Can snakes live in septic tanks

Here is my timeline:
5/16 - my husband found one live bedbug during the day on our couch. We live in the top apartment of a duplex. Panic ensues. We tear the couch apart, inspect everything, find nothing. In the weeks leading up he had felt himself getting bit in the car of a colleague, suspects he might have picked one (or more) up in his computer bag.
We bag up all bedding/stuffed animals and quarantine it.
5/18 - reputable local exterminator comes to do treatment, combo of Temperid, Gentrol & Bedlam plus. Mattress encasements, inceptors. Exterminator sees no sign of anything. We’ve been basically living out of plastic bags of clothes that we dry on high heat frequently and keep in the bathroom. Minimal bedding.
2 weeks pass, no sightings of any signs, no suspicious bites on me or the kids with the caveat that it’s also mosquito season and we spend a lot of time outside so we’ve gotten bites that appear while being outside.
6/1 - 2nd treatment by exterminator, brings manageowner this time for extra inspection and reassurance. They use Crossfire this time. Still absolutely nothing found. No spots, no bugs.
Without being paranoid- when can we start to be cautiously optimistic that it was a hitchhiker or a small number that we caught and treated early?

For context, I’m not the best at cleaning my room. My boyfriend loves to help, so he offers to help me clean. I run out of energy fast, so he “organizes” my stuff, and I wash and fold my laundry.
I love the fact that he helps, but between having a messy room and what he does, I’d prefer the messy room.
I know my room is my problem, and I appreciate him trying to help, but the way he ignores where things need to be put bothers me so much. For example, I collect Pokémon cards, and since I don’t have a binder, I store them in a small box so they don’t get damaged at all.
While he was cleaning, he asked me if he could put some jewelry in the box, and I said,”No. I don’t want anything in the box with the cards. Any damage could make their price drop in the future.
He seems to accept that, and simply lays them on my table.
Turns out, when I went to the living room to do the rest of my laundry, he shoved all sorts of crap in the box. I’m talking chapstick, lotion, necklaces, things that, if they popped open, could totally ruin the cards. Now my cards are all warped from the fact he didn’t even bother to keep them in the pile.
Another example is when I told him exactly what goes in each of my three drawers beside my bed, and now I’m finding miscellaneous items, things that should’ve been thrown away, and entire school assignments shoved in those drawers.
The worst though, is that I can’t find my wallet. He likes to throw things behind my bed, that’s how my wallet got lost in the past, but now, there’s so much stuff cluttered in all the places it would be, I don’t even think I have much hope of going through all of my stuff.
Any advice on finding a wallet? Its got my debit card, drivers permit, and ssn.
TL;DR My boyfriend helps me clean my room. He ignored where I wanted things to be, and now I can’t find my wallet.

I’m in a loving relationship, but for some reason I want to leave.
Hi, I’m (25) F dating (27)M. We have been dating around 3 years and have been living together for 1.5 years.
Our relationship is great, he is my best friend and I don’t think I could love anyone other than him in a romantic capacity. We are mostly compatible, but recently I have had this feeling of being alone creep up a lot.
Before we moved in together, I lived alone for 2 years and it was great. I had the perfect apartment with walking trails, and I was content. I have major depression so sometimes living alone with that was not great, but ultimately I enjoyed the peace and quiet.
Fast forward to now, living together was a struggle in the beginning, but I learned how to incorporate our lives together. But ultimately I miss living alone and being alone. My partner works from home and I do not, so he is always home and never leaves the house without me and if he does it’s for 30 minutes tops.
I feel like I never can get my alone time now, and I don’t see that changing because he likes his job and he is a homebody and I’m not going to force him to leave the house just so I can be alone for a little bit.
He doesn’t seem to understand because he can be in the office playing video games and I will be anywhere else, doing my puzzle in the living room or watching Tv and he says that is my alone time.
To me it doesn’t feel like alone time because I can hear him playing video games and sometimes I just wish for there to be complete silence.
I never pictured myself as someone in a relationship. I thrive well on my own and for the longest time any vision of the future I had was me being alone.
Now that has changed as I can see my partner and I staying together for a long time, but I miss being alone more and more
We worked so hard to make the loving relationship we have. The first year was rough and we fought a lot and went to couples counseling and we have made such amazing progress that I don’t want to throw it away.
I still love him so much, so I guess my question is, is it normal to crave/miss living and being alone? Or is this is a subtle sign that it’s time to break up.

First time posting to reddit apologies in advance :)
I am new to archery and about to buy my first bow online. I am aware this is not ideal, however I live in a rural area and the closest archery shop is roughly 6.5 hrs away.
I've spent a lot of time researching recurve bows and watching videos, but I'm seeing a lot of conflicting information about which bow size I need. I'm hoping for some guidance from the community.
I am interested in traditional archery for target practice (backyard stuff) and not bow hunting, competitive, 3D etc.
I would like a takedown recurve bow that I can grow with. Price is negotiable as long as it's good quality and will last a long time.
I am a 5'9" female who is working on upper body strength, but is not quite there yet if you know what I mean lol. My wingspan is 68 in or 172.72 cm My draw length measures between 26-27 in or 66.4-68.58 cm. I measured my draw length a few different ways, one of the ways on a borrowed bow with a draw weight of 35 lbs.
Any information would be greaty appreciated!
Thanks!
TL;DR Brand new to archery, needs help identifying correct bow size for body type and shooting needs.

