Wanted to provide some good vibes for the people struggling with giving up this habit. I was a chronic weed smoker for about 7 years. From the time I was a senior in high school until age 25. It got so out of control in the back half of college and into my career. I was working from home and getting stoned on the clock. Weed was all I really looked forward to. I started slacking in all buckets of life.
For years I wondered where the anxiety and depression was coming from. I started taking meds for it. I used to love my life so much and now it seemed nothing could make me happy. I loved my friends & family but nothing seemed like enough. I felt like I broke my brain with the constant stimulation. It finally got to the point where I had to man up and admit what the source of my unhappiness was: the weed.
I got off the meds for anxiety and depression. It was brutal. This extremely low point forced me to make decisions to truly get my life back on track. Sometimes it truly takes a crisis for you to do whats’s necessary to change. The pot smoking had to go first. After a couple failed streaks, I got pissed off enough at myself to kick it for good. I was smoking on Christmas Day instead of enjoying my time with family. I realized again how sad my habit had become. It was taking away from the real joys of my life. So that was the last time. Enough was finally enough. From smoking 2,3,4,5 times a day to saying no to smoking with my friends. I still live with 3 roommates who smoke daily, I have no interest anymore. I just say no.
Since making the change, my life has improved dramatically. I got a new job and almost doubled my income. I’m in the gym 5 days a week and in the best shape of my life. I’m passionate about self-help books, podcasts, etc. I go on hour long walks with my headphones in every night. I’m eating healthier and improving my relationship with God. I still have many areas to improve, but I’ve come a long long way. I feel naturally happy again. No meds, no weed, just real life.
I look at my stoner friends and they just seem to be running in place. They are content in their cloud of a world and don’t want to make changes to improve. One day they will realize that life is passing them by. I was just like them 6 months ago. I’m not like them anymore. You don’t have to be like them either!
Don’t be too hard on yourself about struggling with this addiction. We all run into vices and struggles in our lives. Just don’t let it define you. Love yourself enough to make the leap. I promise life is far better on the other side. I believe in you.
Holler @ me if you have questions. Much love 🖤

I genuinely feel like he doesn’t understand that an ed is a mental illness too. It consumes you and that’s all you can think about. I feel like he doesn’t care at all no matter how hard he tries to help (but i think that’s just me overthinking it). He said that this is an easy addiction to overcome and it’s not that difficult, okay? But not when it literally drains you for the entire day. He doesn’t understand that this is something you can’t control. I hate myself for seeming like i’m just antagonizing him and thinking that he’s being ignorant about it. I get that he’s upset because i turned out like this but i think he’s being too aggressive about it. He threatened to not speak to me for a week if i didn’t eat 2-3 meals and i complied but didn’t follow through which he got mad about. Saying that i was being stubborn and that i didn’t want help. Eventually i opened up to him more and he tried to help again. Recently I told him I was afraid of relapsing and he told me to stop being scared and that this isn’t life threatening at all, saying that it’s the exact opposite. It’s the fact that he said if i relapse that i’m a loser. I have never felt this hurt over a statement ever, in fact i think that’s probably one of the worst things i’ve ever been told. I sat there and cried for 2 hours, that’s how hurt i was. I have never been this attacked by someone who cared about me. I feel like i’m just being the over dramatic one and that i’m viewing this in a negative way. I still choose to speak to him because of my attachment.

I met this girl on Tinder nearly 3 months ago, and we were moving along very well at the start. Things were great between us for a bit. We seem to connect well, we both expressed how much we like each other. We just haven’t met up in person yet. Travel complications were the first problem but then other things mentally got in the way.
In late April, I told her I wasn’t ready to meet up, and I was very honest why. I told her it was because my last relationship was a LDR, when we met up in person the girl told me I wasn’t what she wanted and we didn’t connect as well. It crushed me for a bit. So I was afraid to meet up with this new girl because I was afraid of that happening again.
She was very understanding, told me she’d wait for me. Told me how much she liked me and thought I was worth the wait.
Fast forward to May, she asks me one day if we can meet soon, in a very serious tone. I say yes absolutely, I decided I was going to put aside my fears and see this girl. So we make plans, two weeks from now she and I would meet up.
But as we kept moving along she started to unravel some details to me about her past relationships, how she’s got trust issues, how she’s been hurt, started to tell me she doesn’t believe the things I tell her in regards to how I feel about her.
The week we were meant to meet up she started feeling depressed, unmotivated, and cancelled our weekend plans. The next week she was fine again, wasn’t feeling too depressed, she went out with her friends and was happy to be out the house.
We made plans again to meet up last weekend, and the night before I texted her saying hey I’m gonna come by at this time is that okay. This sparked a 2 hour long phone call where she was crying and told me she was scared to meet me. Saying she doesn’t think I’ll like her in person and doesn’t think she’s a good person. I’m taken aback from all this. I try to convince her to not cancel but she does.
The next morning she texted me asking me to forget about her cause she’s just not ready and she’s not worth it. I told her it’s not that easy for me to just forget about her. We got along so well, she’s supportive of my career, she’s bought me stuff already, she’s been so great.
She asked me if I could wait for her and I said yes. And we moved on from that. Though I’m still bugged by her being scared to meet me so I tried asking her recently and she just said she doesn’t wanna talk about it.
I don’t know anymore. What do I do? Wait, or give up? How do I deal with this?

