic cleaner for deep cleaning switches that come from the factory pre-lubed. The end result is a much more consistent sound and press feel. I carry a large variety of lubed and filmed switches in stock; please check out the descriptions for each switch to see what lube+film was used and whether or not the ultrasonic cleaner was used.
All orders will be shipped in ziplock bags inside a box. SHIPPING IS CONUS ONLY. I am unfortunately not set up to fulfil international orders yet; apologies for the inconvenience.
Switches, Lubes and tools
I have received questions regarding my experience, so I would like to share that and a few of my philosophies when it comes to lubing and filming switches:
I have lubed and filmed over 40,000 switches for other people since the middle of 2021.
- There is no single lube method that works perfectly for all switches because many switches have minute differences, and they all have their own sound signatures and press feels.
- Preserving the switch's sound signature and press feel should be a high priority. 205g0 is great for linear switches, but it is very easy to overlube with it, which produces a homogenous sound signature and press feel, making linear switches sound and feel similar, e.g., Lavenders/Banana Splits/etc.
- Deep cleaning is necessary to produce a consistent sound and press feel for some switches because factory pre-lube can be inconsistently applied.
- No single film works for every switch because housing tightness varies greatly. When I receive a new switch that I have no experience with, I test every combination of lube and film I can to find what works best for that particular switch.
- Film is not always a good thing; if the top housing is pretty tight, it can turn the linear switch to tactile or tactile to linear, significantly impacting the feel, so I only film the switches when necessary.
- Why mix 205g0 and 105 for linear switches? In order to eliminate switch noise and preserve the switch's original sound signature and press feel, I found this mixture to be optimal after extensive testing.
** Please PM me with the quantity of switches and your PayPal email, and I will send the invoice.
** The price list below includes PayPal fees and shipping unless described in price column.
Lubricants
Finally got time to distribute lubricants into glass jar, sorry there is no small jars, but the price are roughly at wholesale price + materials/shipping I paid, should be cheaper than any other stores you can find online.
| Lube | Description | Quantity | Price |
|---|---|---|---|
| Krytox 205g0 | 50g per jar, roughly 25~30ml, for switches | 15 -> 8 | $45 + shipping, shipping waived with lubed switch purchase |
| Krytox XHT-BDZ | 20g per jar, for stabilizer wire | 20 -> 17 | $50 + shipping, shipping waived with lubed switch purchase |
| Krytox XHT-BDZ | 50g per jar, for stabilizer wire | 7 -> 5 | $100 + shipping, shipping waived with lubed switch purchase |
| Switch | Description | Quantity (Pack) | Price (90 switches per pack if not specified otherwise) |
|---|---|---|---|
| Lubed Banaba Split switches | Ultrasonic cleaned on top house and stem, air dry for 48 hours, Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 3 | $120 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Owlab London Fog Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring, housing is pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 1 | $115 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Owlab Neon Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring, housing is pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 3 -> 2 | $115 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Zaku Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring, housing is pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 13 | $115 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Vertex v1 Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring, housing is pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 1 | $100 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Prevail Epsilon | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring, housing is pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 17 | $115 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Durock POM Piano Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring, housing is pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 22 -> 18 | $115 per pack shipped |
| L + F Gateron Ink Black V2 | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Filmed with 0.15mm Durock Switch Films. | 90 * 6 -> 4 | $115 per pack shipped |
| L + F Gateron Box Black Ink v2 | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Filmed with 0.15mm Durock Switch Films. | 90 * 4 | $120 per pack shipped |
| L + F Gateron Box Pink Ink v2 | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Filmed with 0.15mm Durock Switch Films. | 60 * 1 | $80 shipped for 60 switches |
| Lubed Panghu Giant V5 Switches | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film. | 90 * 2 | $110 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Cherry MX Hyperglide Black | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Housing pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 7 -> 5 | $100 per pack shipped |
| Lubed NK Cream | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 5 -> 3 | $110 per pack shipped |
| L + F Durock L5 Linear Teal (Smoke) 67g | Ultrasonic cleaned on top house and stem, air dry for 48 hours, Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Filmed with 0.15mm durock Switch Films. | 90 * 3 | $95 Per pack shipped |
| Lubed Gateron Milky Yellow | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film. | 90 * 16 | $70 Per pack shipped |
| L + F Gateron Pink | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Filmed with 0.15mm Durock Switch Films. | 60 * 1 | $70 shipped for 60 switches |
| Lubed Mauve Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Housing pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 2 | $105 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Lilac Linear | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Housing pretty tight, no film is required. | 110 * 1 | $130 for 110 switches shipped |
| Lubed TTC Red Linear switch | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Housing pretty tight, no film is required. | 90 * 1 | $70 per pack shipped |
| L + F Gateron CJ | Lubed with mixed Krytox 205g0 and 105 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. Filmed with 0.15mm Durock Switch Films. | 60 * 1 | $80 shipped for 60 switches. |
| Switch | Description | Quantity (Pack) | Price (90 switches per pack if not specified otherwise) |
|---|---|---|---|
| Lubed TTC Holy Panada v2 Tactile | Lubed with tribosys 3203 on bottom housing and stem, mixed 205g0 and 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 2 | $115 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Durock Koala Tactile 67g | Lubed with tribosys 3203 on bottom housing and stem, mixed 205g0 and 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 2 | $100 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Durock Dark Amber T1 Tactile | Lubed with tribosys 3203 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 3 | $110 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Shogoki Tactile Switch | Lubed with tribosys 3203 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 2 | $110 per pack shipped |
| Lubed Tecsee Coral Tactile Switch | Lubed with tribosys 3203 on bottom housing and stem, 105 on spring. No film is required. | 90 * 1 | $90 per pack shipped |
| Stabilizers | Description | Quantity (Pack) | Price (90 switches per pack if not specified otherwise) |
|---|---|---|---|
| Lubed TX Stabilizers (Rev. 3) - 1.2mm PCB, WKL(7u), Black | Lubed TX Stabilizers, Krytox 205g0 on the stem and housing, Krytox XHT-BDZ on the wire, 4 * 2u + 1 * 7u spacebar wire. | 5 | $30 shipped per set with at least one pack of Lubed switches. |
| Lubed TX Stabilizers (Rev. 3) - 1.2mm PCB, WK(6.25u), White | Lubed TX Stabilizers, Krytox 205g0 on the stem and housing, Krytox XHT-BDZ on the wire, 4 * 2u + 1 * 6.25u spacebar wire. | 4 | $30 shipped per set with at least one pack of Lubed switches. |
2023.05.28 07:34 ExtentImpossible4416 What are your recommendations for where to do with our financial plan from here? We are new to this.
Long post. My wife and I both grew up poor and have next to zero financial knowledge. I’ll give a little background about where we’re at, what we have planned for the next few years, and I would really appreciate advice and suggestions about where we should go from here.
Background of where we are at now: My wife and I are both 26 and have no kids yet but plan to within the next few years. I’m military (E-4, ~3k with my special pays after tax) and my wife is about to start a GS-6 with a locality pay that brings her a little below 50k/annually. We have 25k student debt in the government loans for my Bachelor’s and my wife’s nursing program, however, it would all go away if student loan forgiveness is upheld this Summer. Not really counting on that, though. We are about to start a $140-160k mortgage (still deciding down payment) on a property and home of about $250k in value. We got a big family discount and intend to hold on to this home as our family home once we get back full-time in 6-10ish years.
Both of our cars were paid in full with cash and are good for the foreseeable future.
We presently live in base housing so our housing and utilities are a set amount each month and removed from my check. The home that we are in the process of inheriting/buying will have a house payment around $1,300-$1,500 for 15 years depending on the home insurance we’re able to find and if we’re able to get the property tax discount. It will have a mid 5% APR. We would like to pay this down quickly and we estimate we could probably do so in 7-10 years. In addition to my wife living in the home while I’m on deployments and such(she will take a leave of absence from her main job, will likely do short term contracting for a higher wage during this period) a sibling of mine will be staying in the house full-time as a caretaker until we return in a few year and they will be paying around half of total payment plus utilities. Raising the rent any higher for them is not something we will consider.
I’ve recently started receiving TSP match for my military retirement account and only recently began contributing meaningful amounts for my portion. I’ve got it going with 5% Roth and the government matches 5% (which goes into traditional I believe) so I have 10% (~$300) of my pay going into TSP each month. To date it’s about $2.5k. My wife is beginning her federal job soon and will also have access to starting a TSP.
We will have around 15k left in a MMSA account that has 1.1% APY after our down payment for the home.
After taxes, my Roth contributions(wife hasn’t started her TSP yet), and all of our bills are paid we’ll have between $6,000-$6,500 extra each month. That doesn’t include home owning costs which will start in late Summer. After including my sibling’s rent ours will be ~$750 per month at the highest.