I just need to vent. Has anyone else realized that Mormons have sold themselves on this idea that they have the market cornered on great families. In the 15 years since I've left I've realized that Mormon families are kinda shit, but a lot of them have really convinced themselves that they are great. I've seen so many examples of nevermo families who are genuinely close, genuinely accept each other and really show up for each other.
My grandpa's 90th birthday is in two weeks, it's on a Saturday. To me, it's crazy to send out an invite to almost 100 people (many of whom live out of state now) with a 2.5 week notice and expect people to show up on a Saturday in The Summer. As far as I can tell, it sounds like an excuse to have a photo shoot for some of my family's Mormon Mom IG pages. It feels so fake to me. On my Dad's side, I told him that I won't attend any more events on his side because they literally never ever show up to support our family. My sis got into UofU Medical School, so we had a party, not a single person from my Dad's side showed up. They would have if she were getting sealed in The temple. Very few people showed up from my Mom's side. Me and all my 5 siblings are out of The church, but my parents are very much in. I have about 40 cousins on each side, so that's a lot of people whose bridal showers, weddings and baby showers I've attended who don't show up because they don't agree that The things me and my siblings have to celebrate deserve celebration because they aren't at a temple or about having babies.
The truth is this, Mormons have these huge families that make it almost impossible to really be great to each other. My grandparents never spent time with me unless they wanted me to help them with cleaning or work at their houses (that's still The only time I hear from them unless it's a letter calling me to repentance). They never showed up to my graduations, sports performances, etc. I went on a mission and got more letters from my best friend's Nevermo grandmother than I got from all my grandparents combined. My relationships with my aunts and uncles were almost non-existent because they were all so busy raising their bunches of kids. I chose not to marry or have kids but I show up to every dance recital, program, graduation, etc. I'm invited to for my nieces and nephews.
I say all this while also acknowledging that of course, everyone's family has their problems, but it seems like Mormons in particular really like to pretend that they are all about families when really they are kind of only about HAVING families instead of having good families.

Trying to play a game of Broodwar with my father (lives in ohio) and my brother (west virginia) and I'm in Texas. Anything we can do to improve connection quality? Just feels like we're all clicking through molasses

I’m currently going through a custody battle with a narcissist, emotionally, and financially abusive ex. He is dragging his feet and overall making life difficult. He hasn’t seen the baby in a year but I know he’s going to have some form of visitation but he likes to be a snake and will try to find every hole he can to make my life hard. What do you wish you would’ve out in your custody agreement/ that you were more specific about now that it was finalized?

Hey there, I'm just looking to get to know someone entirely. Someone I can talk to daily, share things with and learn from.
A few hobbies of mine include photography & music. I’m not really sure how to elaborate further on that; I do enjoy taking pictures of anything I find pretty and well my taste in music spans various different genres, which include: indie, edm, pop, kpop, jrock, random movie soundtracks & classical but I am always looking to expand my tastes and discover new music. I do want to learn to play the piano too someday (hopefully sometime soon). Shoot me a few recommendations, I’d love to check em out! Oh, I also love trying out foods from cultures around the world and learning about said cultures so if you live abroad or if you like learning about other cultures yourself: bonus points. For the record, I myself am from Canada.
Oh, and ideally this would be a long-term sort of thing, I’m open to getting to know someone else entirely and vice versa. That means that I’d love to share not only our accomplishments but also our failures with each other and hopefully we’d feel comfortable enough to help each other through them. But of course, let’s not force anything if we don’t bond. Finally, I do prefer guys who are my age or older because I just seem to bond more with people who know a little bit more of where they’re going in life (it helps me motivate myself). Open to chatting on discord (love sending audio messages). Hope to chat with some of yall :)

