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My father has terrible friends
2023.05.28 21:57 TheYellowKingof My father has terrible friends
So i (28m) am currently living at home(I own but parents live in)for a short time till i find a place at the university i want to study. My father (48m) is a do as i say not as I do guy , his personality growing up was very strict with demands for absolute respect(like Gustav Patton's father from the disney cartoon "recess"),very stubborn, yet he thinks of himself as reasonable and logical(not true sadly). He was fit for most of his life but gained weight when he bought and managed a bar. He entered retirement and is mostly going to the gym and then drinking 2-10 beers at night(its random)combined with huge meals (mostly rice which he uses as an excuse"its only rice it cant make fat"). I often pointed out this contradictions but he deflect or just says im right and continues.
So I hope you got a grasp of the situation.now to the main issue.My father often went out to meet his "friends" which i never meet before.which is fine, we all have our life's and he should enjoy his as much as he wants but here comes the issue I have. Today he invited his friends to BBQ at our place. He woke me up early to prepare the fire BBQ which is absolutely ok with. I set up the grill so only the meat must be cooked, beer in the fridge etc. Then 2 pm rolls around (the establishment time for them to come over) nobody shows up , I ask my father if they wrote why they are late or did something happen he only shrugged. After 1,5h they "show up", I heard half drunk football fanclub singing from the front door. My father ask me to bring the guests into the garden. When I open the door I see a half drunk men with dirty and ripped clothing,an equally unclean woman and one shy but clean men infront of me. Clearly old "clients" from his time as a barman and not the social kind. I was greeted by a horrendous smell of cat piss and halitosis (if the smell wasn't proof of the men having cats it was the cat hair covering his clothing) additional the women must have be living with him because she share the same cat follicles on her clothing. But at this point I didn't judge them , I learned not to judge people by their appearance but on their INDIVIDUAL actions. So I was as polite as possible, I invite them in and guided them to the garden where my father was waiting.I let them mingle while I still had to write some emails. Coming back they started grilling and we eat together while I assessed every person individual via questions and body language. The drunk person was easiest because as the latins already knew" in vino veritas" (in wine lays the truth) unemployed living of social benefits and proud of it ,his partner, a morbidly obese woman, she was more down to earth and she worked multiple jobs here and there(which i respect )but was also unemployed and lastly the shy guy which was the nicest of them all he was polite soft spoken elder skinny men with a lets call it "porn mustache" he didn't speak much but was polite. The only conversation that came up was that he split up with his boyfriend and was doing better. To summarize my assessment in which I take their action and personality into account: I have to say I'm dissapointed in my father. He is not "friends" with them because of compatibility or loyalty/trust but because it easy. These people dont hold each other up but celebrate been lower than others if that makes sense.They stimulate each other's bad behavior(my fathers the drinking and stubbornness).None of them seemed to be happy (except the drunk person but then again, what happy person starts drinking at 2 pm). Now to the issue I need advice on. ADVICE PART: How do I tell my father im dissapointed in his choice of friends without upsetting him?How can I suggest him to get better friends without seemingly sounding disrespectful?
TlDr: My 48 year old father has bad people as friends and I dont know how to tell him to find new ones and/or stop associating with the current fake friends.
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So I hope you got a grasp of the situation.now to the main issue.My father often went out to meet his "friends" which i never meet before.which is fine, we all have our life's and he should enjoy his as much as he wants but here comes the issue I have. Today he invited his friends to BBQ at our place. He woke me up early to prepare the fire BBQ which is absolutely ok with. I set up the grill so only the meat must be cooked, beer in the fridge etc. Then 2 pm rolls around (the establishment time for them to come over) nobody shows up , I ask my father if they wrote why they are late or did something happen he only shrugged. After 1,5h they "show up", I heard half drunk football fanclub singing from the front door. My father ask me to bring the guests into the garden. When I open the door I see a half drunk men with dirty and ripped clothing,an equally unclean woman and one shy but clean men infront of me. Clearly old "clients" from his time as a barman and not the social kind. I was greeted by a horrendous smell of cat piss and halitosis (if the smell wasn't proof of the men having cats it was the cat hair covering his clothing) additional the women must have be living with him because she share the same cat follicles on her clothing. But at this point I didn't judge them , I learned not to judge people by their appearance but on their INDIVIDUAL actions. So I was as polite as possible, I invite them in and guided them to the garden where my father was waiting.I let them mingle while I still had to write some emails. Coming back they started grilling and we eat together while I assessed every person individual via questions and body language. The drunk person was easiest because as the latins already knew" in vino veritas" (in wine lays the truth) unemployed living of social benefits and proud of it ,his partner, a morbidly obese woman, she was more down to earth and she worked multiple jobs here and there(which i respect )but was also unemployed and lastly the shy guy which was the nicest of them all he was polite soft spoken elder skinny men with a lets call it "porn mustache" he didn't speak much but was polite. The only conversation that came up was that he split up with his boyfriend and was doing better. To summarize my assessment in which I take their action and personality into account: I have to say I'm dissapointed in my father. He is not "friends" with them because of compatibility or loyalty/trust but because it easy. These people dont hold each other up but celebrate been lower than others if that makes sense.They stimulate each other's bad behavior(my fathers the drinking and stubbornness).None of them seemed to be happy (except the drunk person but then again, what happy person starts drinking at 2 pm). Now to the issue I need advice on. ADVICE PART: How do I tell my father im dissapointed in his choice of friends without upsetting him?How can I suggest him to get better friends without seemingly sounding disrespectful?
TlDr: My 48 year old father has bad people as friends and I dont know how to tell him to find new ones and/or stop associating with the current fake friends.
2023.05.28 21:49 Joadzilla U.S. Goes After Private Donations Made To Jan. 6 Rioters
The Justice Department is increasingly trying to prevent rioters from being able to profit from participating in the 2021 attack.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/justice-department-targets-captiol-riot-donations_n_647376a2e4b0047ed77c2a5c
Less than two months after he pleaded guilty to storming the U.S. Capitol, Texas resident Daniel Goodwyn appeared on Tucker Carlson’s then-Fox News show and promoted a website where supporters could donate money to Goodwyn and other rioters whom the site called “political prisoners.”
The Justice Department now wants Goodwyn to give up more than $25,000 he raised — a clawback that is part of a growing effort by the government to prevent rioters from being able to personally profit from participating in the attack that shook the foundations of American democracy.
An Associated Press review of court records shows that prosecutors in the more than 1,000 criminal cases from Jan. 6, 2021, are increasingly asking judges to impose fines on top of prison sentences to offset donations from supporters of the Capitol rioters.
Dozens of defendants have set up online fundraising appeals for help with legal fees, and prosecutors acknowledge there’s nothing wrong with asking for help for attorney expenses. But the Justice Department has, in some cases, questioned where the money is really going because many of those charged have had government-funded legal representation.
Most of the fundraising efforts appear on GiveSendGo, which bills itself as “The #1 Free Christian Fundraising Site” and has become a haven for Jan. 6 defendants barred from using mainstream crowdfunding sites, including GoFundMe, to raise money. The rioters often proclaim their innocence and portray themselves as victims of government oppression, even as they cut deals to plead guilty and cooperate with prosecutors.
Their fundraising success suggests that many people in the United States still view Jan. 6 rioters as patriots and cling to the baseless belief that Democrats stole the 2020 presidential election from Donald Trump. The former president himself has fueled that idea, pledging to pardon rioters if he is elected.
Markus Maly, a Virginia man scheduled to be sentenced next month for assaulting police at the Capitol, raised more than $16,000 from an online campaign that described him as a “January 6 P.O.W.” and asked for money for his family. Prosecutors have requested a $16,000-plus fine, noting that Maly had a public defender and did not owe any legal fees.
“He should not be able to use his own notoriety gained in the commission of his crimes to ‘capitalize’ on his participation in the Capitol breach in this way,” a prosecutor wrote in court papers.
So far this year, prosecutors have sought more than $390,000 in fines against at least 21 riot defendants, in amounts ranging from $450 to more than $71,000, according to the AP’s tally.
Judges have imposed at least $124,127 in fines against 33 riot defendants this year. In the previous two years, judges ordered more than 100 riot defendants to collectively pay more than $240,000 in fines.
Separately, judges have ordered hundreds of convicted rioters to pay more than $524,000 in restitution to the government to cover more than $2.8 million in damage to the Capitol and other Jan. 6-related expenses.
More rioters facing the most serious charges and longest prison terms are now being sentenced. They tend to also be the prolific fundraisers, which could help explain the recent surge in fines requests.
Earlier this month, the judge who sentenced Nathaniel DeGrave to more than three years in prison also ordered him to pay a $25,000 fine. Prosecutors noted that the Nevada resident “incredibly” raised over $120,000 in GiveSendGo fundraising campaigns that referred to him as “Beijing Biden’s political prisoner” in “America’s Gitmo” — a reference to the Guantanamo Bay detention center.
“He did this despite seeking to cooperate with the government and admitting he and his co-conspirators were guilty since at least November 2021,” a prosecutor wrote.
Lawyer William Shipley, who has represented DeGrave and more than two dozen other Jan. 6 defendants, said he advises clients to avoid raising money under the auspices of being a political prisoner if they intend to plead guilty.
“Until they admit they committed a crime, they’re perfectly entitled to shout from the rooftops that the only reason they’re being held is because of politics,” Shipley said. “It’s just First Amendment political speech.”
Shipley said he provided the judge with documentation showing that DeGrave raised approximately $25,000 more than what he paid his lawyers.
“I’ve never had to do it until these cases because I’ve never had clients that had third-party fundraising like this,” Shipley said. “There’s a segment of the population that is sympathetic toward the plight of these defendants.”
GiveSendGo co-founder Heather Wilson said her site’s decision to allow legal defense funds for Capitol riot defendants “is rooted in our society’s commitment to the presumption of innocence and the freedom for all individuals to hire private attorneys.”
The government’s push for more fines comes as it reaches a milestone in the largest federal investigation in American history: Just over 500 defendants have been sentenced for Jan. 6 crimes.
Judges aren’t rubber-stamping prosecutors’ fine requests.
Prosecutors sought a more than $70,000 fine for Peter Schwartz, a Kentucky man who attacked police officers outside the Capitol with pepper spray and a chair. U.S. District Judge Amit Mehta sentenced Schwartz this month to more than 14 years in prison — one of the longest so far in a Capitol riot case — but didn’t impose a fine.
Prosecutors suspect Schwartz tried to profit from his fundraising campaign, “Patriot Pete Political Prisoner in DC.” But his lawyer, Dennis Boyle, said there is no evidence of that.
The judge “basically said that if the money was being used for attorneys’ fees or other costs like that, there was no basis for a fine,” Boyle said.
A jury convicted romance novel cover model John Strand of storming the Capitol with Dr. Simone Gold, a California physician who is a leading figure in the anti-vaccine movement. Now prosecutors are seeking a $50,000 fine on top of a prison term for Strand when a judge sentences him on Thursday.
Strand has raised more than $17,300 for his legal defense without disclosing that he has a taxpayer-funded lawyer, according to prosecutors. They say Strand appears to have “substantial financial means,” living in a home that was purchased for more than $3 million last year.
“Strand has raised, and continues to raise, money on his website based upon his false statements and misrepresentations on the events of January 6,” prosecutors wrote.
Goodwyn, who appeared on Carlson’s show in March, is scheduled to be sentenced next month. Defense lawyer Carolyn Stewart described prosecutors as “demanding blood from a stone” in asking for the $25,000 fine.
“He received that amount in charity to help him in his debt for legal fees for former attorneys and this for unknown reasons is bothersome to the government,” Stewart wrote.
2023.05.28 21:41 pavilionaire2022 Antitheistic blind spots
I made a recent comment that got a lot of downvotes. The main statement of that comment was, "Christianity is a socialist movement from the Roman Empire." To me that seems a pretty historically accurate statement. Whether you believe Christ was or wasn't a historical person, worshippers identifying as his followers first emerged in areas then controlled by Rome. Whether it's socialist probably hinges more on your definition of socialism. But descriptions within Christian sources describe rejection of private property and living in a mutual community. That fits at least some definition of socialism.
So why the downvotes? I mean even if you disagree, it's at least a non-trivial discussion. Maybe I'm leaving out something from the context that was important.
But it kind of seems like antitheists such distaste for religion that they refuse to see it through a balanced lens. I think an antitheist position has a lot of arguments in its favor. But I still want to judge each aspect of any particular religion dispassionately without presumption of guilt. At least the historical facts should be mostly uncontroversial.
This will probably get downvoted.
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So why the downvotes? I mean even if you disagree, it's at least a non-trivial discussion. Maybe I'm leaving out something from the context that was important.
But it kind of seems like antitheists such distaste for religion that they refuse to see it through a balanced lens. I think an antitheist position has a lot of arguments in its favor. But I still want to judge each aspect of any particular religion dispassionately without presumption of guilt. At least the historical facts should be mostly uncontroversial.
This will probably get downvoted.
2023.05.28 21:36 Korlog_Kashin The reason why i didn't continue my patreon sub for chilluminati. (a non hate, none youtube stupid comment hate criticism)
I still listen to the podcast and wont's stop listening just wont pay for patreon these are my feelings twords my issue nothing else thankyou
TDLR:The straw that broke the camels back was the statment by alex how he dosn't want the podcast to have a video version
I have been a patreon member on and off for a couple of years. the first time i subbed was because i REALLY loved the podcast, how it was structured, Mathis, Alex, and Jesse made a great team and was just enjoying the show. I stopped cause i noticed i wasn't really listening to the mini-sodes (i normally listen to pods when i take a walk and the mini-sodes are way to short for me so i don't even play them). The second time i subbed was to get rid of the ads that and then i realized paying for something i could just skip was a waste of money and dropped it. The third time i subbed was for rotten popcorn, until i realized it wasn't like the super beard bros masterbeard theater in which they have the video with the audio track in it, chillimunati just has an audio track that you can listen to you have to find the move yourself and sink the audio up with the movie. but i kept the without listening to any rotten popcorn (cause of the reasoning before it's just audio and in my personal opinion 15 dollars is to much for that if you are not going to just do audio and i have to go find the movie to play it with).
here is the main reason why I'm never paying for patreon again, those small reasons all together could be a reason i can just skip the ads, the minisodes are to short (IMO), and 15 dollars for a audio only commentary of a movie i ahve to find myself is way to expensive. but i didn't stop because i enjoyed the content you were making. the issue i have, was what Alex said about video version of the podcast. I am paraphrasing because i was so upset I don't remember the whole comment he said if i get something wrong you can tell me but the gist of how i perceived of what he said was "i don't want to be on all the time on video, i don't want to have to dress up and look good on camera. i just roll out of bed and come to the pod there is no reason to be on video and it's to much work" again this is what i got from what he said i know that's not WHAT he said it's WHAT I FELT HE MENT. I have been wanting a video version of the podcast since the beginning , it not any extra work, you don't have to "BE ON" to do it just do what you re doing now cause you are using zoom or whatever to do the podcas anyway and then you would have something worth it for the patreaon users.
But, Alex doesn't feel it's worth it, he feels that it would be "extra work" like dude i get you work on other stuff, but this podcast is and hour a week (with editing so it may be longer but i highly doubt it takes longer than an hour to record it) and you could be on camera in a banana suit witch cocaine nose and a blunt for all we care. people who wanna watch this for extra entertainment non of us care what you look like when you are on video (even though you will give me the argument "but i do") if that is your reason, than with all the reasons above and the fact that you do NOT want to do the main podcast on video for a reason i feel is kind odd since like i said prior it don't add work to you (you don't' edit anything), you don't have to be "on" as you put it (cause you already do what you do on audio i don't understand how much more on you can be with video) and not wanting to dress up for video is null (you could be naked for all we care, we still want video and could care less how you look)
This is the straw that broke the camels back for me, and is MY reason for not wanting to pay for a patreon sub. I'm not expecting Alex to change his mind, he is pretty dead set on how he feels, and he will probably look at this post as a guy badly yelling at him, I'm not Alex I'm just stating fact, just videoing the podcast does not ad extra work for you, you already know this you can forget the camera is on and just do what you usually do and it would be fine.
This is how i feel i don't expect anyone else to feel this way, and i just feel i needed to let the chillimunati team mainly Mathis how i feel. if for some reason you desire to put a video format on to the MAIN pod not the mini-sodes i will re sub, but for the reasons above i will not contribute to something i feel like would not benefit me
again this is not a hate comment it's just how i feel i still love the podcast and still continue to listen to it as soon as an episode comes out, (currently listening to ed kemper Part 2 as i write this) thanks for all the laughs and informative research you guys do i really learn alot and enjoy your work.
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TDLR:The straw that broke the camels back was the statment by alex how he dosn't want the podcast to have a video version
I have been a patreon member on and off for a couple of years. the first time i subbed was because i REALLY loved the podcast, how it was structured, Mathis, Alex, and Jesse made a great team and was just enjoying the show. I stopped cause i noticed i wasn't really listening to the mini-sodes (i normally listen to pods when i take a walk and the mini-sodes are way to short for me so i don't even play them). The second time i subbed was to get rid of the ads that and then i realized paying for something i could just skip was a waste of money and dropped it. The third time i subbed was for rotten popcorn, until i realized it wasn't like the super beard bros masterbeard theater in which they have the video with the audio track in it, chillimunati just has an audio track that you can listen to you have to find the move yourself and sink the audio up with the movie. but i kept the without listening to any rotten popcorn (cause of the reasoning before it's just audio and in my personal opinion 15 dollars is to much for that if you are not going to just do audio and i have to go find the movie to play it with).
here is the main reason why I'm never paying for patreon again, those small reasons all together could be a reason i can just skip the ads, the minisodes are to short (IMO), and 15 dollars for a audio only commentary of a movie i ahve to find myself is way to expensive. but i didn't stop because i enjoyed the content you were making. the issue i have, was what Alex said about video version of the podcast. I am paraphrasing because i was so upset I don't remember the whole comment he said if i get something wrong you can tell me but the gist of how i perceived of what he said was "i don't want to be on all the time on video, i don't want to have to dress up and look good on camera. i just roll out of bed and come to the pod there is no reason to be on video and it's to much work" again this is what i got from what he said i know that's not WHAT he said it's WHAT I FELT HE MENT. I have been wanting a video version of the podcast since the beginning , it not any extra work, you don't have to "BE ON" to do it just do what you re doing now cause you are using zoom or whatever to do the podcas anyway and then you would have something worth it for the patreaon users.
But, Alex doesn't feel it's worth it, he feels that it would be "extra work" like dude i get you work on other stuff, but this podcast is and hour a week (with editing so it may be longer but i highly doubt it takes longer than an hour to record it) and you could be on camera in a banana suit witch cocaine nose and a blunt for all we care. people who wanna watch this for extra entertainment non of us care what you look like when you are on video (even though you will give me the argument "but i do") if that is your reason, than with all the reasons above and the fact that you do NOT want to do the main podcast on video for a reason i feel is kind odd since like i said prior it don't add work to you (you don't' edit anything), you don't have to be "on" as you put it (cause you already do what you do on audio i don't understand how much more on you can be with video) and not wanting to dress up for video is null (you could be naked for all we care, we still want video and could care less how you look)
This is the straw that broke the camels back for me, and is MY reason for not wanting to pay for a patreon sub. I'm not expecting Alex to change his mind, he is pretty dead set on how he feels, and he will probably look at this post as a guy badly yelling at him, I'm not Alex I'm just stating fact, just videoing the podcast does not ad extra work for you, you already know this you can forget the camera is on and just do what you usually do and it would be fine.
This is how i feel i don't expect anyone else to feel this way, and i just feel i needed to let the chillimunati team mainly Mathis how i feel. if for some reason you desire to put a video format on to the MAIN pod not the mini-sodes i will re sub, but for the reasons above i will not contribute to something i feel like would not benefit me
again this is not a hate comment it's just how i feel i still love the podcast and still continue to listen to it as soon as an episode comes out, (currently listening to ed kemper Part 2 as i write this) thanks for all the laughs and informative research you guys do i really learn alot and enjoy your work.
2023.05.28 21:23 EmmaWatsonButDumber 'Did you know you were gonna die when you got into that car?'
'No, not really. I didn't even have time to think about it, it all happened too fast... I was just taking it all in, you know, the adrenaline rush, the I can't believe this is really happening thoughts, whatever. Didn't actually process it.'