Where we see the next few years: I have a little less than 3 years on my current contract but I’m considering a 3 year re-enlistment if the proper conditions are met. I’ll be promoted to E-5 in less than 2 years and then E-6 if re-enlist. I then intend to switch over to the reserves as an E-5/very close to E-6 or commission if the timing allows. It would depend upon unit location, school start, and healthcare costs. It will be hard to give up Tricare with a family, plus I’m content staying in the military until reserve retirement or until I get my professional career up and running.
Once I get out I intend to go to medical school (I’ve been accepted to one in a low COL area, will immediately commission into the reserves in a program specific to medicine with this option) or law school (will only consider the top few schools and they are mostly in high COL, will most likely stay reserves until around graduation). We intend to buy a home in whatever city I do one of these programs in. The GI bill has a good housing allowance(E-5 BAH at school zip code) and the entirety of tuition for all of the schools that I’m considering. I plan for us to have a significant amount of savings by this point and my wife plans to work at least part-time (if we have kids by then) while I’m in school and she might be around a GS 7 or 8 by this point, or she might switch back to contracting. She wants to take off a few years after I finish professional school to stay home with the kids when they are young. I absolutely support this and it’s possible that she never returns to work. I’d like to switch down to part time work in my late 40’s/50’s. We are not extravagant people. We plan to see a financial advisor on base within the month for a short term plan but I’m interested in a variety of recommendations and outlooks for our long term plan.
Where to we go from here?
What are some benchmarks for savings that you recommend for our situation?
What do you recommend for our TSP contributions?
What timeframe do you recommend for paying off the house?
What extra investments do you recommend?
What are your recommended financial literacy resources?
Basically, where do we go from here?
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Background of where we are at now: My wife and I are both 26 and have no kids yet but plan to within the next few years. I’m military (E-4, ~3k with my special pays after tax) and my wife is about to start a GS-6 with a locality pay that brings her a little below 50k/annually. We have 25k student debt in the government loans for my Bachelor’s and my wife’s nursing program, however, it would all go away if student loan forgiveness is upheld this Summer. Not really counting on that, though. We are about to start a $140-160k mortgage (still deciding down payment) on a property and home of about $250k in value. We got a big family discount and intend to hold on to this home as our family home once we get back full-time in 6-10ish years.
Both of our cars were paid in full with cash and are good for the foreseeable future.
We presently live in base housing so our housing and utilities are a set amount each month and removed from my check. The home that we are in the process of inheriting/buying will have a house payment around $1,300-$1,500 for 15 years depending on the home insurance we’re able to find and if we’re able to get the property tax discount. It will have a mid 5% APR. We would like to pay this down quickly and we estimate we could probably do so in 7-10 years. In addition to my wife living in the home while I’m on deployments and such(she will take a leave of absence from her main job, will likely do short term contracting for a higher wage during this period) a sibling of mine will be staying in the house full-time as a caretaker until we return in a few year and they will be paying around half of total payment plus utilities. Raising the rent any higher for them is not something we will consider.
I’ve recently started receiving TSP match for my military retirement account and only recently began contributing meaningful amounts for my portion. I’ve got it going with 5% Roth and the government matches 5% (which goes into traditional I believe) so I have 10% (~$300) of my pay going into TSP each month. To date it’s about $2.5k. My wife is beginning her federal job soon and will also have access to starting a TSP.
We will have around 15k left in a MMSA account that has 1.1% APY after our down payment for the home.
After taxes, my Roth contributions(wife hasn’t started her TSP yet), and all of our bills are paid we’ll have between $6,000-$6,500 extra each month. That doesn’t include home owning costs which will start in late Summer. After including my sibling’s rent ours will be ~$750 per month at the highest.
Where we see the next few years: I have a little less than 3 years on my current contract but I’m considering a 3 year re-enlistment if the proper conditions are met. I’ll be promoted to E-5 in less than 2 years and then E-6 if re-enlist. I then intend to switch over to the reserves as an E-5/very close to E-6 or commission if the timing allows. It would depend upon unit location, school start, and healthcare costs. It will be hard to give up Tricare with a family, plus I’m content staying in the military until reserve retirement or until I get my professional career up and running.
Once I get out I intend to go to medical school (I’ve been accepted to one in a low COL area, will immediately commission into the reserves in a program specific to medicine with this option) or law school (will only consider the top few schools and they are mostly in high COL, will most likely stay reserves until around graduation). We intend to buy a home in whatever city I do one of these programs in. The GI bill has a good housing allowance(E-5 BAH at school zip code) and the entirety of tuition for all of the schools that I’m considering. I plan for us to have a significant amount of savings by this point and my wife plans to work at least part-time (if we have kids by then) while I’m in school and she might be around a GS 7 or 8 by this point, or she might switch back to contracting. She wants to take off a few years after I finish professional school to stay home with the kids when they are young. I absolutely support this and it’s possible that she never returns to work. I’d like to switch down to part time work in my late 40’s/50’s. We are not extravagant people. We plan to see a financial advisor on base within the month for a short term plan but I’m interested in a variety of recommendations and outlooks for our long term plan.
Where to we go from here?
What are some benchmarks for savings that you recommend for our situation?
What do you recommend for our TSP contributions?
What timeframe do you recommend for paying off the house?
What extra investments do you recommend?
What are your recommended financial literacy resources?
Basically, where do we go from here?
2023.05.28 07:34 Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 I screwed up as a parent
I was very hard on my daughter since she started kindergarten at age 5. I pushed her to get straight A's and excel, and she met my expectations by 3rd grade. I never did well in school. I wasn't able to complete my nursing degree because of it and have worked a low paying job since. Until I turned 50, I only made 50k per year. I recently got promoted and now make 65k, but I'm 56 now.
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
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I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
2023.05.28 07:33 RareChip6689 My wife is pregnant and addicted to heroin
Where do I even begin?
I’m 32, my wife is 30. We’ve been married for 3 years but together off and on for 11 years. The “off” periods were always due to her drug use but during those periods I still made an effort to be in her life and support her as a friend when I couldn’t handle being with her.
She has a long history of addiction to pain meds and heroin. She had never used drugs when we first met and started dating. She did have a previous history of serious depression that was not being treated. When she was about 21 her mental health took a nosedive and she started using pain meds at the urging of a friend. By the time she was 22 heroin had became her drug of choice. For the record, I’ve never been a drug user and it was never something we did together. Eventually I had enough and couldn’t deal with it anymore so I broke up with her but I stayed in touch with her. She spiraled, tried to quit a few times, technically died a few times, and eventually she got serious about getting clean and went to rehab when she was 25 and she was truly clean and just seemed to have a totally different attitude about life and seemed to be doing better mentally than I’d ever seen her. I have no reason to believe that she wasn’t clean that entire time since then, up until about 6 months ago. I had noticed major changes in her mood before then. I feared she’d crash and I tried to get her to see a professional but she downplayed it.
She hid the relapse from me for as long as she could. Even managed to maintain her job for a while. She’s was successful in her career, excelling, well respected. Her drug use and it’s toll on her life seemed to just accelerate so quickly this time and shortly after I found out what was happening she quit her job and ultimately became a full time junkie. She has destroyed our house. I’m currently paying all of the bills, do all the cleaning, all the cooking. I had to go out of town for work for a few weeks and when I came back she had turned our home into something that looked straight out of an episode of Hoarders.
I have met with a lawyer and drawn up divorce papers. I informed her of it, but haven’t served her yet. Why? Because I’m an idiot, I don’t know. I let her beg and plead and tell me she’ll get clean, we put whole plans together about what she’s going to do, we make agreements, and she did actually make a big effort and a noticeable changes ensued and she became like a real living person again for about 2 months but she is currently using again. I still care so much about her and I have a hard time abandoning her even though I know it’d probably be best for her if I left her. I’m just enabling her now.
This brings me to the present. She was rear ended recently and I made an appointment to take her car in for repairs. She had let her car become a filthy pigsty and I was way too embarrassed to drop it off somewhere in the condition it was in so I was cleaning it out. I found all sorts of crap in there, rotting food, trash, tons of mail that had never been opened up, and and empty, crushed pregnancy test box. No pregnancy test to be found I immediately went in the house and asked her what that was about and she said oh she bought it for a friend. I went straight to the bedroom and bathroom and started rooting through every drawer and cabinet. In her underwear drawer or what used to be her underwear drawer but is now filled with random bits of clothing, melted cough drops, drug paraphernalia, and her collection of miniature ceramic figurines, I found a used pregnancy test and a bottle of prenatal vitamins. I exploded. She was crying. She said she found out she was pregnant but didn’t tell me because she didn’t know what she was going to do and she knew I’d be mad. She “just needs time to figure things out.”
She has the weekend to “figure things out” before calling a doctor on Tuesday. She has no idea how far along she is and she can’t remember when she had a period because she swears she was still taking her birth control this whole time.
