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2023.06.09 09:51 Routine_Remote9786 I (Libra Sun) am dating a Pisces man. It’s been so wonderful except we have many moments of silence. Is that normal?
Our relationship is the most secure I’ve felt with anyone. He’s so consistent, and he never fails to say good morning and goodnight, he calls me when we’re apart, and when we’re together he’s completely enamored – always holding my hand, rubbing my back, looking into my eyes…He talks about the future far off in time (which is a little soon for me, but I do think it’s sweet).
Everything seems nearly perfect, and all my needs are met. But we have long pauses in conversation. He looks at me, and seems very comfortable with these silent moments.
I’m not so comfortable with them. I’ve always been able to bounce around different conversations with people, but I feel sometimes with him they can fall a little flat.
We haven’t been together very long, so I’m wondering if this is a part of the awkward stage, and he needs time to open up. He says he feels he can say anything to me and he’s so happy with me. But when I asked about these silent moments, he mentioned that we’re still getting to know each other and our nuances, and sometimes he’s not even thinking of anything.
He says he enjoys talking to me and the silence is okay. I’ve never dated a Pisces before, and my past partners may have seen silence as boredom (they required more mental entertainment). Deep down, I think I have the same fear, though I’m not saying it’s right. I have double Libra in my chart, and Gemini, so naturally I want to connect through sharing the mind and ideas.
Do Pisces often leave long moments of silence in conversation? Are they happy just being with someone sans distraction, entertainment and conversation?
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Everything seems nearly perfect, and all my needs are met. But we have long pauses in conversation. He looks at me, and seems very comfortable with these silent moments.
I’m not so comfortable with them. I’ve always been able to bounce around different conversations with people, but I feel sometimes with him they can fall a little flat.
We haven’t been together very long, so I’m wondering if this is a part of the awkward stage, and he needs time to open up. He says he feels he can say anything to me and he’s so happy with me. But when I asked about these silent moments, he mentioned that we’re still getting to know each other and our nuances, and sometimes he’s not even thinking of anything.
He says he enjoys talking to me and the silence is okay. I’ve never dated a Pisces before, and my past partners may have seen silence as boredom (they required more mental entertainment). Deep down, I think I have the same fear, though I’m not saying it’s right. I have double Libra in my chart, and Gemini, so naturally I want to connect through sharing the mind and ideas.
Do Pisces often leave long moments of silence in conversation? Are they happy just being with someone sans distraction, entertainment and conversation?
2023.06.09 09:50 Planet-Dharma A New Year’s Resolution
Doug Sensei offers a suggestion on something to do for a New Year’s resolution for 2013: “I undertake to train myself to refrain from getting lost in phenomena”.
Qapel: I suggest this be your New Year’s resolution for this year: I undertake to train myself to refrain from getting lost in phenomena. If you want to put it in a nutshell: I undertake to train myself to refrain from falling asleep in my own stories about ME. Which is the great power? If you don’t have the teacher present, the power of the group – they’re there to keep you from getting lost in your own stories, no matter how good they are. So, I suggest this be your New Year’s resolution for this year. What is the most likely place for you to get hijacked by your own ego? And make the resolution to try not to let that happen in 2013. Or less, In any case. I undertake to train myself to refrain from getting hijacked by – where do you get lost in you? Where do you get kind of swept away by you?
Maybe it’s by not moving fast. Maybe you like to move really slow and carefully. So you’re always hijacked on slow. Or maybe you always want to see all sides to every argument. So you never really make a hard decision of any kind because you’re always, you know. They can be subtle. Where do you tend to undermine your own unfoldment? Maybe it’s having your life too much in control. It’s too much just the way you like it. So you never have to deal with, you know, there’s very few things that you have to deal with that disturb you from your trip because you don’t put yourself in a situation where they ever can happen. You can think about this a bit. Where am I most likely to fall asleep? Where am I most likely not to see the transcendental? In what conditions or situations am I most likely not to meet the transcendental opportunity? You can word it in any way you want. Does this make sense?
CPS: Would you suggest that we ask one another for feedback? Or we ask you for feedback?
Q: You can bring it to me in the new year if you want, if you want my opinion, you don’t have to, but if you want to you can. And I may or may not comment. I may leave you with the one you’ve got, or I may up it, or change it, or move it. But it’s up to you. But it’s better that you come up with it because liberation is self-liberation. And if you get an insight into where you get shanghaied it’s much much better than if I tell you. Your next one may not be the ultimate one, but it’s the one that’s in front. Right. And that’s the one you should work For in 2013. You just, you know, every couple of weeks, once a month, you just bring it out, put it on a piece of paper, put it on your door. Forget about it. And then you know once a month just bringing it out and how am I doing with this one? Okay maybe I have to think about that a bit more and you remember it for a few days and you forget about it. But at the end of the year, it will be less. All you have to do is bring it out and name it. And without any effort on your part, it will be less at the end of the year than it was at the beginning. It’s not hard to awaken. All you have to do is want to do it, gradually. In the teaching, there’s something called the near enemy and a far enemy.
But the near enemy is what you can’t see and the far enemy is what’s obvious. So you could say well what’s the near enemy? What’s the far enemy, you know where do I get caught? So the near enemy maybe just comfort. And the far enemy may be people who make you feel uncomfortable. That could be it. So again you can see that from looking at your life. And you can also do it by what you avoid: what is it you always steer around? or what do you always avoid? Or, again, what is so close and engaged and involved in your life that you don’t question it – it’s so much a part of what you are and what you do that you never raise your eyebrows about it, or if you do its kind of well that’s, I can’t do anything about that. So these are all various ways.
Like any good investigator you get on a ship, what do you do? You walk around, you check everything out, you try to go down the engine room, you go up on the deck you find out where all the, you know, you go looking around. If you ended up in a palace, what would you do? Do you go explore when you go looking around? So same too with this, you just go looking around -look at your life from this side, look at your life from that side. You could even get feedback if you wanted to. But this is not big like the guilt, shame thing, right? This is not not to make you feel guilty or shameful, like you’re a loser, or you’re not doing dharma. This is not the motivation for this, the question for this is: do I want to be more awake?
It’s not a negative. You’re not getting put down, you’re raising yourself up. So the more you keep your wits about you the less you get lost. And then from that vantage, you say: is this taking me forward? Is what I’m doing with my time and my energy unfolding to me? Is it bringing me to greater compassion? Is it bringing me to greater wisdom? or is it just kind of passing le temps? And if it’s passe le temps do something else.
Source URL: https://www.planetdharma.com/a-new-years-resolution/
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Qapel: I suggest this be your New Year’s resolution for this year: I undertake to train myself to refrain from getting lost in phenomena. If you want to put it in a nutshell: I undertake to train myself to refrain from falling asleep in my own stories about ME. Which is the great power? If you don’t have the teacher present, the power of the group – they’re there to keep you from getting lost in your own stories, no matter how good they are. So, I suggest this be your New Year’s resolution for this year. What is the most likely place for you to get hijacked by your own ego? And make the resolution to try not to let that happen in 2013. Or less, In any case. I undertake to train myself to refrain from getting hijacked by – where do you get lost in you? Where do you get kind of swept away by you?