They were sitting on a bench, in an empty, bright park. There was some grass in front of them, a path, and then white, shiny nothingness. The guy scratched his head and turned to the kid.
'So, are you God?'
'Sure.'
'So what happens now?'
The kid looked around, then at him, tilting his head. His eyes were grey and made the guy feel heavy.
'Well, what did you believe in, when you were alive?'
'Nothing.'
'No heaven or hell?'
'What would happen if I said I believed in those?'
'Well, I'd have to judge you. And decide where you fit.'
The guy thought about it. He'd been pretty decent, but he didn't know for certain where he fit, and he didn't want to risk it.
'I really didn't believe in those.'
'So were you an atheist? Did you believe in science, in logic? Because, if you did, you would just disappear now. Spread your essence in the universe. Or you thought you'd be reincarnated?'
'I was pretty neutral. I didn't take the time to think about anything, really. So, what happens to me now?'
'I honestly don't know.' said God, standing up. 'Guess you'll just stay here.'
'Wait, you're not gonna do anything to me? Is this my punishment for being neutral?'
'It's not a punishment, it's... well... nothing, really. Just stay here, I guess.'
'Forever? On this bench?'
'I mean, you can walk around, you know.'
Then God disappeared. The guy remained on the bench, staring into the white abyss. After a while, he stood up, and walked across the path. Then, he tried going into the light, but found himself on the very same bench.
He is probably still sitting there, perplexed, not knowing what to do. Or maybe he's moved on and started screaming. Either way, the bright light has probably consumed his mind... or worse, maybe he's still lucid, after all these years.
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They were sitting on a bench, in an empty, bright park. There was some grass in front of them, a path, and then white, shiny nothingness. The guy scratched his head and turned to the kid.
'So, are you God?'
'Sure.'
'So what happens now?'
The kid looked around, then at him, tilting his head. His eyes were grey and made the guy feel heavy.
'Well, what did you believe in, when you were alive?'
'Nothing.'
'No heaven or hell?'
'What would happen if I said I believed in those?'
'Well, I'd have to judge you. And decide where you fit.'
The guy thought about it. He'd been pretty decent, but he didn't know for certain where he fit, and he didn't want to risk it.
'I really didn't believe in those.'
'So were you an atheist? Did you believe in science, in logic? Because, if you did, you would just disappear now. Spread your essence in the universe. Or you thought you'd be reincarnated?'
'I was pretty neutral. I didn't take the time to think about anything, really. So, what happens to me now?'
'I honestly don't know.' said God, standing up. 'Guess you'll just stay here.'
'Wait, you're not gonna do anything to me? Is this my punishment for being neutral?'
'It's not a punishment, it's... well... nothing, really. Just stay here, I guess.'
'Forever? On this bench?'
'I mean, you can walk around, you know.'
Then God disappeared. The guy remained on the bench, staring into the white abyss. After a while, he stood up, and walked across the path. Then, he tried going into the light, but found himself on the very same bench.
He is probably still sitting there, perplexed, not knowing what to do. Or maybe he's moved on and started screaming. Either way, the bright light has probably consumed his mind... or worse, maybe he's still lucid, after all these years.
2023.05.28 21:14 ScallopsDumpy The hardest part is no control
I think something I realized is I keep moving the goal posts and theres no control. First I say ok worst comes to worst and everyone hates me and all my mistakes come out, ill go to a pysch hospital and then maybe ill come out alright. Then I realize those mistakes are still there, people might still hate me. Then I think okay if worst comes to worst theres always suicide, then maybe people wont hate me if they see how guilty I feel. But then I think to myself and imagine there still would be people who hate me, and see that as a way to avoid my mistakes. And my mistakes arent even crimes but I see no way out, theres no magical thing to get rid of them, I can erase my friends/family relationships to soften the blow so theres less people to judge me, i can push everyone away so it doesnt hurt as much when im judged, but theres still the internet, theres still people, theres no magic answer to this, as much as I try to do whatever I can to control it I cant. Even if I hate myself and feel insanely guilty it fixes nothing. So it feels like Im just waiting for impending doom and ill never get that feeling of saftey or relief that im so desperately craving.
People said my posts were relatable so I thought id make more when I feel anxious. Hope someone can relate to this and if you wanna talk let me know.
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2023.05.28 21:10 the_direful_spring Campaign factions
So for a... rather delayed campaign I've come up with a few factions which I want to involve in a campaign. Its a sandbox game with factions competing in the area that the party might have a chance to work with or fight against. I've a couple of core ones and a range of other ideas but I'm aware at this point I should probably be cutting some. So i thought I'd throw this out there and get some advice as to what people thought was most interesting and what people thought should either be entirely discarded or at least moved to a back burner.
For a quick setting overview i'm going with some of the classic clash of order and freedom type of thing borrowing some ideas from things like Dark Sun and Mesopotamian history as inspiration. Broadly this part of the continent has most of its agricultural land focused around the coasts and some river systems that extend into the interior of the continent, most of this agricultural land is ruled by powerful city states dominated by Draconic King. Beyond this the lands surrounding it are largely arid, plant life only briefly able to flourish in the wet season as wadis fill for a time, the lands and people here often wild. Go far enough north and you hit a region of hills and mountains of a different but equally harsh nature most often.
So 2 factions which are must haves
Meshant
The closest of the great city states to the starting area, ruled by a powerful Blue Dragon named Ukrik'Azahim'Mli and with a satellite town called Oulm'Aki being a possible starting/hub location, a modest town sitting at the edge of a minor tributaries of the larger river upon with Meshant sits. As with many of the great dragon city states slavery is common here, order is often enforced ruthlessly and the society is extremely hierarchical, with a small clique of wealthy nobles (most of whom are dragonborn) at the top and a large number of slaves and poorer subjects at the bottom of the pile. However, it represents a place of socio-economic complexity, that embraces long distance trade. Ukrik'Azahim'Mli is also quite a capable ruler, he's been fairly good at fending off the attempts of rivals to conquer his lands and has earned wealth for his city through wars, his court is a centre of learning regarding the magical and mundane, as well as being a patron of the arts. His legal system may provide broad powers when dealing with those accused of crimes against those of a higher station but the great storm dragon does still value something approaching rule of law. And if you are someone who values things like trade and literacy it is Meshant that will further such things. For an adventurer who seeks wealth and prestige the forces of Meshant are also perhaps the best resourced to offer such things.
Here in Ouim'Aki, the governor Amar-Suen is the governor of a town at the edge of the city's zone of control, the river that connects them navigable in the wetter parts of the year but not always easy and safe to traverse with Ouim'Aki sitting on the north shore of a marshy lake in the wet season as water collects from nearby areas, the river flowing out to the south and joins the flow of a larger river at Meshant. Meanwhile with a new campaigning season likely to begin it is likely the king will bring his power southwards to wage war on his neighbouring monarchs meaning although Meshant is the greatest power in this region not all of its resources will be focuses here.
The Hatussa
The Hatussa describe a loose, fluid group of desert nomads that live in this area, their population is made up of a fair mixture of desert elves along with humans, half elves and a smattering of other races. The people of the cities would call them barbarians, surviving off pastoralism, hunting and gathering as they move across the landscape in small groups rather than farming, having no knowledge of writing and with the concept of law being nothing more than a group of loose shared norms, the enforcement of which is not the monopoly of any king, judge or their men. Those of the city might describe them as untrustworthy, at one time happy to do trade and at another to engage in banditry and raiding. The deserts they live in can often be tough places, low on water in many parts of the year and even at the best of times wild monsters and dangerous beasts are not uncommon. However they are lovers of freedom, decisions are often made by consensus among groups, leaders often chosen only for a specific purpose such as conducting a raid or a negotiation, their lose political structure lacking many of the traditional facets of state structure such as taxation and a monopoly on the use of force.
But I have some other ideas for factions and I'm debating which I might also include.
The Nethaniah
For generations the valley dwarfs have lived as slaves or poor lower class workers in the realms of the Draconic Kings. The Nethaniah are a local group focused on the liberation of of the Valley Dwarfs in particular and perhaps abolition more broadly, hoping to either rebel against the King of Meshant and free perhaps Oulm'Aki or else take as many of their people as possible and find somewhere to free. On their own however they know they lack the strength to have much chance of taking Meshant on. They are known for including warriors highly skilled using simple weapons and in unarmed combat but some are also said to turn to darker powers seeking stranger abilities. They are quite willing to be ruthless in their goals, carrying out assassinations and the like to undermine the power of the Draconic Masters in Oulm'Aki, although they are not blind to the suffering of slaves of other races they still tend to prioritise freeing their own people
The Sleepless Dreamers A group of former supporters of the old king of Meshant, Uzi'Isbi'Imi, who have fled into the deep desert along with the bones of the dead Brass Dragon. Since then they have been trying to find a way to bring her back to life or perhaps unlife. So far they have yet to be successful but in order to continue their work in that desolate place many have successfully turned themselves undead and raised undead servants. The old King was probably a better person than the current Ukrik'Azahim'Mli, if a less capable general, but the means that their followers would go to to return them are... disturbing.
The Cult of Kamosh Another internal rebellion group but this one largely led by humans. Focused around a secret religious movement focused around the dragon slaying god Kamosh they blame a lot of the woes of the world on the Dragons and their servants, their vision of liberation has little room for Dragons, Dragonborn, Kobolds and the worship of the Draconic gods in any area they may manage to liberate. The local cult is eager to rebel in Oulm'Aki and take control of it but at the present will need more resources or more allies to do so.
The Naram League As the name suggests this is a small group of villages and a town who are roughly organised around an alliance to a young copper dragon Naram'Dalu. These settlements are organised in a small ridgeline of hills much to the east where slightly higher rains and something of an aquifer allows them to survive in an area that is arid but a little more liveable than the surrounding desert. Their remoteness and small size has meant Meshant has generally had bigger fish to fry but both sides well know that they may one day turn on them and try to conquer them. Currently they have an awkward relationship with Meshant where they are willing to pay a small, largely symbolic tribute to the great city in order to secure their peace and a trade. Naram'Dalu is much less intentionally brutal than some of the draconic kings but this local lord would still much rather spend his time partying than dedicating himself to working hard to benefit his people.
The Yamna An nomadic tribe come from across the mountains that were driven south by bad weather increasing competition for resources in the far north a few years ago, the Yamna are a group forged around an orc core but they care more for strength than for lineage, any who prove their capability may join the tribe and as such they have a fair few people from other races mixed into their group. In recent years the Yamna spent some time providing mercenaries for Meshant, but two years ago during a difficult campaign against rival cities in the south their relationship shattered, both sides claimed the other more or less betrayed them. Now the broader tribe has been scattered into its component familial groups, many of which have come to this region with their carts looking for pasture for their cattle during the wetter parts of the year. With the drier season approaching though the future of the tribe is yet to be decided, will they be united under a new leader or remain scattered, will they try to return to the steppe beyond the mountains, will they try to carve out a place here by force with raiding and seizing land, will the establish relationships with local powers through trade, alliance and mercenary work to ensure they have means to keep their cattle from starving.
The following are more minor factions, they will probably only come up under certain circumstances, i'm less likely to create hooks to allow players to actually join them with their purpose more to be mainly either possible allies for a faction the PCs might join or factions mainly there to be antagonists.
Clan Jerahmal A dwarven mountain clan north the local region, the closest such of the clans that dot the mountains and jungle hills. They have no love for the dragons and heir servants and feel a certain kinship towards their cousins enslaved and otherwise oppressed by the whip of Meshant, despite some considerable religious differences, but it is likely to take a fair amount of persuading to get them to leave their fortified settlements in the hills and mountain and march upon the plains. Many in the towns and cities view the mountain clans as terrible isolated and superstitious, given their aversion to arcane arts and culture of ritual cleanliness, but their access to iron is both shrouded in mystery much envied and sort after given the lowlanders can only work meteoric iron. I'm debating whether to have some goliath either folded in as part of the clan's structure or as a separate but allied group in the same general region.
An-Nesa The marshy lake near Ouim'Aki in the wet season is a maze of reeds, deep channels of water and banks of mud. In the dry season it still retains a degree of folliage due to soil moisture but much less is navigable by boat, land navigation is still difficult as many areas have only a thin layer of hardened material baked on the surface which can break to reveal much softer mud and silt beneath. Half submerged in this is the ruins of an old settlement called Nesa, its inhabitants, the An-Nesa are a tribe of lizardfolk primarily (and a small number of those such as black dragonborn), they are known to hunt and fish in the area, as well as sometimes carry out a basic form of flood agriculture, but the An-Nesa are well known to often supplement this with raiding and piracy, which they seem to consider much the same as hunting, often targeting shipments that might contain food and fishing boats, not afraid to eat those they have slain to. Meshant would like to see these destroyed, or at least beaten back until they are no longer so great a threat. The marsh has made it somewhat difficult but the forces of Meshant would certainly consider operations to kill and enslave the lizardfolk when the chance arises.
Halfling Merchants River halflings are well known across much of this part of the continent and the bands of water traders and land caravans they use are well known in this region for their work. While some may regard them as not entirely trustworthy they do represent an extremely useful middleman for many groups, willing to buy goods from a party and sell them on to people who might have serious trust issues dealing directly. Their capability at navigation and willingness to take the risks involved in such journeys allows for a certain risk reward benefit for them to.
Araxes Serving as possible ally for the Hatussa these will probably only come up if the players choose to ally with Hatussa and seek allies or perhaps the odd random encounter with them. The Araxes are a loose group of Aarakocra in he region, they are known to travel long distances as the seasons change, largely practicing a hunter gatherer life style while the rains keep the low lands richer in resources they may well remain to exploit them before returning much further north as they steadily dry out in the coming months. In many regards they have a spirit not unlike the Hatussa in their love for freedom and willingness to act in a fluid and flexible manner, as such they may well serve as valuable allies should the Hatussa decide to go for a major attempt at waging a war in the area.
The Kukan Another faction that will probably be mainly just antagonists. They are a tribal group of goblins living in the east of the region not so far from the league of Naram although some smaller groups are well known to come west seeking chances to raid and the like. Their relationship with Meshant is particularly poor, they largely regard the goblins as pests who are barely people and will kill or enslave any they find without hesitation. Their relationship with other factions is perhaps not as immediately antagonistic but few have much love for them given the Kukan have a reputation for treachery and cruelty.
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For a quick setting overview i'm going with some of the classic clash of order and freedom type of thing borrowing some ideas from things like Dark Sun and Mesopotamian history as inspiration. Broadly this part of the continent has most of its agricultural land focused around the coasts and some river systems that extend into the interior of the continent, most of this agricultural land is ruled by powerful city states dominated by Draconic King. Beyond this the lands surrounding it are largely arid, plant life only briefly able to flourish in the wet season as wadis fill for a time, the lands and people here often wild. Go far enough north and you hit a region of hills and mountains of a different but equally harsh nature most often.
So 2 factions which are must haves
Meshant
The closest of the great city states to the starting area, ruled by a powerful Blue Dragon named Ukrik'Azahim'Mli and with a satellite town called Oulm'Aki being a possible starting/hub location, a modest town sitting at the edge of a minor tributaries of the larger river upon with Meshant sits. As with many of the great dragon city states slavery is common here, order is often enforced ruthlessly and the society is extremely hierarchical, with a small clique of wealthy nobles (most of whom are dragonborn) at the top and a large number of slaves and poorer subjects at the bottom of the pile. However, it represents a place of socio-economic complexity, that embraces long distance trade. Ukrik'Azahim'Mli is also quite a capable ruler, he's been fairly good at fending off the attempts of rivals to conquer his lands and has earned wealth for his city through wars, his court is a centre of learning regarding the magical and mundane, as well as being a patron of the arts. His legal system may provide broad powers when dealing with those accused of crimes against those of a higher station but the great storm dragon does still value something approaching rule of law. And if you are someone who values things like trade and literacy it is Meshant that will further such things. For an adventurer who seeks wealth and prestige the forces of Meshant are also perhaps the best resourced to offer such things.
Here in Ouim'Aki, the governor Amar-Suen is the governor of a town at the edge of the city's zone of control, the river that connects them navigable in the wetter parts of the year but not always easy and safe to traverse with Ouim'Aki sitting on the north shore of a marshy lake in the wet season as water collects from nearby areas, the river flowing out to the south and joins the flow of a larger river at Meshant. Meanwhile with a new campaigning season likely to begin it is likely the king will bring his power southwards to wage war on his neighbouring monarchs meaning although Meshant is the greatest power in this region not all of its resources will be focuses here.
The Hatussa
The Hatussa describe a loose, fluid group of desert nomads that live in this area, their population is made up of a fair mixture of desert elves along with humans, half elves and a smattering of other races. The people of the cities would call them barbarians, surviving off pastoralism, hunting and gathering as they move across the landscape in small groups rather than farming, having no knowledge of writing and with the concept of law being nothing more than a group of loose shared norms, the enforcement of which is not the monopoly of any king, judge or their men. Those of the city might describe them as untrustworthy, at one time happy to do trade and at another to engage in banditry and raiding. The deserts they live in can often be tough places, low on water in many parts of the year and even at the best of times wild monsters and dangerous beasts are not uncommon. However they are lovers of freedom, decisions are often made by consensus among groups, leaders often chosen only for a specific purpose such as conducting a raid or a negotiation, their lose political structure lacking many of the traditional facets of state structure such as taxation and a monopoly on the use of force.
But I have some other ideas for factions and I'm debating which I might also include.
The Nethaniah
For generations the valley dwarfs have lived as slaves or poor lower class workers in the realms of the Draconic Kings. The Nethaniah are a local group focused on the liberation of of the Valley Dwarfs in particular and perhaps abolition more broadly, hoping to either rebel against the King of Meshant and free perhaps Oulm'Aki or else take as many of their people as possible and find somewhere to free. On their own however they know they lack the strength to have much chance of taking Meshant on. They are known for including warriors highly skilled using simple weapons and in unarmed combat but some are also said to turn to darker powers seeking stranger abilities. They are quite willing to be ruthless in their goals, carrying out assassinations and the like to undermine the power of the Draconic Masters in Oulm'Aki, although they are not blind to the suffering of slaves of other races they still tend to prioritise freeing their own people
The Sleepless Dreamers A group of former supporters of the old king of Meshant, Uzi'Isbi'Imi, who have fled into the deep desert along with the bones of the dead Brass Dragon. Since then they have been trying to find a way to bring her back to life or perhaps unlife. So far they have yet to be successful but in order to continue their work in that desolate place many have successfully turned themselves undead and raised undead servants. The old King was probably a better person than the current Ukrik'Azahim'Mli, if a less capable general, but the means that their followers would go to to return them are... disturbing.
The Cult of Kamosh Another internal rebellion group but this one largely led by humans. Focused around a secret religious movement focused around the dragon slaying god Kamosh they blame a lot of the woes of the world on the Dragons and their servants, their vision of liberation has little room for Dragons, Dragonborn, Kobolds and the worship of the Draconic gods in any area they may manage to liberate. The local cult is eager to rebel in Oulm'Aki and take control of it but at the present will need more resources or more allies to do so.
The Naram League As the name suggests this is a small group of villages and a town who are roughly organised around an alliance to a young copper dragon Naram'Dalu. These settlements are organised in a small ridgeline of hills much to the east where slightly higher rains and something of an aquifer allows them to survive in an area that is arid but a little more liveable than the surrounding desert. Their remoteness and small size has meant Meshant has generally had bigger fish to fry but both sides well know that they may one day turn on them and try to conquer them. Currently they have an awkward relationship with Meshant where they are willing to pay a small, largely symbolic tribute to the great city in order to secure their peace and a trade. Naram'Dalu is much less intentionally brutal than some of the draconic kings but this local lord would still much rather spend his time partying than dedicating himself to working hard to benefit his people.
The Yamna An nomadic tribe come from across the mountains that were driven south by bad weather increasing competition for resources in the far north a few years ago, the Yamna are a group forged around an orc core but they care more for strength than for lineage, any who prove their capability may join the tribe and as such they have a fair few people from other races mixed into their group. In recent years the Yamna spent some time providing mercenaries for Meshant, but two years ago during a difficult campaign against rival cities in the south their relationship shattered, both sides claimed the other more or less betrayed them. Now the broader tribe has been scattered into its component familial groups, many of which have come to this region with their carts looking for pasture for their cattle during the wetter parts of the year. With the drier season approaching though the future of the tribe is yet to be decided, will they be united under a new leader or remain scattered, will they try to return to the steppe beyond the mountains, will they try to carve out a place here by force with raiding and seizing land, will the establish relationships with local powers through trade, alliance and mercenary work to ensure they have means to keep their cattle from starving.