What's going on?

​ A recent Marvin Harrison Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users. ​ On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader. ​ Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface . ​ This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free. ​

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​ On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love. ​ The multi-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action. ​ What can you do? ​

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I am a rising highschool senior and in the fall I will be taking Physics I and Calculus III at a near by college. Both of these classes have labs(2 hours for Calc III and 3 hours for Phys I once a week), and I am very inexperienced with labs. I am trying to get an A+ in both of these classes, is there any advice, suggestions, or resources you can give me that would help me accomplish this goal and get 100s on labs? Thank you.

Hello! Basically a first time dog owner here.
It’s been over ten years since I’ve owned a dog so I’m a little out of practice. I’m looking for some advice and tips on how to introduce a dog to a cat and vice versa.
My boyfriend and I have been wanting a dog for quite some time. We recently came across a very sweet 5 year old German shepherd mix. We’re not sure what she’s mixed with, but she’s definitely smaller than other female German shepherds I’ve met. We are currently fostering her for a week before we finalize (or not) the adoption. It’s been 3 1/2 days since we’ve brought her home.
I adopted a cat 4 years ago. She is now 13 years old and quite a grumpy (but sweet) old lady. She 100% does not get along with other cats, but has lived with a Pomeranian before and had no issues. She is quite used to being the spoiled rotten, only child. I had a friend who needed a place to stay for just one night and she has a purebred German shepherd and Doberman. My cat did not get a whole lot of interaction with them, but was not super scared or angry towards them. So I have the feeling she wouldn’t mind dogs as long as they don’t mind her.
Currently, we have a very tall baby gate on our bedroom door. Over the past couple of days I’ve draped a blanket over it and raised it by a few inches every day. The cat stays in the bedroom most of the day with her food and litter box. I open the cat door on the baby gate when the dog is napping in a closed room just to let her have some freedom. At night, the dog sleeps in a kennel in the bedroom. I leave the baby gate completely open so that the cat can come and go as it pleases all throughout the night. The cat seems to be very brave and curious when the dog is sleeping and/or in the kennel.
After the first night, we opened the kennel to leash and let the dog out. We failed to find and secure the cat before doing so. The cat was actually standing just outside the baby gate. The cat and dog made eye contact, the dog came a little closer to the cat, and the cat ran. A slight chase ensued. No one was hurt, but the cat was shaken up. The dog definitely felt guilty. That all happened within two seconds, I swear.
We’ve been very diligent about keeping track of the cat and making sure the dog can see, but cannot get to the cat ever since. I’ve purchased another cat tree and created another hiding place in a closet in another room for the cat as well. I do not want the cat to feel cornered or trapped. If another chase occurs, I want her to be able to get away from the dog.
We have not seen any signs that the dog has predatory tendencies. She is just very curious. We took her on a walk past a friends house the other day and their cat happened to be outside. The dog did the same thing, but backed off quickly after the cat hissed and did not seem interested after that. We’ve also been sitting down with one animal on either side of the gate (dog leashed) and practicing distracting from one another a couple of times a day.
I’m looking for any more tips or advice on how to make this process as seamless as possible. Everyone else I’ve spoken to just seems to believe, “That’s just what cats and dogs do.” Did we blow it after the first night? Does it sound unlikely so far?
We’ve really fallen in love with this dog. We understand a week is not nearly enough time for animals to adjust to each other. But I do not want to go through with this without the tiniest kernel of hope that our household can be civil one day.
A little more background info - my boyfriend had a dog before he met me that actually caught and unfortunately killed his neighbors cat. The dog was put down. That was about 6 years ago. I’m afraid his PTSD from that occurrence is hindering this process. Also, we both work from home so we have been home and one of us will be home 24/7 for the foreseeable future.
Sorry for the info dump. Please ask for more details if needed.
TIA!!