Originally Naruto was the protagonist of the story, but from Part 1 onwards he transitioned into a supporting protagonist. Why? Because the story quit being about him despite being the main character.
Protagonists (save supporting protagonists) share a number of characteristics, notably their actions drive the plot and they are emotional focus of the story. Even more so when the story is character-driven.
Stories come in two flavors: character-driven and plot-driven. In short, a character-driven story is one where the focus will be more on character development than on the plot. In these stories, you are more likely to feel fully engaged with the character and become more focused on their personal journey. In a character-led story, the emphasis is on the character’s emotions and the reasons why they make the choices and decisions that they do.
The key difference between a plot-driven story and a character-driven one is that in a character-led narrative, the focus is more on the thoughts and feelings of the protagonist and the decisions that they make. Whereas, in plot-driven narratives, the action and occurrences that unfold will be the main point of focus. When writing character-driven stories, the plot is the mechanism used to develop character, and in plot-led stories, the character is used to view and comment on the plot.
Naruto is character-driven because the focus is on characters’ inner thoughts and feelings. And Sasuke is the leading role, with characters such as Naruto and Sakura, among others (including the villains like Itachi, Orochimaru and Tobi) focusing much of their motivations around him. Furthermore, Sasuke’s actions have consequences whereas Naruto’s do not.
Sasuke vs Naruto and Sasuke's departure from the Village was the main event responsible to move the Plot to the Part 2.
Sasuke vs Orochimaru: The fight sparked the Uchiha fight and sparked Kabuto’s madness.
Sasuke vs Deidara: The fight sparked Tobi’s decision to reveal himself as “da evil mastermind” of the story.
Sasuke vs Itachi: Self-explanatory. That fight was the driving force behind Sasuke’s characterization for the remainder of the series and introduced Madara and the Senjus.
Sasuke vs Killer B: Sparked the Kage Summit.
Sasuke and Itachi vs Kabuto: This fight was the driving force between Sasuke decision to join in the War and revive the Hokages. The most importante event in the entire War.
Naruto actions aren’t plot significant because he spent hundreds of chapters doing squat. Even the arc where he was the “focushas Naruto being passive for the bulk of the arc. Oh, and it’s all about Sasuke because Kishimoto felt that Naruto had to understand Sasuke’s pain, which was promptly jossed in the subsequent arc. It isn’t until the War Arc when he becomes semi-important, and even then, his actions are of secondary importance as the emphasis is on Madara’s, Obito’s, and especially Sasuke’s antics.
Naruto was intended to be nobody and a loser like Rock Lee. Naruto was so much more a likeable and a better character in Part 1 . In part 2 Naruto is like the story of a baseball hero who was said to have grown up poor and disadvantaged but in reality was actually living off his wealthy parents' billion dollar inheritance and shooting up steroids and EPO the whole time.... Plus he's the reincarnation of the god of baseball.
This is just a exemple of how the child of profecy garbage who was created specifically to made Naruto relevant in the story compared to Sasuke and Uchihas, completely ruinned Naruto's character after Pein arc.
Long story short: Naruto was originally the protagonist story, but Kishimoto switched protagonists early on in Part 2 in a two-bit attempt to tell Sasuke’s POV and keep him relevant. While this wasn't entirely intentional, Kishimoto screwed up and made Naruto a supporting protagonist whereas Sasuke became the true protagonist. This is easily seen with the arcs that had lasting consequences for the manga as a whole:
Part 1:
Most of the plots 1 can be considered manga Filler in the great scheme of the story. Lee Story, Zabuza, Hyuuga Clan and a lof Part 1 plots aren't important for Part 2. Only the Akatsuki's introduction, Orochimaru, Sasuke's departure and past were major events who leads to the Part 2.
Part 2:
Rescue Gaara Arc = Gaara died and was revived. Nothing changed at the end. Sakura got information about Sasuke in her fight against Sasori.
Sai Arc = The only important event in this Arc is literally Sasuke's appearance at the end and the first Madara's mention. Sai/Yamato are manga fillers characters. Orochimaru x 4 Tails is a terrible figh who didn’t led to anywhere.
Sakura's haters keep in your minds at this point Sakura was a more important Character than Naruto. Sakura fight against Sasori and her information about Sasuke were a major plot drive at this point.
Immortal Arc = A literal filler arc.
Asuma never was important and his death didn't affect the plot and neither Shikamaru.
But at least Naruto learned FRS.
Itachi Hunt Arc and Sasuke was finally back to the story.
Sasuke vs Orochimaru.
Orochimaru death allowed Kabuto to get his cells and become the most important villain in War arc.
Sasuke created his Team.
Sasuke fought against Deidara AND forced Tobi to reveal Himself as a Madara.
Sasuke fought against Itachi and this fight showed the lore ot Mangekyo Sharingan.
Tobi revealed the entire truth about Senju x Uchihas and the Uchiha's Massacre to Sasuke.
More informations about Madara
Sasuke entered in the Akatsuki and fought Bee and this event was fundamental to create the Kage Summit arc.
Pein Arc = Jiraiya died and that event was used only to Naruto undertand Sasuke’s desire for revange.
Nagato killed everyone and destroyed the Village.
But revived everyone. So this arc didn't led any major impact for the future. Nagato's rinnegan isn't even his.
Rinnegan isn't a pein ability but the ultimate Sharingan/Uchiha evolution who Sasuke/Madara will use in the future. Pein was just a tool for another more powerfull Uchiha villains like Madara.
Danzou took advantage of the situation and becomed the big bad of the next arc with Sasuke centric.
Kage Summit Arc =
Another Sasuke centric arc that moved the plot.
Tobi explained more about Senju and Uchihas
Sasuke fought Kages.
Tobi used the situation to declare the War.
Sasuke actions drove the entire Sakura and Naruto drama in this arc.
Sasuke fought Danzou, the true master mind of Uchiha Massacre and the first time the readers get about notion of Hashirama' cells, izanagi etc.
Team 7 Teunion again.
Kushina mini arc.
Finally a Arc focused in the character Naruto. The readers get to know about naruto's parents and a little about his clan. But the main event of the volume was the Kyuubi attack who was caused by Tobi/Obito, another Uchiha.
War Arc.
The entire War Arc were simply filler and non important fights.
When Edo Madara appears the story are finally back to the main plot.
Madara fought the Kages.
Naruto/Kakashi and Gai fought Obito
Sasuke returns and join Itachi to stop Edo Tensei.
Obito/Madara. Two Uchihas are the main responsibles for the manga events and the War.
Sasuke after the fight against Kabuto resolved to revive Orochimaru, the Hokages and finally joinned the War to fight against the main villains Obito, Madara and Kaguya until his destined final clash against Naruto.
Chapter 699, the last chapter of Part 2 is entire dedicated to Sasuke and his POV about the World and his relationships with Sakura and Naruto.
Sarada Gaiden: The entire Volume is About Sasuke's daughter: Sarada and a new villain who wants to kill Sasuke and kidnapped Sakura. Naruto was reduced to a Sarada's babysitter
Boruto: Spin Off who isn't written or drawn by Kishimoto unlike the previous volumes. So isn't important.