The following are more minor factions, they will probably only come up under certain circumstances, i'm less likely to create hooks to allow players to actually join them with their purpose more to be mainly either possible allies for a faction the PCs might join or factions mainly there to be antagonists.
Clan Jerahmal A dwarven mountain clan north the local region, the closest such of the clans that dot the mountains and jungle hills. They have no love for the dragons and heir servants and feel a certain kinship towards their cousins enslaved and otherwise oppressed by the whip of Meshant, despite some considerable religious differences, but it is likely to take a fair amount of persuading to get them to leave their fortified settlements in the hills and mountain and march upon the plains. Many in the towns and cities view the mountain clans as terrible isolated and superstitious, given their aversion to arcane arts and culture of ritual cleanliness, but their access to iron is both shrouded in mystery much envied and sort after given the lowlanders can only work meteoric iron. I'm debating whether to have some goliath either folded in as part of the clan's structure or as a separate but allied group in the same general region.
An-Nesa The marshy lake near Ouim'Aki in the wet season is a maze of reeds, deep channels of water and banks of mud. In the dry season it still retains a degree of folliage due to soil moisture but much less is navigable by boat, land navigation is still difficult as many areas have only a thin layer of hardened material baked on the surface which can break to reveal much softer mud and silt beneath. Half submerged in this is the ruins of an old settlement called Nesa, its inhabitants, the An-Nesa are a tribe of lizardfolk primarily (and a small number of those such as black dragonborn), they are known to hunt and fish in the area, as well as sometimes carry out a basic form of flood agriculture, but the An-Nesa are well known to often supplement this with raiding and piracy, which they seem to consider much the same as hunting, often targeting shipments that might contain food and fishing boats, not afraid to eat those they have slain to. Meshant would like to see these destroyed, or at least beaten back until they are no longer so great a threat. The marsh has made it somewhat difficult but the forces of Meshant would certainly consider operations to kill and enslave the lizardfolk when the chance arises.
Halfling Merchants River halflings are well known across much of this part of the continent and the bands of water traders and land caravans they use are well known in this region for their work. While some may regard them as not entirely trustworthy they do represent an extremely useful middleman for many groups, willing to buy goods from a party and sell them on to people who might have serious trust issues dealing directly. Their capability at navigation and willingness to take the risks involved in such journeys allows for a certain risk reward benefit for them to.
Araxes Serving as possible ally for the Hatussa these will probably only come up if the players choose to ally with Hatussa and seek allies or perhaps the odd random encounter with them. The Araxes are a loose group of Aarakocra in he region, they are known to travel long distances as the seasons change, largely practicing a hunter gatherer life style while the rains keep the low lands richer in resources they may well remain to exploit them before returning much further north as they steadily dry out in the coming months. In many regards they have a spirit not unlike the Hatussa in their love for freedom and willingness to act in a fluid and flexible manner, as such they may well serve as valuable allies should the Hatussa decide to go for a major attempt at waging a war in the area.
The Kukan Another faction that will probably be mainly just antagonists. They are a tribal group of goblins living in the east of the region not so far from the league of Naram although some smaller groups are well known to come west seeking chances to raid and the like. Their relationship with Meshant is particularly poor, they largely regard the goblins as pests who are barely people and will kill or enslave any they find without hesitation. Their relationship with other factions is perhaps not as immediately antagonistic but few have much love for them given the Kukan have a reputation for treachery and cruelty.
2023.05.28 21:01 ThrowawayMay28 I think I'm stuck
I think I'm kinda stuck in my life or maybe just unhappy. I'm almost 30, and it just seems like I'm going nowhere. It might look nice from the outside, but I'm so tired of living.
I have a decent job with room to grow, but I kinda hate it there. It's getting to the point where I think it's affecting my health. I wear a mask for 8 hours. I started with little training and no experience. I hate being stressed or anxious every morning about something at work and the possibility of making a mistake. My clients are often entitled, demanding, or rude, and don't want to listen to my advice because of my age. My coworkers often make my job worse. I can't leave because I don't have enough exprience for a better-paying position. I know what I don't want to do with work. And I need the money.
I still live at home with minimum bills, but I still need to save money. It's hard. Some days I think they just don't care about me and only themselves. My parents don't respect my boundaries or listen to my point of view or feelings more often than not. If I say anything they disagree with, it starts an argument. I just want my view to be respected and listened to. I don't want to be accused of saying they're a bad parent/they didn't live up to my expectation or something I'm not. We can't have discussions or do family outings. It always ends bad. I want my ideas to be heard without being made to feel like I have to accept something else. I don't want my parent's wishes shoved down my throat, but I feel like whatever suggestion they give or advice whether it works for me or not I have to grin and bear it. I'd love to move out, but I don't think I'd be able to. Housing is expensive. I don't want to be stuck renting, but it's my only option. I don't want to be alone. They're the only consistent human interaction I have.
I don't have any friends. I've never had an SO or been on a date. I don't trust my coworkers, especially since I think they judge my living situation and life. The hobbies that I do have aren't working out for me anymore. It's hard to get motivated for them when I have the energy. I've tried therapy, but she didn't talk to me much. Maybe 5 sentences in an hour. Maybe I'm broken.
I just want more out of life. Someone who loves me for me. Travel; explore. But, it's get up, go to work, sleep, and repeat. I just want to be happy with my life.
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I have a decent job with room to grow, but I kinda hate it there. It's getting to the point where I think it's affecting my health. I wear a mask for 8 hours. I started with little training and no experience. I hate being stressed or anxious every morning about something at work and the possibility of making a mistake. My clients are often entitled, demanding, or rude, and don't want to listen to my advice because of my age. My coworkers often make my job worse. I can't leave because I don't have enough exprience for a better-paying position. I know what I don't want to do with work. And I need the money.
I still live at home with minimum bills, but I still need to save money. It's hard. Some days I think they just don't care about me and only themselves. My parents don't respect my boundaries or listen to my point of view or feelings more often than not. If I say anything they disagree with, it starts an argument. I just want my view to be respected and listened to. I don't want to be accused of saying they're a bad parent/they didn't live up to my expectation or something I'm not. We can't have discussions or do family outings. It always ends bad. I want my ideas to be heard without being made to feel like I have to accept something else. I don't want my parent's wishes shoved down my throat, but I feel like whatever suggestion they give or advice whether it works for me or not I have to grin and bear it. I'd love to move out, but I don't think I'd be able to. Housing is expensive. I don't want to be stuck renting, but it's my only option. I don't want to be alone. They're the only consistent human interaction I have.
I don't have any friends. I've never had an SO or been on a date. I don't trust my coworkers, especially since I think they judge my living situation and life. The hobbies that I do have aren't working out for me anymore. It's hard to get motivated for them when I have the energy. I've tried therapy, but she didn't talk to me much. Maybe 5 sentences in an hour. Maybe I'm broken.
I just want more out of life. Someone who loves me for me. Travel; explore. But, it's get up, go to work, sleep, and repeat. I just want to be happy with my life.
2023.05.28 21:00 Crissycrossycross Need help. Is my Edad breaking free from being an enabler?
My Edad said “Okay, looking forward to it” when I told him we need to talk about my mom’s behavior after I argued with him through text because he sent me a post about how happy people always listen to their parents and love them no matter what. I told him that my mom doesn’t deserve my love and that she’s solely an egg donor. That calling her a mom is an insult to actual mothers who sacrificed their lives for their kids. I told him “my mom is just a control freak who gets schadenfreude from people’s demise especially her kids and you know it. There’s something inherently wrong with her and you know it, no amount of posts or quotes would ever make me respect her or go into contact with her again”.
I think I also went overboard by saying this…but his mom died recently and my mom talked horribly about her. I heard her! He was also in the living room when she talked bad about her to HIM.. He was quiet the whole time while my mom disrespected her. I told him “since you preach about respecting and loving your parents then why didn’t you tell my mom to stfu when she was dissing my grandmother? My grandma is dead and she has no voice I’m sure she’d appreciate it if you defended her against that evil monster”. He said “well hunny, I honestly don’t remember your mom saying anything except positive things about your grandmother. Your mom prays for her all the time”.
Then I told him “don’t lie to me! We’re both adults and you don’t need to lie to my face. I’m not a child anymore and I know you’re only covering for her”. He said “you’re the LIAR!”.
I told him “there’s no hope with you anymore! I’m actually a lot less of a liar than you because I don’t live a lie to accommodate to my feelings and keep the peace. I even lived a fraction of my life with no friends because I hate fake people and would rather be alone than hang with people who pretended to care about me. I don’t befriend people easily. I’d rather a live a life based on truth and be unhappy rather than be happy and live a lie. If I was a liar I’d have pretended that my Nmom loved me and cared about me but I don’t. I’d have still let her have her way”. Then he said “can you tell me what your mom said about your grandmother?”.
I told him “dad, I’m not here to judge you, I have no problem talking about sensitive topics like that. I hope we can talk but as long as it’s 100% true and with no attempts to deny anything”. Then he turned his phone off before my last text and an hour later he said “Okay, looking forward to it” and then he said “hopefully”.
Is that a good sign? Or he just leading me on? I have never argued with him face to face without there being any denial or blame or name calling. Keep in mind that this is the man who blamed us when my mom beat us with a clothes hanger and slammed our heads into the floor. The man who ran away to save himself when my mom started acting up. Is there any hope from our message exchange?
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I think I also went overboard by saying this…but his mom died recently and my mom talked horribly about her. I heard her! He was also in the living room when she talked bad about her to HIM.. He was quiet the whole time while my mom disrespected her. I told him “since you preach about respecting and loving your parents then why didn’t you tell my mom to stfu when she was dissing my grandmother? My grandma is dead and she has no voice I’m sure she’d appreciate it if you defended her against that evil monster”. He said “well hunny, I honestly don’t remember your mom saying anything except positive things about your grandmother. Your mom prays for her all the time”.
Then I told him “don’t lie to me! We’re both adults and you don’t need to lie to my face. I’m not a child anymore and I know you’re only covering for her”. He said “you’re the LIAR!”.
I told him “there’s no hope with you anymore! I’m actually a lot less of a liar than you because I don’t live a lie to accommodate to my feelings and keep the peace. I even lived a fraction of my life with no friends because I hate fake people and would rather be alone than hang with people who pretended to care about me. I don’t befriend people easily. I’d rather a live a life based on truth and be unhappy rather than be happy and live a lie. If I was a liar I’d have pretended that my Nmom loved me and cared about me but I don’t. I’d have still let her have her way”. Then he said “can you tell me what your mom said about your grandmother?”.
I told him “dad, I’m not here to judge you, I have no problem talking about sensitive topics like that. I hope we can talk but as long as it’s 100% true and with no attempts to deny anything”. Then he turned his phone off before my last text and an hour later he said “Okay, looking forward to it” and then he said “hopefully”.
Is that a good sign? Or he just leading me on? I have never argued with him face to face without there being any denial or blame or name calling. Keep in mind that this is the man who blamed us when my mom beat us with a clothes hanger and slammed our heads into the floor. The man who ran away to save himself when my mom started acting up. Is there any hope from our message exchange?
2023.05.28 20:59 Gg_gG_10_10 Today… I am not working… no… no I am not
I did get to have a more challenging conversation with my teenager about being trans gender…
Just incase other parents read this and might need some ideas on how to approach it.. I am going to keep sharing my steps in helping them navigate.
My kid didn’t ever have a safe environment to try being female growing up with my ex… it would never have even been an options I need to keep this in mind because there is a fear of even just trying to dress drag.
As a parent though I am responsible to teach my child you can’t just say you are something to fit it and never follow through because that is manipulating your identity to make others believe you are something you are in fact not… and always ends in breaking trust with those around you.
So today we had that conversation… we navigating what it is about their body they don’t like, why do they feel the need to be called she/her but are not making any efforts to try and see if that gender is fitting for them… and how it looks on the outside if you are just simply trying to be a part of the group.
Being 16 my child has no idea of all the different options… so I talked about being both… having a male and female persona as in drag…. Which can regular female clothes..and then went over the gender changes… and let them know we were going to try it out and see if it fit..
Listening to them I learned they are afraid because they feel as if their father is watching all the time and they do not like their birth genitals and would prefer to be female but dress male (something I didn’t even consider)…
And before we finished I reminded them this is navigation and gave them some language to use when explaining to others that they are navigating ‘I feel more comfortable with the she/her pronouns but I am still navigating’ that way they can be confident in themselves if they do decide to stay a boy.
It was a very successful conversation and it mattered that I had built trust with them that they could trust I was not out to control this journey or to judge them through our previous conversations… building that trust allowed me to address aligning actions to words without them feeling attacked.
I love my kid so much… I love both of the kids I have been blessed with so much and I hope they know it… I hope I am doing a good job and give them a better stat than I had.
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Just incase other parents read this and might need some ideas on how to approach it.. I am going to keep sharing my steps in helping them navigate.
My kid didn’t ever have a safe environment to try being female growing up with my ex… it would never have even been an options I need to keep this in mind because there is a fear of even just trying to dress drag.
As a parent though I am responsible to teach my child you can’t just say you are something to fit it and never follow through because that is manipulating your identity to make others believe you are something you are in fact not… and always ends in breaking trust with those around you.
So today we had that conversation… we navigating what it is about their body they don’t like, why do they feel the need to be called she/her but are not making any efforts to try and see if that gender is fitting for them… and how it looks on the outside if you are just simply trying to be a part of the group.
Being 16 my child has no idea of all the different options… so I talked about being both… having a male and female persona as in drag…. Which can regular female clothes..and then went over the gender changes… and let them know we were going to try it out and see if it fit..
Listening to them I learned they are afraid because they feel as if their father is watching all the time and they do not like their birth genitals and would prefer to be female but dress male (something I didn’t even consider)…
And before we finished I reminded them this is navigation and gave them some language to use when explaining to others that they are navigating ‘I feel more comfortable with the she/her pronouns but I am still navigating’ that way they can be confident in themselves if they do decide to stay a boy.
It was a very successful conversation and it mattered that I had built trust with them that they could trust I was not out to control this journey or to judge them through our previous conversations… building that trust allowed me to address aligning actions to words without them feeling attacked.
I love my kid so much… I love both of the kids I have been blessed with so much and I hope they know it… I hope I am doing a good job and give them a better stat than I had.
2023.05.28 20:57 Extension-Choice-867 I hate feeling like this
My anxiety is pretty constant but I’m having an especially rough time, i keep getting “flashes” of interractions from the past few days that are making me anxious. It’s been a stressful week and I have a tendancy to overanalyze conversations and worry about being judged or something. The frustrating part is I know I shouldn’t worry about the stuff I’m worried about and that none of this does matter and nothing bad is going to happen. So if I’m aware of all of that then why isn’t that enough to make it go away? How can I be so self aware that my feelings are irrational but still feel them?
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2023.05.28 20:55 steht_09 I (41F) working with ex (37F) son (15M)…. What would you do?
I (41 F) had an affair 3 1/2 years ago. My sweet, sweet husband forgave me, though I don’t deserve it and am crap for doing it in the first place. My ex (37 F) said she dissociated the affair and tried to get an order of protection against me saying I sexually assaulted her. She doesn’t have Dissociated Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder), so there’s no way she dissociated a 2 month affair. And she’s f she dissociated it, how does she know what happened? Btw, you could tell the judge was trying not to laugh at her claim. I also had a lawyer AND all of the naked pics she had sent me. She was also sleeping with another guy, other than her husband (I sent screenshots of this to a person she is still friends with), but they talked with her husband to “prove” I was lying. This ex-friend of mine believes my ex…. All of her lies.
So, to my current problem: I just got a job for the summer (I’m in grad school), and will be working with 1 of her kids. My anxiety and anger are through the roof just thinking about working with him and her being in the restaurant when I’m there. I don’t know what to do. I also substitute teach, and she has convinced the school to remove the kids from the room if I sub for one of their teachers. I hear about the rumors she and her kids spread around town about me as we live in a town with less than 2,000 people. I still have a ton of anger and hate her whole freaking family! I know I could try to find a different job, but this one is right by my house, so I can spend as much time this summer as I can with my husband and kids. It’s hard for me to work full-time and focus on schoolwork, so I’m just doing part-time until I’m done with this degree program. I have about 2 1/2 - 3 years left. Please help, Reddit. What would you do?
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So, to my current problem: I just got a job for the summer (I’m in grad school), and will be working with 1 of her kids. My anxiety and anger are through the roof just thinking about working with him and her being in the restaurant when I’m there. I don’t know what to do. I also substitute teach, and she has convinced the school to remove the kids from the room if I sub for one of their teachers. I hear about the rumors she and her kids spread around town about me as we live in a town with less than 2,000 people. I still have a ton of anger and hate her whole freaking family! I know I could try to find a different job, but this one is right by my house, so I can spend as much time this summer as I can with my husband and kids. It’s hard for me to work full-time and focus on schoolwork, so I’m just doing part-time until I’m done with this degree program. I have about 2 1/2 - 3 years left. Please help, Reddit. What would you do?
2023.05.28 20:51 fresh_cut_flowers CPS Has Ruled to Reunify a Child With an Abusive Parent
This is concerning the Office of Child Services (OCS) in Alaska. A family member of mine had her children removed from her several years ago due to psychosis / a manic episode wherein she believed someone was in pursuit of her and her children and she therefore attempted to leave her children with a stranger in a public area. She was hospitalized for several weeks, though we do not know if she received a diagnosis in that time since its private information. The two children were placed with grandparents.
Family and friends have witnessed bad behavior for years and she clearly has severe mental health issues. She verbally abuses her children, made the older child into the caretaker for the younger child, and has a constant string of boyfriends and fiances that she encourages the children to call "dad," and moves almost every six months (to multiple different states--not just across town). She is unable to hold down a job for very long as well. Friends are only maintained for so long before they realize she is toxic and/or she grows angry with them and targets them with a slew of accusations and verbal abuse. She has a habit of accusing every one around her of very serious criminal activities, including sexual abuse against multiple people, which she later recants. She is extremely paranoid and often thinks people around her are conspiring against her. Generally speaking she is very mentally unstable, you have to agree with everything she says or incur her wrath, she is on a constant roller coaster of depression and optimism, and she cannot settle down or maintain any kind of consistency in her living situation. She desperately needs but rejects consistent therapy and mental healthcare.
Since the children have been removed, visitation by their mother has been inconsistent, though she has many excuses for why this is. The fact is, however, is that she moved to three different states in the last few years, and it was never even to the same state where her children currently live. She was also engaged to be married at least twice that we know of. Employment has come and gone. It is only in the last few months that she was able to afford a place to live. Granted having housing and employment issues certainly isn't unusual nowadays, but this is a pattern that has extended for nearly all of this individual's adult life. She is showing no signs of changing and it is not an appropriate environment for children.
The OCS had originally told the grandparents that they would be given the chance to legally adopt the children. However, in the past year, the case was transferred to a new judge who said the case had been open far too long and didn't see why they weren't seeking reunification with the mother. The grandparents were informed they would not be adopting the children and that OCS would be seeking reunification with the children's mother after years of her not having custody. Both sides of the family attempted to testify at the subsequent court hearings about her paranoid behavior and the verbal abuse they themselves have experienced from her or witnessed against the children and they were completely shut down by the judge. Either they were told they could not present their testimony at all, had no rights in the matter, or were not allowed to complete their statements. The grandparents did later hire an attorney who filed into the case on their behalf and they were allowed to present a small amount of testimony. It made no difference. Instead, the judge ordered that the youngest child be returned to her mother. The older child, thank goodness, was allowed to choose and has chosen to have no contact with his mother whatsoever.
This ruling is despite the children's therapists advising against it, recent recordings of the oldest child being screamed at by the mother over the phone, and the mother's constant barrage of accusations and demands being directed at the grandparents via email and text. Family members have made constant attempts to submit evidence to OCS and the social worker, guardians ad litem, etc. but it doesn't seem to matter. The mother is currently in a harassment dispute with her workplace and has expressed that she thinks her current neighbors are spying on her. It is clear to our family that OCS and the court have not required her to meet any mental health standards before being awarded custody. I know part of the reason for this is because the majority of the issue here is mental health problems and emotional abuse of children. These are not situations that get much attention. The children weren't starved or beaten (yet), however, it still is so, so damaging for the children. We have been trying to figure out if there is anything left to do, or some avenue unexplored. If anyone has any perspective or suggestions, that would be so appreciated.