I’ve been bestfriends with them for 2/3 years now. In the beginning I didn’t really notice it, but for the last 4-6 months they’ve been getting more and more on my nerves.
The problem: This person is super smart, like a genius when it comes to academic intelligence, but they have ZERO social intelligence. Every person I know thinks that my friend is either rude, or mad at them. My friend doesn’t know how to control their body language and the way they speak. They often come off as super rude or mad, and i’m so sick of defending them to my other friends.
Also they overstep my boundaries a lot, and they always ask my to hang out, and often don’t take a plain «no» for an answer, I either have to have a great excuse, or as recently, I have begun to lie just to get an excuse. I feel so bad for lying to them, bc to me bc I know them, theyre a really kind person.
Some examples of them overstepping my boundaries: Touching me when i’ve told them multiple times that I hate veing touched. (They havent’t harrassed me, just slightly poked me to get my attention or something, but ive told them several times to stop)
They mock me when I can’t hear what they’re saying, (I have ADHD so I struggle a lot with paying attention all the time, and they KNOW this. I have also told them it makes me sad when they mock me ab something I can’t control)
They forced me to sleep them sleep in my bed (They needed a place to sleep, I said u can sleep at my place on my sofa (it rolls out) and they got super mad at me bc I wouldn’t let them sleep in my bed WHEN I WASN’T HOME FOR THE NIGHT)
It’s gotten to the point where I become such a bad person when i’m around them. Everytime they talk to me I just get super annoyed. I feel overstimulated by them ALL. THE. TIME. I’ve tried telling them that «im sorry if i snap at u, im just so stressed» but what I really want to say is that theyre the one who’s stressing my out. I really need a break from them, but I can’t have it cuz I see them at school, (I have to sit with them in every class) and they always ask to hangout at my place after school.
The worst thing is that I have lots of friends, and my friend doesn’t, and often what happens is that they end up alone if I hang out with my other friends. I have hung out with them (this friend) and my other friends before, but sometimes I just wanna have some alone time with my others friends too you know? But what happens then is that I get blamed for leaving them behind. It just feels like its always my responsibility to make sure that they’re not alone. This has been going on for so long, and I just can’t take it anymore.
They also constantly contradict me and always want to discuss every single thing that I say. They always have to be right, and make me feel stupid for even saying something. They always have to correct me, and they’re proud of being right all the time. I just hate how they KNOW theyre smart, and still choose to show it off by making me feel even more stupid.
I don’t know what to do, i wanna tell them, but i dont wanna hurt them bc i really love my friend, and even tho i only meantioned negative things here theyre actually a very good and loyal friend that i can always talk to.
I wanna tell them how i feel, without them making me feel like an awful person. Or am I an awfaul person? Be honest please.

I’ve been bestfriends with this them for 2/3 years now. In the beginning I didn’t really notice it, but for the last 4-6 months they’ve been getting more and more on my nerves.
The problem: This person is super smart, like a genius when it comes to academic intelligence, but they have ZERO social intelligence. Every person I know thinks that my friend is either rude, or mad at them. My friend doesn’t know how to control their body language and the way they speak. They often come off as super rude or mad, and i’m so sick of defending them to my other friends.
Also they overstep my boundaries a lot, and they always ask my to hang out, and often don’t take a plain «no» for an answer, I either have to have a great excuse, or as recently, I have begun to lie just to get an excuse. I feel so bad for lying to them, bc to me bc I know them, theyre a really kind person.
Some examples of them overstepping my boundaries: Touching me when i’ve told them multiple times that I hate veing touched. (They havent’t harrassed me, just slightly poked me to get my attention or something, but ive told them several times to stop)
They mock me when I can’t hear what they’re saying, (I have ADHD so I struggle a lot with paying attention all the time, and they KNOW this. I have also told them it makes me sad when they mock me ab something I can’t control)
They forced me to sleep them sleep in my bed (They needed a place to sleep, I said u can sleep at my place on my sofa (it rolls out) and they got super mad at me bc I wouldn’t let them sleep in my bed WHEN I WASN’T HOME FOR THE NIGHT)
It’s gotten to the point where I become such a bad person when i’m around them. Everytime they talk to me I just get super annoyed. I feel overstimulated by them ALL. THE. TIME. I’ve tried telling them that «im sorry if i snap at u, im just so stressed» but what I really want to say is that theyre the one who’s stressing my out. I really need a break from them, but I can’t have it cuz I see them at school, (I have to sit with them in every class) and they always ask to hangout at my place after school.
The worst thing is that I have lots of friends, and my friend doesn’t, and often what happens is that they end up alone if I hang out with my other friends. I have hung out with them (this friend) and my other friends before, but sometimes I just wanna have some alone time with my others friends too you know? But what happens then is that I get blamed for leaving them behind. It just feels like its always my responsibility to make sure that they’re not alone. This has been going on for so long, and I just can’t take it anymore.
They also constantly contradict me and always want to discuss every single thing that I say. They always have to be right, and make me feel stupid for even saying something. They always have to correct me, and they’re proud of being right all the time. I just hate how they KNOW theyre smart, and still choose to show it off by making me feel even more stupid.
I don’t know what to do, i wanna tell them, but i dont wanna hurt them bc i really love my friend, and even tho i only meantioned negative things here theyre actually a very good and loyal friend that i can always talk to.
I wanna tell them how i feel, without them making me feel like an awful person. Or am I an awfaul person? Be honest please.