Maybe it’s by not moving fast. Maybe you like to move really slow and carefully. So you’re always hijacked on slow. Or maybe you always want to see all sides to every argument. So you never really make a hard decision of any kind because you’re always, you know. They can be subtle. Where do you tend to undermine your own unfoldment? Maybe it’s having your life too much in control. It’s too much just the way you like it. So you never have to deal with, you know, there’s very few things that you have to deal with that disturb you from your trip because you don’t put yourself in a situation where they ever can happen. You can think about this a bit. Where am I most likely to fall asleep? Where am I most likely not to see the transcendental? In what conditions or situations am I most likely not to meet the transcendental opportunity? You can word it in any way you want. Does this make sense?
CPS: Would you suggest that we ask one another for feedback? Or we ask you for feedback?
Q: You can bring it to me in the new year if you want, if you want my opinion, you don’t have to, but if you want to you can. And I may or may not comment. I may leave you with the one you’ve got, or I may up it, or change it, or move it. But it’s up to you. But it’s better that you come up with it because liberation is self-liberation. And if you get an insight into where you get shanghaied it’s much much better than if I tell you. Your next one may not be the ultimate one, but it’s the one that’s in front. Right. And that’s the one you should work For in 2013. You just, you know, every couple of weeks, once a month, you just bring it out, put it on a piece of paper, put it on your door. Forget about it. And then you know once a month just bringing it out and how am I doing with this one? Okay maybe I have to think about that a bit more and you remember it for a few days and you forget about it. But at the end of the year, it will be less. All you have to do is bring it out and name it. And without any effort on your part, it will be less at the end of the year than it was at the beginning. It’s not hard to awaken. All you have to do is want to do it, gradually. In the teaching, there’s something called the near enemy and a far enemy.
But the near enemy is what you can’t see and the far enemy is what’s obvious. So you could say well what’s the near enemy? What’s the far enemy, you know where do I get caught? So the near enemy maybe just comfort. And the far enemy may be people who make you feel uncomfortable. That could be it. So again you can see that from looking at your life. And you can also do it by what you avoid: what is it you always steer around? or what do you always avoid? Or, again, what is so close and engaged and involved in your life that you don’t question it – it’s so much a part of what you are and what you do that you never raise your eyebrows about it, or if you do its kind of well that’s, I can’t do anything about that. So these are all various ways.
Like any good investigator you get on a ship, what do you do? You walk around, you check everything out, you try to go down the engine room, you go up on the deck you find out where all the, you know, you go looking around. If you ended up in a palace, what would you do? Do you go explore when you go looking around? So same too with this, you just go looking around -look at your life from this side, look at your life from that side. You could even get feedback if you wanted to. But this is not big like the guilt, shame thing, right? This is not not to make you feel guilty or shameful, like you’re a loser, or you’re not doing dharma. This is not the motivation for this, the question for this is: do I want to be more awake?
It’s not a negative. You’re not getting put down, you’re raising yourself up. So the more you keep your wits about you the less you get lost. And then from that vantage, you say: is this taking me forward? Is what I’m doing with my time and my energy unfolding to me? Is it bringing me to greater compassion? Is it bringing me to greater wisdom? or is it just kind of passing le temps? And if it’s passe le temps do something else.
Source URL: https://www.planetdharma.com/a-new-years-resolution/
2023.06.09 09:50 yelloworange99 I found out my best friend is lying about cancer
it had been something that felt off for so long, something i had so much guilt for doubting, where i suppressed my gut feeling, and i lost trust in myself.i finally mustered the courage to first bring up to another of her best friends that things were not adding up. i was scared they’d tell her ‘lol wtf ur friend thinks ur a liar about something so serious’but, they agreed. eventually, on another day, i suggested potential elements of borderline personality disorder in her, and this opened the gates to a bunch of little things that didn’t feel quite right but i still couldn’t say for sure. never seen the meds (when it was tablet chemo), never seen her sick, still drinking every weekend, declined my friend to see diagnosis for better understanding of the ovarian cancer, the fact the ambulance picks her up at night but her mum doesn’t even know she has it, she tells the hospital she needs to leave in the morning so she can see me that day, have never met the friends who took her to the hospital when the immense pain started (which i have yet to see again, 9 months later), refusal of every doctor in the state to get surgery as she mentioned she may want a child, debt and selling all properties to cover medical costs, much more that i probably don’t even remember honestlythese could all be things that were real. some of them might be in the event she does have it. but i am 95% sure this isn’t the case, and if not, im 100% sure the situation is extremely exaggerated and i have caught lies;…..the thing that irked me upon this realisation is that when she was homeless for being outed (i have met her family, so lovely and made her a birthday party i went to following this, her sister is so generous, i thought ‘well they must be incredible actors pretending to be nice’ which again is possible). i used to drain myself to make sure she was safe, had somewhere to go and she’d refuse to come to my home. (the reason it was draining was because of the refusal and back and forth and saying stuff like ‘its ok ill just freeze and get assaulted, its comfy under the bridge???’ like in a half joking but not funny way. one night, after this refusal, i threw a jacket into the train carriage she got on as it left and started to cry. i talked to my dad because i was so upset, and finally told someone, my dad, that she had cancer. (she was not open about it at this point). dad, rationally, said ok, just check her location. this is not something that crosses my mind as i had trust, and don’t like to push boundaries of privacy in sharing that. anyway, she was already at home. and every time i checked, was still there. now, that’s fine if you text or later say ‘don’t worry, im home safe, all is good’. but that is not what happened; she continuously brought up homelessness from there as something scary and horrible, living under a bridge in the rain etc.so that was in my mind for sure.anyway, flash forward to the last couple weeks, her friend and i hung out individually (rare) and talked. they said that she sent a photo of her getting the chemo. it was blood coming out of her arm. they questioned this; ‘aren’t they supposed to be putting stuff in?’ she said it was just a blood sample. they checked where she was on location, maybe not knowing it was shared via messages just recently before for a different case of meeting for dinner or something — and she was actually at a blood bank donation place. as soon as the friend told me this, dots were connected. just days before, i checked her location when she said ‘chemo pumping into my veins, should be done in 30’ (we were hanging out later that afternoon). she was also at a blood bank, or the park near it maybe, this one different location from the last when the friend saw it. i checked thoroughly to see if any hospitals or anything were nearby. nope. this blood donation bank does not do samples, and they do not take donations from people with cancer (obv). ANYWAY back to the friends perspective, they then received a photo of the bandage they give you. the friend responded something like ‘ohh cute, those are the ones they give you at the blood donation company’. then, they get a notification ‘___ has stopped sharing her location with you’. wtf?my confidence in knowing whether it was a lie or not fell just a week before i was told this, because she fainted (for the first time I’ve seen) at a concert we went to. that put me back in the spiral. i think that could be from lack of eating or, dare i say it, possible faked too. but it sure seemed real and i really can’t say. but from hearing this story from the friend, i was quite confident she was lying.consuming for my mental health, i started to obsessively check on the 2 days a week she claimed to get treatment. one of them, didn’t go at all, other, ended up at ANOTHER blood donation bank. a third different one. no hospital nearby. and this caused me to have a panic attack. which i never have. it triggered me so bad. the friend sure enough said later, she said to them they were at chemo that day. if you’re wondering why im getting less of this info, it may be because i started distancing myself from that part of the friendship as a defence mechanism, where previously i fed into wanting to make sure she’s taking her meds and stuff. like i said making sure she had somewhere to live killed me because no help was often taken (she did still stay here and there) and i still felt responsible. and also, she told me to my face ‘if i keep doing what im doing now, the doctors say i only have 8 months to live’ which made me cry in front of her and again spiral into making sure she was taking meds. anyway, i couldn’t