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Family and friends have witnessed bad behavior for years and she clearly has severe mental health issues. She verbally abuses her children, made the older child into the caretaker for the younger child, and has a constant string of boyfriends and fiances that she encourages the children to call "dad," and moves almost every six months (to multiple different states--not just across town). She is unable to hold down a job for very long as well. Friends are only maintained for so long before they realize she is toxic and/or she grows angry with them and targets them with a slew of accusations and verbal abuse. She has a habit of accusing every one around her of very serious criminal activities, including sexual abuse against multiple people, which she later recants. She is extremely paranoid and often thinks people around her are conspiring against her. Generally speaking she is very mentally unstable, you have to agree with everything she says or incur her wrath, she is on a constant roller coaster of depression and optimism, and she cannot settle down or maintain any kind of consistency in her living situation. She desperately needs but rejects consistent therapy and mental healthcare.
Since the children have been removed, visitation by their mother has been inconsistent, though she has many excuses for why this is. The fact is, however, is that she moved to three different states in the last few years, and it was never even to the same state where her children currently live. She was also engaged to be married at least twice that we know of. Employment has come and gone. It is only in the last few months that she was able to afford a place to live. Granted having housing and employment issues certainly isn't unusual nowadays, but this is a pattern that has extended for nearly all of this individual's adult life. She is showing no signs of changing and it is not an appropriate environment for children.
The OCS had originally told the grandparents that they would be given the chance to legally adopt the children. However, in the past year, the case was transferred to a new judge who said the case had been open far too long and didn't see why they weren't seeking reunification with the mother. The grandparents were informed they would not be adopting the children and that OCS would be seeking reunification with the children's mother after years of her not having custody. Both sides of the family attempted to testify at the subsequent court hearings about her paranoid behavior and the verbal abuse they themselves have experienced from her or witnessed against the children and they were completely shut down by the judge. Either they were told they could not present their testimony at all, had no rights in the matter, or were not allowed to complete their statements. The grandparents did later hire an attorney who filed into the case on their behalf and they were allowed to present a small amount of testimony. It made no difference. Instead, the judge ordered that the youngest child be returned to her mother. The older child, thank goodness, was allowed to choose and has chosen to have no contact with his mother whatsoever.
This ruling is despite the children's therapists advising against it, recent recordings of the oldest child being screamed at by the mother over the phone, and the mother's constant barrage of accusations and demands being directed at the grandparents via email and text. Family members have made constant attempts to submit evidence to OCS and the social worker, guardians ad litem, etc. but it doesn't seem to matter. The mother is currently in a harassment dispute with her workplace and has expressed that she thinks her current neighbors are spying on her. It is clear to our family that OCS and the court have not required her to meet any mental health standards before being awarded custody. I know part of the reason for this is because the majority of the issue here is mental health problems and emotional abuse of children. These are not situations that get much attention. The children weren't starved or beaten (yet), however, it still is so, so damaging for the children. We have been trying to figure out if there is anything left to do, or some avenue unexplored. If anyone has any perspective or suggestions, that would be so appreciated.
2023.05.28 20:49 Altraacc Important Document
Hey all,for almost a year now I've been composing a document based on theological and scientific findings related to Human Sexuality and Social issues and their place in the Catholic Church.Since I am writing this based upon a marginalized community it would seem bias and unjust if I published this document to Bishops and Church Leaders without the advice and consul of the community itself.I want to ask for help and even consider co-writers from this community.It may sound naive,but I believe this document and writers like this can inspire the kind of Just and Unrebellious change the Holy Spirit desires,I think there is a real problem in our Church and the decline of Religiousness is a serious threat to the world with Reformation being the solution,May God forgive me if im wrong but what can I do if im right? So please,any and all help regardless of Religion or Self is appreciated,my plan is to send this document out to several Church Leaders and Theologists once this document is well developed and consuled.
I also apologize,this is quite a long document!
Here is the text:
lus corporis A collage of opinions and facts alike on the use of gender and sexuality in today's world and how the Catholic Church can "Listen,Reason,and Propose" as said in "Male and Female He Created"
"What you are now,I once was,What I am now,you will be." -Father Mike Shmitz
4.The Catholic Church has been critzied for not taking the opinions of LGBTQ Catholics on certain documents concerning the topic,however until proclaimed Infallibile under the Doctrine of Papal Infallibility,these documents are technically still up for slight discussion as said in Male and Female He Created them,with"Listen,Reason,and Propose",however they are Church Teaching and must still be followed
7.Gender Disorder is something many people go through in life,especially during puberty and teenage years
8.A potential theory for the rise in Transgenderism is the decrease of testosterone due to products that take it away,and an increase in estrogen levels from birth control pills and etc flushed in our water that filters cannot take away,even the US Ground Water Authority agrees with the Estrogen Increase in Public Water via Contraceptive Pills.
"Do you not know that the unjust will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes* nor sodomites nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God. That is what some of you used to be; but now you have had yourselves washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God"
However,when reading the footnote given by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops You will find that the Greek word translated as boy prostitutes may refer to catamites, i.e., boys or young men who were kept for purposes of prostitution, a practice not uncommon in the Greco-Roman world. In Greek mythology, this was the function of Ganymede, the “cupbearer of the gods,” whose Latin name was Catamitus. The term translated sodomites refers to adult males who indulged in homosexual practices with such boys.Refers to the boy prostitutes and sodomites,also translated as homesexuals,refers only to the act of lustful homesexuality,and while homesexuality may be lustful,some homesexuals claim the love the feel is true romantic and unified love
However, when reading Romans 1:26-27 St Paul States
Therefore, God handed them over to degrading passions. Their females exchanged natural relations for unnatural,27-and the males likewise gave up natural relations with females and burned with lust for one another. Males did shameful things with males and thus received in their own persons the due penalty for their perversity."
This shows us that St. Paul describes the act of Homesexuality as Unatrual,however, when St Paul describes, "and the males likewise gave up natural relations with females and burned with lust for one another. Males did shameful things with males and thus received in their own persons the due penalty for their perversity." He does not specify necessarily that the act of true unification of flesh between the same sex as sinful,however he does describes the act of Man and Woman's relationship as natrual,this should be noted as this suggests Saint Paul is saying that a Man and A Man,or vice versa,cannot have true sexual unity,however this interpretation is quite "wishy washy."
In Ephesians 5:31-33, St. Paul states
For this reason, a man shall leave [his] father and [his] mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.”x
32-This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the church.33-In any case, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and the wife should respect her husband.
The footnote given by the USCCB states " prostitute: the reference may be specifically to religious prostitution, an accepted part of pagan culture at Corinth and elsewhere; but the prostitute also serves as a symbol for any sexual relationship that conflicts with Christ’s claim over us individually. The two…will become one flesh: the text of Gn 2:24 is applied positively to human marriage in Matthew and Mark, and in Eph 5:29–32: love of husband and wife reflect the love of Christ for his church. The application of the text to union with a prostitute is jarring, for such a union is a parody, an antitype of marriage, which does conflict with Christ’s claim over us. This explains the horror expressed in 15b. "
This shows that the USCCB belives Saint Paul meant that Marriage demonstrates the love of two flesh as a reflection of the love of Christ and his Church.Testimony from Homesexuals argues that the love two homesexuals feel for each other is real and just love,like Christ and his Church,whether or not this is real or a delusion caused by a psychological disorder,only The Lord knows for certain as of now.
One issue on the approvment and justification of Homesexuality given by the Bible is when Saint Paul states "Female gave up Natrual Relations,likewise did the Males" Saint Paul is specifically referring to the union of male and female as natrual and anything otherwise as unatrual,this could technically be countered by saying that Saint Paul did not mean that the act of homesexual love was unatrual,but the abuse of it was,however this is slightly unclear
The footnote on 1 Timonthy 8-11 by the USCCB states
"Those responsible for the speculations that are to be suppressed by Timothy do not present the Old Testament from the Christian viewpoint. The Christian values the Old Testament not as a system of law but as the first stage in God’s revelation of his saving plan, which is brought to fulfillment in the good news of salvation through faith in Jesus Christ."
This reveals to us that the act of Homesexuality as it is described in the Old Testament as sinful is not necessarily Christian Law, but rather part of God's First stage of Salvation
27-God created mankind in his image;
in the image of God, he created them;
male and female* he created them
The footnote given by the USCCB states
"Male and female: as God provided the plants with seeds (vv. 11, 12) and commanded the animals to be fertile and multiply (v. 22), so God gives sexuality to human beings as their means to continue in existence."
Also, note that Genesis states that man and women came from each other and were once One.This has potential to theological development, but more time and research is needed to process this.
Based on this,this document can this not justify that the Catholic Church can recognize "Third Genders,or Non Binaryness" as God Created only two Genders Male and Female.A mix of the two sexes may be possible,but more evidence is needed to even consider this seriously.
The following information,Passages, and reference belong to the Catholic.com Website in an article written by Jason Evert
1 Corinthians 12:5-9 states
There are varieties of service, but the same Lord . . . All these are inspired by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills. For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. . . . If the foot should say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. . . . If the whole body were an eye, where would be the hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the organs in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single organ, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body. . . . Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. And God has appointed in the church first apostles . . . Are all apostles?” (1 Cor. 12:5–29).
This shows us that while Saint Paul may have said "Women or Man,No matter" he was referring to the role of all of us as the Body of Christ,while not everyone is subject to every role,everyone has a different role in the Body of Christ,this Biblical Passage could also be used to argue that God designated and designed each Humans role in the Body of Christ at Birth and that Role should not be reconstructed
It should also be noted that the Bible refrences a female "Phobe" who is a deacon.Combine that with the matter that Temporary Diaconate is not full Preistly Ordination and the lower case ordination of Women may be possible in the form of temporary Deacons.
Pope John Paul II declared, “Although the teaching that priestly ordination is to be reserved to men alone has been preserved by the constant and universal Tradition of the Church and firmly taught by the Magisterium in its more recent documents, at the present time in some places it is nonetheless considered still open to debate, or the Church’s judgment that women are not to be admitted to ordination is considered to have a merely disciplinary force. Wherefore, in order that all doubt may be removed regarding a matter of great importance, a matter which pertains to the Church’s divine constitution itself, in virtue of my ministry of confirming the brethren (cf. Luke 22:32), I declare that the Church has no authority whatsoever to confer priestly ordination on women and that this judgment is to be definitively held by all the Church’s faithful
2.The Catholic Church currently teaches that one is born and conceived Male or Female,and that to try and change this is an act of disobedience of God's Ultimate Design of Humanity,Catholic and Christian Transgenders claim they are not acting out of disobedience,but rather are medically aligning their "God Given Identity" with their Physical Form.
5.New Ways Ministry,A organization dedicated to building a bridge between the LGBTQ Community and the Catholic Church(not necessarily in full Communion with the Church)seems to support idea of Gender Ideology,however evidence to suggest anything further is low.
The Act of In Virto Fertilization,while may seem Unitive,is not considered such.The Gift of life in the form of Sexual Intercourse is required for a relationship to be Unitive,as this is what God has desired for us.However the Church must be empathetic with infertile couples and hear their situations and stories out.Using Contraception during Intercourse may be Unitive,but it is not open to the gift of procreation and life,and therefore cannot be supported by the Catholic Church.However,Couples who cannot conceive naturally but do not lack the procreative and unitive intentions could potentially be a reason for just changing of this teaching,and should be listened to,aswell as those who are victims of Rape and Incest so long as the Contraception is not in the form of Murder(abortion).
Additionally,the Sacrament of Marriage is required for two to become one flesh,this is transparently stated in the Bible by Jesus Christ Himself,and therefore the Church must never conform to the Societal acceptance of Pre Marital Intercourse and the related social and medical,including mental, issues caused by such acts.
Therefore Brothers and Sisters,as God has given us free will and reasoning to further the Church in her Glory,I formally conclude this document "lus corporis"(The right of the body),and propose this to the Catholic Church:The Right of the Body belongs to God,however based on Medical,Psychological,Theological,and Biblical findings,the definition of what we consider to be altering God's Ultimate Design for us all is very much up for discussion and debate
I thank you for taking the time to read this letter,and once again emphasize the importance of following current Church Teaching as Christian Law,even if that Teaching or Teachings are debatable,Because the Vatican must listen to the pleas and cries of the Body of Christ,Amen.
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I also apologize,this is quite a long document!
Here is the text:
lus corporis A collage of opinions and facts alike on the use of gender and sexuality in today's world and how the Catholic Church can "Listen,Reason,and Propose" as said in "Male and Female He Created"
"What you are now,I once was,What I am now,you will be." -Father Mike Shmitz
DisclaimerThis document should not be taken as Anti-Catholic or Heretical,I,the author, fully believe and agree and have Faith in the One Holy Roman Catholic and Apostolic Church,as of now Current Church Teachings describe Homesexual acts and the "LGBTQ+" Community as sinful,and therefore this should be taken as Christian law,this document is a proposal,rather then a "93 Theses" and should not be acted upon until declared Canonical or False by the Catholic Church.Another fair argument to bring up is that I as an individual writing this may be,in my innocenc,biased towards subjects I consider indisputabl,such as abortion,despite this I will do my best to providea neutralargumentbased on facts and testimony outside of my own self. Additionally,please feel free to criticize or disprove anything stated in this document aswell.I thank you for your time in listening to me, and may God's peace be with You,always.
Chapter One On Current Catholic Church Teachings1.Pope Francis and the Churchs currently teach that God Created Man and Woman,and while Genders role in Society and biology can be distuginshed,they must not be separated,additionally Masculinity and Femininity are created by the body,and are two pillars that hold up society.
- Pope Francis has been considered very radical and liberal on the Catholic Churches stances concerning the LGBTQ+ community,while he has condemned abortion,calling it "The same thing the Nazis did but with White Gloves"
4.The Catholic Church has been critzied for not taking the opinions of LGBTQ Catholics on certain documents concerning the topic,however until proclaimed Infallibile under the Doctrine of Papal Infallibility,these documents are technically still up for slight discussion as said in Male and Female He Created them,with"Listen,Reason,and Propose",however they are Church Teaching and must still be followed
- The lives of every single person from conception to natural death are sacred and matter greatly to the Church,that must be clear as the Church has been accused of discrimination,the People of the Church(Failable) and The Church(Infallibile) must be distuginshed
7.Gender Disorder is something many people go through in life,especially during puberty and teenage years
8.A potential theory for the rise in Transgenderism is the decrease of testosterone due to products that take it away,and an increase in estrogen levels from birth control pills and etc flushed in our water that filters cannot take away,even the US Ground Water Authority agrees with the Estrogen Increase in Public Water via Contraceptive Pills.
- The Church teaches that God created man and women and that the sacrament of Holy Matrimony can only be celebrated by a true Male and true female
Chapter 2
A statement on the ex cathedra status of LGBTQ and the Church's stance on Homesexuality
"Do you not know that the unjust will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes* nor sodomites nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God. That is what some of you used to be; but now you have had yourselves washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God"
However,when reading the footnote given by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops You will find that the Greek word translated as boy prostitutes may refer to catamites, i.e., boys or young men who were kept for purposes of prostitution, a practice not uncommon in the Greco-Roman world. In Greek mythology, this was the function of Ganymede, the “cupbearer of the gods,” whose Latin name was Catamitus. The term translated sodomites refers to adult males who indulged in homosexual practices with such boys.Refers to the boy prostitutes and sodomites,also translated as homesexuals,refers only to the act of lustful homesexuality,and while homesexuality may be lustful,some homesexuals claim the love the feel is true romantic and unified love
However, when reading Romans 1:26-27 St Paul States
Therefore, God handed them over to degrading passions. Their females exchanged natural relations for unnatural,27-and the males likewise gave up natural relations with females and burned with lust for one another. Males did shameful things with males and thus received in their own persons the due penalty for their perversity."
This shows us that St. Paul describes the act of Homesexuality as Unatrual,however, when St Paul describes, "and the males likewise gave up natural relations with females and burned with lust for one another. Males did shameful things with males and thus received in their own persons the due penalty for their perversity." He does not specify necessarily that the act of true unification of flesh between the same sex as sinful,however he does describes the act of Man and Woman's relationship as natrual,this should be noted as this suggests Saint Paul is saying that a Man and A Man,or vice versa,cannot have true sexual unity,however this interpretation is quite "wishy washy."
In Ephesians 5:31-33, St. Paul states
For this reason, a man shall leave [his] father and [his] mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.”x
32-This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the church.33-In any case, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and the wife should respect her husband.
The footnote given by the USCCB states " prostitute: the reference may be specifically to religious prostitution, an accepted part of pagan culture at Corinth and elsewhere; but the prostitute also serves as a symbol for any sexual relationship that conflicts with Christ’s claim over us individually. The two…will become one flesh: the text of Gn 2:24 is applied positively to human marriage in Matthew and Mark, and in Eph 5:29–32: love of husband and wife reflect the love of Christ for his church. The application of the text to union with a prostitute is jarring, for such a union is a parody, an antitype of marriage, which does conflict with Christ’s claim over us. This explains the horror expressed in 15b. "
This shows that the USCCB belives Saint Paul meant that Marriage demonstrates the love of two flesh as a reflection of the love of Christ and his Church.Testimony from Homesexuals argues that the love two homesexuals feel for each other is real and just love,like Christ and his Church,whether or not this is real or a delusion caused by a psychological disorder,only The Lord knows for certain as of now.
One issue on the approvment and justification of Homesexuality given by the Bible is when Saint Paul states "Female gave up Natrual Relations,likewise did the Males" Saint Paul is specifically referring to the union of male and female as natrual and anything otherwise as unatrual,this could technically be countered by saying that Saint Paul did not mean that the act of homesexual love was unatrual,but the abuse of it was,however this is slightly unclear
The footnote on 1 Timonthy 8-11 by the USCCB states
"Those responsible for the speculations that are to be suppressed by Timothy do not present the Old Testament from the Christian viewpoint. The Christian values the Old Testament not as a system of law but as the first stage in God’s revelation of his saving plan, which is brought to fulfillment in the good news of salvation through faith in Jesus Christ."
This reveals to us that the act of Homesexuality as it is described in the Old Testament as sinful is not necessarily Christian Law, but rather part of God's First stage of Salvation
Chapter 2 Conclusion Therefore,while definitively not Infallibile,the conclusion of this document is that there is no definitive New Covenant Biblical bases for the disapproval of Homesexuality,however Christ gave the Church the authority to proclaim Christ Teaching,and therefore,just because it is not in the Bible doesn't mean homesexuality is in line with The Teachings of Our Lord and Savior,Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Chapter 3 On "Non Binary," "Third Genders," and "They/Them pronouns,"Genesis 1:27 states -
27-God created mankind in his image;
in the image of God, he created them;
male and female* he created them
The footnote given by the USCCB states
"Male and female: as God provided the plants with seeds (vv. 11, 12) and commanded the animals to be fertile and multiply (v. 22), so God gives sexuality to human beings as their means to continue in existence."
Also, note that Genesis states that man and women came from each other and were once One.This has potential to theological development, but more time and research is needed to process this.
Based on this,this document can this not justify that the Catholic Church can recognize "Third Genders,or Non Binaryness" as God Created only two Genders Male and Female.A mix of the two sexes may be possible,but more evidence is needed to even consider this seriously.
Chapter 4 On the Ordination of WomenYou may have noticed Genesis states that "God Created Man and Woman in his image" this could be a reasonable argument for the Holy Ordination of Women,however it should be noted that while Jesus had many Female Disciples,he did not have any Female Apostles.
The following information,Passages, and reference belong to the Catholic.com Website in an article written by Jason Evert
1 Corinthians 12:5-9 states
There are varieties of service, but the same Lord . . . All these are inspired by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills. For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. . . . If the foot should say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. . . . If the whole body were an eye, where would be the hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the organs in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single organ, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body. . . . Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. And God has appointed in the church first apostles . . . Are all apostles?” (1 Cor. 12:5–29).
This shows us that while Saint Paul may have said "Women or Man,No matter" he was referring to the role of all of us as the Body of Christ,while not everyone is subject to every role,everyone has a different role in the Body of Christ,this Biblical Passage could also be used to argue that God designated and designed each Humans role in the Body of Christ at Birth and that Role should not be reconstructed
It should also be noted that the Bible refrences a female "Phobe" who is a deacon.Combine that with the matter that Temporary Diaconate is not full Preistly Ordination and the lower case ordination of Women may be possible in the form of temporary Deacons.