This is by far not the only story I have of my toxic mother, but it's a good one. Sadly, even tho I cut her out of my life I am still dealing with the ramifications of her abuse years later.
Let me preface this by saying I am estranged from my mother and have been for most of my life. She is a paranoid narcissist, a racist, a homophobe, a xenophobe, and just all around terrible person. She abused me growing up so I cut loose in high school, got emancipated and got on with my life. For years I had a happy queer relationship with another woman and we had a son together (I carried with a sperm donor). When my kid was 5 his other mom died and I was alone for 5 years before I met someone. A year later, that someone and I got married. Previous to said wedding my husband’s parents felt it would be important to meet my parents. My father died when I was 19 so that left my mother and her husband. I struggled over the decision to try and reconnect with my mom, knowing how bad this can get for me in these situations (I suffer severe ptsd from the abuse trauma).. but it was a wedding and everyone kept telling me it “was important to have family together.” So fine, let’s do this.
The problems started fast and furious. My mom came to our coast (we live on opposite coasts) to meet my fiancé and my son. Right away she was pulling my husband to the corner to tell him all the “dirt” she could on me, or conversely, telling him he better get me nice cars and plastic surgery. Then she stated calling all of her friends and putting my fiancé on the phone to “prove to them that her daughter was marrying a doctor” (even if he is a goyem (a Yiddish term for non-Jew. Has slightly derogatory tones). Cut to lunch and my mother is asking how many tables she “gets” at the wedding. I ask “huh?” She explains she needs a least 5 tables at 10 per table for HER guests. I was really confused. I explained that our whole wedding venue seated 50 people total and those seats were spoken for. I had invited several people my mother asked me to have already. She went absolutely bananas demanding we change venue (we’re now 6 weeks from the wedding) to accommodate HER GUESTS. I painfully explained we can’t do that.. it’s not possible.. just no. She then switches gears like she always does and asks about our honeymoon. We’re we’re heading to Mexico for 2 weeks and my son would be staying with his donomyBFF. My mom screamed “what??? He needs to be with HIS FAMILY.” I reminded her that he was staying with family. She demanded time with my son so I half heartedly said she could have him half the time. (This will come back to haunt me later.)
Cut to the wedding. Did I mention my mom is a low key alkie? So it’s about 2pm and she’s in the bridal suite in the bathroom. I’m in the dress and the photographer is waiting for my mother to come and use an antique button-holer to button up my gown. I'm emotional because I'm in the dress and I feel beautiful and I'm excited and nervous. This is one of the photos we had pre-planned to take and I asked her if she wanted to do the honors. Instead, my mother is in the bathroom half dressed with her fireball and ice screaming into the phone at her husband “You are so stupid, how can you not find it!? I put it on the damn dresser! I can’t f**ing believe I married you…” you get the picture. It’s so loud the guests in the living room of the suite can hear it. I finally give up and have my son do the buttonholing for me (the pics were so special). Thank goodness it wasn’t video because you would have her my mother screaming “Can anyone get me another drink?? Does this room even have room service??”
Cut to walking down the aisle. We do the ceremony, it’s perfect, and my delightful friend who's officiating announces “Introducing Mr. & Mrs Jon— when suddenly my mom stands up and screams “It’s DOCTOR not MISTER, get it right!” Now I knew we had a problem on our hands ahead of the big day so I put in some contingency plans in place to buffer her. My wedding planner was under strict instructions to not allow my mother to make a speech (she loves to humiliate me by saying personal things about me to anyone who will listen and then she loves to announce what a terrible daughter I am and how much of a disappointment to her.) Second plan was my SIL faking a heart attack if she got her hands on the mic. About half thru dinner my delightful planner comes to me crying saying she’s so sorry but my mom is demanding to make a speech. That’s right, this tiny demon of a woman made my wedding planner CRY. Right then she stood up (have no idea how she got the mic) and said, “So my daughter didn’t want me to say anything. I guess she gets embarrassed, but I’m her MOTHER, and I get to say whatever I want. I’m here to say that I always knew she was going to marry a doctor, it didn’t surprise me at all. What did surprise me is when I gave birth to her and the nurses told me she was a girl, but I didn’t believe them so I had to take her diaper off and spread her legs and look at her vagina to make sure she was a girl.” She illustrated this by spreading her two fingers open. You could here jaws dropping around the room. She then went on to say “how disappointed she was in me that I don’t see her more often and that she hopes now that I have a doctor husband I’ll be able to see her more frequently”. Sadly my SIL was in the loo and plan 2 failed.
Cut to the dancing. I am dancing with my husband and my friends. We’re all having a good time when somebody comes up to me and taps me on the shoulder and says “hey, I don’t wanna cause a scene or anything but you might want to look at your mom”. I look over at my mother and she has taken off the jacket to her dress and now she’s peeling off the shoulder straps one by one and waving her head around to the music saying “oh my goodness it’s getting so hot in here!” This b*tch was trying to take her clothes off on the dance floor. Oh, I forgot to mention earlier that she had a three drink maximum, but she was getting around this by asking other people to get drinks for her.Cut to the next morning and I got to hear alllllll the embarrassing stories from the night before. She asked why my friend married “an Arab,” called another guest “not Jewish enough to attend the wedding” and complained to anyone who would listen that I didn’t even allow her 50 guests, and the party would have been so much more fun if she had done it. And the pièce de ré·sis·tance? As we were leaving for our honeymoon I got a call from her saying “I know you need me to watch your kid, but not unless you do something for me. You’ll need to call your brother and make nice with him again.” My brother and I are estranged for reasons I can’t get into now. I said no, he’ll go to his real family, the one that cares for him without strings attached.
There you have it! If you're considering inviting a toxic parent to your wedding- DON'T. For anyone interested, we don’t talk anymore and I couldn’t be happier. Good riddance to bad rubbish!