do all that anymore.also last week, the two of them were hanging out ( i can’t bring myself to do so atm ). she said that she suddenly felt sick, while they were in the change room. the friend said ‘oh shit no worries let me drive u to the hospital’. she refused, and literally escaped like running away while they were in the change room. again, they checked where they were and they were at a different friends house (the one she currently stays at and says is the one curing her cancer depression). but she was texting them like she was in the hospital !!!!!!!!it’s endless crazy lies at this point. does she think im stupid?im well aware it is most likely a mental illness and she is doing this for attention and to maybe keep people from leaving in a way. but i can’t be the one to open the flood gates from all the people she’s told by bringing it up. i just want to ghost, but i haven’t, because it raises flags… but i can’t bear to see her and pretend like nothing is wrong. nope. i don’t think its my responsibility to change her when i have already been chipped away and broken from this whole thing? but at the same time of course i want her to have help and i have so much love for her. what if the lies get worse - self harm? which reminds me she has had cuts on her leg she said was from her mum. it might be true but I CANT TRUST HER at the end of the day so??? GAG i hate this and the fact I’ve mentally struggled with this aspect of the friendship for like a year and now it’s caught up to me actually hurts so much. going to 2nd counselling session in 2 weeks
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2023.06.09 09:49 vegaslikeme1 Stay away from RU58841 - went from diffuse hair to almost bald
I just wanna warn everyone here that you must stay away from this chemical. Don’t listen to Derek or people who tell you lies about a research topical drug that has none whatsoever studies on it. You will be as me going from having full hair on the top to almost bald and my hairline are so worse that I need to shave my hair and pray for getting my hair back.
I was on it for 4 month and consistently had shedding more 100 hair per day. So I decided stop altogether.
It even changed my hair structure and quality and my hair right now are frizzy and dry as hell. My hair quality looks totally damaged. Never seen my hair like that before.
I bought it from minoxidilmax for reference.
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I was on it for 4 month and consistently had shedding more 100 hair per day. So I decided stop altogether.
It even changed my hair structure and quality and my hair right now are frizzy and dry as hell. My hair quality looks totally damaged. Never seen my hair like that before.
I bought it from minoxidilmax for reference.
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2023.06.09 09:45 beginners-blog What makes an average-looking guy instantly become "hot"?
If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over - she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she's had to reject because they weren't confident enough.The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.
Most really hot girls' tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually sexual candidates.
If you don't know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.
These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.
A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?
Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can't just look at a guy and say "he's good-looking, therefore he's attractive." They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.
That's 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.
The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they're going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why do you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you're used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you're used to being with beautiful women.
This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backward for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.
Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it's very crucial that you learn this.
How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.
One very classic compliance test is "buy me a drink."
Women go for the throat here when you're in the bar because they don't have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who's not. How you respond to "buy me a drink" is very crucial when you're in a bar.
There are other small things like "Why don't you wait here while I go to the bathroom." or "Give me a kiss on the cheek" or even "Will you take a picture for us?"
Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it's from a really beautiful woman and you don't want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.
For example, if someone says, "Take our pictures." Then you will say, "Okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I asked you to take it." So if they refused to do this, and you go, "Alright, well find some other guy."
You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, "Hey man, can you take their picture?" And you just have them take your picture.But usually, they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go "Okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look." Then take their picture. "Okay now, make a silly face", and take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.
Essentially what you're doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don't know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.
So from now on, know and recognize when women is giving you a compliance test. Don't stop and don't reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.
When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you're the kind of guy who won't just do exactly what she wants.
This is one of the "Sexual Triggers" that drive beautiful women wild. The rest of them are revealed in this presentation:
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Most really hot girls' tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually sexual candidates.
If you don't know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.
These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.
A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?
Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can't just look at a guy and say "he's good-looking, therefore he's attractive." They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.
That's 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.
The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they're going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why do you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you're used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you're used to being with beautiful women.
This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backward for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.
Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it's very crucial that you learn this.
How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.
One very classic compliance test is "buy me a drink."
Women go for the throat here when you're in the bar because they don't have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who's not. How you respond to "buy me a drink" is very crucial when you're in a bar.
There are other small things like "Why don't you wait here while I go to the bathroom." or "Give me a kiss on the cheek" or even "Will you take a picture for us?"
Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it's from a really beautiful woman and you don't want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.
For example, if someone says, "Take our pictures." Then you will say, "Okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I asked you to take it." So if they refused to do this, and you go, "Alright, well find some other guy."
You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, "Hey man, can you take their picture?" And you just have them take your picture.But usually, they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go "Okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look." Then take their picture. "Okay now, make a silly face", and take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.
Essentially what you're doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don't know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.
So from now on, know and recognize when women is giving you a compliance test. Don't stop and don't reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.
When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you're the kind of guy who won't just do exactly what she wants.
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2023.06.09 09:45 pastelpinkpotato Health Anxiety - Where do I start?
Hi! I'm 24F from Philippines, currently living independently away from the province. I've been struggling with health anxiety features since 2020 but it became much worse last year after a major health issue I encountered. Apologies for the length, but I appreciate your patience. Any comments are much welcome.
TL;DR: I'm a 24-year-old woman living independently, dealing with health anxiety that has worsened after a major health issue last year. I underwent unexpected surgery and a six-month medication for a cancer scare, with physical recovery at 90% but mental struggles persisting. Anxiety triggers my GERD and vice versa, leading to sleepless nights and fear of death. I have dextroscoliosis, hyperacidity, and a recent diagnosis of hiatal hernia. Seeking help for persistent back pain, neck pressure, and nerve tingling, unsure where to start. Considering a neurologist for a brain scan or a psychiatrist for mental health support. Financial difficulties add to the challenges. Open to guidance and recommendations.