Pope John Paul II declared, “Although the teaching that priestly ordination is to be reserved to men alone has been preserved by the constant and universal Tradition of the Church and firmly taught by the Magisterium in its more recent documents, at the present time in some places it is nonetheless considered still open to debate, or the Church’s judgment that women are not to be admitted to ordination is considered to have a merely disciplinary force. Wherefore, in order that all doubt may be removed regarding a matter of great importance, a matter which pertains to the Church’s divine constitution itself, in virtue of my ministry of confirming the brethren (cf. Luke 22:32), I declare that the Church has no authority whatsoever to confer priestly ordination on women and that this judgment is to be definitively held by all the Church’s faithful
ConclusionTherefore, this document is in agreement that the Ordination of Women Onto the Holy Ordination and the Sacrament of Holy Orders is declared definitively incorrect,however, female Diaconate may be Scripturally,Theologically,and Spirtualy possible.
Chapter 5 On Transgenderism and the use of Hormone Replacement Therapy(HRT) and Sex Reassignment Surgery(SRS)1.The Bible doesn't give any clear insight on the Early Churchs exact position on Gender Ideology,therefore we as the Body of Christ must primarily rely on current medicial and psychological findings aswell as Church Teachings rooted in Scripture and Tradition
2.The Catholic Church currently teaches that one is born and conceived Male or Female,and that to try and change this is an act of disobedience of God's Ultimate Design of Humanity,Catholic and Christian Transgenders claim they are not acting out of disobedience,but rather are medically aligning their "God Given Identity" with their Physical Form.
- This should be taken relatively seriously, however,as most medical and psychological institutions agree that "Gender Dysphoria" is not simply a disorder but a realization of one's true identity and a genuine medical concern
5.New Ways Ministry,A organization dedicated to building a bridge between the LGBTQ Community and the Catholic Church(not necessarily in full Communion with the Church)seems to support idea of Gender Ideology,however evidence to suggest anything further is low.
- Tia Michelle,an openly intersexual and transgender,received support from her Preist at the idea of becoming a Nun,Tia has stated that there is nothing stated in the Bible that undermines the credibility of Christian Transgenders and that,like aerospace engineering,our modern idea of this concept did not exist at the time of the Bibles writing.The Catholic Church has not responded to this case at the time of writing.
- Pope Francis famous "Who am I to Judge?" quote on Gay Preisthood suggests his openess to the idea od acceptance of an "LGBTQ" lifestyle,however this quote was directed toward Homesexuals and does not mean the Church support the use of HRT or SRS,additionally Pope Francis was likely referring to the fact that homesexuality in itself isn't sinful,rather the act upon this tendency is the sin in question.
- Something to point out is that all Catholics believe in the Reuninfication of Body and Soul at the Second Coming,this could be taken to suggest that Body and Soul are 2 different things that can be separated in the form of Transgenderism,or that Body and Soul are 2 things that work together in harmony with each other.However,in Catholic Teaching,while on Earth you are your body,and so to separate solid and biological sex with a social "twin",Gender, could be harmful,we may even be seeing the effects of this rapid accepting of this ideology today.
Conclusion
Therefore,as the act of conforming to one's psychological and medical identity is described as Gender Ideology,the act of using HRT,SRS,and Opposite Sex Pronouns should very much be up for open debate and change in the Church based on current medical and psychological findings.
Chapter 6 On Abortion and Sexual Intercourse
The Act of In Virto Fertilization,while may seem Unitive,is not considered such.The Gift of life in the form of Sexual Intercourse is required for a relationship to be Unitive,as this is what God has desired for us.However the Church must be empathetic with infertile couples and hear their situations and stories out.Using Contraception during Intercourse may be Unitive,but it is not open to the gift of procreation and life,and therefore cannot be supported by the Catholic Church.However,Couples who cannot conceive naturally but do not lack the procreative and unitive intentions could potentially be a reason for just changing of this teaching,and should be listened to,aswell as those who are victims of Rape and Incest so long as the Contraception is not in the form of Murder(abortion).
Additionally,the Sacrament of Marriage is required for two to become one flesh,this is transparently stated in the Bible by Jesus Christ Himself,and therefore the Church must never conform to the Societal acceptance of Pre Marital Intercourse and the related social and medical,including mental, issues caused by such acts.
Chapter 7 On Asexuality and AromanticnessThe Catholic Churchs stance on Asexuality is clear,No person is without the desire of the gift of life,to not have any sexual stance is impossible,however the Churchs Clergy practices the desire to not have sexual or romantic relationships,therefore Sexual Aromantancy is fine,However Nonsexual Asexuality is non existent as God made all Humans in his image,even the infertile.
Chapter 8 A conclusion on these findingsTherefore Brothers and Sisters in Christ,I believe I can say with confidence that while writing this,I have felt the support of the Holy Spirit through me,whether that means an approval of my proposals,or a desire for this document to be proven false,I am not sure,but with the full confidence of The Most Holy Trinity,I can say that the Church’s stance on Homesexuality,including Lesbianism,is very much up for discussion and Biblical discourse,additionally it may be said that these findings can be proven "Natrual" (However,see section on Saint Paul's "Male and Female gave up Natrual Relations and turned to unatrual relations with their same sex."),Additionally the Church’s stance on Gender Ideology can be considered medically,psychological,and theologically incorrect in certain instances,Being Non Binary(No Gender) on the other can be said as with confidence wrong as God Created just Man and Woman,although certain Catholics and Non Catholics alike disagree with this and should be heard out.Also keep in note the specefic mention of Man and Women coming from each other from One.The Combination of Two Genders/Sexes may be possible if proven Solid based on Medical and Psychological findings.Premarital Intercourse,Non Unitive,and Non Pro Creational intercourse can be said as wrong as Marriage,Unity,and Procreation are required for the proper,just,and God Given use of Sex.Abortion,however I can say with confidence is murder,as there are ways around it and ways to help Children who are saved from the Abortion Holocaust,whether Society has the ethical and morality to take these steps is unclear to Man,unfortunately.Aromanticness,the desire to refrain from sexual and romantic relationships is already practiced by Church Clergy,however the idea that a person cannot have some form of Sexual Drive or Desire,even if smaller than others,is wrong.The Ordination of Woman into the Holy Orders of Preisthood has been definitely declared as outside of the Churches Authority by John Paul and until the Church takes a different stand in this,this should be considered Christian Law,albeit up for some slight discussion.
Therefore Brothers and Sisters,as God has given us free will and reasoning to further the Church in her Glory,I formally conclude this document "lus corporis"(The right of the body),and propose this to the Catholic Church:The Right of the Body belongs to God,however based on Medical,Psychological,Theological,and Biblical findings,the definition of what we consider to be altering God's Ultimate Design for us all is very much up for discussion and debate
I thank you for taking the time to read this letter,and once again emphasize the importance of following current Church Teaching as Christian Law,even if that Teaching or Teachings are debatable,Because the Vatican must listen to the pleas and cries of the Body of Christ,Amen.
"Be strong and courageous for the Lord is with you,"
- Joshua 1:9
2023.05.28 20:44 SuspendedDownsideUp I want to talk about gay stuff like how my straight girl friends talk about hetero stuff
Hi everyone, im writing this because I feel like I need to put it out in the world, in a place where I’ll be heard and won’t be judged. I’m 28yo and go by she/her pronouns but am also gender fluid if that makes sense. I’ve only recently started to accept that I’m bisexual and it’s kind of a tornado that lives in my head. Not because of what anyone else thinks but because it’s a confusing experience for me. I’ve never been with a woman (all the way) but I’m most definitely attracted to them and sometimes get so shy around a girl that I like that I get shaky or sometimes even have to leave the room to chill out… Butterflies and stuff. I feel about some women a certain kind of way that I don’t feel with other genders.
I just got out of a relationship that lasted about two years with a male. It wasn’t sexual for various reasons and after so long I almost came to think that I was asexual. I had a birth control situation but before that I was very much sexual. Now that we’ve broken up though I can see that I am in fact still sexual, I just wasn’t with him. I have two girlfriends who are cis and hetero and they’re really my only friends. They’ve both also recently broken up with their partners and talk about hooking up with other guys, single life an all. All the power to them. I’m not really interested in hooking up and especially not with guys but I do want to be able to talk about sex and attraction with them. However, I feel like when I talk about non-normative stuff it gets a bit weird? And it just doesn’t feel good.
One of them is the type to make out with her girlfriends when she has a night out and clearly she enjoys it a lot, gets excited about it and talks about it later (I think she might be a bit gay tbh). I’ve been able to talk to her about my confusion in the past and it felt fairly comfortable. I feel most insecure with my other friend, like she gets uncomfortable with me. She has a bi male friend and I don’t feel that same weirdness with her when he mentions it. It’s just that this is already so hard for me because I’m all confused so it’s kind of a big deal that I’m talking about it so openly in the first place.
I’m hurt and I need new friends. I want to put more effort into finding a queer community so that I don’t feel so outside but then there‘a the whole “am I queer enough” complex. I just feel so alone right now.
So yeah, I’m having a sort of sexuality crisis and I don’t know what to do with it. I would really really love to hear some of your experiences in figuring all of this out, I’m hoping to gain some insight into how to navigate these waters because I have no idea what I’m doing.
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I just got out of a relationship that lasted about two years with a male. It wasn’t sexual for various reasons and after so long I almost came to think that I was asexual. I had a birth control situation but before that I was very much sexual. Now that we’ve broken up though I can see that I am in fact still sexual, I just wasn’t with him. I have two girlfriends who are cis and hetero and they’re really my only friends. They’ve both also recently broken up with their partners and talk about hooking up with other guys, single life an all. All the power to them. I’m not really interested in hooking up and especially not with guys but I do want to be able to talk about sex and attraction with them. However, I feel like when I talk about non-normative stuff it gets a bit weird? And it just doesn’t feel good.
One of them is the type to make out with her girlfriends when she has a night out and clearly she enjoys it a lot, gets excited about it and talks about it later (I think she might be a bit gay tbh). I’ve been able to talk to her about my confusion in the past and it felt fairly comfortable. I feel most insecure with my other friend, like she gets uncomfortable with me. She has a bi male friend and I don’t feel that same weirdness with her when he mentions it. It’s just that this is already so hard for me because I’m all confused so it’s kind of a big deal that I’m talking about it so openly in the first place.
I’m hurt and I need new friends. I want to put more effort into finding a queer community so that I don’t feel so outside but then there‘a the whole “am I queer enough” complex. I just feel so alone right now.
So yeah, I’m having a sort of sexuality crisis and I don’t know what to do with it. I would really really love to hear some of your experiences in figuring all of this out, I’m hoping to gain some insight into how to navigate these waters because I have no idea what I’m doing.
2023.05.28 20:31 CrematorTV [Lore Spoilers] Who should be the next main antagonist after Silco?
In recent months, I've noticed significantly less activity on this sub, which makes sense. This trend will most likely continue until we get some info on Season 2 (not very soon). So, to lift some spirits, how about we discussed some plot elements for Season 2? I'm thinking villains. Or antagonists because that fits better with the morally grey themes of Arcane.
Jinx
Jinx seems like the most obvious choice when it comes to the big bad of the next season. We know she comes back from the teaser alone and the show ended with her embracing the new identity and title life and the people in her life gave her. While she will most likely be a chaotic, antagonistic force in S2, it's hard to say if they'll stick with her for the entire season. While S2's continuation of the Sisters storyline can be about Vi coming to terms with the fact that her sister is gone, it can also be a story about forgiveness and healing. I'm not suggesting that they will give her a last minute redemption (Arcane's writers are more capable than that), but that they will most likely continue one of the show's main themes: bonds of love and why they aren't easily broken. I would also bring up what one of the writers said in the qna: "To me the story of Arcane is about whether or not the sisters will repeat the mistakes of their fathers." Jinx might turn full antihero after this is done (like she is in the main canon) or she might even die (though I doubt it). Whatever happens, I doubt they'll make her everybody's main enemy (no pun intended) for an entire season. She'll most likely be the central antagonist for Vi and Cait in the first half before the second civil war begins .
Viktor
While it's easy to look at Viktor from League and call him a cartoonish villain, the people who read his lore know that he's essentially a "don't judge a book by it's cover" character. He's a good guy who's just trying to help by providing tech to those who need it. While we didn't see too much of his transformation in S1, S2 will most likely focus on his relationship with Jayce more and their unavoidable conflict most likely ignited by civil war. Viktor will no doubt try to help his fellow Zaunites by giving them tech to fight back, something that Jayce won't like, especially after the death of his girlfriend, Mel (debatable).
Sevika
With Silco out of the way, it's interesting to think about where Sevika's path will take her. Some people are convinced she will take Silco's place as the so called leader of Zaun and the shimmer industry. Some fans even speculate that she might become the infamous chem-baroness Renata Glasc (she does kinda look like her). But I doubt that's the case. Sevika is not into business or money, she fights for a free independent Zaun and that's pretty much all she cares about. The possible civil war means she'll have to lead the fight against Piltover, possibly forming an alliance with Viktor, but we'll have to see. Part of me still thinks that she'll just hang up her coat and retire. This woman took way too many punches for her cause.
Warwick/Vander ???
Out of all the Zaun characters who have yet to make their debut in Arcane, Warwick is the most likely to appear in S2. He can be heard in the teaser, seen during the ending of the show and he gets referenced over and over again during earlier episodes, especially around Vander. While lore fans know that Warwick isn't the most complex character, he is certainly one of the most iconic ones. His theme and trailer are praised to this day and he'd be an interesting addition to the cast. I'm still not sure how much they will lean into family and trauma with him, but I do hope that we'll get some iconic horror chase scenes. Seriously, if you haven't seen his old trailer yet, please check it out. It might give you some clarity in regards to what can you expect from this beast: https://www.youtube.com/watchv=fsnDbealN9E&ab_channel=LeagueofLegends
Camille
Yet another character who Arcane fans might not recognize. This my friends, is Camille of House Ferros, a name that you've already heard from Mel in S1. Lore fans know by now that Camille is one of League's most well crafted characters. Her lore is great, even by Arcane standards. The thing is, it's not very compatable with Arcane's narrative. In lore, hextech was created and Camille's body was modified long before Jayce and Viktor came into the picture. Which is why she's over 100 years old. Her fans aren't too keen on Arcane replacing the main narrative we have now and it's easy to see why. Regardless, I hope they'll find some way to integrate her into the story even if she'll be much younger. Camille is a big part of Piltover, her role being on par with that of characters like Vi, Cait and Jayce. So leaving her out would feel like an odd choice. Her ruthlessly efficient methods would be in perfect contrast with Vi and Cait's more empathetic approach and you can bet she'd give us some cool action scenes. While in recent weeks she was portrayed in a more positive light with the Ekko Convergence game, don't be fooled. She would do anything for her family, even if that means leaving a few bodies behind.
Urgot
Finally we get to my prefered main antagonist of S2. For those of you unaware, Urgot is the closest thing Zaun has to a main villain. He's a former headsman from Noxus (the place Mel and her family is from) who eventually gets banished to Zaun and turned into the thing you see before your eyes. The reason I believe Urgot would be the perfect main antagonist for S2 is because he embodies the antithesis to Arcane's main theme of love bonds that don't break. This man is ruthless, saddistic and pretty much the opposite of what Silco was. He's also hunting and killing chem barons to demonstrate true strength, because they weaken Zaun by becoming like topsiders, something that Silco brought up in season 1. "You've grown fat and complacent." Urgot also leads a cult that combines Noxian strength with Zaunite ingenuity. His twisted vision is brutal but fascinating. Regardless, I genuinely think he'd be the perfect antagonist to wrap up the Piltover and Zaun storyline.
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Jinx
Jinx seems like the most obvious choice when it comes to the big bad of the next season. We know she comes back from the teaser alone and the show ended with her embracing the new identity and title life and the people in her life gave her. While she will most likely be a chaotic, antagonistic force in S2, it's hard to say if they'll stick with her for the entire season. While S2's continuation of the Sisters storyline can be about Vi coming to terms with the fact that her sister is gone, it can also be a story about forgiveness and healing. I'm not suggesting that they will give her a last minute redemption (Arcane's writers are more capable than that), but that they will most likely continue one of the show's main themes: bonds of love and why they aren't easily broken. I would also bring up what one of the writers said in the qna: "To me the story of Arcane is about whether or not the sisters will repeat the mistakes of their fathers." Jinx might turn full antihero after this is done (like she is in the main canon) or she might even die (though I doubt it). Whatever happens, I doubt they'll make her everybody's main enemy (no pun intended) for an entire season. She'll most likely be the central antagonist for Vi and Cait in the first half before the second civil war begins .
Viktor
While it's easy to look at Viktor from League and call him a cartoonish villain, the people who read his lore know that he's essentially a "don't judge a book by it's cover" character. He's a good guy who's just trying to help by providing tech to those who need it. While we didn't see too much of his transformation in S1, S2 will most likely focus on his relationship with Jayce more and their unavoidable conflict most likely ignited by civil war. Viktor will no doubt try to help his fellow Zaunites by giving them tech to fight back, something that Jayce won't like, especially after the death of his girlfriend, Mel (debatable).
Sevika
With Silco out of the way, it's interesting to think about where Sevika's path will take her. Some people are convinced she will take Silco's place as the so called leader of Zaun and the shimmer industry. Some fans even speculate that she might become the infamous chem-baroness Renata Glasc (she does kinda look like her). But I doubt that's the case. Sevika is not into business or money, she fights for a free independent Zaun and that's pretty much all she cares about. The possible civil war means she'll have to lead the fight against Piltover, possibly forming an alliance with Viktor, but we'll have to see. Part of me still thinks that she'll just hang up her coat and retire. This woman took way too many punches for her cause.
Warwick/Vander ???
Out of all the Zaun characters who have yet to make their debut in Arcane, Warwick is the most likely to appear in S2. He can be heard in the teaser, seen during the ending of the show and he gets referenced over and over again during earlier episodes, especially around Vander. While lore fans know that Warwick isn't the most complex character, he is certainly one of the most iconic ones. His theme and trailer are praised to this day and he'd be an interesting addition to the cast. I'm still not sure how much they will lean into family and trauma with him, but I do hope that we'll get some iconic horror chase scenes. Seriously, if you haven't seen his old trailer yet, please check it out. It might give you some clarity in regards to what can you expect from this beast: https://www.youtube.com/watchv=fsnDbealN9E&ab_channel=LeagueofLegends
Camille
Yet another character who Arcane fans might not recognize. This my friends, is Camille of House Ferros, a name that you've already heard from Mel in S1. Lore fans know by now that Camille is one of League's most well crafted characters. Her lore is great, even by Arcane standards. The thing is, it's not very compatable with Arcane's narrative. In lore, hextech was created and Camille's body was modified long before Jayce and Viktor came into the picture. Which is why she's over 100 years old. Her fans aren't too keen on Arcane replacing the main narrative we have now and it's easy to see why. Regardless, I hope they'll find some way to integrate her into the story even if she'll be much younger. Camille is a big part of Piltover, her role being on par with that of characters like Vi, Cait and Jayce. So leaving her out would feel like an odd choice. Her ruthlessly efficient methods would be in perfect contrast with Vi and Cait's more empathetic approach and you can bet she'd give us some cool action scenes. While in recent weeks she was portrayed in a more positive light with the Ekko Convergence game, don't be fooled. She would do anything for her family, even if that means leaving a few bodies behind.
Urgot
Finally we get to my prefered main antagonist of S2. For those of you unaware, Urgot is the closest thing Zaun has to a main villain. He's a former headsman from Noxus (the place Mel and her family is from) who eventually gets banished to Zaun and turned into the thing you see before your eyes. The reason I believe Urgot would be the perfect main antagonist for S2 is because he embodies the antithesis to Arcane's main theme of love bonds that don't break. This man is ruthless, saddistic and pretty much the opposite of what Silco was. He's also hunting and killing chem barons to demonstrate true strength, because they weaken Zaun by becoming like topsiders, something that Silco brought up in season 1. "You've grown fat and complacent." Urgot also leads a cult that combines Noxian strength with Zaunite ingenuity. His twisted vision is brutal but fascinating. Regardless, I genuinely think he'd be the perfect antagonist to wrap up the Piltover and Zaun storyline.