So I have been on a pretty wild rollercoaster since the start of 2020, and I don’t know where to start but I guess I’ll just rule out everything I have tested for and go from there, I actually tested positive for SIBO so there is that at least so I’m not sure if all my current symptoms stem from that one issue but from what I learned a lot of autoimmune/conditions start from within the gut.
So currently I have ruled out Celiac with blood test, have done countless blood test for vitamins and just general health and I do have b12/folate deficiency’s and vitamin d also but I have been supplementing those for over 6 months feeling slightly better but not as much as I’d hoped for unfortunately not nearly as close as my former healthy old self, I have checked thyroid with antibodies with blood tests and everything was good there, have done comprehensive stool analysis tests only thing that caught the eye of GP was my really high zonulin levels which were over 600 ng/g 500 ng/g over the normal limit so she mentioned leaky gut to me I’ve been doing some research on that ever since and that’s a whole other story for another time, Sibo Breath Test twice both positive for hydrogen producing bacteria having some difficulties getting that treated stubborn little bastards just won’t die lol.. that pretty much sums it up I would have loved to get more testing done but i don’t know where to go from here that’s why I’m here hoping to get your opinions/advice on which tests next would be the most helpful on ruling out other conditions, my symptoms I will put below if it can help out in anyway.
Symptoms List
Constant Feeling of Anxiety For No Reason, Folliculitis, Dry Irritated skin, Sensitive skin, Histamine Issues?, Sometimes Itchy After Hot Showers, Heart Palpitations mostly after eating food, Exercise Intolerance, Loose Orange Stools, Undigested Food, Pins and needles in Feet and legs, Uneven Pupils/Anisocoria?, Constant Sore Throat, Acid reflux/Lpr, Sore Jaws/Clenching Teeth/Bruxism, Dental Issues, Bad Breath, Brain Fog/Not Thinking Clearly, Memory Issues, Tense Sore Neck, Swollen Lymph Nodes Under Jaw, Vitamin D,B12,Folate Deficiencies, Struggle To gain Any Weight, Insomnia/Difficulty Falling Asleep, Tinnitus, Sinus Issues/Stuffy Nose, Visual Snow/Floaters, Dry Sensitive Eyes,
Constant Feeling Of Dehydration Especially Upon Waking Up
Feeling Faint Standing Up This Rarely Happens Maybe Once Or Twice A Week Depends On Mostly What I Eat
If you got this far thank you :) my cognitive abilities have deteriorated a lot since the brain fog started so I’d like to apologise on my behalf if this is terribly written.

My first experience teaching Pre-K was during the first year of the COVID-19 pandemic. I was 20 years old, had 15 students, and class was fully in-person. The environment was incredibly toxic and being a first-time teacher during the pandemic was incredibly stressful, but somehow, it was still fulfilling and I decided to teach again this year after finishing my degree.
My class graduates in a few days, and while I am very proud, my mental and physical health are at a very low point. I feel like crying or vomiting most days by the time I clock out. I don’t have time to eat, drink, or use the restroom during the day. We have no benefits, no sick days, PTO, etc.
I don’t know how to feel and it’s been so long since I had the energy to properly feel anything. For the past nine months I have been tired and perpetually sick with whatever bug the kids currently have at school - none of the parents can afford a sick day (God Bless America), so I’ve had to play school nurse many times. I have watched kids hallucinate from untreated UTIs while their parents won’t answer their phones, and have been helpless when they are so sick all they can do is lay on the carpet and cry for mommy and daddy.
Each day I see these kids suffer so much for what we are failing to give them, and to be honest, it is ruining me.
I don’t know what my next move is after this. I’m just depressed. America needs to do better. It is no wonder why every other developed country surpasses the US in education.
And people ask me if I feel like I’m making a difference, but I don’t. Most of the time, I feel I’m just another cog of this broken system and that this harms the kids, too.