Just a background, I already struggle with a couple of conditions through the years:
*have dextroscoliosis since I was 14
*have hyperacidity, recently diagnosed with hiatal hernia (Feb 2023)
Everything went down last August 2022 when I experienced chest pain at work and was rushed to the ER. While my ECG was normal, I was advised to undergo a chest MRI due to my dextroscoliosis. Surprisingly, my spine was found to be stable, but the scan revealed a 4cm mediastinal mass near my thymus gland. Initially suspected as thymoma, a type of cancer, I sought a second opinion and consulted a thoracic cardiovascular surgeon. The TCVS specialist believed it was likely a benign tumor but advised against a direct biopsy due to its delicate location. Consequently, we opted for surgery in September. During the procedure, the tumors were successfully removed, and a frozen section indicated tuberculosis (TB) as the cause. As the remaining cysts were benign, they were also excised. After two weeks of hospitalization, a second biopsy confirmed the tuberculosis diagnosis, and I was referred to the TB program for treatment.
Surprisingly, my TB was almost asymptomatic, with only occasional chest pain as the noticeable symptom. It's alarming to realize that the virus can manifest in such a manner. I have been diligently took my prescribed medication for 6 months but I have struggled with the harsh side effects. The initial two weeks were particularly challenging, as I was recovering from surgery while enduring the medication-induced vomiting, body pain, and fatigue. Additionally, the post-surgery pills caused severe acid reflux. While sputum accompanied by acid was common, I experienced blood in my sputum once, but the doctor reassured me that it was normal. I also experienced excessive hypersalivation for three weeks, likely due to stress and anxiety, but that has subsided after a recent follow-up checkup. Overall, I underwent significant physical, mental, and emotional distress.
In March 2023, I completed my TB medication, but unfortunately, it had a negative impact on my gastrointestinal health. To address my worsening condition, I underwent an endoscopy in February 2023 while still on my TB medication. The results revealed that I have a Level 3 Hiatal Hernia and Non-erosive Gastritis. Fortunately, I tested negative for H. pylori infection and received clearance from Barrett's esophagus, stomach ulcers, and other potential diagnoses. My doctor prescribed Pantoprazole 40mg for 30 days, and since then, I have noticed a significant reduction in acid reflux and heartburn.
It is worth mentioning that during the past seven months, I have been admitted to the emergency room four times due to mistaking severe heartburn for a heart attack. These experiences have heightened my health anxiety to some extent.
Currently, I am no longer taking any medication, but I am facing challenges with persistent back pain, pressure in the upper neck, and nerve tingling. I recently had an X-ray and consulted with my orthopedic specialist, who attributed my symptoms to overwork and recommended starting physical therapy within two weeks.
However, things have worsened since then. Over the past five days, my sleep pattern has been extremely disrupted. I manage to sleep, but it's far from the restful slumber I am accustomed to. On workdays, I am grateful for just three hours of sleep. Last night was particularly difficult as I couldn't sleep at all until 7 AM. I constantly feel a sensation of choking and suffocation, even without any apparent trigger. Although my blood pressure and pulse rate are normal, I can't shake the feeling that I might die the moment I fall asleep.
Sharing this here is incredibly difficult for me, and I humbly request your patience and understanding. I'm breaking down as I type this, to be honest. I am seeking guidance on where to seek help. Should I begin by consulting a neurologist for a brain scan, as I'm unsure if my discomfort and nerve tingling are related to neurological issues? Or would it be more appropriate to start with a psychiatrist? Additionally, I would appreciate any recommendations for reputable institutions or healthcare providers, as I am currently facing financial challenges due to medical expenses incurred last year.
Thank you for taking the time to read my message. I am grateful for your support, and I extend my best wishes to everyone for their well-being and recovery.
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TL;DR: I'm a 24-year-old woman living independently, dealing with health anxiety that has worsened after a major health issue last year. I underwent unexpected surgery and a six-month medication for a cancer scare, with physical recovery at 90% but mental struggles persisting. Anxiety triggers my GERD and vice versa, leading to sleepless nights and fear of death. I have dextroscoliosis, hyperacidity, and a recent diagnosis of hiatal hernia. Seeking help for persistent back pain, neck pressure, and nerve tingling, unsure where to start. Considering a neurologist for a brain scan or a psychiatrist for mental health support. Financial difficulties add to the challenges. Open to guidance and recommendations.
Just a background, I already struggle with a couple of conditions through the years:
*have dextroscoliosis since I was 14
*have hyperacidity, recently diagnosed with hiatal hernia (Feb 2023)
Everything went down last August 2022 when I experienced chest pain at work and was rushed to the ER. While my ECG was normal, I was advised to undergo a chest MRI due to my dextroscoliosis. Surprisingly, my spine was found to be stable, but the scan revealed a 4cm mediastinal mass near my thymus gland. Initially suspected as thymoma, a type of cancer, I sought a second opinion and consulted a thoracic cardiovascular surgeon. The TCVS specialist believed it was likely a benign tumor but advised against a direct biopsy due to its delicate location. Consequently, we opted for surgery in September. During the procedure, the tumors were successfully removed, and a frozen section indicated tuberculosis (TB) as the cause. As the remaining cysts were benign, they were also excised. After two weeks of hospitalization, a second biopsy confirmed the tuberculosis diagnosis, and I was referred to the TB program for treatment.
Surprisingly, my TB was almost asymptomatic, with only occasional chest pain as the noticeable symptom. It's alarming to realize that the virus can manifest in such a manner. I have been diligently took my prescribed medication for 6 months but I have struggled with the harsh side effects. The initial two weeks were particularly challenging, as I was recovering from surgery while enduring the medication-induced vomiting, body pain, and fatigue. Additionally, the post-surgery pills caused severe acid reflux. While sputum accompanied by acid was common, I experienced blood in my sputum once, but the doctor reassured me that it was normal. I also experienced excessive hypersalivation for three weeks, likely due to stress and anxiety, but that has subsided after a recent follow-up checkup. Overall, I underwent significant physical, mental, and emotional distress.
In March 2023, I completed my TB medication, but unfortunately, it had a negative impact on my gastrointestinal health. To address my worsening condition, I underwent an endoscopy in February 2023 while still on my TB medication. The results revealed that I have a Level 3 Hiatal Hernia and Non-erosive Gastritis. Fortunately, I tested negative for H. pylori infection and received clearance from Barrett's esophagus, stomach ulcers, and other potential diagnoses. My doctor prescribed Pantoprazole 40mg for 30 days, and since then, I have noticed a significant reduction in acid reflux and heartburn.
It is worth mentioning that during the past seven months, I have been admitted to the emergency room four times due to mistaking severe heartburn for a heart attack. These experiences have heightened my health anxiety to some extent.
Currently, I am no longer taking any medication, but I am facing challenges with persistent back pain, pressure in the upper neck, and nerve tingling. I recently had an X-ray and consulted with my orthopedic specialist, who attributed my symptoms to overwork and recommended starting physical therapy within two weeks.