2023.05.28 20:31 TheeBagelQueen NeoDys Drag Race S1EP09 Reigns and Revelations
 | INT. WORKROOM - NIGHT[The queens enter the workroom, still buzzing with the energy from the previous elimination. They gather around the mirror to read Sayu Hime's message.]ManilaButterflyzzzXX: "Stay fabulous, my queens! Keep shining bright like the stars in the sky. Love, Sayu Hime." Aw, Sayu... We're gonna miss you, girl. Gromette Mugler: Yeah, it's always tough to see someone go. Sayu brought something unique to the competition. Lady Yomamalaid: Absolutely. Sayu's creativity was off the charts. I'm gonna miss those wild fashion choices. Dee Pression: Speaking of slaying, can we take a moment to appreciate our girl RuPaul? Another incredible lipsync performance, Ru! You never disappoint. RuPaul: Thank you, my queens! It's always a joy to bring my talents to the stage and show you all what lipsyncing is all about. Gromette Mugler: You're right, Ru. We're all here to prove ourselves and show the world our talents. ManilaButterflyzzzXX: And speaking of talents, congratulations, Dee! Finally snatching that win! You deserve it, girl. Dee Pression: Thank you, Manila! It feels amazing to finally be recognized for my performance. [The queens disperse to their stations, filled with determination and excitement for the next challenge.] ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— INT. WORKROOM - DAY[The queens enter the workroom, filled with a renewed sense of energy and excitement.]Lady Yomamalaid: (confessional) Snatch Game is always nerve-wracking, but we made it through! It's a new day in the workroom, and we've proven ourselves. Now, it's time to conquer the next challenge! Kika Lorace: looking around Snatch Game is behind us, darlings. We survived the ultimate test of wit and impersonation. I'm feeling confident and ready to bring the drama to the next challenge. Dee Pression: Snatch Game was a blast, but let's not forget our girl Gromette here. She's the only one left who hasn't snatched a win yet. Gromette Mugler: Well, ladies, the suspense is building. Just you wait. I've got something up my sleeve that will blow your minds. [As the queens chat amongst themselves, they're interrupted by the entrance of ChatPaul.] ChatPaul: Good morning, my fabulous queens! Are you ready for your next challenge? Get your thespian hats on because you'll be performing in a hilarious sitcom-style scene we're calling "Royal Reunion". Imagine a dysfunctional royal family coming together for a dramatic and comedic reunion. Think scandal, secrets, and over-the-top characters. Can you handle the drama? Lady Yomamalaid: Drama? Honey, we were born for this! Kika Lorace: Oh, the theatrics will be fierce! I can't wait to sink my teeth into this acting challenge. ChatPaul: That's the spirit, queens! Now, for your runway, the category is "Warhol's Wonderland." We want to see you transform into living pop art masterpieces, embodying the vibrant, bold, and iconic style of Andy Warhol. Show us your artistic flair and make a splash on the runway! "Oh and one last thing! As the winner of last week's challenge, Dee Pression, you have the honor of assigning the roles for this week's acting challenge. Take a moment to review the list of roles and make your selections." ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— [The queens sit on the couch as Dee Pression starts reading the script out loud.] Dee Pression: Alright, queens, it's time to assign the roles for our royal reunion sitcom. Let’s look over the roles!
Oshi Rellee Cayme Dat-Wei: I'm interested in portraying Queen Divina. I think I can bring a unique twist to the character. Dee Pression: Great! Oshi will be Queen Divina. Gromette Mugler: I'd love to be Princess Aurora. I think I can capture her innocence and playfulness. Lady Yomamalaid: How about Prince Rocco? I can bring some swag and make him the life of the party! Kika Lorace: I'd love to take on the role of Duchess Vivienne. I have a vision for a glamorous and dramatic portrayal. ManilaButterflyzzzXX: Hold on a minute, Dee! I can't believe Kika thinks she deserves the role of Duchess Vivienne more than I do. I am the epitome of glamour and drama! Kika Lorace: Oh, please, Manila. Just because you're loud doesn't mean you can outshine my elegance and sophistication. I have the regal essence needed to bring Duchess Vivienne to life. ManilaButterflyzzzXX: Regal essence? I practically invented regal essence! I've been serving royalty on and off the stage for years, darling. Kika Lorace: Well, darling, I've got the acting chops to deliver the dramatic monologues and the diva attitude that Duchess Vivienne demands. You can't just rely on your loud personality to carry the role. ManilaButterflyzzzXX: Loud? I prefer the term "captivatingly charismatic." And trust me, I can deliver the drama and the comedic timing needed to make this character unforgettable. Gromette Mugler: Ladies, let's not lose sight of the fact that we're all talented in our own ways. Let's leave it up to Dee to decide who's best suited for the role. Dee Pression: It seems we have two queens vying for the role of Duchess Vivienne. Kika and Manila, I want both of you to audition for the role. Show us your best interpretation of the glamorous duchess. [After the auditions] Dee Pression: Alright, queens, thank you for your auditions. Now, I want each of you to cast a vote for who you think did the best portrayal of Duchess Vivienne. [The queens cast their votes] Dee Pression: The votes have been tallied, and I'm pleased to announce that the role of Duchess Vivienne goes to... Kika Lorace! ManilaButterflyzzzXX: Well, I may not agree with your decision, but I will give my full support to Kika, I guess. I’ll just do whatever is left. Dee Pression: And I’ll be taking the role of Lord Dazzle for myself! Lastly, we have Lady Gossipella and King Fabulous. Who's interested in being the queen of rumors and scandal? RuPaul: I think I could nail Lady Gossipella. I've got the charisma and the gossip knowledge. Dee Pression: Fantastic! So Manila will take King Fabulous! Here's the final casting:
Kika Lorace: (confessional) Acting challenge, here we come! This is my chance to prove that I'm not just a pretty face. I'll bring the drama, the laughs, and the stunning runway look. Kika Lorace is ready to steal the show! ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— INT. FILMING SET[In the "Royal Reunion" sitcom challenge, the queens brought the drama and comedy to life as a dysfunctional drag royal family. Oshi Rellee Cayme Dat-Wei's portrayal of Queen Divina revealed a secret past that threatened to unravel during the reunion, while Kika Lorace embodied the conniving Duchess Vivienne, scheming to outshine Queen Divina and take the throne. ManilaButterflyzzzXX dazzled as King Fabulous, and Gromette Mugler rebelled as Princess Aurora, determined to break free from drag traditions. Lady Yomamalaid's clueless Prince Rocco brought comedic mishaps, while Dee Pression's Lord Dazzle offered sage advice with a touch of sparkle. RuPaul*, as Lady Gossipella, added intrigue with her thirst for juicy scandals.*][As the dysfunctional royal family came together, secrets were exposed, scandals unfolded, and hilarious misunderstandings ensued. The comedic chemistry among the queens was palpable, with each character playing a vital role in the comedic tapestry of the reunion. The challenge showcased the queens' acting talents, with Kika and Oshi shining the brightest, leaving the stage abuzz with anticipation for what comes next.] ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— INT. MAIN STAGEChatPaul: Category is… “Warhol's Wonderland”![Dee Pression graced the runway as a walking canvas, channeling Andy Warhol's Marilyn Monroe portraits. Her gown featured a vibrant color palette, with oversized pixelated prints of Marilyn's face adorning every inch. The intricate brushstrokes and meticulous detailing showcased Dee's artistic flair, while her confident stride brought the art to life.] [ManilaButterflyzzzXX stepped onto the runway as a living embodiment of Warhol's iconic Campbell's Soup Cans. Her avant-garde ensemble consisted of a structured bodysuit adorned with oversized soup can labels, each representing a different pop art flavor. The bold colors and graphic designs brought a playful twist to the runway, capturing the essence of Warhol's vibrant world.] [Oshi Rellee Cayme Dat-Wei radiated artistic brilliance as she transformed into a human-sized pop art comic strip. Her outfit featured bold black outlines and vibrant, exaggerated colors reminiscent of Warhol's comic book-inspired pieces. Oshi's flawless execution, paired with her animated poses and expressions, turned the runway into a dynamic and visually captivating display.] [Lady Yomamalaid wowed the judges with her interpretation of Warhol's famous Elvis Presley portraits. Her sleek, tailored suit had images of Elvis strategically placed, creating a mesmerizing mosaic effect. Lady Yomamalaid's attention to detail and impeccable styling transported the audience to the golden age of pop art, leaving a lasting impression.] [Kika Lorace brought a touch of avant-garde elegance to the runway, resembling a living interpretation of Warhol's "Silver Liz." Her metallic silver gown shimmered with every step, reflecting light and capturing the essence of Warhol's iconic muse, Elizabeth Taylor. Kika's regal poise and impeccable styling demonstrated her ability to merge high fashion with pop art.] [Gromette Mugler took inspiration from Warhol's famous flower prints and transformed into a walking garden of vibrant colors. Her voluminous gown featured an explosion of oversized fabric flowers in bold, contrasting hues. Gromette's runway presence exuded a sense of whimsy and playfulness, embodying the spirit of Warhol's artistic expression.] [RuPaul, the epitome of pop culture herself, stunned as she paid homage to Warhol's self-portraits. Dressed in a sleek black suit, RuPaul's face was adorned with pops of bright colors, mimicking the iconic style of Warhol's self-representations. With every step, RuPaul exuded confidence and glamour, reminding everyone of her rightful place in the pop art pantheon.] ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— ChatPaul: Ladies, based on your performances in the "Royal Reunion" sitcom challenge and your stunning "Warhol's Wonderland" runway presentations, I have made some decisions. Dee Pression, you are safe. ManilaButterflyzzzXX, as King Fabulous, you brought the flamboyance and charisma to the stage. Your Campbell's Soup Can-inspired runway was a delightful nod to Warhol's pop art. Kika Lorace, as Duchess Vivienne, your portrayal was conniving and captivating. You owned the stage with your performance and your avant-garde "Silver Liz" runway was a work of art. Oshi Rellee Cayme Dat-Wei, your portrayal of Queen Divina was emotional and powerful. And your pop art comic strip-inspired runway was a showstopper. Kika Lorace, condragulations, you are the winner of this challenge!Oshi, Manila, you are safe to slay another day.Gromette Mugler, your runway look was whimsical and fun, but your performance in the challenge lacked the necessary spark. RuPaul, while your runway look paid homage to Warhol's self-portraits, your portrayal of Lady Gossipella was overshadowed by the other queens. Lady Yomamalaid, your Prince Rocco had moments of comedic charm, but there were instances where you lost the character. Your Elvis Presley-inspired runway, however, showcased your attention to detail and style. You are safe. That means Gromette Mugler, your rebellious Princess Aurora, and RuPaul, as Lady Gossipella, you both find yourselves in the bottom this week. Ladies, the time has come for the ultimate battle for your spot in this competition ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— ChatPaul: Gromette Mugler, RuPaul, this is your last chance to impress me and save yourself from elimination. [As Mariah Carey's iconic hit, "Emotions."starts, Gromette Mugler explodes onto the stage, channeling every ounce of her rebellious Princess Aurora energy. Her moves are fierce and full of emotion, capturing the essence of the song and leaving the audience in awe.] [But RuPaul is not one to be outdone. She commands the stage with her legendary charisma, delivering every lyric with precision and passion. Her presence is captivating, and she knows how to work the crowd.] [The performance is a whirlwind of high energy, captivating dance moves, and spot-on lip-syncing. Both Gromette and RuPaul give it their all, leaving no doubt that they are here to fight for their place in the competition.] ChatPaul: I have made my decision. RuPaul, your performance was powerful and showcased your unique style. You brought the fire and passion required for this lipsync. Shantay you stay. Gromette Mugler, your performance was outstanding, but it's time for you to sashay away. You will always be an icon in the world of drag, and your presence will be missed. Gromette Mugler smirks and confidently states, "I may be leaving, but this is just the beginning of my reign. Watch out world, Gromette is coming!" ———————— ッ NeoDys Drag Race ッ———————— [LINK] |
2023.05.28 20:29 puppyworm My story as a recovering neet
Copied directly from NEET as I thought this might be a good place to post my journey as well!
Edit: I just realized due to a comment I received on this post that many people will assume I'm a woman. I'm simply a gay man lol. Just wanted to clear that up.
Hey. I don't really have anyone to share this with, so I hope it's okay if I share it here. I'm a recovering neet and I just want to put this out there. Maybe it can serve as some inspiration for others looking to get out of neetdom or something. Anyways.
I would've dropped out of high school if I had gone to a regular one. Thankfully I ended up going to an alternative school because my mental health was so poor, and they supported me really well.
After I graduated I got a retail job and it sucked to hell. Quit after a couple months. Fall was coming up so I decided to go to community college. Did that for a year as my mental health was once again rapidly declining, and then I just... Stopped attending.
I did nothing until I was 23. It was great at first. Thankfully my dad is very soft in the heart and while he would verbally worry about me, he also probably would have let me live with him doing nothing for the rest of my life. I loved playing video games all day and sleeping into the evening.
But as time went on, it started kind of sucking. I had no money, I stopped getting enjoyment out of doing anything other than playing games, my social anxiety got 500% worse, I gained a lot of weight, and worst of all, my relationship with my boyfriend was deteriorating.
I was in therapy for a bit, but she had to drop me due to her clinic no longer accepting my dad's insurance. My boyfriend, who lived with me and my dad, was kind and patient, but I could tell his patience and hope for me was wearing thin after a few years of me doing absolutely nothing to help myself.
At the end of 2021 (I think), I got on some meds that actually work pretty well for my anxiety. I also tried shrooms a few times, which made me realize a some things.
Firstly, that my greatest wish of moving out wasn't going to happen if I didn't do anything to make it happen. We wouldn't be able to live off my boyfriend's salary alone. Also, I wouldn't want him to have to work that much.
Second, that was what led me to the realization that my lack of drive was putting some strain on our relationship. Of course, he doesn't think not having a job is a bad thing, as evidenced by the fact that he stayed with me all throughout my ~4-5 years of neetdom. It's more about how he would have to work so much to sustain us if we ever wanted to leave.
And third, I... Wanted to do more than survive. I wanted to be able to afford to do things like take trips and eat sushi and live in a decent place. I'm a big Disney parks fan since I grew up with my parents taking me all the time, so I want to be able to keep going even into my adulthood. I know that sounds stupid to a lot of people, but it's important to me and part of what motivates me (I'm just autistic lmao don't worry I loathe Disney as a company)
During the summer of 2022, I decided (to the delight of my dad and boyfriend) that I would go back to community college. I signed up for one math class to ease myself back in.
To my surprise, it wasn't as bad as I remembered. The people around me were younger than me, but I'm still pretty young still and am often mistaken for a teenager, so that wasn't a problem for me. I didn't really socialize. The atmosphere of my college was too high school-like for me to feel comfortable socializing.
But the class itself was... Lowkey kinda fun? I realized that I actually enjoy learning math. And that was when, after also researching anxiety-friendly well paying jobs, I decided I would transfer to a university, where I would major in computer science and get a job programming or something like that.
I took another class in the winter, applied to the university as a transfer, and after some hassle, I'm incredibly happy to say that at 24 years old, I'm starting at the university this fall! My then boyfriend, now fiance and I decided we want to get married, AND we're moving out of my dad's house since the school is across the state. My tuition is being funded by grants and the housing is being funded by my wonderful, generous fiance, and we'll be moving out in less than a month!!
One of the weirdest things I've realized is that I was so, SO bored when I was neeting. Having things to do in the real world, goals to attain, actually made me feel like a real person. Like I wanted to go out into the world and like, do something. I also feel like I can enjoy video games and stuff a lot more now.
I'll always be supportive of neets, those who are neet by choice and those who aren't, and I'll never judge anyone for being one. But that life isn't for me anymore. I'm happy to have my tax dollars go to a neet who needs it more, and once I'm working, I want to let my fiance decide what he wants to do. If he wants to play vidya all day, that's fine, the goal is to make enough money for him to be able to do that. And if he wants to pursue college or something, I'll be able to support him financially.
Him and my dad are literally the only people in my life right now. My social anxiety got so bad as a need that I ended up cutting everyone off. I hope trying to make new friends ends up being worth it. And in college, I'll be sure to take on less of a workload/take breaks if I need to. I don't want to go back to the way things were.
Anyways, I know this is long as shit, and I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read it. Let me know your thoughts, questions, etc if you have any. Much love and wishing the best for everyone.
(Also just want to add that I realize how lucky I've been here. I'm by no means trying to say it's easy to stop being a neet, or that you should even have to at all. In a world where machines could do much of the work, there's no reason to force people to work if they don't want to or can't. I'm antiwork. My happiness lies not with becoming a wagecuck, but in being able to support my partner and be able to do things like move out and afford to go on vacation. Everyone finds their own happiness in life. If your happiness is being a neet, more power to you!)
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Hey. I don't really have anyone to share this with, so I hope it's okay if I share it here. I'm a recovering neet and I just want to put this out there. Maybe it can serve as some inspiration for others looking to get out of neetdom or something. Anyways.
I would've dropped out of high school if I had gone to a regular one. Thankfully I ended up going to an alternative school because my mental health was so poor, and they supported me really well.
After I graduated I got a retail job and it sucked to hell. Quit after a couple months. Fall was coming up so I decided to go to community college. Did that for a year as my mental health was once again rapidly declining, and then I just... Stopped attending.
I did nothing until I was 23. It was great at first. Thankfully my dad is very soft in the heart and while he would verbally worry about me, he also probably would have let me live with him doing nothing for the rest of my life. I loved playing video games all day and sleeping into the evening.
But as time went on, it started kind of sucking. I had no money, I stopped getting enjoyment out of doing anything other than playing games, my social anxiety got 500% worse, I gained a lot of weight, and worst of all, my relationship with my boyfriend was deteriorating.
I was in therapy for a bit, but she had to drop me due to her clinic no longer accepting my dad's insurance. My boyfriend, who lived with me and my dad, was kind and patient, but I could tell his patience and hope for me was wearing thin after a few years of me doing absolutely nothing to help myself.
At the end of 2021 (I think), I got on some meds that actually work pretty well for my anxiety. I also tried shrooms a few times, which made me realize a some things.
Firstly, that my greatest wish of moving out wasn't going to happen if I didn't do anything to make it happen. We wouldn't be able to live off my boyfriend's salary alone. Also, I wouldn't want him to have to work that much.
Second, that was what led me to the realization that my lack of drive was putting some strain on our relationship. Of course, he doesn't think not having a job is a bad thing, as evidenced by the fact that he stayed with me all throughout my ~4-5 years of neetdom. It's more about how he would have to work so much to sustain us if we ever wanted to leave.
And third, I... Wanted to do more than survive. I wanted to be able to afford to do things like take trips and eat sushi and live in a decent place. I'm a big Disney parks fan since I grew up with my parents taking me all the time, so I want to be able to keep going even into my adulthood. I know that sounds stupid to a lot of people, but it's important to me and part of what motivates me (I'm just autistic lmao don't worry I loathe Disney as a company)
During the summer of 2022, I decided (to the delight of my dad and boyfriend) that I would go back to community college. I signed up for one math class to ease myself back in.
To my surprise, it wasn't as bad as I remembered. The people around me were younger than me, but I'm still pretty young still and am often mistaken for a teenager, so that wasn't a problem for me. I didn't really socialize. The atmosphere of my college was too high school-like for me to feel comfortable socializing.
But the class itself was... Lowkey kinda fun? I realized that I actually enjoy learning math. And that was when, after also researching anxiety-friendly well paying jobs, I decided I would transfer to a university, where I would major in computer science and get a job programming or something like that.
I took another class in the winter, applied to the university as a transfer, and after some hassle, I'm incredibly happy to say that at 24 years old, I'm starting at the university this fall! My then boyfriend, now fiance and I decided we want to get married, AND we're moving out of my dad's house since the school is across the state. My tuition is being funded by grants and the housing is being funded by my wonderful, generous fiance, and we'll be moving out in less than a month!!
One of the weirdest things I've realized is that I was so, SO bored when I was neeting. Having things to do in the real world, goals to attain, actually made me feel like a real person. Like I wanted to go out into the world and like, do something. I also feel like I can enjoy video games and stuff a lot more now.