I just don’t know what I’m going to do and legally I’m very limited as far as what I have the right to do at this time. I take responsibility for the pregnancy happening. It would have happened during the few months she was better but even then I never should have trusted her to be taking her birth control.
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I’m 32, my wife is 30. We’ve been married for 3 years but together off and on for 11 years. The “off” periods were always due to her drug use but during those periods I still made an effort to be in her life and support her as a friend when I couldn’t handle being with her.
She has a long history of addiction to pain meds and heroin. She had never used drugs when we first met and started dating. She did have a previous history of serious depression that was not being treated. When she was about 21 her mental health took a nosedive and she started using pain meds at the urging of a friend. By the time she was 22 heroin had became her drug of choice. For the record, I’ve never been a drug user and it was never something we did together. Eventually I had enough and couldn’t deal with it anymore so I broke up with her but I stayed in touch with her. She spiraled, tried to quit a few times, technically died a few times, and eventually she got serious about getting clean and went to rehab when she was 25 and she was truly clean and just seemed to have a totally different attitude about life and seemed to be doing better mentally than I’d ever seen her. I have no reason to believe that she wasn’t clean that entire time since then, up until about 6 months ago. I had noticed major changes in her mood before then. I feared she’d crash and I tried to get her to see a professional but she downplayed it.
She hid the relapse from me for as long as she could. Even managed to maintain her job for a while. She’s was successful in her career, excelling, well respected. Her drug use and it’s toll on her life seemed to just accelerate so quickly this time and shortly after I found out what was happening she quit her job and ultimately became a full time junkie. She has destroyed our house. I’m currently paying all of the bills, do all the cleaning, all the cooking. I had to go out of town for work for a few weeks and when I came back she had turned our home into something that looked straight out of an episode of Hoarders.
I have met with a lawyer and drawn up divorce papers. I informed her of it, but haven’t served her yet. Why? Because I’m an idiot, I don’t know. I let her beg and plead and tell me she’ll get clean, we put whole plans together about what she’s going to do, we make agreements, and she did actually make a big effort and a noticeable changes ensued and she became like a real living person again for about 2 months but she is currently using again. I still care so much about her and I have a hard time abandoning her even though I know it’d probably be best for her if I left her. I’m just enabling her now.
This brings me to the present. She was rear ended recently and I made an appointment to take her car in for repairs. She had let her car become a filthy pigsty and I was way too embarrassed to drop it off somewhere in the condition it was in so I was cleaning it out. I found all sorts of crap in there, rotting food, trash, tons of mail that had never been opened up, and and empty, crushed pregnancy test box. No pregnancy test to be found I immediately went in the house and asked her what that was about and she said oh she bought it for a friend. I went straight to the bedroom and bathroom and started rooting through every drawer and cabinet. In her underwear drawer or what used to be her underwear drawer but is now filled with random bits of clothing, melted cough drops, drug paraphernalia, and her collection of miniature ceramic figurines, I found a used pregnancy test and a bottle of prenatal vitamins. I exploded. She was crying. She said she found out she was pregnant but didn’t tell me because she didn’t know what she was going to do and she knew I’d be mad. She “just needs time to figure things out.”
She has the weekend to “figure things out” before calling a doctor on Tuesday. She has no idea how far along she is and she can’t remember when she had a period because she swears she was still taking her birth control this whole time.
I just don’t know what I’m going to do and legally I’m very limited as far as what I have the right to do at this time. I take responsibility for the pregnancy happening. It would have happened during the few months she was better but even then I never should have trusted her to be taking her birth control.
2023.05.28 07:32 TAsparkySD Advice needed : how to become a more quality candidate (long winded)
Being a cop is 100% what I want to do with my life but currently I’m not a good candidate.
I have no criminal record and a clean driving record but I have too many red flags that will DQ me in background.
Job history is spotty with me changing employers in the same trade every year or so. I had a firing after 3 weeks a year ago as well saying that I wasn’t experienced enough for their position despite it being somewhat entry level.
I’ve lived out of my truck before due to my career field being very low paying for the area and not having a support system or anywhere else to go.
Credit needs work but easily fixed. I need my utilization lower and to finish paying off some smaller loans.
The only things I can think of are wait 2 years and then apply to absolute last resort departments like Memphis , Detroit , New Orleans , and lateral later or
Re enlist in the military with a waiver as a MP then be a cop when I’m 30+.
I don’t see any other way to make this work. I really don’t think any department will take me as I am for sure.
As far as the employment hopping goes it started with leaving a good company for the union but the union contractors for my trade in the area are known for being bad so it was 100% on me using poor judgement. (Not knocking unions at all just giving context).
I finally found a good employer again so I’ll be sticking with them until I start in LE but I’m not sure what else I could do to have a chance besides the above.
Any input appreciated , thank you.
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I have no criminal record and a clean driving record but I have too many red flags that will DQ me in background.
Job history is spotty with me changing employers in the same trade every year or so. I had a firing after 3 weeks a year ago as well saying that I wasn’t experienced enough for their position despite it being somewhat entry level.
I’ve lived out of my truck before due to my career field being very low paying for the area and not having a support system or anywhere else to go.
Credit needs work but easily fixed. I need my utilization lower and to finish paying off some smaller loans.
The only things I can think of are wait 2 years and then apply to absolute last resort departments like Memphis , Detroit , New Orleans , and lateral later or
Re enlist in the military with a waiver as a MP then be a cop when I’m 30+.
I don’t see any other way to make this work. I really don’t think any department will take me as I am for sure.
As far as the employment hopping goes it started with leaving a good company for the union but the union contractors for my trade in the area are known for being bad so it was 100% on me using poor judgement. (Not knocking unions at all just giving context).
I finally found a good employer again so I’ll be sticking with them until I start in LE but I’m not sure what else I could do to have a chance besides the above.
Any input appreciated , thank you.
2023.05.28 07:32 kakawolf7843 Feel like a piece of shit
I feel like a piece of shit bc I got caught talking shit about a coworker who fucked me over. Aka I was getting blamed for their poor job ethic and shitty mistakes. Later it came out that they heard us and went crying to the other workers and now I look like the shit head. I then sat down with her and was like hey I’m sorry this escalated but you have now 4x fucked me and I had hit peak rage mode. I did not apologize for the shit bc it was true, all of it. But I did apologize that it came out so rough but I explained that management was saying in the moment it was “your in trouble even though they were in position” . EVEN THOU I WAS NOT. And there is PROOF.
So no. I’m not sorry I did that. I’m more upset I got caught trash talking them. I also explained that nothing I said was about their character outside the job bc they are a wonderful human but about the fact they are a shit worker now. They get lazy and distracted now. And I know they can be really fucking good. But she was mad that we “didn’t know her better” and how does that matter. I was about to take the fall, my job was on the line for the 4 time. FOUR FUCKING TIMES. With the same person. She said it was never intentional and I was like “well you are never paying attention n just talking but okay”.
I’m just done with this work environment. I was nice to everyone. I was HONEST and told people I can be brutally honest. But nobody listened bc I do my best to say things nicely. But I get mad and be brutally honest and venting. And I’m the shit head. Great. Plus to begin with these fuckers never really seemed to care about me. So why do I care that they think I’m a shit head. I do not know. But I’m gonna start just not talking or hiding in other rooms like another person does, just stay out of line of sight unless needed. Bc fuck this. It’s a job with POS coworkers who think they are better bc of the job. For absolutely no reason. It’s not worth it. It’s just a job. It does not define me nor does the people I work with. I’m gonna do better to just float on the outside and stay out of sight. Fuck them.
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So no. I’m not sorry I did that. I’m more upset I got caught trash talking them. I also explained that nothing I said was about their character outside the job bc they are a wonderful human but about the fact they are a shit worker now. They get lazy and distracted now. And I know they can be really fucking good. But she was mad that we “didn’t know her better” and how does that matter. I was about to take the fall, my job was on the line for the 4 time. FOUR FUCKING TIMES. With the same person. She said it was never intentional and I was like “well you are never paying attention n just talking but okay”.
I’m just done with this work environment. I was nice to everyone. I was HONEST and told people I can be brutally honest. But nobody listened bc I do my best to say things nicely. But I get mad and be brutally honest and venting. And I’m the shit head. Great. Plus to begin with these fuckers never really seemed to care about me. So why do I care that they think I’m a shit head. I do not know. But I’m gonna start just not talking or hiding in other rooms like another person does, just stay out of line of sight unless needed. Bc fuck this. It’s a job with POS coworkers who think they are better bc of the job. For absolutely no reason. It’s not worth it. It’s just a job. It does not define me nor does the people I work with. I’m gonna do better to just float on the outside and stay out of sight. Fuck them.
2023.05.28 07:31 freekkay She's a different partner with NRE on the brain. Help!