However, things have worsened since then. Over the past five days, my sleep pattern has been extremely disrupted. I manage to sleep, but it's far from the restful slumber I am accustomed to. On workdays, I am grateful for just three hours of sleep. Last night was particularly difficult as I couldn't sleep at all until 7 AM. I constantly feel a sensation of choking and suffocation, even without any apparent trigger. Although my blood pressure and pulse rate are normal, I can't shake the feeling that I might die the moment I fall asleep.
Sharing this here is incredibly difficult for me, and I humbly request your patience and understanding. I'm breaking down as I type this, to be honest. I am seeking guidance on where to seek help. Should I begin by consulting a neurologist for a brain scan, as I'm unsure if my discomfort and nerve tingling are related to neurological issues? Or would it be more appropriate to start with a psychiatrist? Additionally, I would appreciate any recommendations for reputable institutions or healthcare providers, as I am currently facing financial challenges due to medical expenses incurred last year.
Thank you for taking the time to read my message. I am grateful for your support, and I extend my best wishes to everyone for their well-being and recovery.
2023.06.09 09:44 bodieslaughing why do i feel more connected to fictional things than reality?
i spend a lot of time daydreaming and consuming media.
i’m genuinely not sure if i love my family more than the celebrities and fictional characters i love. like of course i care about my family and don’t want anything bad to happen to them. but i kind of don’t enjoy being around them or anyone.
i can’t say “i love you” to people, including my family. i’ve realized lately that maybe my intrusive thoughts involving family members has made me more distant. with my intrusive thoughts, saying “i love you” or any touching feels perverted. but also i just hate being touched by anyone. in my daydreams sometimes i’ll hug/cuddle or touch someone if i view them romantically but i don’t know if i’d ever actually enjoy that irl which makes me sad.
in my daydreams i am around celebrities and fictional characters and enjoy that fake socialization but hate real socializing. i don’t have friends and don’t talk to people other than family. there are people online who have the same interests as me that i want to reach out to but never do. i have parasocial relationships in my head with some people i follow online (nothing inappropriate just imagining being their friend and talking openly with them.) i feel creepy about it but i prefer keeping this parasocial relationship to reaching out because any conversation i have dies down quickly i have nothing to say.
social situations are so draining. my body aches just from being around people. i’m only comfortable when i’m home alone. i really only leave my room to eat and use bathroom but i feel like i’m being watched anytime i’m around anyone. when i’m completely alone i can talk to myself freely, sing, clean, do whatever and feel ok about it. i don’t even have the urge to act the way i do when alone around others. i just completely shut down and become a different person.
i’m so moody but if anyone raises their voice at me slightly i’ll start crying when they leave the room. i’m not someone that hates people i just want them at a distance.
i have ocd, selective mutism, autism, depression and anxiety and i don’t know if this is related to those or i have some other problem. i almost never leave the house anymore. not self diagnosing but avoidant personality disorder does sound applicable to me from what i’ve read about it.
i’m in therapy and on meds. with selective mutism i can’t talk to my therapist i just nod and sometimes write but can’t write much. i think my meds have made me even more apathetic towards real people but i’ve been on so many different meds and i think something’s wrong everytime so it might just be me looking for something wrong. i’ve always been shy and kind of spacey but nowhere near as bad as i’ve been for the past few years.
i’ve tried meditation and breathing exercises for over a year straight and can’t get used to them. when i’m aware of my breathing it makes my chest tight and i can’t focus for more than 5 minutes.
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i’m genuinely not sure if i love my family more than the celebrities and fictional characters i love. like of course i care about my family and don’t want anything bad to happen to them. but i kind of don’t enjoy being around them or anyone.
i can’t say “i love you” to people, including my family. i’ve realized lately that maybe my intrusive thoughts involving family members has made me more distant. with my intrusive thoughts, saying “i love you” or any touching feels perverted. but also i just hate being touched by anyone. in my daydreams sometimes i’ll hug/cuddle or touch someone if i view them romantically but i don’t know if i’d ever actually enjoy that irl which makes me sad.
in my daydreams i am around celebrities and fictional characters and enjoy that fake socialization but hate real socializing. i don’t have friends and don’t talk to people other than family. there are people online who have the same interests as me that i want to reach out to but never do. i have parasocial relationships in my head with some people i follow online (nothing inappropriate just imagining being their friend and talking openly with them.) i feel creepy about it but i prefer keeping this parasocial relationship to reaching out because any conversation i have dies down quickly i have nothing to say.
social situations are so draining. my body aches just from being around people. i’m only comfortable when i’m home alone. i really only leave my room to eat and use bathroom but i feel like i’m being watched anytime i’m around anyone. when i’m completely alone i can talk to myself freely, sing, clean, do whatever and feel ok about it. i don’t even have the urge to act the way i do when alone around others. i just completely shut down and become a different person.
i’m so moody but if anyone raises their voice at me slightly i’ll start crying when they leave the room. i’m not someone that hates people i just want them at a distance.
i have ocd, selective mutism, autism, depression and anxiety and i don’t know if this is related to those or i have some other problem. i almost never leave the house anymore. not self diagnosing but avoidant personality disorder does sound applicable to me from what i’ve read about it.
i’m in therapy and on meds. with selective mutism i can’t talk to my therapist i just nod and sometimes write but can’t write much. i think my meds have made me even more apathetic towards real people but i’ve been on so many different meds and i think something’s wrong everytime so it might just be me looking for something wrong. i’ve always been shy and kind of spacey but nowhere near as bad as i’ve been for the past few years.
i’ve tried meditation and breathing exercises for over a year straight and can’t get used to them. when i’m aware of my breathing it makes my chest tight and i can’t focus for more than 5 minutes.
2023.06.09 09:44 HouseRoutine Help with finding hair type
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2023.06.09 09:42 unfinishedmango Narcissistic and bipolar Mother
Hello!
My boyfriend has a narcissistic and bipolar mother. We have been dating for almost 3 years and when I lived with them, it was a nightmare. After living with his family for only a couple of months, it was clear that she played favourites and manipulated everybody to get her way through guilt and shame.
For context, she is divorced, and her daughter and her son (my boyfriend) live with her. She kindly opened her home to me when I was having family issues, however, that turned into a quick transaction for her. I paid rent, but there was an emotional transaction. Near the end of my stay at their house, she started to blame me for all of their family issues. She blamed me for my boyfriend and his sister not being able to get along, even though they never had a good relationship to begin with. She continues to shame, guilt and her victim complex to abuse my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is currently still living with her due to his financial situation, but he has come to terms that his mother is a narcissist, and will never have the same empathy as a normal person. He continues to defend me and respect my wishes to not have a relationship with her.
I no longer felt welcomed and returned to my home where I was able to rebuild my relationship with my family. Fast forward a lot of traumatic events, I have blocked her on all social media, and I do not want a relationship with her.
Recently, my boyfriend had heat exhaustion and drove to my house because it was the closer option. He left his car at my house under the impression that he would grab it the next day. Unknowingly, his mother took it upon herself to pick up the car at my house. My boyfriend pays for the insurance, gas and the car itself. He got this car when he was 17 years old and I don’t think he’s a principal driver on it but he is the primary driver.