Season 16 and 17 were already pretty difficult and/or triggering to watch with the blatant emotional and verbal abuse of the OG women and children. The original premise of the show clearly is no longer there. This is no longer a show about women living „happily“ together while sharing a man (I know I know it never really was).
Season after season the show has devolved further into an exploitation fest and a stage for Kody to horribly abuse a gaggle of people mentally, verbally and financially, while TLC stands by and makes money. I couldn’t even watch most of season 17 with the sound on without wanting to punch Kody in the throat. TLC clearly doesn’t give a flying fig about women being abused and exploited and kids being emotionally abandoned on TV and to me at least, seems to be heavily invested in making money of women, who have been brainwashed by fundamentalist cults.
The only thing season 18 should be about is a „where are they now“ for the OG and a single sentence at the end, telling us if K and R are bankrupt or not. Kody and Robyn do not deserve any more screen time or rating/money from the damage the OG have had to endure. After that, maybe someone should start a show with a financial forensic going through the clans bank account while they were together. (Now THATS something I would want to watch. Netflix? Anyone listening?). I’m starting to think someone up high at TLC is getting off on watching some right wing fundy wanna be manly man abusing women

As I walked into my house after a long and tiring day of work, I couldn't help but feel a sense of unease in the air. Something just didn't feel right. I called out to my wife, but no response came. I figured she was probably at the local shop getting some groceries. So, I decided to sit down and watch some TV while I waited for her to return.
After a few minutes, I heard the door open, and I assumed it was my wife returning with the groceries. However, what I saw next shocked me to my very core. It was my wife, Sara, and the local shopkeeper, Tom, walking in together. They were laughing and joking like they were old friends. I felt a mixture of anger and betrayal. My wife and I had been married for 10 years. I had always trusted her, and this was the last thing that I had expected to see.
As they walked into the house, Sara introduced Tom to me. He seemed like a nice enough guy, but I couldn't shake off the feeling that something was off about their relationship. They sat down on the couch, and I went to the kitchen to get us all some drinks. As I was pouring the drinks, I couldn't help but overhear their conversation.
"Did I tell you about the new shipment of wine that we got in?" Tom asked.
"No, you didn't," Sara replied.
"I'll have to show it to you sometime," Tom said, as he winked at her.
I couldn't believe it. My wife was cheating on me with the local shopkeeper! I didn't know what to do. I felt like my whole world had just crashed down on me. But, it wasn't just my wife's infidelity that was tearing me apart; my son was also gravely ill.
My son, Jack, was diagnosed with cancer last year. It was a rare form of cancer that had spread throughout his body, and the doctors had given him six months to live. This news hit me like a ton of bricks. I thought I was going to lose my mind. How could this be happening to us?
I remember the day we found out, and how we both broke down in tears. Jack was only seven years old, and he didn't deserve this. I made a promise to myself that I would spend every moment I had with him and do everything in my power to make him happy.
Over the past few months, Jack's health had been deteriorating. He had grown weaker by the day, and it was becoming harder and harder for him to do even the simplest of tasks. He spent most of his time in bed, and it was heartbreaking to see him suffer like this.
I sat down next to him and held his hand. "How was school today, buddy?" I asked, trying to distract him from his pain.
"It was okay, Dad," he responded weakly. "I'm just really tired."
I could see the pain in his eyes, and it broke my heart. I wished there was something I could do to make him feel better.
Later that same night, as Sara and I were getting ready for bed, I brought up what I had seen earlier with Tom.
"Sara, can we talk for a minute?" I asked.
"Sure," she replied, as she climbed into bed next to me.
"I saw you and Tom today," I said, trying to keep my composure.
"Oh, that," she responded. "Tom and I are just friends. I go to the shop all the time and we just got to talking."
"I saw the way he looked at you," I said, feeling a twinge of jealousy in my chest. "I don't want you spending time alone with him anymore. And besides, you're still married to me."
"I understand where you're coming from," she said, "but Tom is just a friend. There's nothing more to it than that."
I knew that she was lying to me, but I didn't press the issue. I didn't want to make a scene and lose my temper with her.
As I lay in bed that night, I couldn't stop thinking about my son and how we were going to lose him soon. I felt so helpless and alone. I wished that there was something I could do to make his pain go away. The thought of losing my child was almost unbearable.
Over the next few weeks, Jack's condition worsened. He had stopped eating altogether and had to be fed through a tube. It was becoming harder and harder for him to breathe, and he was constantly in pain. I spent every moment I could with him, holding his hand and telling him how much I loved him.
Then, one night, it happened. Jack took his last breath and slipped away from this world. I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. I didn't know how to go on without him.
As I sat there, holding my son's lifeless body, I couldn't help but think about my wife's betrayal. She had cheated on me with Tom while our son was slowly dying. How could she be so heartless?
In that moment, I made the decision that I needed to separate myself from her. I couldn't live with someone who was capable of such betrayal. I wanted to focus on healing from the loss of my son and moving on with my life.
In the end, it was a painful journey, but I made it through. I still think about my son every day, but I know that he's in a better place now. As for my ex-wife and Tom, they're still together, and I've moved on. Life has a way of testing us, but it's up to us to decide how we react to those tests.