My nesting partner, Xan (F33, 10yrs together, two dogs together), is experiencing her first bout of NRE with her LDR Kevin (34M, 6yrs married to Reign, newly poly). Xan and Kevin have been dating for 7 months, exchanged "I love you"s a month in, Xan drives 6hrs every week or two to spend two or three weeks with Kevin, Reign and Kevin's sister (who requires Kevin's caregiving). Kevin works an unpredictable schedule and struggles to leave home overnight due to caregiving responsibilities so Xan, who wfh, goes to Kevin's place 98% of the time. Xan and Reign get along really well and there's a kitchen table dynamic there.
Present day, Xan lives in our house about half of the month and lives with Kevin and Kevin's family the other half of the month. When Xan is home, we have one date night a week. Sexual interactions dropped way low but still existed. She helps with the dogs. Xan loses all interest in hobbies while visiting Kevin but picks back up once home.
About two months ago, Xan was acting off and my anxious attached self bugged her about what was the matter until her avoidant self "confessed" to me that she was basically rethinking everything because she lost sexual attraction to me, wanted to move with Kevin full time and only visit me once a month for a day or two and that after evaluating everything for the last few years that she's never enjoyed living with me and just sees me as a roommate now compared to Kevin where everything is exciting.
Xan goes to therapy and after two individual sessions and one couples therapist (which I insisted on after the confession above), Xan believed that she only said it because of ADHD/defensiveness, not wanting me to get in her way of moving in with Kevin full time and because she felt pressured by me to give an answer. Xan holds firm that she never meant to say that stuff, she regrets it, she is attracted to me and wants to find balance between the relationships.
Couple's and individual therapy continues for us both. Xan and I celebrated our anniversary with a weekend trip to LA. Xan texted Kevin obsessively during the trip until I asked for her attention (she slipped twice and I "reminded" her once). It's been hard for me to get over the stuff she said and I've requested a lot of reassurance from Xan for the next month as I work on self-esteem and people pleasing stuff with my therapist. We had a classic anxious/avoidant argument over her being distracted. I wanted everything discussed and resolved immediately and she stormed out. We talked it out, finished the trip on good terms and she left for Kevin's the day we got back home.
While she's gone, connection and repair between Xan and I comes to a stand still but we're working on that in therapy and once she's back home she puts in effort. Since things are rocky right now I asked for effort while gone. She did great for that first week but then came home and the whole vibe was off. She said everything was fine so I assumed it was my insecurities and I did everything to self-soothe. She and I went on a trip for my brother's baby shower.
Xan kept being off and distracted during the night. Didn't sleep through the night, wasn't eating, was texting obsessively again on this trip. I asked multiple times. Got nothing. During the baby shower I was hurt and couldn't keep pushing it down so I confront Xan again. Turns out she and Kevin had an emotional week, she didn't want to ruin the trip by telling me but her anxiety is getting so bad that she needs to leave tomorrow for Kevin's house and knows that's not kind to me because she was planning to me home for two weeks but she has to do it for self-care. Xan was distracted, crying, not participating in the activities, running to the bathroom every hour and asked me to leave the baby shower early (I didn't.)
Xan did leave and did fix things with Kevin. It's been a disappointing disaster since Xan got back home. She says she was having a "mental health crisis" last weekend, needed to go to Kevin for self-care and shouldn't be punished for that regardless of the impact that had on me. (In a couple days, Kevin was supposed to come visit but while Xan was gone she texted me that it wasn't fair to have Kevin come if I was filled with animosity. I took that to mean the trip was cancelled. I was wrong.)
Xan starts asking about Kevin coming for the weekend. I was shocked and confused but quickly realized it was an attempted guilt trip not a reschedule. I wasn't consulted in the planning of this weekend (Kevin wants the same kitchen table set up with me and Xan that he has with Xan and Reign) when supposedly the goal of the weekend is bonding with me. I don't feel valued by Xan rn which has me feeling epically disconnected and I don't have the armor I'd have otherwise to withstand Xan and Kevin's aggressive PDA. The only thing she cares to discuss is the impact on her not seeing Kevin and the impact on Kevin since he doesn't "get to" visit often. No consideration for my request. She was disproportionately upset and unwilling to reschedule with Kevin. Honesty finally came out of Xan, she is just upset to not have Kevin's undivided time away from Reign and his sister.
It was a huge relief to me because now I actually knew what was happening with her. I said that she could pay for a rental for me for the weekend so can I can enjoy some much needed self care time and she could get undivided attention from Kevin. It's a three day weekend and I only agreed to two days because that's all that was in the calendar. In the last two days before I headed off to the rental, she was weird and standoffish again. When I went to say goodbye she disrespected my request to stop pushing bonding with Kevin atm and asked me to "let Kevin stay three days please" but wouldn't pay for another night at the rental and instead wanted me to try and befriend Kevin.
Xan is unwilling to admit the impact of NRE on her right now, unable to consider my feelings and I'm really trying to figure out how to balance her lack of self awareness and getting appropriate care and attention from my partner. When I suggest a behavior is part of her hyperfixation on Kevin or due to NRE, she said I was gaslighting her. Waiting out possibly 2 years of this just isn't an option for my sanity. I miss the reasonable, steady, considerate Xan.
What would you do with yourself, with the relationship, with boundaries, etc. if you were me?
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Present day, Xan lives in our house about half of the month and lives with Kevin and Kevin's family the other half of the month. When Xan is home, we have one date night a week. Sexual interactions dropped way low but still existed. She helps with the dogs. Xan loses all interest in hobbies while visiting Kevin but picks back up once home.
About two months ago, Xan was acting off and my anxious attached self bugged her about what was the matter until her avoidant self "confessed" to me that she was basically rethinking everything because she lost sexual attraction to me, wanted to move with Kevin full time and only visit me once a month for a day or two and that after evaluating everything for the last few years that she's never enjoyed living with me and just sees me as a roommate now compared to Kevin where everything is exciting.
Xan goes to therapy and after two individual sessions and one couples therapist (which I insisted on after the confession above), Xan believed that she only said it because of ADHD/defensiveness, not wanting me to get in her way of moving in with Kevin full time and because she felt pressured by me to give an answer. Xan holds firm that she never meant to say that stuff, she regrets it, she is attracted to me and wants to find balance between the relationships.
Couple's and individual therapy continues for us both. Xan and I celebrated our anniversary with a weekend trip to LA. Xan texted Kevin obsessively during the trip until I asked for her attention (she slipped twice and I "reminded" her once). It's been hard for me to get over the stuff she said and I've requested a lot of reassurance from Xan for the next month as I work on self-esteem and people pleasing stuff with my therapist. We had a classic anxious/avoidant argument over her being distracted. I wanted everything discussed and resolved immediately and she stormed out. We talked it out, finished the trip on good terms and she left for Kevin's the day we got back home.
While she's gone, connection and repair between Xan and I comes to a stand still but we're working on that in therapy and once she's back home she puts in effort. Since things are rocky right now I asked for effort while gone. She did great for that first week but then came home and the whole vibe was off. She said everything was fine so I assumed it was my insecurities and I did everything to self-soothe. She and I went on a trip for my brother's baby shower.
Xan kept being off and distracted during the night. Didn't sleep through the night, wasn't eating, was texting obsessively again on this trip. I asked multiple times. Got nothing. During the baby shower I was hurt and couldn't keep pushing it down so I confront Xan again. Turns out she and Kevin had an emotional week, she didn't want to ruin the trip by telling me but her anxiety is getting so bad that she needs to leave tomorrow for Kevin's house and knows that's not kind to me because she was planning to me home for two weeks but she has to do it for self-care. Xan was distracted, crying, not participating in the activities, running to the bathroom every hour and asked me to leave the baby shower early (I didn't.)
Xan did leave and did fix things with Kevin. It's been a disappointing disaster since Xan got back home. She says she was having a "mental health crisis" last weekend, needed to go to Kevin for self-care and shouldn't be punished for that regardless of the impact that had on me. (In a couple days, Kevin was supposed to come visit but while Xan was gone she texted me that it wasn't fair to have Kevin come if I was filled with animosity. I took that to mean the trip was cancelled. I was wrong.)
Xan starts asking about Kevin coming for the weekend. I was shocked and confused but quickly realized it was an attempted guilt trip not a reschedule. I wasn't consulted in the planning of this weekend (Kevin wants the same kitchen table set up with me and Xan that he has with Xan and Reign) when supposedly the goal of the weekend is bonding with me. I don't feel valued by Xan rn which has me feeling epically disconnected and I don't have the armor I'd have otherwise to withstand Xan and Kevin's aggressive PDA. The only thing she cares to discuss is the impact on her not seeing Kevin and the impact on Kevin since he doesn't "get to" visit often. No consideration for my request. She was disproportionately upset and unwilling to reschedule with Kevin. Honesty finally came out of Xan, she is just upset to not have Kevin's undivided time away from Reign and his sister.