She rang the doorbell four times even though she knew I wasn’t at home. It was all caught on video and it was creepy since my boyfriend said he would pick it up tomorrow but she still came anyways and took it upon herself to pick up the car.
I don’t want my boyfriend’s mother to go to these lengths to keep controlling him. It’s difficult due to his financial situation and inflation but what do you think should be the best course of action? For the most part, as long as my boyfriend is working and making money, she stays off his back. But from time to time she goes crazy and becomes unhinged. She also hates the fact that I’ve set a boundary with her and will do anything to keep a relationship with me, despite how much she shit talks me and calls me derogatory names to her friends.
His mother is 64 years old. I have tried to repair the relationship multiple times but everything that comes out of her mouth is different than her actions.
Should my boyfriend just get a new car under his name?
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My boyfriend has a narcissistic and bipolar mother. We have been dating for almost 3 years and when I lived with them, it was a nightmare. After living with his family for only a couple of months, it was clear that she played favourites and manipulated everybody to get her way through guilt and shame.
For context, she is divorced, and her daughter and her son (my boyfriend) live with her. She kindly opened her home to me when I was having family issues, however, that turned into a quick transaction for her. I paid rent, but there was an emotional transaction. Near the end of my stay at their house, she started to blame me for all of their family issues. She blamed me for my boyfriend and his sister not being able to get along, even though they never had a good relationship to begin with. She continues to shame, guilt and her victim complex to abuse my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is currently still living with her due to his financial situation, but he has come to terms that his mother is a narcissist, and will never have the same empathy as a normal person. He continues to defend me and respect my wishes to not have a relationship with her.
I no longer felt welcomed and returned to my home where I was able to rebuild my relationship with my family. Fast forward a lot of traumatic events, I have blocked her on all social media, and I do not want a relationship with her.
Recently, my boyfriend had heat exhaustion and drove to my house because it was the closer option. He left his car at my house under the impression that he would grab it the next day. Unknowingly, his mother took it upon herself to pick up the car at my house. My boyfriend pays for the insurance, gas and the car itself. He got this car when he was 17 years old and I don’t think he’s a principal driver on it but he is the primary driver.
She rang the doorbell four times even though she knew I wasn’t at home. It was all caught on video and it was creepy since my boyfriend said he would pick it up tomorrow but she still came anyways and took it upon herself to pick up the car.
I don’t want my boyfriend’s mother to go to these lengths to keep controlling him. It’s difficult due to his financial situation and inflation but what do you think should be the best course of action? For the most part, as long as my boyfriend is working and making money, she stays off his back. But from time to time she goes crazy and becomes unhinged. She also hates the fact that I’ve set a boundary with her and will do anything to keep a relationship with me, despite how much she shit talks me and calls me derogatory names to her friends.
His mother is 64 years old. I have tried to repair the relationship multiple times but everything that comes out of her mouth is different than her actions.
Should my boyfriend just get a new car under his name?
2023.06.09 09:42 Generic_drawings My mom is trying to take back the eating disorder she gave me.
My mom is slavic, and my dad is Mexican. Now, as we all know, being thin is the ideal beauty standard in slavic countries, and most women there are graced with fast metabolisms. Mexicans, on the other hand, are common targets for conditions like PCOS that prevent weight loss.
I took after my dad's side.
My mom used to limit me to one slice of bread a day. She used to make comments on my weight and the way I looked. I was an ugly, overweight girl when I went through puberty. I did ballet four hours a day, and still managed to be three pounds overweight (due to my extremely and horribly unbalanced hormones). My mom thought that my weight gain was caused by unhealthy binge eating, and I wasn't allowed to eat anything "unhealthy". There would be no snacks in the house, no sugary drinks, nothing.
After puberty, I grew out of my "ugly" face, and became conventionally attractive. I lost fourty pounds because I developed an eating disorder. My acne was gone, I took care of my hair and eyebrows, and my face was pretty.
It took a while for my mom to notice my anorexia and bulimia. It started when she realized I skipped lunch and breakfast, and went directly to school. She began to attempt to wake up early to make me eat breakfast or take the lunch she made me to school. She would encourage me to go out to eat with her, but I am so uncomfortable eating in front of her.
I came back from college over the summer. We got on the topic of food, and she asked me what I do for lunch. I told her that me and a few other girls have no classes at a similar time, and we sit together. I realized she was crying when I told her that I don't eat lunch, and that I sort of just watch the other girls eat.
I don't know how to feel. She talks so horribly about my brother who is overweight that I'm terrified of being "fat". I think I like it now that she worries about me, but I don't know.
I wish I could be like the girls I sit during breaks with. They all eat without a care in the world, knowing their metabolism will have their back. I just have to sit and watch. They don't have to work out, they don't have to starve, it isn't fair. Having balanced hormones is something so normal, but it looks like a privilege to me. A privilege I will never have.
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I took after my dad's side.
My mom used to limit me to one slice of bread a day. She used to make comments on my weight and the way I looked. I was an ugly, overweight girl when I went through puberty. I did ballet four hours a day, and still managed to be three pounds overweight (due to my extremely and horribly unbalanced hormones). My mom thought that my weight gain was caused by unhealthy binge eating, and I wasn't allowed to eat anything "unhealthy". There would be no snacks in the house, no sugary drinks, nothing.
After puberty, I grew out of my "ugly" face, and became conventionally attractive. I lost fourty pounds because I developed an eating disorder. My acne was gone, I took care of my hair and eyebrows, and my face was pretty.
It took a while for my mom to notice my anorexia and bulimia. It started when she realized I skipped lunch and breakfast, and went directly to school. She began to attempt to wake up early to make me eat breakfast or take the lunch she made me to school. She would encourage me to go out to eat with her, but I am so uncomfortable eating in front of her.
I came back from college over the summer. We got on the topic of food, and she asked me what I do for lunch. I told her that me and a few other girls have no classes at a similar time, and we sit together. I realized she was crying when I told her that I don't eat lunch, and that I sort of just watch the other girls eat.
I don't know how to feel. She talks so horribly about my brother who is overweight that I'm terrified of being "fat". I think I like it now that she worries about me, but I don't know.
I wish I could be like the girls I sit during breaks with. They all eat without a care in the world, knowing their metabolism will have their back. I just have to sit and watch. They don't have to work out, they don't have to starve, it isn't fair. Having balanced hormones is something so normal, but it looks like a privilege to me. A privilege I will never have.
2023.06.09 09:42 Disastrous-Swim-7086 AITA for using other men when I lack physical presence from my bf?