Hey there, I'm just looking to get to know someone entirely. Someone I can talk to daily, share things with and learn from.
A few hobbies of mine include photography & music. I’m not really sure how to elaborate further on that; I do enjoy taking pictures of anything I find pretty and well my taste in music spans various different genres, which include: indie, edm, pop, kpop, jrock, random movie soundtracks & classical but I am always looking to expand my tastes and discover new music. I do want to learn to play the piano too someday (hopefully sometime soon). Shoot me a few recommendations, I’d love to check em out! Oh, I also love trying out foods from cultures around the world and learning about said cultures so if you live abroad or if you like learning about other cultures yourself: bonus points. For the record, I myself am from Canada.
Oh, and ideally this would be a long-term sort of thing, I’m open to getting to know someone else entirely and vice versa. That means that I’d love to share not only our accomplishments but also our failures with each other and hopefully we’d feel comfortable enough to help each other through them. But of course, let’s not force anything if we don’t bond. Finally, I do prefer guys who are my age or older because I just seem to bond more with people who know a little bit more of where they’re going in life (it helps me motivate myself). Open to chatting on discord (love sending audio messages). Hope to chat with some of yall :)

I’m 13F and I need a runaway partnegroup who is also a female and close to my age and who won’t back out at the last second and who isn’t homophobic or racist, and please supports LGBTQ, and who’s willing to show me their face when they feel comfortable and who will face call me so I can actually make sure they’re not lying about their face and please live in Canada or close to Canada so we can meet up, please don’t be a creep old dude or someone who is gonna kidnap me or anything like that. And please don’t runaway if it’s not actually serious, also please understand me and understand why I SH please.
(Sorry for the bad spelling)

We have a six month old half Bernese Mountain Dog and half Saint Bernard. She’s really sweet, great with people and other dogs. We adopted her at 10ish weeks and have not had many issues other than standard puppy blues up until now. Backyard breeder, but they seemed to know what they’re doing and keep open lines of communication with all the people who’ve adopted form them (aka they care about the dogs).
We noticed she would sometimes be skittish outside (especially to loud sounds) and want to flee back home. My boyfriend and I have to walk her together otherwise if she is with just one of us, we will get a block or two, and she’ll realize how far and she is and want to come back home, despite trying to distract her with high value treats. When she flees, it’s almost impossible to get her attention or to listen.
We live in a condo building and there is construction going on outside on a busy road, and steel plates recently added to the street, creating loud sounds. Over the last week, she is so scared we sometimes can’t even make it without several treats or just having to pull her to the grass so she can do her business. Shes 65 lbs and becoming very hard to control when she wants to flee.
When she starts to flee, I try to get her to sit and distract her with treats in hopes to get her to concentrate and do a 1 or 2. When she whines and try’s to run, I don’t console her to avoid “rewarding” the reaction.
Another note: most of the time, she does fine at dog parks and has fun. Occasionally she’ll get anxiety and want to go home, but overall she likes it.
We have a consult with a professional trainer to try and fix this before she gets much bigger, but wanted to also hear this community’s thoughts and experience.

Hi,
So I am moving cities soon and since the place I am moving is quite expensive, I'm looking at studio apartments. I live somewhat minimally, but never devoted myself strictly to the practice, and since I have been sleeping on a shikibuton for years and plan on doing so in my new place, I wanted to see if anybody else has experience in or ideas for living in this situation.
Does anybody have creative ideas for how to arrange a room (about 10'x20') accounting for a queen shikibuton (5'x7.5', that can and will be folded into thirds, 5'x2.5'), a 5'x2.5' desk (leaving 5'x5' space), and a 6'x8' living space? I know I can fit everything well enough, the total sqft is about half of the available space, but I am unsure how clever or eloquent I could be with it. I'm sure there is some kind of unique was to use a futon to save space.
Here is the current layout I have planned, trying to keep the bed in a good position (facing the door) and the desk in a command position (seeing the most room possible). I also want to emphasize flow in the area, so not creating difficult pathways to get to the bathroom from the door, or the closet from the bed, etc., but that's quite difficult in such a small space.
Also, general tips for living in a studio? Should I get specific furniture that suits the space instead of making do with the current?