I'll always be supportive of neets, those who are neet by choice and those who aren't, and I'll never judge anyone for being one. But that life isn't for me anymore. I'm happy to have my tax dollars go to a neet who needs it more, and once I'm working, I want to let my fiance decide what he wants to do. If he wants to play vidya all day, that's fine, the goal is to make enough money for him to be able to do that. And if he wants to pursue college or something, I'll be able to support him financially.
Him and my dad are literally the only people in my life right now. My social anxiety got so bad as a need that I ended up cutting everyone off. I hope trying to make new friends ends up being worth it. And in college, I'll be sure to take on less of a workload/take breaks if I need to. I don't want to go back to the way things were.
Anyways, I know this is long as shit, and I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read it. Let me know your thoughts, questions, etc if you have any. Much love and wishing the best for everyone.
(Also just want to add that I realize how lucky I've been here. I'm by no means trying to say it's easy to stop being a neet, or that you should even have to at all. In a world where machines could do much of the work, there's no reason to force people to work if they don't want to or can't. I'm antiwork. My happiness lies not with becoming a wagecuck, but in being able to support my partner and be able to do things like move out and afford to go on vacation. Everyone finds their own happiness in life. If your happiness is being a neet, more power to you!)
2023.05.28 20:21 William-Taylor-64 Another AN passage in the bible
In a previous post, i have talked about the curse of the original sin, and how our freedom of choice has not only caused great suffering and pain, but has condemned billions of souls because of the curse of the original sin, that made mankind die spiritually and live according to this curse, passing this curse to the ones we love because of our own selfish desires and free will
But i've found another quote in the bible that has AN vibes, it all starts in genesis 15 verse 1 to 13 it basically says
God: fear not abraham, for i am your shield Abraham: God, i don't have a son, and there will be no inheritor of my home God: oh abraham, count the stars on the sky, this will be your seed (at that time, he was given ishmael, and then later on isaac ) Abraham: oh ok thank you God "The sun goes down, and darkness came" God: but keep in mind that your son will be a stranger in a land that is not his, and they will be opressed and suffer for 400 years
So what i can conclude from this is, because of abraham's desire of having a child, God knew he would have it, but since God respected abraham's freedom of choice and abraham was free to choose having a son, God still warned him: But keep in mind your child will suffer, reminds me of adam and eve, they had free will like any human, they were free to eat any tree of the garden, but God still warned them: do not eat from the tree of knowledge or you'll die
So basically, abraham wanted to have a child because he wanted his child to be a blessing and build a nation blessed by God, but this was not for ishmael, it was for isaac, but since sarah was infertile and sarah had a plan to use hagar to give birth to the supposed blessed son, abraham used hagar, an egyptian slave, to give brith to ishmael which they thought it would be the blessed son that God has talked about, but sarah got jealous of hagar because she felt despised by hagar when she had done sex with abraham, so sarah expelled hagar and ismael, an angel found them in a water font in the desert, and said: "go back to the place you fleed, and i'll give you ishamel, but he will be a wild donkey of a man, and he will live in hostility towards all his brothers" so he would be an untamed man who would follow no one and would live in hostility towards his relatives, he was baiscally an apostate, and in galatians 22–31, paul makes an alegory with hagar and sarah, that there are two sons, the son of the free (blessed by the promise of God, and referencing sarah, which was infertile, that's why it's called "free") and the son of the slave (which was born according to the flesh, agar, that gave birth) and that the slave brings children to slavery, and the free brings freedom, and another passage here ( verse 27, another AN verse) that says that blessed is the infertile woman, because the sons of the infertile are better than the sons of the married) and that the slave and her son should be expelled, what i've concluded is that, because sarah was infertile and her son would not have the curse of the original sin, her sons would be free, and when it says free, i think it means free from sin, since they weren't born, they were free from the curse, but those who were born from the slave (hagar, which gave birth to ishmael) passed this curse to their children, so they would live according to the flesh since sin has killed them spiritually and deviate from God, that's why ishmael was an "untamed man and would follow no one"
So basically, ishmael was a failure because abraham and sarah didn't wait for God, they have sinned because they couldn't wait and decided to do everything on their own, they used a slave to give birth to "the blessed child" (which was isaac and not ishmael) because sarah was infertile, so it was like:
Abraham: Oh God, how long will i have to wait for the child you promised to me? Sarah: hey, i know, let's use the slave to give birth to the child because i am infertile God: NO NO NO THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS IT IS NOT HER THAT– Sarah later on: be banished from my home you slave, because i am mad that you are despising me "Agar fleeds and the angel finds her" The angel: hey agar, return to your home, because God will give you a son... But he will be an untamed man and possibly deviate from God's way and live according to the flesh I feel bad for ishmael, because isaac was the blessed one, not him, he was an accident that abraham and sarah made it happen
So, here we can see that abraham's desire of having a child lead another poor soul to come to this world, with the curse of the sin, only to know that child was an accident, and even God warned him of his decision: "keep in mind they'll suffer", and not only that, but we noticed two AN quotes in the bible:
Genesis 15: 13 and galatians 4 22–29 (galatians because, after my analysis, those who were free were blessed because, since sarah was infertile, they would be free from the curse since they would not have been born, while those who were slaves and lived according to the flesh were born from a slave which also , and because they were born, they lived according to flesh and sin, so, while the free was free from the sin because he was not born, the one that was born is a slave to sin, living in sin and dying in sin, so basically, we are all slaves of this curse, and that's why jesus came to forgive our sins so we could be reunited with God, altough we still have the curse of the original sin, we were freed by jesus so we could live accoridng to the spirit, but unfortuantely, we still have this curse, it reminds me again of adam and eve, both sinned and their descendants were all born slaves of the sin, just like we were all born slaves of the sin, freed by jesus, we still have the sin but we now can live with God and jesus according to the spirit
and after that, i still have a lot to read from the bible, but as i've anaylsed, i can say
we were created by God, everything was created spiritually first then physically, humans were given free will, the freedom of choice, they were free to eat and live, but as they were free, they were also free to eat the forbidden fruit, even if God has warned adam and eve, they still did it because of the free will of humans that God gave us, and as a consequence of our own choices, we were cursed, and we have spreaded this curse through earth, cursing humans and the earth with pain, suffering and evilness, God then decided that, since we were cursed because we used our freedom of choice wrongly, he sent the flood, but spared noah because noah was the only one who remembered God, and even if noah was still cursed because of sin, he didn't opress him, he gave him the choice of following God's way, and maybe we would be free from this curse, or sin, which that's what happened, and unfortunately, noah has cursed everyone and everything again, because again, he used his free will wrongly and chose to sin, and curse everything again, later on abraham was born and wanted a child, God warned abraham that if he did that, his son would live as a stranger in their land and would suffer for 400 years and would be judged after that (which i would say: spiritually a stranger, just like jesus reffered to us as "lost" and "sinners", so we are all lost spriits that have once lived with God in heaven, considered strangers on this earth, that have fallen into this world due to our parents desires and are now cursed and ironically enslaved by this curse, because we have free will but we are slaves to our own curse, so then, after 400 years, jesus came and freed us from the slavery of sin that we have lived with for 400 years) so then abraham and sarah planned to use a slave to give birth to the supposed blessed child, but ishamel was an unfortunate, an accident, because then isaac was the true blessed child, so ishamel and his people were born through disobedience of God and lived according to their own desires and nature aka the flesh, they were slaves of the sin just like we are also slaves, and after jesus' sacrifice, his forgiviness of our sins have allowed us to be able to reunite with God again, although we still have this curse, we can now choose to follow God by having the chance to accept jesus as a savior and be like the free souls that haven't been infected with the curse, that's why it says we were free from our slavery, we are born and enslaved by sin, but now we are given the chance to accept jesus and be able to reunite with God, but keep in mind that we still have this curse, otherwise the world would not have pain and suffering anymore, but we still have it because we still have this curse that is being passed on to children
it's all humankind's fault that we have ended up as slaves to the curse of sin, we curse everyone and everything through the act of reproduction, because anyone who is born is already given the curse of the curse of the original sin,and as the original sin is the cause of our own pain and suffering, and the world's pain and suffering, we are cursed by nature, but if we resist our sexual desires and just stop procreating, not only we are freeing our children from the curse we have, but we are also preventing this curse from spreading even more into this world, which causes pain and suffering, and this time, i will be different from adam, eve, noah and abraham, because God has showed me my curse and made me realize that i could protect the souls of my children that are with God in heaven from being cursed, suffer and possibly being condemned to hell, it's our own fault that we are keeping this curse alive, corrupting ourselves and the world, so i've decided that i will not curse my children with sin, that is my duty now, because God has opened my eyes to my curse and made me realize that this curse only brings pain, suffering and condemnation to ourselves and this world, he has set me free from the illusion of the natalist society, and now my mission is to protect my children from being cursed with sin, because we are cursed beings cursing our sons and daughters and cursing this world, causing pain and suffering
it's funny that i look like some previous religious people from the past ages that thought similarly to me, but that's the truth and we, as christians, can't deny it, we are cursed with the original sin, and we are cursing the world and our children, our own curse is the cause of our suffering, because our ancestors chose to be cursed, and spread evil through earth, we are only keeping this curse alive, and it's time for me to stop this vicious cycle and free my children from this curse, those christians that were similar to me are not here anymore, and that's why ironically there weren't anyone like them anymore, but this time i have access to technology and i am keeping my notes, because this time we, christian antinatalists, will not forget that we are the cause of this, i accepted jesus christ, and i was free from my slavery, but i still had the curse, and because God knew i wouldn't want my children to suffer, he reminded me of my curse, and that's our fault we are spreading this curse and giving a high chance of our children going to hell and, before that, suffer from our own curse
if anyone calls me selfish for not having children or try to justify our "own cycle of sin", i will say "we are the cursed ones here, we've started this ourselves because of our selfish desires and you are trying to deny this fact by using misinterpretations of the old testament taken out of context or using invalid and unjustifiable arguments that does not remove the fact we are cursed by nature, now tell me? am i selfish for wanting to free my unborn children from this curse that will cause them pain, suffering and will put them at the line of ? no, you are the one who is defending your own curse, hiding your selfish desires"
"oh but jesus came to save us all so i'll still procreate and baptize my son and etc" yes that's true, jesus came to save us from the slavery of our sin, BUT WE STILL HAVE THE CURSE, THE MORE BIRTH WE GIVE, THE WORSE EVERYTHING GETS BECAUSE WE ARE STILL CURSING OUR ENTIRE RACE WITH SIN, THE SUFFERING THAT WE STILL GO THROUGH DOES NOT GO AWAY AFTER BAPTISM, WE ONLY MAKE IT WORSE BECAUSE WE THINK WE CAN STILL KEEP ON PASSING THIS CURSE TO OUR CHILDREN, OUR CHILDREN COULD HAVE BEEN PREVENTED FROM THIS CURSE AND WOULD HAVE AVOIDED THE PAIN AND SUFFERING THAT OUR CURSE HAS CAUSED TO OURSELVES, our curse is the reason why we have sickness, disease, death, evil and trauma, we are only prolonging all of that because we are the cursed ones, we are the ones doing it to ourselves, our sins are the cause of our own suffering and, since we have this curse and it doesn't go away after batpism, we are still prone to sin, disobey God and possibly go to hell, because we are sinful by nature, and remember that i said your son "has the choice of accepting jesus and be able to reunite with God?" only if your son does the right thing, but there's a chance he might become an atheist and live with his sin, in life, there's no guarantee that everything will turn out alright
you know, this reminded me of what zeke yeager said to eren in aot season 4 i guess, when they have reunited in marley:
"there's no greater salvation than never being born into this world"
and now, after i realized my own curse, doesn't it make sense? because if our curse is in the flesh and the act of procreating pass on this curse to the ones we love the most, then if i do not procreate, not only i prevent the sufferng of my children, but i will also prevent them from going to hell, because there's a chance even if it's small, not procreating allows the soul of your children to never even receive this curse of our human nature at allw
and so i won't forget, here's a quote i've created:
"the past must not be forgotten, our sins must not be forgotten, we've caused all of this, and now it's time to do something, i'll be different from my ancestors this time, this is my ideal, i must keep moving foward until i free the souls of my children from my own cursed nature, because i loved them and want them to stay with God in heaven rather than suffering by their own curse!
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But i've found another quote in the bible that has AN vibes, it all starts in genesis 15 verse 1 to 13 it basically says
God: fear not abraham, for i am your shield Abraham: God, i don't have a son, and there will be no inheritor of my home God: oh abraham, count the stars on the sky, this will be your seed (at that time, he was given ishmael, and then later on isaac ) Abraham: oh ok thank you God "The sun goes down, and darkness came" God: but keep in mind that your son will be a stranger in a land that is not his, and they will be opressed and suffer for 400 years
So what i can conclude from this is, because of abraham's desire of having a child, God knew he would have it, but since God respected abraham's freedom of choice and abraham was free to choose having a son, God still warned him: But keep in mind your child will suffer, reminds me of adam and eve, they had free will like any human, they were free to eat any tree of the garden, but God still warned them: do not eat from the tree of knowledge or you'll die
So basically, abraham wanted to have a child because he wanted his child to be a blessing and build a nation blessed by God, but this was not for ishmael, it was for isaac, but since sarah was infertile and sarah had a plan to use hagar to give birth to the supposed blessed son, abraham used hagar, an egyptian slave, to give brith to ishmael which they thought it would be the blessed son that God has talked about, but sarah got jealous of hagar because she felt despised by hagar when she had done sex with abraham, so sarah expelled hagar and ismael, an angel found them in a water font in the desert, and said: "go back to the place you fleed, and i'll give you ishamel, but he will be a wild donkey of a man, and he will live in hostility towards all his brothers" so he would be an untamed man who would follow no one and would live in hostility towards his relatives, he was baiscally an apostate, and in galatians 22–31, paul makes an alegory with hagar and sarah, that there are two sons, the son of the free (blessed by the promise of God, and referencing sarah, which was infertile, that's why it's called "free") and the son of the slave (which was born according to the flesh, agar, that gave birth) and that the slave brings children to slavery, and the free brings freedom, and another passage here ( verse 27, another AN verse) that says that blessed is the infertile woman, because the sons of the infertile are better than the sons of the married) and that the slave and her son should be expelled, what i've concluded is that, because sarah was infertile and her son would not have the curse of the original sin, her sons would be free, and when it says free, i think it means free from sin, since they weren't born, they were free from the curse, but those who were born from the slave (hagar, which gave birth to ishmael) passed this curse to their children, so they would live according to the flesh since sin has killed them spiritually and deviate from God, that's why ishmael was an "untamed man and would follow no one"
So basically, ishmael was a failure because abraham and sarah didn't wait for God, they have sinned because they couldn't wait and decided to do everything on their own, they used a slave to give birth to "the blessed child" (which was isaac and not ishmael) because sarah was infertile, so it was like:
Abraham: Oh God, how long will i have to wait for the child you promised to me? Sarah: hey, i know, let's use the slave to give birth to the child because i am infertile God: NO NO NO THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS IT IS NOT HER THAT– Sarah later on: be banished from my home you slave, because i am mad that you are despising me "Agar fleeds and the angel finds her" The angel: hey agar, return to your home, because God will give you a son... But he will be an untamed man and possibly deviate from God's way and live according to the flesh I feel bad for ishmael, because isaac was the blessed one, not him, he was an accident that abraham and sarah made it happen
So, here we can see that abraham's desire of having a child lead another poor soul to come to this world, with the curse of the sin, only to know that child was an accident, and even God warned him of his decision: "keep in mind they'll suffer", and not only that, but we noticed two AN quotes in the bible:
Genesis 15: 13 and galatians 4 22–29 (galatians because, after my analysis, those who were free were blessed because, since sarah was infertile, they would be free from the curse since they would not have been born, while those who were slaves and lived according to the flesh were born from a slave which also , and because they were born, they lived according to flesh and sin, so, while the free was free from the sin because he was not born, the one that was born is a slave to sin, living in sin and dying in sin, so basically, we are all slaves of this curse, and that's why jesus came to forgive our sins so we could be reunited with God, altough we still have the curse of the original sin, we were freed by jesus so we could live accoridng to the spirit, but unfortuantely, we still have this curse, it reminds me again of adam and eve, both sinned and their descendants were all born slaves of the sin, just like we were all born slaves of the sin, freed by jesus, we still have the sin but we now can live with God and jesus according to the spirit
and after that, i still have a lot to read from the bible, but as i've anaylsed, i can say
we were created by God, everything was created spiritually first then physically, humans were given free will, the freedom of choice, they were free to eat and live, but as they were free, they were also free to eat the forbidden fruit, even if God has warned adam and eve, they still did it because of the free will of humans that God gave us, and as a consequence of our own choices, we were cursed, and we have spreaded this curse through earth, cursing humans and the earth with pain, suffering and evilness, God then decided that, since we were cursed because we used our freedom of choice wrongly, he sent the flood, but spared noah because noah was the only one who remembered God, and even if noah was still cursed because of sin, he didn't opress him, he gave him the choice of following God's way, and maybe we would be free from this curse, or sin, which that's what happened, and unfortunately, noah has cursed everyone and everything again, because again, he used his free will wrongly and chose to sin, and curse everything again, later on abraham was born and wanted a child, God warned abraham that if he did that, his son would live as a stranger in their land and would suffer for 400 years and would be judged after that (which i would say: spiritually a stranger, just like jesus reffered to us as "lost" and "sinners", so we are all lost spriits that have once lived with God in heaven, considered strangers on this earth, that have fallen into this world due to our parents desires and are now cursed and ironically enslaved by this curse, because we have free will but we are slaves to our own curse, so then, after 400 years, jesus came and freed us from the slavery of sin that we have lived with for 400 years) so then abraham and sarah planned to use a slave to give birth to the supposed blessed child, but ishamel was an unfortunate, an accident, because then isaac was the true blessed child, so ishamel and his people were born through disobedience of God and lived according to their own desires and nature aka the flesh, they were slaves of the sin just like we are also slaves, and after jesus' sacrifice, his forgiviness of our sins have allowed us to be able to reunite with God again, although we still have this curse, we can now choose to follow God by having the chance to accept jesus as a savior and be like the free souls that haven't been infected with the curse, that's why it says we were free from our slavery, we are born and enslaved by sin, but now we are given the chance to accept jesus and be able to reunite with God, but keep in mind that we still have this curse, otherwise the world would not have pain and suffering anymore, but we still have it because we still have this curse that is being passed on to children
it's all humankind's fault that we have ended up as slaves to the curse of sin, we curse everyone and everything through the act of reproduction, because anyone who is born is already given the curse of the curse of the original sin,and as the original sin is the cause of our own pain and suffering, and the world's pain and suffering, we are cursed by nature, but if we resist our sexual desires and just stop procreating, not only we are freeing our children from the curse we have, but we are also preventing this curse from spreading even more into this world, which causes pain and suffering, and this time, i will be different from adam, eve, noah and abraham, because God has showed me my curse and made me realize that i could protect the souls of my children that are with God in heaven from being cursed, suffer and possibly being condemned to hell, it's our own fault that we are keeping this curse alive, corrupting ourselves and the world, so i've decided that i will not curse my children with sin, that is my duty now, because God has opened my eyes to my curse and made me realize that this curse only brings pain, suffering and condemnation to ourselves and this world, he has set me free from the illusion of the natalist society, and now my mission is to protect my children from being cursed with sin, because we are cursed beings cursing our sons and daughters and cursing this world, causing pain and suffering
it's funny that i look like some previous religious people from the past ages that thought similarly to me, but that's the truth and we, as christians, can't deny it, we are cursed with the original sin, and we are cursing the world and our children, our own curse is the cause of our suffering, because our ancestors chose to be cursed, and spread evil through earth, we are only keeping this curse alive, and it's time for me to stop this vicious cycle and free my children from this curse, those christians that were similar to me are not here anymore, and that's why ironically there weren't anyone like them anymore, but this time i have access to technology and i am keeping my notes, because this time we, christian antinatalists, will not forget that we are the cause of this, i accepted jesus christ, and i was free from my slavery, but i still had the curse, and because God knew i wouldn't want my children to suffer, he reminded me of my curse, and that's our fault we are spreading this curse and giving a high chance of our children going to hell and, before that, suffer from our own curse
if anyone calls me selfish for not having children or try to justify our "own cycle of sin", i will say "we are the cursed ones here, we've started this ourselves because of our selfish desires and you are trying to deny this fact by using misinterpretations of the old testament taken out of context or using invalid and unjustifiable arguments that does not remove the fact we are cursed by nature, now tell me? am i selfish for wanting to free my unborn children from this curse that will cause them pain, suffering and will put them at the line of ? no, you are the one who is defending your own curse, hiding your selfish desires"
"oh but jesus came to save us all so i'll still procreate and baptize my son and etc" yes that's true, jesus came to save us from the slavery of our sin, BUT WE STILL HAVE THE CURSE, THE MORE BIRTH WE GIVE, THE WORSE EVERYTHING GETS BECAUSE WE ARE STILL CURSING OUR ENTIRE RACE WITH SIN, THE SUFFERING THAT WE STILL GO THROUGH DOES NOT GO AWAY AFTER BAPTISM, WE ONLY MAKE IT WORSE BECAUSE WE THINK WE CAN STILL KEEP ON PASSING THIS CURSE TO OUR CHILDREN, OUR CHILDREN COULD HAVE BEEN PREVENTED FROM THIS CURSE AND WOULD HAVE AVOIDED THE PAIN AND SUFFERING THAT OUR CURSE HAS CAUSED TO OURSELVES, our curse is the reason why we have sickness, disease, death, evil and trauma, we are only prolonging all of that because we are the cursed ones, we are the ones doing it to ourselves, our sins are the cause of our own suffering and, since we have this curse and it doesn't go away after batpism, we are still prone to sin, disobey God and possibly go to hell, because we are sinful by nature, and remember that i said your son "has the choice of accepting jesus and be able to reunite with God?" only if your son does the right thing, but there's a chance he might become an atheist and live with his sin, in life, there's no guarantee that everything will turn out alright
you know, this reminded me of what zeke yeager said to eren in aot season 4 i guess, when they have reunited in marley:
"there's no greater salvation than never being born into this world"
and now, after i realized my own curse, doesn't it make sense? because if our curse is in the flesh and the act of procreating pass on this curse to the ones we love the most, then if i do not procreate, not only i prevent the sufferng of my children, but i will also prevent them from going to hell, because there's a chance even if it's small, not procreating allows the soul of your children to never even receive this curse of our human nature at allw
and so i won't forget, here's a quote i've created:
"the past must not be forgotten, our sins must not be forgotten, we've caused all of this, and now it's time to do something, i'll be different from my ancestors this time, this is my ideal, i must keep moving foward until i free the souls of my children from my own cursed nature, because i loved them and want them to stay with God in heaven rather than suffering by their own curse!