I, (16F) and my boyfriend (15M), have been together since the 6th grade (4 years). Our parents dont like each other and his parents HATE me. This has led to visits being less frequent since we go to different schools and live about 30 minutes away from each other (driving). Ever since high school started, I lacked the attention and physical presence from my boyfriend so much, that when a friend of mine (15M at the time) had a crush on me, I took the attention he gave me and loved it. There was nothing physically or personality-wise attractive about this guy, but I loved how he would give me attention and was actually there. This guy is not in my life anymore, but its happening again with a new guy who is a year younger than me. He's claiming he loves me after all of this and now I feel like the asshole. I would pretend him and the other guy were my boyfriend to feel something. Not sure what, but something. No kissing or s** was involved with both guys. No dating, but I just took the attention and acted innocent and ignorant. I still love my boyfriend very much and I wish circumstances would allow him to be near me more than just one time every 3-5 months. Am I the asshole?
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2023.06.09 09:42 weddingmydeals83 Wedding Car Rental Near me
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2023.06.09 09:41 honeymartiaan How do I (23f) deal with workplace jealousy? Bf is 25m
My boyfriend works in a female dominated field. We have been together since before he started this job (2 years together, 1 at this company) he is the only man in his department of the office and has made it clear he is in a committed relationship. His is a tall and handsome with long hair and a gorgeous, friendly smile.
He has set boundaries with a few coworkers who have been a little too friendly. Examples are inviting him over to events, church and parties, which he always politely declines. His company has a work group chat so they all have his number and every once in a while some of these women will text him separately. (Sending him memes, tiktoks, asking what he wants from Starbucks, not work related stuff) this come across to me as flirty and while I’m glad he is honest enough to tell me, I can’t help but feel uncomfortable that they want him, or at the very least his attention.
The examples are all admittedly pretty small, however it still makes me upset to think about him being around these people every day.
He knows how I feel and reassures me I have nothing to worry about, he loves me and is only attracted to me. Please don’t come at him as he isn’t doing anything wrong. (He doesn’t engage in conversation at work except the bare minimum small talk to be polite) The advice I’m seeking is how do I accept the inevitable fact that other women will be attracted to him? And how do I deal with those women being people he works with and has to interact with everyday?
TLDR: women at bfs work bid for his attention and it makes me uncomfortable. He has set boundaries, what can I do to feel safe?
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He has set boundaries with a few coworkers who have been a little too friendly. Examples are inviting him over to events, church and parties, which he always politely declines. His company has a work group chat so they all have his number and every once in a while some of these women will text him separately. (Sending him memes, tiktoks, asking what he wants from Starbucks, not work related stuff) this come across to me as flirty and while I’m glad he is honest enough to tell me, I can’t help but feel uncomfortable that they want him, or at the very least his attention.
The examples are all admittedly pretty small, however it still makes me upset to think about him being around these people every day.
He knows how I feel and reassures me I have nothing to worry about, he loves me and is only attracted to me. Please don’t come at him as he isn’t doing anything wrong. (He doesn’t engage in conversation at work except the bare minimum small talk to be polite) The advice I’m seeking is how do I accept the inevitable fact that other women will be attracted to him? And how do I deal with those women being people he works with and has to interact with everyday?
TLDR: women at bfs work bid for his attention and it makes me uncomfortable. He has set boundaries, what can I do to feel safe?
2023.06.09 09:40 pastelpinkpotato Health Anxiety - Where do I start?
Hi! I'm 24F, currently living independently away from the province. I've been struggling with health anxiety features since 2020 but it became much worse last year after a major health issue I encountered. Apologies for the length, but I appreciate your patience. Any comments are much welcome.
TL;DR: I'm a 24-year-old woman living independently, dealing with health anxiety that has worsened after a major health issue last year. I underwent unexpected surgery and a six-month medication for a cancer scare, with physical recovery at 90% but mental struggles persisting. Anxiety triggers my GERD and vice versa, leading to sleepless nights and fear of death. I have dextroscoliosis, hyperacidity, and a recent diagnosis of hiatal hernia. Seeking help for persistent back pain, neck pressure, and nerve tingling, unsure where to start. Considering a neurologist for a brain scan or a psychiatrist for mental health support. Financial difficulties add to the challenges. Open to guidance and recommendations.
Just a background, I already struggle with a couple of conditions through the years: *have dextroscoliosis since I was 14 *have hyperacidity, recently diagnosed with hiatal hernia (Feb 2023)
Everything went down last August 2022 when I experienced chest pain at work and was rushed to the ER. While my ECG was normal, I was advised to undergo a chest MRI due to my dextroscoliosis. Surprisingly, my spine was found to be stable, but the scan revealed a 4cm mediastinal mass near my thymus gland. Initially suspected as thymoma, a type of cancer, I sought a second opinion and consulted a thoracic cardiovascular surgeon. The TCVS specialist believed it was likely a benign tumor but advised against a direct biopsy due to its delicate location. Consequently, we opted for surgery in September. During the procedure, the tumors were successfully removed, and a frozen section indicated tuberculosis (TB) as the cause. As the remaining cysts were benign, they were also excised. After two weeks of hospitalization, a second biopsy confirmed the tuberculosis diagnosis, and I was referred to the TB program for treatment.
Surprisingly, my TB was almost asymptomatic, with only occasional chest pain as the noticeable symptom. It's alarming to realize that the virus can manifest in such a manner. I have been diligently took my prescribed medication for 6 months but I have struggled with the harsh side effects. The initial two weeks were particularly challenging, as I was recovering from surgery while enduring the medication-induced vomiting, body pain, and fatigue. Additionally, the post-surgery pills caused severe acid reflux. While sputum accompanied by acid was common, I experienced blood in my sputum once, but the doctor reassured me that it was normal. I also experienced excessive hypersalivation for three weeks, likely due to stress and anxiety, but that has subsided after a recent follow-up checkup. Overall, I underwent significant physical, mental, and emotional distress.
In March 2023, I completed my TB medication, but unfortunately, it had a negative impact on my gastrointestinal health. To address my worsening condition, I underwent an endoscopy in February 2023 while still on my TB medication. The results revealed that I have a Level 3 Hiatal Hernia and Non-erosive Gastritis. Fortunately, I tested negative for H. pylori infection and received clearance from Barrett's esophagus, stomach ulcers, and other potential diagnoses. My doctor prescribed Pantoprazole 40mg for 30 days, and since then, I have noticed a significant reduction in acid reflux and heartburn.
It is worth mentioning that during the past seven months, I have been admitted to the emergency room four times due to mistaking severe heartburn for a heart attack. These experiences have heightened my health anxiety to some extent.
Currently, I am no longer taking any medication, but I am facing challenges with persistent back pain, pressure in the upper neck, and nerve tingling. I recently had an X-ray and consulted with my orthopedic specialist, who attributed my symptoms to overwork and recommended starting physical therapy within two weeks.
However, things have worsened since then. Over the past five days, my sleep pattern has been extremely disrupted. I manage to sleep, but it's far from the restful slumber I am accustomed to. On workdays, I am grateful for just three hours of sleep. Last night was particularly difficult as I couldn't sleep at all until 7 AM. I constantly feel a sensation of choking and suffocation, even without any apparent trigger. Although my blood pressure and pulse rate are normal, I can't shake the feeling that I might die the moment I fall asleep.