It was a huge relief to me because now I actually knew what was happening with her. I said that she could pay for a rental for me for the weekend so can I can enjoy some much needed self care time and she could get undivided attention from Kevin. It's a three day weekend and I only agreed to two days because that's all that was in the calendar. In the last two days before I headed off to the rental, she was weird and standoffish again. When I went to say goodbye she disrespected my request to stop pushing bonding with Kevin atm and asked me to "let Kevin stay three days please" but wouldn't pay for another night at the rental and instead wanted me to try and befriend Kevin.
Xan is unwilling to admit the impact of NRE on her right now, unable to consider my feelings and I'm really trying to figure out how to balance her lack of self awareness and getting appropriate care and attention from my partner. When I suggest a behavior is part of her hyperfixation on Kevin or due to NRE, she said I was gaslighting her. Waiting out possibly 2 years of this just isn't an option for my sanity. I miss the reasonable, steady, considerate Xan.
What would you do with yourself, with the relationship, with boundaries, etc. if you were me?
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2023.05.28 07:28 youngbeauty MLT vs MLS questions
I’m currently 2/3 of the way through an MLT program and this summer I will be starting the process of getting my bachelors degree in biology from my local 4 year university as well. I don’t really understand the difference between MLT and MLS and since there are no MLS programs near me I just went for the MLT degree without giving it too much thought.
What is the difference between them and what is the process like to go from MLT to MLS? How long does it take? Is it faster if I already have a bachelors? Can I use the MLS degree if I decide to change fields in the future? Or would a biology degree be better?
I want a bachelors since it’s a personal goal of mine and I thought it would help me with jobs and pay in the future but I’m starting to wonder if it’s smarter and cheaper to just get the MLT associates first and work on the bachelors later. I know the MLS degree is a bachelors but I’m not sure if it’s right for me. That’s why I thought about getting a biology degree first. I don’t think I have enough information to make an informed decision so I’m hoping someone here can help me out.
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What is the difference between them and what is the process like to go from MLT to MLS? How long does it take? Is it faster if I already have a bachelors? Can I use the MLS degree if I decide to change fields in the future? Or would a biology degree be better?
I want a bachelors since it’s a personal goal of mine and I thought it would help me with jobs and pay in the future but I’m starting to wonder if it’s smarter and cheaper to just get the MLT associates first and work on the bachelors later. I know the MLS degree is a bachelors but I’m not sure if it’s right for me. That’s why I thought about getting a biology degree first. I don’t think I have enough information to make an informed decision so I’m hoping someone here can help me out.
2023.05.28 07:28 Character_Job1101 Is it OK to be mad at her for this?/Is it wrong to ask to meet on our one year anniversary day?
My (17M) girlfriend (18F) is back from college for summer break and we were planning on working at the same summer job because we wanted to spend more time together. My plan was to apply at the same job so when I got an interview at a job location, I told her about it and she applied as well. Her interview was in the morning at 11:30 and mine was at 5:30 on the same day. When she went in for the interview, she was asked some questions and was told by the boss that she was going to be there for another two hours. They had asked her to do a set of training that would get her used to the job.
When I went in for the interview, I was asked some basic questions, but then the boss told me that there had been an earlier interview in the day and they had accepted that interview, and since the situations between that interview (my gf) and mine were pretty much the same (leaving in august for school) the boss wasn’t looking to hire anybody else. To put it shortly, my girlfriend ended up taking the job that I was going to get.
I was pretty sad and bummed out that I didn’t get the job, so I didn’t tell my girlfriend exactly what happened and instead told her a white lie about some other reason why I wasn’t hired. I kept it in until the next day so I can get a hold of my emotions because I was afraid that if I told her right then and there I was going to say something I didn’t mean to her which I did not want.
In the end, our plans of working at the same place over the summer had failed. She kept the job and I was on to searching for a new one. Did I overreact about this and should I have told her earlier? I think when I look back at conflicts in the past, I tend to overreact. So recently, I’ve been holding back to talking to her about “paper cut conflicts” and trying to suppress my feelings and emotions because I think I’m over reacting again.
My one year anniversary with her is on June 3, and we weren’t able to celebrate any of our monthly anniversaries because she was away for college. I know for some people monthly anniversaries are a cringe thing to celebrate (all we did was say happy ___ months), but having dates like that help me keep track of the development of the relationship that I am in.
The job that she had just got told her that she needed to work from noon until 9:30 (their closing time) on the day of our anniversary. She said it to me as if she didn’t have any interest in asking for a day off. I asked her three times for confirmation if she was actually going to work that day and on the third time when I asked her, she said the exact same thing and didn’t even look at me as if she wasn’t even paying that much attention to what I was asking her. I ended the call shortly because my emotions were getting the better of me and I didn’t wanna say anything that came from the rush of emotions.
After an hour went by, she called me again, because we were supposed to watch an episode of our show. I tried to push away my emotions and tried to focus on the show, but my girlfriend noticed it and she asked me if anything was wrong. I opened up to her and told her how I felt because I didn’t want to leave her questioning if she did something wrong. In the past I had trouble with bringing up a conflict so I tried to be better and resolve it right away. I did get emotional then and as I was talking to her about it I start to think to myself if I was overreacting about the situation. But I told her that I was not happy and I told her that I wanted to see her on that day because we hadn’t been able to see each other on any of our monthly anniversaries so I thought that on that special day we could see each other. Additionally, in the past week, I have been slowly hinting at things that we could do on that day, so when she mentioned that she was going to work I got really sad. (I pointed this out to her as well) I was very excited to celebrate that day with her so when she didn’t seem to want to change it, I was hurt.
After I told her, I allowed her to process what I was thinking and then I told her that I wasn’t blaming her or pointing fingers because boss is pretty strict and she also promised that she would be free on the weekends to work. By the way, this whole time I was tearing up, but she hadn’t shed a tear. (She is also usually the more emotional one in this relationship) After I was done talking, she said she needed to brush her teeth without even saying a word about what I had said and when she came back, I asked her if we were going to continue the show or if she needed to say anything about what I just said. She told me that she wanted to sleep and when I asked her if anything was wrong she just said no. I asked her if I had ruined the mood and she said no. Lastly, I asked her if she was sleepy, and wanted to sleep, and she said yes. Before she hung up, I asked her, “Do you not wanna talk to me or do you really want to go to sleep?” She said that she just wanted some time alone and ended the call. I am so confused and I’m over thinking about this so much. If anyone can help me understand, I would appreciate it.
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When I went in for the interview, I was asked some basic questions, but then the boss told me that there had been an earlier interview in the day and they had accepted that interview, and since the situations between that interview (my gf) and mine were pretty much the same (leaving in august for school) the boss wasn’t looking to hire anybody else. To put it shortly, my girlfriend ended up taking the job that I was going to get.
I was pretty sad and bummed out that I didn’t get the job, so I didn’t tell my girlfriend exactly what happened and instead told her a white lie about some other reason why I wasn’t hired. I kept it in until the next day so I can get a hold of my emotions because I was afraid that if I told her right then and there I was going to say something I didn’t mean to her which I did not want.
In the end, our plans of working at the same place over the summer had failed. She kept the job and I was on to searching for a new one. Did I overreact about this and should I have told her earlier? I think when I look back at conflicts in the past, I tend to overreact. So recently, I’ve been holding back to talking to her about “paper cut conflicts” and trying to suppress my feelings and emotions because I think I’m over reacting again.
My one year anniversary with her is on June 3, and we weren’t able to celebrate any of our monthly anniversaries because she was away for college. I know for some people monthly anniversaries are a cringe thing to celebrate (all we did was say happy ___ months), but having dates like that help me keep track of the development of the relationship that I am in.
The job that she had just got told her that she needed to work from noon until 9:30 (their closing time) on the day of our anniversary. She said it to me as if she didn’t have any interest in asking for a day off. I asked her three times for confirmation if she was actually going to work that day and on the third time when I asked her, she said the exact same thing and didn’t even look at me as if she wasn’t even paying that much attention to what I was asking her. I ended the call shortly because my emotions were getting the better of me and I didn’t wanna say anything that came from the rush of emotions.
After an hour went by, she called me again, because we were supposed to watch an episode of our show. I tried to push away my emotions and tried to focus on the show, but my girlfriend noticed it and she asked me if anything was wrong. I opened up to her and told her how I felt because I didn’t want to leave her questioning if she did something wrong. In the past I had trouble with bringing up a conflict so I tried to be better and resolve it right away. I did get emotional then and as I was talking to her about it I start to think to myself if I was overreacting about the situation. But I told her that I was not happy and I told her that I wanted to see her on that day because we hadn’t been able to see each other on any of our monthly anniversaries so I thought that on that special day we could see each other. Additionally, in the past week, I have been slowly hinting at things that we could do on that day, so when she mentioned that she was going to work I got really sad. (I pointed this out to her as well) I was very excited to celebrate that day with her so when she didn’t seem to want to change it, I was hurt.