TD;LR - Wife stopped doing most things two months into her pregnancy and has been like this ever since. Our son is 5 months and majority of what she does is watch Anime, look after our son or browse TikTok.
Hi everyone,
I'll try to include everything so everything is fair. When I met my wife she stayed with a friend who kicked her out once she met me, through jealousy was what I assumed. My wife kept on top of her friends apartment, kept it clean and also worked as well, when she got kicked out I found her a place and she this was the start of her downward spiral even though it wasn't that bad at first.
She was funny, we spent a lot of time together and we grew closer and started becoming more intimate which led to sex every day, She got pregnant and I was okay with it, at this time she was depressed that her friend had put her stuff in black bags and kicked her to the curb knowing she had nowhere to go, my wife was messy but still managed to clean, shower and other thing's you'd do for yourself.
Eventually she moved in to my parent's home at two months pregnant and she wouldn't get out of bed much, if she did it was to get herself food and my parent's told her she should try coming out of the room more which she politely declined and would pretty much scroll through TikTok all day. She didn't want to go out, not for walks or anything, she was just in the room and things got bad. It started to smell, she was leaving things around the house such as half eaten fruit and half eaten meals which my mum would clean up for her, and around the 5 month mark my parent's told her she needs to clean up for herself and she would get in a mood.
My wife was highly on edge during her pregnancy, one of the reasons was that she had told her parents she was pregnant and they both blocked her as they're not in the same country. She had no friends or family here because her only friend had threw her out. Around 8 months into the pregnancy I decided to leave my family home and get a place of our own.
She gave birth through an emergency C-Section and couldn't produce enough breastmilk to breast feed, so our baby was on the bottle and thing's were just as toxic as before. I went through hell during that pregnancy and often I'd leave her home for hours, one night I even slept in my car. Around two months after birth I could see she was calming down a lot, it wasn't as explosive and emotional as before but her anger was still there, I wasn't the best to her during these times so I decided to stop being toxic back and letting her win these petty arguments but in one final argument I told her I was leaving and she told me she wanted to kill herself, that life wasn't living if I wasn't in it or if I wasn't a part of my sons life. I just couldn't take the toxic back and forth anymore, she promised lots of things but it never came true.
Fast forward to now, living in our new flat. I've stopped asking for most things, she's simply unreliable and I know I can do a quicker job myself. But this is the part I want to be honest, she wakes up in the middle of the night for our son, she does a lot of care for him and it seems pregnancy did really affect my wife deeply.
But I am torn between two worlds, because 6 out of the 7 day's other than our sons care she doesn't do anything else. Any wrappers or plates are left exactly where she finished them, something that was prevalent during her pregnancy, it seems her memory is completely gone and now she's started taking Zoloft for depression and she sleeps, most of the day.
Our day's consist of us waking up, I'll go to the kitchen and see it being an utter mess, I can smell rotten food from somewhere and I just think to myself, 'I can't be bothered to argue about this'. So I clean it by myself. I'll go roll myself a cigarette next to the window which I can see into the bedroom (Balcony area) and I can always see her scrolling through TikTok. I swear she's on that app upwards of 3 hours a day. When I told her about it, she said that her using TikTok doesn't affect me and that she knows how to put her phone down, which is semi true. She will put her phone down when engaging with me, and she's not one to scrabble when her phone isn't next to her. She has told me about back pains (sciatica pain) from standing or even sitting on the couch and I just say 'no worries' and keep it moving.
A lot of people on here would say 'grow a back bone and tell her she needs to do her part' however believe me I can be a right c*nt when I want to be, and I realised my c*ntish behaviour wasn't getting us nowhere, just arguments that I don't have the energy to deal with anymore, I dealt with them the whole pregnancy, she even argued in front of my family member's, which she is regretful for and has apologised for but my mentality is why would I argue with someone who cant control their emotions.
Whenever I seek advice people tell me to give it more time, just be patient with her, she gave birth 5 months ago, and while I am trying to do all of the above it's still so hard to do. It's hard not to resent her for the things that happened while she was pregnant, the fact she told me she was going to hurt herself if I left, I feel like I am waiting for this magical day where she get's out of bed and get's a grip on her life, but it doesn't seem to be happening, I don't know if there is a threshold for how long I need to wait, how long I have to keep seeing her like this. I heard you shouldn't make major decisions in the first two years of having a child but it's hard looking at your wife who hasn't brushed her teeth or bathed/shaved in three weeks.
She loves her son and it's clear she loves me too, but she doesn't have it in her to be there for herself, I need some advice reddit, what can I do?
I'm 26, I don't want to live my life worrying for another person like this, hoping they'll finally get it together, I am helping everywhere I can but thing's don't seem to be getting any better. Less fight's for sure, but I feel like I am looking after a child myself.