A little backstory my good friend who lives out of state (Tom) and my best friend at the time (D) fit really well personality waise so I decided to set them up as I thought they would work well. Both of them were just freshly out of relationships and I just wanted them to be friends at first but it turned to more. Long story short Tom got attached quick and D led him on and even went as far into pressuring him to do sêxual things. D started talking to their ex who cheated on them and basically ghosted Tom and said it was Tom's fault for how he "reacted" to the situation. Tom reacted by sending some shitty tictoks about how sad he was on his snap chat story as any young gen z person would do. Later that week someone called the police on D for having so many animals in her apartment and she blamed it on Tom but when I talked to Tom he said he didn't do it. Me and Tom have been friends for about 5 or 6 years while me and D have been friends for about 2 years. Of course I believe Tom and kept them both as friends. My relationship with both of them is great besides the fact that D keeps weird restrictions on me like not letting me listen to curtain music artists bc her ex (who she now is back with) used to listen to bc it "traumatized her" even if I really liked that artist. now into the actual story. I recently graduated high chool and my graduation party is on the 10th of this month. I invited Tom and D because I wanted to have fun with them ince they are both my friends. But Tom wanted to get revenge on D for being shitty to him simply by coming from out of state to my party out of spite and having fun while she sat back and watched. I told D about Tom coming to have fun at the party but not about the revenge and D almost completely lost it. Said that she wasn't coming and wasn't going to come in the first place. I feel bad for inviting both of them but it's not my fault they had a conflict and I don't personally think that should affect who I hang out with and who I don't. Am I the asshole?

Thinking of joining OLD again and these are some of my prompts for Bumble and Hinge. Let me know what you think. Currently working on the photos.
—Bumble:— Intro: If you like any of these things, we’ll get along. If you like all three, we could be soul mates. j/k
My interests: interior design, writing, reading, meaningful conversations, FIRE. I’m looking for someone who will make me want to write about again.
—Prompts:— We’ll get along if: You’re adventurous & outdoorsy. If there is one activity we should have in common, then it’s hiking. I am open to everything else and don’t mind a challenge.
The quickest way to my heart is… Read my profile and say something meaningful & honest, and not said to and by many others. My top love language is Words of Affirmation.😉
A review by a friend: “Big heart, trust-worthy, loyal, smart, creative, feisty, ambitious, independent, free-spirited…did I mention feisty?” That’s actually from my mom, but still…
I’m hoping you… Are emotionally intelligent & emotionally available. You know what you want & know when something’s good in front of you. You seize it & don’t ever let it go.
Hinge relationship seeking status: Long Term Relationship, “If I can have it my way, I'd like to just date one special person for the rest of my life. But life can be tricky, so let's just start by getting to know each other.”
—Hinge Prompts—
Shower thought: Anyone else miss the old OK Cupid that allowed us to write more than 5 characters on a dating profile?
*This year I really want to… * Train for a hiking trip to Mt. Rainer and invite some new friends to join. My ultimate bucket list hiking trip is the ___trail. Looking for a partner who wants to do that with me (bonus if we still like each other at the end of it).
Let’s make sure we’re on the same page about… All my life, I’ve always dated people who were different from me, and that didn’t work out so well, so I’m looking for someone who will at least enjoy walking and hiking with me as that’s one of the few things I prefer to do with someone.
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Drinking. I rarely drink. It’s ok if you do as long as you’re responsible and just do it occasionally, but I rather be your designated driver than bar hop every weekend. It’s cool if this is one of your interests, but we won’t be a match.
Voice prompts: 1. What you should know about me: I’m a mix between an introvert and extrovert, more on the introverted side. I do a lot of things independently, but I’m not shy and tend to talk a lot with different types of people. I’m also very active, adventurous, I like to volunteer and love meeting people along the way. Although I don’t mind social events, my serenity is riding through the woods on my bike. I also tend to be more compatible with those who are more on the extroverted side.