After I told her, I allowed her to process what I was thinking and then I told her that I wasn’t blaming her or pointing fingers because boss is pretty strict and she also promised that she would be free on the weekends to work. By the way, this whole time I was tearing up, but she hadn’t shed a tear. (She is also usually the more emotional one in this relationship) After I was done talking, she said she needed to brush her teeth without even saying a word about what I had said and when she came back, I asked her if we were going to continue the show or if she needed to say anything about what I just said. She told me that she wanted to sleep and when I asked her if anything was wrong she just said no. I asked her if I had ruined the mood and she said no. Lastly, I asked her if she was sleepy, and wanted to sleep, and she said yes. Before she hung up, I asked her, “Do you not wanna talk to me or do you really want to go to sleep?” She said that she just wanted some time alone and ended the call. I am so confused and I’m over thinking about this so much. If anyone can help me understand, I would appreciate it.
2023.05.28 07:26 Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 AITB for telling my daughter I don't know how to fix my mistakes?
I was very hard on my daughter since she started kindergarten at age 5. I pushed her to get straight A's and excel, and she met my expectations by 3rd grade. I never did well in school. I wasn't able to complete my nursing degree because of it and have worked a low paying job since. Until I turned 50, I only made 50k per year. I recently got promoted and now make 65k, but I'm 56 now.
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
submitted by Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 to AmItheButtface [link] [comments]
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
2023.05.28 07:25 Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 I don't know what to do because I screwed up as a parent
I was very hard on my daughter since she started kindergarten at age 5. I pushed her to get straight A's and excel, and she met my expectations by 3rd grade. I never did well in school. I wasn't able to complete my nursing degree because of it and have worked a low paying job since. Until I turned 50, I only made 50k per year. I recently got promoted and now make 65k, but I'm 56 now.
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
submitted by Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 to AskDad [link] [comments]
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
2023.05.28 07:24 Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 I don't know what to do because I screwed up as a parent
I was very hard on my daughter since she started kindergarten at age 5. I pushed her to get straight A's and excel, and she met my expectations by 3rd grade. I never did well in school. I wasn't able to complete my nursing degree because of it and have worked a low paying job since. Until I turned 50, I only made 50k per year. I recently got promoted and now make 65k, but I'm 56 now.
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
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I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
2023.05.28 07:23 Puzzleheaded-Fig1457 Me [50's] with my daughter [20's] I screwed up as a parent but I don't know how to fix it
I was very hard on my daughter since she started kindergarten at age 5. I pushed her to get straight A's and excel, and she met my expectations by 3rd grade. I never did well in school. I wasn't able to complete my nursing degree because of it and have worked a low paying job since. Until I turned 50, I only made 50k per year. I recently got promoted and now make 65k, but I'm 56 now.
I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
tl;dr: I don't know how to make it up to my daughter
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I was very harsh when she messed up and told her that if she didn't improve when she got poor grades, she would end up just like me.
However, my daughter started resenting learning in high school and college. I told her learning was all about outcompeting others and earning A's, not grasping the material. She would miss days of school in high school to the point where her teachers were concerned about it and ended up dropping out of college for 2 semesters.
She initially started college wanting to study biology to be a PA or doctor, but then switched to business and finance because she felt she wasn't competitive enough to be premed or pre-PA. I told her to do what she was good at and what she could earn A's in.
She told us that she wanted to transfer schools where there was more support for STEM education, and we didn't let her.
I taught her that life is all about minimizing risks and playing to your strengths, not your passions. She did amazingly in business and finance, and she was at a top school. I felt it was better for her to stay there and get a good paying finance job relying on school pedigree.
Now she seems really unhappy with her finance job and I feel really bad for any role I may have played in this. Perhaps I should have encouraged a love of learning and following her passions instead of pushing her to chase grades and brand name colleges. Maybe I should have let her transfer.
She told me recently that she does blame me for my parenting methods and that she wants to pursue medicine badly, but feels compelled to stay in finance for the money.
I told her that I am sorry for my parenting mistakes. That there wasn't a manual for when she was born 20+ years ago and that I did my best. I just wanted her to excel in life, even if it didn't mean being a doctor, and to really just play to her strengths.
But I don't know what to do. I can't afford to pay for another degree or more schooling.
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https://imgur.com/a/zRG2KJ3
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I am selling my massive proxy imperial guard army and yes, I will split.
I will also trade for Star Wars Armada stuff but cannot edit title.
Standard models are $1:
80 riflemen with battle helmet
12 riflemen with field cap
6 riflemen with parade cover
12 Sergeant with SMG
12 Sergeant with chainsword
12 Weapon specialist with sniper rifle
24 Weapon specialist with flame thrower
12 Weapon specialist with grenade launcher
12 Weapon specialist with plasma rifle
12 Weapon specialist with Microwave laser
12 Comms specialist
15 rattling sniper
37 Inquisitorial Stormtroopers
9 Inquisitorial Enforcers
10 Rouge trader crew
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Specialist models are $2.00
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9 laser cannon teams
812 mortar teams
20 Rough riders with blasting lance
3 Rough riders with power sword
5 Rough riders with taser lance
3 Senior Officers
3 Junior Officers
4 Standard Bearers
3 Combat Medics
3 Master comms specialists
4 Auxiliary Officers
12 Inquisitors
6 Priests
3 Commissars
13 Ogryn bodyguard
6 Psykers 1. Techpreist
~1~ Primaris Psyker
12 Ogryn
812 Bullgryn
Small Vehicles are $7.50
6 Armored Sentinels
3 Scout Sentinels
3 Hellhounds
9 Chimera
Special items of interest priced as marked
$3Ursula Creed (Conversion)
$3 Col. Straken (Conversion)
$3 Sgt. Harker (Conversion)
$3 Sly Marbo (Conversion)
$20 Tanith First and Only (Conversion)
$20 Lord Solar (Conversion)
$150 Battle Tank company- 10 leman Russ battle tank equivalents with tons of magnetized parts. Sold all together due to the magnetic parts, magnetic parts are compatible with the Armored Sentinels. Available painting complete for $300.
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$50 Bulldogs Box- contains 120 WGA bulldogs, an infantry army in a box. Available painting complete for $200.
$40 LOTR box – contains a bunch of GW LOTR stuff sold on the cheap
Let me know if you want any additional images specific to your needs. You pay for shipping, PM to work out a deal.
submitted by TheLordTempestus to TheAstraMilitarum [link] [comments]
PRICE DROP!
I am selling my massive proxy imperial guard army and yes, I will split.
I will also trade for Star Wars Armada stuff but cannot edit title.
Standard models are $1:
80 riflemen with battle helmet
12 riflemen with field cap
6 riflemen with parade cover
12 Sergeant with SMG
12 Sergeant with chainsword
12 Weapon specialist with sniper rifle
24 Weapon specialist with flame thrower
12 Weapon specialist with grenade launcher
12 Weapon specialist with plasma rifle
12 Weapon specialist with Microwave laser
12 Comms specialist
15 rattling sniper
37 Inquisitorial Stormtroopers
Specialist models are $2.00
6 missile launcher teams
9 laser cannon teams
8
20 Rough riders with blasting lance
3 Rough riders with power sword
5 Rough riders with taser lance
3 Senior Officers
3 Junior Officers
4 Standard Bearers
3 Combat Medics
3 Master comms specialists
4 Auxiliary Officers
1
6 Priests
3 Commissars
1
6 Psykers 1. Techpreist
~1~ Primaris Psyker
12 Ogryn
8
Small Vehicles are $7.50
6 Armored Sentinels
3 Scout Sentinels
3 Hellhounds
9 Chimera
Special items of interest priced as marked
$3Ursula Creed (Conversion)
$3 Col. Straken (Conversion)
$3 Sgt. Harker (Conversion)
$3 Sly Marbo (Conversion)
$20 Tanith First and Only (Conversion)
$20 Lord Solar (Conversion)
$150 Battle Tank company- 10 leman Russ battle tank equivalents with tons of magnetized parts. Sold all together due to the magnetic parts, magnetic parts are compatible with the Armored Sentinels. Available painting complete for $300.
$50 Bulldogs Box- contains 120 WGA bulldogs, an infantry army in a box. Available painting complete for $200.
Let me know if you want any additional images specific to your needs. You pay for shipping, PM to work out a deal.
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2023.05.28 07:22 TheLordTempestus [H] Massive 40k Imperial Guard Army [W] $ [Loc] Abq, NM.
https://imgur.com/a/zRG2KJ3
PRICE DROP!
I am selling my massive proxy imperial guard army and yes, I will split.
I will also trade for Star Wars Armada stuff but cannot edit title.