Hey there, I'm just looking to get to know someone entirely. Someone I can talk to daily, share things with and learn from.
A few hobbies of mine include photography & music. I’m not really sure how to elaborate further on that; I do enjoy taking pictures of anything I find pretty and well my taste in music spans various different genres, which include: indie, edm, pop, kpop, jrock, random movie soundtracks & classical but I am always looking to expand my tastes and discover new music. I do want to learn to play the piano too someday (hopefully sometime soon). Shoot me a few recommendations, I’d love to check em out! Oh, I also love trying out foods from cultures around the world and learning about said cultures so if you live abroad or if you like learning about other cultures yourself: bonus points. For the record, I myself am from Canada.
Oh, and ideally this would be a long-term sort of thing, I’m open to getting to know someone else entirely and vice versa. That means that I’d love to share not only our accomplishments but also our failures with each other and hopefully we’d feel comfortable enough to help each other through them. But of course, let’s not force anything if we don’t bond. Finally, I do prefer guys who are my age or older because I just seem to bond more with people who know a little bit more of where they’re going in life (it helps me motivate myself). Open to chatting on discord (love sending audio messages). Hope to chat with some of yall :)

I am a 1st gen full blooded hmong in USA. My parents immigrated from Thailand in the 1980s. They were both born in Laos and were refugees.
My son is half hmong. I decided to take a test on him instead of me so we can know both the parents origin. We went with crigentics so we can have access to health along with ancestry.
The results came back. Cri genetics has an interesting way to display. Recent ancestry(past 5 generation) and advance(older than 5 generations. Maybe couple thousand years)
Recent: 41% east asian Dai chinese: 11% Southern han: 9.2% Northern han: 9% Vietnamese: 5.8%
Advance: 35% east asian Dai chinese: 12% Vietnamese: 9% Japanese: 8.6% Southern han: 6.5% Northern han: 5.3%
I think I have my own scientific theory but I would like some explaining if anyone can.
I see that alot of hmong people test and get Dai, south & north han, Vietnamese quite regularly. Those are common. I am confused about Japanese
Also, crigenetics show recent and advance. Recently, I seem to have been more northern hans than Vietnamese. Evidently, Southern han and Vietnamese don't have alot of difference in their dna though considering most modern Vietnamese are descended from Southern hans so I'm not sure why I have less Vietnamese recently than hans. I boiled it down to one conclusion.
Crigenetics probably doesn't have alot the dna of other south east asian groups. Most of those countries probably blend their genetics alot in the past so its hard to distinguish between the differences of Vietnamese, Laos, Thai, etc. They probably have more Vietnamese taking their dna test. So if they get samples of more dna that are found in that region, they group it there. I even read the Vietnamese category. They tell a brief history of the ethnic group, they give a list of country where the genes are found and it listed: laos, Cambodia, Malaysia, Taiwan, Macau. So they are estimating that anyone who tested Vietnamese can be from any of the country. This gives me the assumption that I am not necessarily mainland Vietnamese but just ethnic minority commonly found in Vietnam.
As I said earlier, I don't get why if modern Vietnamese have alot of southern Chinese dna, why is the recent sample more hans, but less Vietnamese? I guess they know the difference between modern and ancient vietnamese?
If I had more Vietnamese but less hans dna thousands of years ago, then my ancestors who used to inhabit that region were distinct from modern veit.
The Dai part is pretty straight forward. They inhabited a large territory in Yunnan to Myanmar and many chinese minority lived there. I do think most genetic test only know the Dai group and not the other ethnic tribes. If they find other hill tribes in you, they just label you as dai. I will have to retry a company that has 56 ethnic.
I believe the northern hans might have been from the manchu people who ruled over a good part of the southern states for an extended period even up until the hmong migrated into south east asia.
I'm not sure about Japanese. It doesn't show up in recent dna. Only advance. So we can throw away the WW2 era. I have a few theories

1. The chinese, Korean, and mainland Japanese shared an ancestor. The Japanese who migrated to Japan came near the Korea and China area. They probably share similar dna. This probably happened 3-4 thousand years ago. Some of Our ancestors dispersed from there. But if that's the case, then the northern hans part I have wasn't recent but may be from that region too.
   
2. Some Japanese show results of south east asian. Ancient Japanese probably had contacts or share something with south east asians. Japanese does have some similarity in linguistic with austronesians, who migrated from south china/south east asia. The problem is not a whole lot south east asians test for Japanese.
   
3. This is a mixture of my 1st two theory. But goes back even farther. It was said that the early sino tibet derived from northeast near Beijing area as early hunter gathers and farmers some 7 thousand years ago. The early east asians prior to modern chinese must have been darker skin people that diverged or intermixed into different regions(korea, Japan, central & south china, west tibet, myanmar south east asia). Maybe that's why some south east asians still have Japanese test results. Going back far in time, most east asians were alot more similar in culture and looks. If this is the case, this is a dam long time ago during stone age and hunting gather.
   

Edit: So that last paragraph has made me researched alot. Going back in time, alot of east asians had more traits and culture in common due to hunting gathering lifestyle although not as homogenous as East asian countries like it is now. I found out most early proto chinese settlers in Central, south and even north were darker skinned resembling that of south east asian, pacific islanders. Which means that southern part of China even up to central was likely inhabited by ancient khmr l, thai, burmese, or viet(not the exact same people today). They probably intermixed alot of culture. The northern tribes probably migrated downward and mixed and traded ideas and culture and it happened for thousands of years until the newer gene pool hans chinese took over. This explains why some tibet burmese tribes(part of sino tibet from the north) like naga, zaiwa, Dai have similarity with some austro asiatic or austronesian tribes who were already existing in Yunnan, Myanmar and Vietnam when the tibeto burmese came. They both had body paint, totems, similar embroidery, wore animal part as clothing, Ancestral worship. These practices even expanded far out to pacific, Siberia and Japan.
Sorry for the long rant. If anyone can give more thoughts that'd be nice. FYI his mom isn't asian so there is no way the test would confuse the paternal and maternal.