1. Favorite line from a movie:

I wouldn’t say these are my favorite lines, but they’ve been memorable to me. The first one is from one of my favorite movies. It goes, “Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” Do you know what movie that’s from?
The second one is from a remake called Love Affair where Katherine Hepburn says, “The trick in life is not getting what you want. It’s wanting it after you get it.”

I added the spoiler alert for anyone who is new to the show. It’s a very minute and nit picky question ( I apologize in advance) but I’ve always wondered why Lincoln was chosen to transform. He was saved by Gordon after he nearly killed his girlfriend driving drunk and seemed to have all sorts of emotional issues and was very volatile, yet according to Lincoln when he’s talking to Daisy in Afterlife, people aren’t chosen to transform lightly. It’s a long process for them to be considered a candidate and not many are chosen. Was Jiaying just trying to save him and if he wasn’t such a mess would he not have been chosen? Was this because in this timeline she couldn’t save Kora which made her biased?

Hello everyone. As the title says— basically my 1 year old American bully (he just turned 1 on may 26th) was diagnosed with hip dysplasia. I’m upset and devastated. He was one of the last two pups left of the litter, and so I got him when he was already 6 months. A few days before his birthday he started having lameness on his right hind leg (bunny hopping) after taking him for a walk.
The vet explained that hip dysplasia can either be caused by genetics or environmental. But I can’t imagine that I have done anything wrong that may have caused it. I’ve always followed recommended feeding guidelines from my vet, have him on good food, & proper exercise and not over doing it. He’s otherwise very healthy and still so young:( Either way, I’m just looking for opinions on whether this warrants me telling the breeders they potentially produced a puppy with hip dysplasia. They said their dogs are health tested, but the vet also said even if the parents may have good hips it can skip generations but can be passed down to their offspring if they carry the gene. I know they have plans to breed again this upcoming fall. I definitely want to avoid coming off confrontational, I really don’t know what to expect as far as their response. I don’t have my dogs papers or contract yet per our agreement that I would get them when I got him neutered (he is pet only) which he just got neutered on the 31st. So now I’m waiting for them to give them to me.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.
What can you do?

1. Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
   
2. Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at /ModCoord - but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their modmail.
   
3. Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
   
4. Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. This includes not harassing moderators of subreddits who have chosen not to take part: no one likes a missionary, a used-car salesman, or a flame warrior.
   

These past 4 or 5 days have been horrendous. I have borderline personality disorder. I know the stigma and I know I’m probably an awful person but I’ve tried and tried to be the best person I can possibly be and apparently that’s not enough. Apparently, I’m difficult to talk to. I’ve always been open to communication so I can learn and grow but whenever I try and defend myself, it’s not acceptable. I’ve not insulted anyone or said anything inappropriate; all I’ve said is how I feel. I have other friends who have said I’ve done nothing wrong but the damage is done to be honest.
I’ve been organising something for my relative’s milestone birthday and that has been a nightmare. From me apparently messing up with booking a restaurant (again, I truly did not know I was supposed to follow up on a comment which was made. I thought they [the owner] would be in contact with me if they were still okay with making a deal with me) to me not arranging home care for an elderly relative (again, they have known my plans for months so I thought they would use their common sense). It was just fuck up upon fuck up and I just wanted to do something special but now I don’t even think she [my relative] wants it anymore. I even ended up shouting at my elderly relative as she kept talking about how she could die at any moment and I couldn’t take her constantly saying things like that. It hurts so much. So I told her.
So I have all of that, three people I thought as friends effectively telling me I’m a shitty person (they’ve excluded me from gatherings and been cold with me but none of them will tell me the issues to my face; just to each other), and now, finally, I’ve been ghosted by the first guy I’ve liked in years.
My main trigger for BPD is men. I’ve been let down/abused by every man in my life and never had a meaningful romantic relationship. This guy was the first one I’ve liked in so long. We got drunk and I started saying how much I liked him and he told me we didn’t need to rush and, when I got home, he told me had a lovely evening and he was glad I was okay. He is now ghosting me after 4 days and 2 messages. It’s my own fault, I get it, but just tell me you’re not interested instead of ignoring me.
Anyway, that’s the final nail in the coffin. I have no career, no idea what I’m going to do with my life, broke, hopelessly unloved romantically, and apparently, despite my best efforts, still a shitty person. I’m just not cut out for this world. June is a very busy month for my family birthday wise so I don’t want to ruin it for them. After that though, I’m leaving. I still don’t know how but there’s just no point in my existence. People may be sad but, the world moves on. I can’t take this pain anymore. It has been said that BPD is the most painful psychological disorder and I feel it. There really is no use for me so it’s time to go. For my sake and everyone else’s.