2023.05.28 20:17 trung2607 What is the male fantasy really? Is it to detach from it?
"Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur". By margaret atwood
I saw this quote on feminism and i just wanted to ask about it? Many people in the comments agree and say to DETACH oneself from it. The thing that strikes me as confusing is how its phrased here. It made me question what even is a male fantasy? What does "everything" mean? Every opinion? Every facet of culture? But dont women have fantasies too? Or are those fantasies borne from preconceptions and thoughts that are male centric, therefore they are also part of male fantasies? Especially the final part about how there is a man in every womans mind watching? What does that even mean? That every women is subconsciously affected by the outlook of men, no matter what since society has ỉngained in her male centric values? But if so, isnt it basically impossible to detach oneself from male fantasies, bcz humans will fantasies everything? Bcz as long as male and female are still a thing, fantasies will always be a thing? What is the equivalent here? What is the FEMALE FANTASY, does it not exist independently of the male fantasy? Is there a woman inside my head silently judging me too? How do we know the extent to which male fantasies affect female fantasies and vice versa? Then what counts as detachment when everything is muddled up? I cant wrap my head around this concept and its driving me nuts.
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I saw this quote on feminism and i just wanted to ask about it? Many people in the comments agree and say to DETACH oneself from it. The thing that strikes me as confusing is how its phrased here. It made me question what even is a male fantasy? What does "everything" mean? Every opinion? Every facet of culture? But dont women have fantasies too? Or are those fantasies borne from preconceptions and thoughts that are male centric, therefore they are also part of male fantasies? Especially the final part about how there is a man in every womans mind watching? What does that even mean? That every women is subconsciously affected by the outlook of men, no matter what since society has ỉngained in her male centric values? But if so, isnt it basically impossible to detach oneself from male fantasies, bcz humans will fantasies everything? Bcz as long as male and female are still a thing, fantasies will always be a thing? What is the equivalent here? What is the FEMALE FANTASY, does it not exist independently of the male fantasy? Is there a woman inside my head silently judging me too? How do we know the extent to which male fantasies affect female fantasies and vice versa? Then what counts as detachment when everything is muddled up? I cant wrap my head around this concept and its driving me nuts.
2023.05.28 20:08 userfirstofhisname Fantasy Next Top Model, Cycle 6 - Week 9 - Elimination & COO
 | credit: u/low_viscosity_rayon submitted by userfirstofhisname to ANTM [link] [comments] The sixth cycle of Fantasy Next Top Model has been one hell of a whirlwind so far - some girls kept it red-hot, while others couldn't get out of the dumps. Now, just seven girls remain! He, the ever-chic and timeless professional. Melanie, the one-of-a-kind artist defying industry standards. Lindsey, the pouty fashionista with the unforgettable face. Hannah, the Burberry blonde with a grungy twist. Kinga, the cool and dynamic it girl. Janet, the fiery poser with the regal presence. And Alyona, the high-fashion, breath-taking enchantress. You don't want want to miss a moment as we find out which one becomes the Fantasy Next Top Model! ************************************************************************************ Tyra Lynn Banks is crazy for fashion. Hair-pulling, teeth-grinding, throat-screaming crazy. From the days of flipping through magazines beneath the Naomi Campbell poster she had in her room - she grows teary at the thought - she's been utterly obsessed with every aspect of it. And now, it's time for her ladies and fantasettes to embrace the insane, and allow it to pour out in a magical array of colors and poses that will capture the attention of industrinas everywhere. "Hello ladies," Tyra tells them, her smize a laser beam. "When one of you becomes the winner of this competition, you will receive from us, as a prize: an international contract with IMG Models, Wilhelmina Model Management and LA Models. A cover of Vogue US AND UK, plus a cover of and six-page spread in Fantasy magazine. And a global campaign, not to mention $100,000 contract with Dior Beauty and Fantasy Cosmetics - each! This week, you had to crazify different aspects of fashion, and make it fierce. Seven of you stand before me, but I only have six photos in my hands. And these six photos represent the six of you that are still in the running towards becoming the Fantasy Next Top Model. Not just that, it also represents the six of you that will be travelling abroad to our mysterious international location. The first name that I'm going to call is the best photo of the week, and will be displayed up in your house, here in New York City, as digital. art. And that person, is..." She reveals the first picture. "Miss He." As He takes her photo, Tyra tells her: "We are clutching our pearls at this! It's goofy, it's over-the-top, but it works. You didn't just carry the bag, you became the bag. Congratulations - you're still in the running towards becoming the Fantasy Next Top Model, and you are going abroad." Tyra takes out the next picture without hesitation. "Melanie. This isn't pretty in pink, it's psycho in pink. We dig it. Congratulations, you're going abroad." The next three pictures are revealed one after the other. "Kinga. You're working hard, and it's not lost on us. You've earned your place overseas." "Lindsey. We love how commanding and confident this is, but we're missing the crazy." "Janet. We love that you never play it safe. Use that energy and maximize it. It's almost the end." Only two girls remain. "Would Alyona and Hannah please step forward?" They both do so. "Two beautiful ladies stand before me," says Tyra seriously. "But, I only have one photo in my hands. And this photo represents the girl that will still be in the running towards becoming the Fantasy Next Top Model. I'll only call one name, and the name of the girl that I do not call must immediately return to their house here in New York and pack your bags, not for a trip abroad... but for home. Blonde girls tend to get a bad rep. A lot of people, especially in the fashion industry, say 'blondes, blondes, they're all the same, they're all the same'... but I disagree. And I think you Alyona, and you Hannah, prove the exception to that rule, with unique and interesting looks and personalities. However, still, the judges have reservations. Alyona, you can't take a bad photo, there is no quarrel or doubt in our minds. But, while we know that your pictures will be good, we always know what they're going to look like. And it's starting to be come repetitive, monotonous and, dare we say, boring. And then we have Hannah. Someone who makes us look twice and makes us think. Someone who has no two photos the same. But. Lately, we feel that your commitment and self-will is slipping. Hannah's body is here, but her spirit is not. So stays and goes abroad to our fabulous overseas location?" Tyra reveals the final photo. "Alyona, we think there's enough time left to show us something different. Congratulations, you're still in the running towards becoming the Fantasy Next Top Model and you are going abroad." Tyra takes Hannah into a hug. "We feel like you lost your spirit, Hannah. The joy and energy that you had is dimmed and we couldn't ignore it any longer. I think you need to take some time to recuperate and collect yourself, gather your energy back. One you're running on a full battery again, there won't be anything holding you back. You will be a star. Just don't forget how to make your light shine." And with that,>! the bombastic and beguiling British beauty, Hannah Motler,!< leaves the Fantasy Next Top Model competition. Tyra turns to the remaining six girls. "So, I'm sure you're all dying to know where you're going, right?" The models all nod excitedly. "Shall I tell you?" "Yes!" they exclaim. "Ladies, pack your bags, because you are going to..." A flag pops down from behind the judging table. "AM. STER. DAMMMMMMM!" The girls start screaming, shrieking wildly in excitement, as the A Swirl Twins come from beyond the grave to spin and swish in windmill costumes. Sexy male models dance and gyrate dressed in nothing but Versace underwear and wooden clogs. The judges pull out famous Dutch dishes and begin handing them out - stroopwafel, kroket, poffertjes - to the breathless and exhilirated models. Tyra watches it all happen, smizing happily. Everything is going to plan. It is in Amsterdam where the future of fashion - and the Fantasy Next Top Model - will be decided. |
2023.05.28 20:02 makinta219 In Deep Thought
I've been stuck in my head since January. For added context, I met this girl on FetLife who for legal reasons we will call Terra, back in 2021. I was in South Bend during Ramencon looking for a hook up. I was lonely, and before you judge, my spouse at the time and I were swingers but going through a rough patch. My spouse at the time had asked me to be in an open relationship and up until that moment at the convention, I hadn't explored it.
Terra, who this story is about, ignored me at first because she was married and I respected that. I told her if she ever changed her mind to seek me out. Fast forward a few months later she starts commenting on my photos, liking and sharing my post. There was a Star Wars convention coming up in South Bend and I told her I would be in town. We met on March 26th, 2022. She was pregnant but wanted to hook up. It was only supposed to be a one night stand, I had not intentions of catching feelings. However when she came into the room, I felt an instant connection with her. My soul recognized hers. We sat on the bed, I gave her a massage and I asked her questions about herself to see if we were compatible. The sex was amazing, and we went a few rounds.
When we were done, I sat away from her for a bit. I asked when was the last time she was held? She paused and told me never. She told me her ex had abused her and that she was going to raise her son on her own. I respected this and stayed in my lane because I had a daughter at home. My daughter's mom and I were having a lot of issues. I spent time with my daughter throughout the week until I went to work. Some nights my child's mother would not come home until 5 AM the next morning. My child's mother allowed her mother, child's grandmother, to live with us for what was only supposed to be 3 to 6 months but this turned into almost 2 years until I finally had enough.
I would drive to South Bend every weekend starting from March 26th to see Terra. I was with her on her birthday April 4th, and wanted to surprise her, so I laid out flowers, went and got us food even though she refused to eat at first, and I got her a birthday Balloon. I had access to Daily Pay so I would withdraw part of my check to rent us a room and hang out. I was gentle with her because of the baby but she brought out this side of me I never knew I had. My bills were paid so I didn't think much of it.
I enjoyed our time together. It was like an escape from reality, but during one of our visits, I noticed she told me..."he's nice...I can use him."
I was put off by this statement, and I hesitated being around her because I didn't want her to think I was just some lonely sucker who would give her everything...except that was exactly what I was to her. She called me her dog who she could whistle and I would come running to. I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it. Yet...despite everything I was falling in love with her.
It came to a time where I told my child's mother the truth. Even though she knew about the other woman, I admitted that I had fallen out of love with her and I was in love with this new woman who I felt completed me in ways she couldn't. I got very tired of the verbal and sometimes physical abuse from my child's mother, and I found comfort in this other woman who was always there, even getting to the point where while I was at Exxxotica for my birthday in 2022, all I could think about was Terra. She even surprised me and drove out to see me on my birthday.
My child's mother and I separated in June. I ended up on child support but Terra was there. It scared me to be this close to someone, because my intuition told me to keep my guard up. Then one day she told me she was only using me to speed up her birthing process and that she planned to ghost me once the baby was here...but that changed and she started to actually like me.
Feeling like this was too good to be true, I blocked her on everything, Facebook, Twitter, FetLife, Instagram...any means of contact she was gone. She text me and asked why? I told her I didn't want to get hurt. If she didn't want me in her life, I would leave to save us both the trouble. She told me she started to care so I gave her another chance. I was hesitant...we met up a few more times and she took me to see Dr. Strange and the Multiverse of Madness in theaters. We went to a buffet and I felt this connection I had never felt before. It scared me...I felt like she would hurt me again and she admitted to being invited to a gangbang but left because she didn't want to hurt me.
I wanted to leave but I stayed. I told myself and her we could work it out so long as communication was open. I stopped entertaining other women, and aside from my daughter, she was the only woman who had my complete attention. I was never the only man. She went to Tennessee and we started binging Future Diary together. She told me she had another man she was into. Again I walked away believing I was a burden on her life. She told me...she didn't want to be in a relationship but she didn't want the sex to stop. I told her I was not ready for a relationship but despite the protest we were in some way still committed to one another for a period of time.
When she came back in town from Tennessee, I allowed Terra and her to stay with me. I enjoyed having her there despite the way she treated me at times. I didn't expect to come home to a clean house, or food on the counter. I asked why she did it? Bragged about her to my coworkers, and had nothing but love and respect for her. Except...the respect wasn't mutual. I would see her talking trash about me on social media and I would confront her. She told me it was nothing to worry about yet...I kept forgiving her. I knew I could find better but I only wanted her. We broke up on Christmas, she told me she didn't want to be together and I said okay. I stopped communicating with her, blocked contact, but she created another account and reached out to me. We agreed to just be friends and have sex but she was with another man. I refused to be second place to any man. I started noticing she post pictures in my apartment naked on my furniture. I asked her to remove them. She refused and stated if I posted them she would sue me for defamation of character despite constantly bashing me online when she swore up and down she didn't want people to know we were together. Terra had shown her true colors and it made me sick...yet I still had love for her. I remembered the good in her and believed she only acted out because of her environment. I was wrong.
I returned her things to her and in February, I saw Terra face to face. She asked if we could hang out still, and I told her she was welcomed as I retrieved my keys from her, when I came back for Valentine's Day, she laughed at me stating she didn't want to be seen with me. I felt I had wasted my time, money and energy and left her be. I woke up one morning to threats of a restraining order and she'd even threatened my life if I had tried to contact her again. I thought to myself how could I have been so stupid? I almost lost everything trying to hold on to her. When she left my life slowly got better but I still missed Terra. It was like Teen Titans, no matter what I said...no matter how often I tried I couldn't get through to her until I eventually just had to give up on her and move on which has been hard because a part of me still misses her.
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Terra, who this story is about, ignored me at first because she was married and I respected that. I told her if she ever changed her mind to seek me out. Fast forward a few months later she starts commenting on my photos, liking and sharing my post. There was a Star Wars convention coming up in South Bend and I told her I would be in town. We met on March 26th, 2022. She was pregnant but wanted to hook up. It was only supposed to be a one night stand, I had not intentions of catching feelings. However when she came into the room, I felt an instant connection with her. My soul recognized hers. We sat on the bed, I gave her a massage and I asked her questions about herself to see if we were compatible. The sex was amazing, and we went a few rounds.
When we were done, I sat away from her for a bit. I asked when was the last time she was held? She paused and told me never. She told me her ex had abused her and that she was going to raise her son on her own. I respected this and stayed in my lane because I had a daughter at home. My daughter's mom and I were having a lot of issues. I spent time with my daughter throughout the week until I went to work. Some nights my child's mother would not come home until 5 AM the next morning. My child's mother allowed her mother, child's grandmother, to live with us for what was only supposed to be 3 to 6 months but this turned into almost 2 years until I finally had enough.
I would drive to South Bend every weekend starting from March 26th to see Terra. I was with her on her birthday April 4th, and wanted to surprise her, so I laid out flowers, went and got us food even though she refused to eat at first, and I got her a birthday Balloon. I had access to Daily Pay so I would withdraw part of my check to rent us a room and hang out. I was gentle with her because of the baby but she brought out this side of me I never knew I had. My bills were paid so I didn't think much of it.
I enjoyed our time together. It was like an escape from reality, but during one of our visits, I noticed she told me..."he's nice...I can use him."
I was put off by this statement, and I hesitated being around her because I didn't want her to think I was just some lonely sucker who would give her everything...except that was exactly what I was to her. She called me her dog who she could whistle and I would come running to. I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it. Yet...despite everything I was falling in love with her.
It came to a time where I told my child's mother the truth. Even though she knew about the other woman, I admitted that I had fallen out of love with her and I was in love with this new woman who I felt completed me in ways she couldn't. I got very tired of the verbal and sometimes physical abuse from my child's mother, and I found comfort in this other woman who was always there, even getting to the point where while I was at Exxxotica for my birthday in 2022, all I could think about was Terra. She even surprised me and drove out to see me on my birthday.
My child's mother and I separated in June. I ended up on child support but Terra was there. It scared me to be this close to someone, because my intuition told me to keep my guard up. Then one day she told me she was only using me to speed up her birthing process and that she planned to ghost me once the baby was here...but that changed and she started to actually like me.
Feeling like this was too good to be true, I blocked her on everything, Facebook, Twitter, FetLife, Instagram...any means of contact she was gone. She text me and asked why? I told her I didn't want to get hurt. If she didn't want me in her life, I would leave to save us both the trouble. She told me she started to care so I gave her another chance. I was hesitant...we met up a few more times and she took me to see Dr. Strange and the Multiverse of Madness in theaters. We went to a buffet and I felt this connection I had never felt before. It scared me...I felt like she would hurt me again and she admitted to being invited to a gangbang but left because she didn't want to hurt me.
I wanted to leave but I stayed. I told myself and her we could work it out so long as communication was open. I stopped entertaining other women, and aside from my daughter, she was the only woman who had my complete attention. I was never the only man. She went to Tennessee and we started binging Future Diary together. She told me she had another man she was into. Again I walked away believing I was a burden on her life. She told me...she didn't want to be in a relationship but she didn't want the sex to stop. I told her I was not ready for a relationship but despite the protest we were in some way still committed to one another for a period of time.
When she came back in town from Tennessee, I allowed Terra and her to stay with me. I enjoyed having her there despite the way she treated me at times. I didn't expect to come home to a clean house, or food on the counter. I asked why she did it? Bragged about her to my coworkers, and had nothing but love and respect for her. Except...the respect wasn't mutual. I would see her talking trash about me on social media and I would confront her. She told me it was nothing to worry about yet...I kept forgiving her. I knew I could find better but I only wanted her. We broke up on Christmas, she told me she didn't want to be together and I said okay. I stopped communicating with her, blocked contact, but she created another account and reached out to me. We agreed to just be friends and have sex but she was with another man. I refused to be second place to any man. I started noticing she post pictures in my apartment naked on my furniture. I asked her to remove them. She refused and stated if I posted them she would sue me for defamation of character despite constantly bashing me online when she swore up and down she didn't want people to know we were together. Terra had shown her true colors and it made me sick...yet I still had love for her. I remembered the good in her and believed she only acted out because of her environment. I was wrong.
I returned her things to her and in February, I saw Terra face to face. She asked if we could hang out still, and I told her she was welcomed as I retrieved my keys from her, when I came back for Valentine's Day, she laughed at me stating she didn't want to be seen with me. I felt I had wasted my time, money and energy and left her be. I woke up one morning to threats of a restraining order and she'd even threatened my life if I had tried to contact her again. I thought to myself how could I have been so stupid? I almost lost everything trying to hold on to her. When she left my life slowly got better but I still missed Terra. It was like Teen Titans, no matter what I said...no matter how often I tried I couldn't get through to her until I eventually just had to give up on her and move on which has been hard because a part of me still misses her.