Standard models are $1:
80 riflemen with battle helmet
12 riflemen with field cap
6 riflemen with parade cover
12 Sergeant with SMG
12 Sergeant with chainsword
12 Weapon specialist with sniper rifle
24 Weapon specialist with flame thrower
12 Weapon specialist with grenade launcher
12 Weapon specialist with plasma rifle
12 Weapon specialist with Microwave laser
12 Comms specialist
15 rattling sniper
37 Inquisitorial Stormtroopers
9 Inquisitorial Enforcers
10 Rouge trader crew
3. laser cannon without crew.
Specialist models are $2.00
6 missile launcher teams
9 laser cannon teams
812 mortar teams
20 Rough riders with blasting lance
3 Rough riders with power sword
5 Rough riders with taser lance
3 Senior Officers
3 Junior Officers
4 Standard Bearers
3 Combat Medics
3 Master comms specialists
4 Auxiliary Officers
12 Inquisitors
6 Priests
3 Commissars
13 Ogryn bodyguard
6 Psykers 1. Techpreist
~1~ Primaris Psyker
12 Ogryn
812 Bullgryn
Small Vehicles are $7.50
6 Armored Sentinels
3 Scout Sentinels
3 Hellhounds
9 Chimera
Special items of interest priced as marked
$3Ursula Creed (Conversion)
$3 Col. Straken (Conversion)
$3 Sgt. Harker (Conversion)
$3 Sly Marbo (Conversion)
$20 Tanith First and Only (Conversion)
$20 Lord Solar (Conversion)
$150 Battle Tank company- 10 leman Russ battle tank equivalents with tons of magnetized parts. Sold all together due to the magnetic parts, magnetic parts are compatible with the Armored Sentinels. Available painting complete for $300.
$40 Shadowsword – needs no explanation
$50 Bulldogs Box- contains 120 WGA bulldogs, an infantry army in a box. Available painting complete for $200.
$40 LOTR box – contains a bunch of GW LOTR stuff sold on the cheap
Let me know if you want any additional images specific to your needs. You pay for shipping, PM to work out a deal.
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PRICE DROP!
I am selling my massive proxy imperial guard army and yes, I will split.
I will also trade for Star Wars Armada stuff but cannot edit title.
Standard models are $1:
80 riflemen with battle helmet
12 riflemen with field cap
6 riflemen with parade cover
12 Sergeant with SMG
12 Sergeant with chainsword
12 Weapon specialist with sniper rifle
24 Weapon specialist with flame thrower
12 Weapon specialist with grenade launcher
12 Weapon specialist with plasma rifle
12 Weapon specialist with Microwave laser
12 Comms specialist
15 rattling sniper
37 Inquisitorial Stormtroopers
Specialist models are $2.00
6 missile launcher teams
9 laser cannon teams
8
20 Rough riders with blasting lance
3 Rough riders with power sword
5 Rough riders with taser lance
3 Senior Officers
3 Junior Officers
4 Standard Bearers
3 Combat Medics
3 Master comms specialists
4 Auxiliary Officers
1
6 Priests
3 Commissars
1
6 Psykers 1. Techpreist
~1~ Primaris Psyker
12 Ogryn
8
Small Vehicles are $7.50
6 Armored Sentinels
3 Scout Sentinels
3 Hellhounds
9 Chimera
Special items of interest priced as marked
$3Ursula Creed (Conversion)
$3 Col. Straken (Conversion)
$3 Sgt. Harker (Conversion)
$3 Sly Marbo (Conversion)
$20 Tanith First and Only (Conversion)
$20 Lord Solar (Conversion)
$150 Battle Tank company- 10 leman Russ battle tank equivalents with tons of magnetized parts. Sold all together due to the magnetic parts, magnetic parts are compatible with the Armored Sentinels. Available painting complete for $300.
$50 Bulldogs Box- contains 120 WGA bulldogs, an infantry army in a box. Available painting complete for $200.
Let me know if you want any additional images specific to your needs. You pay for shipping, PM to work out a deal.
2023.05.28 07:22 ExtentImpossible4416 What are your recommendations for our long financial and retirement plans? We are just starting out with this
Long post. My wife and I both grew up poor and have next to zero financial knowledge. I’ll give a little background about where we’re at, what we have planned for the next few years, and I would really appreciate advice and suggestions about where we should go from here.
Background of where we are at now: My wife and I are both 26 and have no kids yet but plan to within the next few years. I’m military (E-4, ~3k with my special pays after tax) and my wife is about to start a GS-6 with a locality pay that brings her a little below 50k/annually. We have 25k student debt in the government loans for my Bachelor’s and my wife’s nursing program, however, it would all go away if student loan forgiveness is upheld this Summer. Not really counting on that, though. We are about to start a $140-160k mortgage (still deciding down payment) on a property and home of about $250k in value. We got a big family discount and intend to hold on to this home as our family home once we get back full-time in 6-10ish years.
Both of our cars were paid in full with cash and are good for the foreseeable future.
We presently live in base housing so our housing and utilities are a set amount each month and removed from my check. The home that we are in the process of inheriting/buying will have a house payment around $1,300-$1,500 for 15 years depending on the home insurance we’re able to find and if we’re able to get the property tax discount. It will have a mid 5% APR. We would like to pay this down quickly and we estimate we could probably do so in 7-10 years. In addition to my wife living in the home while I’m on deployments and such(she will take a leave of absence from her main job, will likely do short term contracting for a higher wage during this period) a sibling of mine will be staying in the house full-time as a caretaker until we return in a few year and they will be paying around half of total payment plus utilities. Raising the rent any higher for them is not something we will consider.
I’ve recently started receiving TSP match for my military retirement account and only recently began contributing meaningful amounts for my portion. I’ve got it going with 5% Roth and the government matches 5% (which goes into traditional I believe) so I have 10% (~$300) of my pay going into TSP each month. To date it’s about $2.5k. My wife is beginning her federal job soon and will also have access to starting a TSP.
We will have around 15k left in a MMSA account that has 1.1% APY after our down payment for the home.
After taxes, my Roth contributions(wife hasn’t started her TSP yet), and all of our bills are paid we’ll have between $6,000-$6,500 extra each month. That doesn’t include home owning costs which will start in late Summer. After including my sibling’s rent ours will be ~$750 per month at the highest.
Where we see the next few years: I have a little less than 3 years on my current contract but I’m considering a 3 year re-enlistment if the proper conditions are met. I’ll be promoted to E-5 in less than 2 years and then E-6 if re-enlist. I then intend to switch over to the reserves as an E-5/very close to E-6 or commission if the timing allows. It would depend upon unit location, school start, and healthcare costs. It will be hard to give up Tricare with a family, plus I’m content staying in the military until reserve retirement or until I get my professional career up and running.
Once I get out I intend to go to medical school (I’ve been accepted to one in a low COL area, will immediately commission into the reserves in a program specific to medicine with this option) or law school (will only consider the top few schools and they are mostly in high COL, will most likely stay reserves until around graduation). We intend to buy a home in whatever city I do one of these programs in. The GI bill has a good housing allowance(E-5 BAH at school zip code) and the entirety of tuition for all of the schools that I’m considering. I plan for us to have a significant amount of savings by this point and my wife plans to work at least part-time (if we have kids by then) while I’m in school and she might be around a GS 7 or 8 by this point, or she might switch back to contracting. She wants to take off a few years after I finish professional school to stay home with the kids when they are young. I absolutely support this and it’s possible that she never returns to work. I’d like to switch down to part time work in my late 40’s/50’s. We plan to see a financial advisor on base within the month for a short term plan but I’m interested in a variety of recommendations and outlooks for our long term plan.
Where to we go from here?
What are some benchmarks for savings that you recommend for our situation?
What do you recommend for our TSP contributions?
What timeframe do you recommend for paying off the house?
What extra investments do you recommend?
What are your recommended financial literacy resources?
Basically, where do we go from here?
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Background of where we are at now: My wife and I are both 26 and have no kids yet but plan to within the next few years. I’m military (E-4, ~3k with my special pays after tax) and my wife is about to start a GS-6 with a locality pay that brings her a little below 50k/annually. We have 25k student debt in the government loans for my Bachelor’s and my wife’s nursing program, however, it would all go away if student loan forgiveness is upheld this Summer. Not really counting on that, though. We are about to start a $140-160k mortgage (still deciding down payment) on a property and home of about $250k in value. We got a big family discount and intend to hold on to this home as our family home once we get back full-time in 6-10ish years.
Both of our cars were paid in full with cash and are good for the foreseeable future.
We presently live in base housing so our housing and utilities are a set amount each month and removed from my check. The home that we are in the process of inheriting/buying will have a house payment around $1,300-$1,500 for 15 years depending on the home insurance we’re able to find and if we’re able to get the property tax discount. It will have a mid 5% APR. We would like to pay this down quickly and we estimate we could probably do so in 7-10 years. In addition to my wife living in the home while I’m on deployments and such(she will take a leave of absence from her main job, will likely do short term contracting for a higher wage during this period) a sibling of mine will be staying in the house full-time as a caretaker until we return in a few year and they will be paying around half of total payment plus utilities. Raising the rent any higher for them is not something we will consider.