I took a trip to LA before the strike during the last weekend of Coachella. I ended up spending a lot of time at the Farmer’s Market at 3rd and Fairfax. I took my screenplays with me. Unfortunately, financial problems quickly emerged. I could not get any cash, could not cash a check I had on me, and ended up spending several nights sleeping in the park across from Union station. I slept mostly from 2-4 a.m. and after a few days was barely lucid. I “showered” by taking a swim in the ocean at Santa Monica. Near the end, I missed stops while uncontrollably nodding off on the subway train and had to double back. I also took a terrible fall near the LACMA which ultimately required medical attention after my trip.
Understandably, by the time I attracted any attention, I had to leave. I worry I missed out on an opportunity and now the strike is underway.
Is this bad impression something I can overcome or am I ruined?

Sorry in advance for the wall of text and word vomit and sorta clickbait title I just need to get this off my chest amd am on mobile
I was going to go see a movie with my family and a friend on my birthday yesterday. I told that friend I was nervous about wearing my favorite comfy clothes (black sweatpants and hoodie) because my parents don't approve of them, but she enocuaged me to do it. She told me to not care what they think, and besides, it was my birthday. I agreed and put them on. When I got into the car, however my dad (the driver) said some stuff about my clothes being "dark" (in a metaphorical sense, which they aren't) as we pulled onto the street. He used a word he's used before to describe my outfit in a negative light, and the way he thinks people will think of me. Mind you, I'm already insecure about my outfits as it is. And work lately has been incredibly stressful, and I haven't gotten nearly enough sleep. I'm not normally an impulsive person, but I snapped and acted on this desperate urge to LEAVE. To be anywhere but there. I got out of the car when it was going probably 10-15 mph. It's a blur and I remember my mom there with me, curious cars pulled off to gawk. I sat there on the side of the road in the weeds, cradling my foot and feeling like none of it was real. I always thought I never would have been capable of doing something that rash and self-destructive.
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I made the mistake of thinking my dad would be gentler, more understanding, less fucking emotionally abusive on my birthday. That's never been the case in the past, but I can't seem to help getting my hopes up. I feel like such an idiot, and a part of me wishes I died on that street, even though that wasn't my intent.
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(Also, they took me to the ER and the nurses were understanding and generally sweet. Turns out I'm mostly fine physically, just scraped up and have an ambiguously injured foot. Today's been alright, my dad's been ignoring me and my mom seems really broken up over yesterday so she's trying to take care of me and I'm just tired and confused.) I get gaslit, emotionally abused, then love-bombed or ghosted, followed by a period of relative normalcy, and the cycle of abuse then repeats. fuck.
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I'm so lost, I just want to be heard

I’m not sure if I’m doing this right and I’m new to posting on Reddit but I felt like I had to share my experience.
Every single time I take psychedelics I feel as if I discover new parts of me and understand myself a lot better. After my first trip I almost had a high of confidence that I felt was always overshadowed by insecurity most of my life up until that point. Some buddies told me that sometimes the effects linger and you’ll feel a type of way for a few days, but honestly I just think I know myself and what I like to tolerate. Each and every single time I take them I come out with more insight on the people I surround myself with and it’s almost like all my subconscious sober thoughts just pour out until I tear up, it’s honestly just a beautiful experience.
My first time taking them with my Roomate we took them in a big group of friends and we all had very different experiences. I ended up finding myself going to a frat party while I was tripping and felt euphoric and met some cool people. My Roomate expressed his appreciation for me and I got to learn so many things about my friends that night. I like to think I’m a pretty aware person and I can detect peoples energy’s and when I’m on psychedelics I feel as if it’s how the world really is, that I’m my actual self is that made any sense.
I honestly think it’s an experience every single person needs to at least try once, because until you do you simply can’t understand.