Hey there, I'm just looking to get to know someone entirely. Someone I can talk to daily, share things with and learn from. A few hobbies of mine include photography & music. I’m not really sure how to elaborate further on that; I do enjoy taking pictures of anything I find pretty and well my taste in music spans various different genres, which include: indie, edm, pop, kpop, jrock, random movie soundtracks & classical but I am always looking to expand my tastes and discover new music. I do want to learn to play the piano too someday (hopefully sometime soon). Shoot me a few recommendations, I’d love to check em out! Oh, I also love trying out foods from cultures around the world and learning about said cultures so if you live abroad or if you like learning about other cultures yourself: bonus points. For the record, I myself am from Canada. Oh, and ideally this would be a long-term sort of thing, I’m open to getting to know someone else entirely and vice versa. That means that I’d love to share not only our accomplishments but also our failures with each other and hopefully we’d feel comfortable enough to help each other through them. But of course, let’s not force anything if we don’t bond. Finally, I do prefer guys who are my age or older because I just seem to bond more with people who know a little bit more of where they’re going in life (it helps me motivate myself). Open to chatting on discord (love sending audio messages). Hope to chat with some of yall :)

A theory video on the animated short series 'Autodale' By Dead Sound would be an amazing video. Let me explain a couple of the key points as to why
1) The society seems to be run entirely by robots, however there is something deeper. Someone named "The mayor" is pulling the strings behind the scenes. The robots of the city of Autodale are known as "handymen" What gives them this title? They are depicted more so as protectors than robots who help around the city. The men of the city are said to do all the work, but what exactly do they do? But if it's the men doing all the work, what do the handymen do that earns them their name?
2) There was some sort of apocalyptic event causing society (or at least a small portion of it) to create an isolated city away from everyone. In "Immortal Machine" we see that the mayor is a man who is said to be a great inventor who was alive during this apocalypse. His daughter was infected with some sort of disease that a "goddess" healed before it died. A few minutes later we see this "goddess" hooked up to wires and tubes. The tubes give blood to the body indicating that it is something that needs blood to live. It also has human features that were not present before. The Mayors daughter is also missing. Is it possible that his daughter was fused with this goddess in order to keep it alive? I think that this is true because the mayor touches the nose of the goddess and it seems to be an intimate sort of bond they share. Something close to a father and daughters bond.
3) Are the citizens of Autodale all related in some way? All the citizens are exactly the same, or at least they look incredibly similar. This is further supported by the fact of the blood reservoir in "Immortal Machine" is clearly gained from the citizens of autodale. The blood pumped into the goddess must be the same kind of blood because it is all put into one tank, and pumped into the goddess. This would mean that the goddess has a blood type shared with the citizens of autodale, or else the mixed blood could cause a rejection from the immune system.
These were just three examples of things that could be made into theories. There is a lot more to dig into with it. MatPat if you're reading this, I hope you consider it!

In the past, whenever the subject of Durin's Bane came up, I'd comment that Bane is the perfect example of the lazy, good for nothing man child who lives in his moms' basement playing video games and eating frozen pizza while mom frets over when he's going to get a job. He escapes the destruction of Beleriand after the War of Wrath, fine. He hides under the Misty Mountains, fine. And then for over 4,000 years he does nothing at all, until the Dwarves find him by accident. Seeing them as a challenge to his authority, he enters Moria and slaughters every Dwarf he can get his hands on. With the Dwarves gone, he settles back into his nothing lifestyle. Orcs move into Moria, which he doesn't seem to mind, possibly remembering that they were part of his masters' armies as well, and leaves them be. Gandalf shows up, and Bane recognizes him as a power, and a possible challenge to his authority. Now he wants to fight, when Gandalf doesn't want to do anything but get the Hell out. If he had been Gandalf and lived, I have no doubt he would have gone back to his video games and frozen pizza lifestyle.
Yesterday I picked up The Fellowship of the Ring, just for fun, opened at random and found myself at the passage where Gimli is explaining to Sam that in the past, Khazad-dum was not a darksome hole, and singing his song. At the end Sam is impressed, but wants to know why the Dwarves want to return. Gandalf explains about how this is the only place where Mithril can be found, its worth, how Sauron covets it, and how the Orcs give all they find in tribute to him. However not even the Orcs will mine for it anymore.
And this got me thinking about previous questions asked on this reddit, about why Bane never joined forces with Sauron, in the Second Age when he could have been of huge use, and in the Third Age, when Sauron was at Dol Guldur and later in Moria.
Sauron covets Mithril. Mithril can be found in only one place, Moria. Bane rules Moria. Orcs mine for Mithril, but won't out of fear. Fear of what? The only think that the Orcs would be afraid of, besides the occasional Unnamed Thing, is Bane. Bane tolerates the Orcs, even lets its chieftains like Azog run the place. But he won't let them mine for Mithril, even though that would put him in good terms with Sauron.
Conclusion: Not only will Bane not join Sauron in anything, he won't even let the Orcs mine for something he has no use for, out of spite for Sauron. These two once worked for Melkor, but for some reason they hate each others' guts. Something must have happened at work.