I’ve recently started receiving TSP match for my military retirement account and only recently began contributing meaningful amounts for my portion. I’ve got it going with 5% Roth and the government matches 5% (which goes into traditional I believe) so I have 10% (~$300) of my pay going into TSP each month. To date it’s about $2.5k. My wife is beginning her federal job soon and will also have access to starting a TSP.
We will have around 15k left in a MMSA account that has 1.1% APY after our down payment for the home.
After taxes, my Roth contributions(wife hasn’t started her TSP yet), and all of our bills are paid we’ll have between $6,000-$6,500 extra each month. That doesn’t include home owning costs which will start in late Summer. After including my sibling’s rent ours will be ~$750 per month at the highest.
Where we see the next few years: I have a little less than 3 years on my current contract but I’m considering a 3 year re-enlistment if the proper conditions are met. I’ll be promoted to E-5 in less than 2 years and then E-6 if re-enlist. I then intend to switch over to the reserves as an E-5/very close to E-6 or commission if the timing allows. It would depend upon unit location, school start, and healthcare costs. It will be hard to give up Tricare with a family, plus I’m content staying in the military until reserve retirement or until I get my professional career up and running.
Once I get out I intend to go to medical school (I’ve been accepted to one in a low COL area, will immediately commission into the reserves in a program specific to medicine with this option) or law school (will only consider the top few schools and they are mostly in high COL, will most likely stay reserves until around graduation). We intend to buy a home in whatever city I do one of these programs in. The GI bill has a good housing allowance(E-5 BAH at school zip code) and the entirety of tuition for all of the schools that I’m considering. I plan for us to have a significant amount of savings by this point and my wife plans to work at least part-time (if we have kids by then) while I’m in school and she might be around a GS 7 or 8 by this point, or she might switch back to contracting. She wants to take off a few years after I finish professional school to stay home with the kids when they are young. I absolutely support this and it’s possible that she never returns to work. I’d like to switch down to part time work in my late 40’s/50’s. We plan to see a financial advisor on base within the month for a short term plan but I’m interested in a variety of recommendations and outlooks for our long term plan.
Where to we go from here?
What are some benchmarks for savings that you recommend for our situation?
What do you recommend for our TSP contributions?
What timeframe do you recommend for paying off the house?
What extra investments do you recommend?
What are your recommended financial literacy resources?
Basically, where do we go from here?
2023.05.28 07:21 SlipsonSurfaces Long rant/need advice on gaining independence
I (19) was pulled out of school 10-11 years ago. I have practically been socially isolated (partially involuntarily) since that time. I was homeschooed. I don't have any local friends, save for one that I used to know when I was little. We met again in late 2021. I have online friends and actually got to meet up with one twice last year. I cannot drive because I don't know how and don't have a license or ID. I don't have a job and cannot get one for reasons I'll explain later. I've never gone on dates or gone anywhere by myself.
I have two siblings and share a bedroom with one. Our room is connected to our brother's room and the stairs, so he has to walk through to get to his room and back. There is no lock on the door, and even if there were, it would be useless. I have no privacy in the entire house except for the only bathroom, which also has no lock. The only time I get alone is when I'm sleeping, in the shower, or the little time I get to spend in the kitchen, eating and brainstorming for my stories. I have many creative hobbies and a small workspace in my room. I like to work in peace and quiet, watching something or listening to music. My brother likes to come in and talk to me, which is fine some of the time, but he is incessant sometimes and very nosy.
I want to get a job for several reasons, and most come down to money. My family is poor so if I could have any job that would help pay bills. I would also like to buy my own things. It would also help me be more confident and independent. As you can probably guess, my social skills with strangers are very poor. But I can't get a job because: 1, no transportation 2, no previous job experience at all 3, my mom says I'm not ready for a job because I'm not adjusted for social situations 4, no independence, I would probably have an anxiety or panic attack if I were somewhere without somebody I know.
So jobs are out for the time being. I can't visit my friend and I don't talk to her a lot because she's busy with her own job. She's a little younger than me and from what I can tell, way better adjusted and 'normal' compared to me. I yearn to see her again so I can get out and see somebody else and have fun, but also because I'm very fond of her and I want to be good friends. But another problem, I ask my mom if I can meet her but she said something like 'its too bad I'm not social'. I don't understand why she doesn't just drop me off at my friend's house or wherever we'd be meeting and then pick me up later. It's not like she has to be with me the whole time.
Which brings me to another thing. It seems everybody thinks I can't take care of myself or do things on my own. I'm followed to the bathroom, which could be only 15 feet away and in plain sight. I was at the mall earlier this week and paying for something with birthday money from my aunt, but my sister took my wallet and started counting it out for me like I couldn't do it.
I haven't had a proper haircut in five years or so, not one I actually liked. It needs trimmed but I hate going to the salon because I feel so awkward and self conscious. While I'm in the chair, my mom will stand nearby and watch. I can't be out of somebody's sight for more than five minutes. I can't cut my own hair or my mom gets irritated. It's just hair, it'll grow back. It's not like I cut her hair. If it looks bad it looks bad and I can live with that cause I barely go out anyway. Nobody will see it.
It all makes me feel like I'm a child or I'm very stupid and unable to make my own decisions. Maybe I'm just super ungrateful, or maybe I really am stupid and I don't know it. But it's driving me crazy. I would like to be taken seriously and allowed some freedom. I feel like my twenties are going to be when I actually act like a rebellious teenager.
TL;DR: Everyone treats me like a kid and I have no space of my own and no time alone. No independence, poor social skills and life, no job, and I'm 19. I think my mom is a narc (and probably my dad too) but I'm not sure.
I apologize if this is the wrong place to post this. I'm not used to the nuances of reddit. But I need advice. Thanks for reading.
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I have two siblings and share a bedroom with one. Our room is connected to our brother's room and the stairs, so he has to walk through to get to his room and back. There is no lock on the door, and even if there were, it would be useless. I have no privacy in the entire house except for the only bathroom, which also has no lock. The only time I get alone is when I'm sleeping, in the shower, or the little time I get to spend in the kitchen, eating and brainstorming for my stories. I have many creative hobbies and a small workspace in my room. I like to work in peace and quiet, watching something or listening to music. My brother likes to come in and talk to me, which is fine some of the time, but he is incessant sometimes and very nosy.
I want to get a job for several reasons, and most come down to money. My family is poor so if I could have any job that would help pay bills. I would also like to buy my own things. It would also help me be more confident and independent. As you can probably guess, my social skills with strangers are very poor. But I can't get a job because: 1, no transportation 2, no previous job experience at all 3, my mom says I'm not ready for a job because I'm not adjusted for social situations 4, no independence, I would probably have an anxiety or panic attack if I were somewhere without somebody I know.
So jobs are out for the time being. I can't visit my friend and I don't talk to her a lot because she's busy with her own job. She's a little younger than me and from what I can tell, way better adjusted and 'normal' compared to me. I yearn to see her again so I can get out and see somebody else and have fun, but also because I'm very fond of her and I want to be good friends. But another problem, I ask my mom if I can meet her but she said something like 'its too bad I'm not social'. I don't understand why she doesn't just drop me off at my friend's house or wherever we'd be meeting and then pick me up later. It's not like she has to be with me the whole time.
Which brings me to another thing. It seems everybody thinks I can't take care of myself or do things on my own. I'm followed to the bathroom, which could be only 15 feet away and in plain sight. I was at the mall earlier this week and paying for something with birthday money from my aunt, but my sister took my wallet and started counting it out for me like I couldn't do it.
I haven't had a proper haircut in five years or so, not one I actually liked. It needs trimmed but I hate going to the salon because I feel so awkward and self conscious. While I'm in the chair, my mom will stand nearby and watch. I can't be out of somebody's sight for more than five minutes. I can't cut my own hair or my mom gets irritated. It's just hair, it'll grow back. It's not like I cut her hair. If it looks bad it looks bad and I can live with that cause I barely go out anyway. Nobody will see it.
It all makes me feel like I'm a child or I'm very stupid and unable to make my own decisions. Maybe I'm just super ungrateful, or maybe I really am stupid and I don't know it. But it's driving me crazy. I would like to be taken seriously and allowed some freedom. I feel like my twenties are going to be when I actually act like a rebellious teenager.
TL;DR: Everyone treats me like a kid and I have no space of my own and no time alone. No independence, poor social skills and life, no job, and I'm 19. I think my mom is a narc (and probably my dad too) but I'm not sure.
I apologize if this is the wrong place to post this. I'm not used to the nuances of reddit. But I need advice. Thanks for reading.