Sharing this here is incredibly difficult for me, and I humbly request your patience and understanding. I'm breaking down as I type this, to be honest. I am seeking guidance on where to seek help. Should I begin by consulting a neurologist for a brain scan, as I'm unsure if my discomfort and nerve tingling are related to neurological issues? Or would it be more appropriate to start with a psychiatrist? Additionally, I would appreciate any recommendations for reputable institutions or healthcare providers, as I am currently facing financial challenges due to medical expenses incurred last year.
Thank you for taking the time to read my message. I am grateful for your support, and I extend my best wishes to everyone for their well-being and recovery.
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TL;DR: I'm a 24-year-old woman living independently, dealing with health anxiety that has worsened after a major health issue last year. I underwent unexpected surgery and a six-month medication for a cancer scare, with physical recovery at 90% but mental struggles persisting. Anxiety triggers my GERD and vice versa, leading to sleepless nights and fear of death. I have dextroscoliosis, hyperacidity, and a recent diagnosis of hiatal hernia. Seeking help for persistent back pain, neck pressure, and nerve tingling, unsure where to start. Considering a neurologist for a brain scan or a psychiatrist for mental health support. Financial difficulties add to the challenges. Open to guidance and recommendations.
Just a background, I already struggle with a couple of conditions through the years: *have dextroscoliosis since I was 14 *have hyperacidity, recently diagnosed with hiatal hernia (Feb 2023)
Everything went down last August 2022 when I experienced chest pain at work and was rushed to the ER. While my ECG was normal, I was advised to undergo a chest MRI due to my dextroscoliosis. Surprisingly, my spine was found to be stable, but the scan revealed a 4cm mediastinal mass near my thymus gland. Initially suspected as thymoma, a type of cancer, I sought a second opinion and consulted a thoracic cardiovascular surgeon. The TCVS specialist believed it was likely a benign tumor but advised against a direct biopsy due to its delicate location. Consequently, we opted for surgery in September. During the procedure, the tumors were successfully removed, and a frozen section indicated tuberculosis (TB) as the cause. As the remaining cysts were benign, they were also excised. After two weeks of hospitalization, a second biopsy confirmed the tuberculosis diagnosis, and I was referred to the TB program for treatment.
Surprisingly, my TB was almost asymptomatic, with only occasional chest pain as the noticeable symptom. It's alarming to realize that the virus can manifest in such a manner. I have been diligently took my prescribed medication for 6 months but I have struggled with the harsh side effects. The initial two weeks were particularly challenging, as I was recovering from surgery while enduring the medication-induced vomiting, body pain, and fatigue. Additionally, the post-surgery pills caused severe acid reflux. While sputum accompanied by acid was common, I experienced blood in my sputum once, but the doctor reassured me that it was normal. I also experienced excessive hypersalivation for three weeks, likely due to stress and anxiety, but that has subsided after a recent follow-up checkup. Overall, I underwent significant physical, mental, and emotional distress.
In March 2023, I completed my TB medication, but unfortunately, it had a negative impact on my gastrointestinal health. To address my worsening condition, I underwent an endoscopy in February 2023 while still on my TB medication. The results revealed that I have a Level 3 Hiatal Hernia and Non-erosive Gastritis. Fortunately, I tested negative for H. pylori infection and received clearance from Barrett's esophagus, stomach ulcers, and other potential diagnoses. My doctor prescribed Pantoprazole 40mg for 30 days, and since then, I have noticed a significant reduction in acid reflux and heartburn.
It is worth mentioning that during the past seven months, I have been admitted to the emergency room four times due to mistaking severe heartburn for a heart attack. These experiences have heightened my health anxiety to some extent.
Currently, I am no longer taking any medication, but I am facing challenges with persistent back pain, pressure in the upper neck, and nerve tingling. I recently had an X-ray and consulted with my orthopedic specialist, who attributed my symptoms to overwork and recommended starting physical therapy within two weeks.
However, things have worsened since then. Over the past five days, my sleep pattern has been extremely disrupted. I manage to sleep, but it's far from the restful slumber I am accustomed to. On workdays, I am grateful for just three hours of sleep. Last night was particularly difficult as I couldn't sleep at all until 7 AM. I constantly feel a sensation of choking and suffocation, even without any apparent trigger. Although my blood pressure and pulse rate are normal, I can't shake the feeling that I might die the moment I fall asleep.
Sharing this here is incredibly difficult for me, and I humbly request your patience and understanding. I'm breaking down as I type this, to be honest. I am seeking guidance on where to seek help. Should I begin by consulting a neurologist for a brain scan, as I'm unsure if my discomfort and nerve tingling are related to neurological issues? Or would it be more appropriate to start with a psychiatrist? Additionally, I would appreciate any recommendations for reputable institutions or healthcare providers, as I am currently facing financial challenges due to medical expenses incurred last year.
Thank you for taking the time to read my message. I am grateful for your support, and I extend my best wishes to everyone for their well-being and recovery.
2023.06.09 09:40 throw_l_away FTB purchasing flat with nightmare lease
Am going through a nightmare with my purchase of a leasehold in London, any advice appreciated.
The first issue was that the ground rent was set to increase every 5 years in line with RPI. While my lender (Barclays) accepted this my solicitor warned that most won’t and this will highly impact the resalability of the flat. So after a lot of teeth pulling I managed to get the seller to agree to filing and assigning me a Section 42 lease extension upon exchange and reduced the purchase price by the premium estimate given by a surveyor. This is so that the ground rent can be peppercorned (the lease itself is already long, 200+ years).
Now a week before exchange Barclays says they are refusing to lend because the lease also lacks a mortgagee protection clause so there is no obligation for the freeholder to give notice in the event of a forfeiture claim if ground rent is unpaid. My solicitor asked them if indemnity insurance would do instead but they put their foot down and demanded the clause be added by deed of variation.
This is so disappointing and I am tearing my hair out. The sellers are going to ask the freeholder for a deed of variation to add the mortgagee protection clause but I think they are unlikely to agree due to a history of being difficult. In the meanwhile my solicitor is trying to write to Barclays explaining that I am pursuing a lease extension to peppercorn the ground rent, and that there is a law called the CPR requirement which requires the freeholder to serve them notice in the event of a forfeiture claim (albeit no obligation to notify them prior to issuing it).
This is just a disaster and I am really stressed especially as I thought everything was solved. I appreciate this is a very specific situation but any advice at all would be appreciated.
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The first issue was that the ground rent was set to increase every 5 years in line with RPI. While my lender (Barclays) accepted this my solicitor warned that most won’t and this will highly impact the resalability of the flat. So after a lot of teeth pulling I managed to get the seller to agree to filing and assigning me a Section 42 lease extension upon exchange and reduced the purchase price by the premium estimate given by a surveyor. This is so that the ground rent can be peppercorned (the lease itself is already long, 200+ years).
Now a week before exchange Barclays says they are refusing to lend because the lease also lacks a mortgagee protection clause so there is no obligation for the freeholder to give notice in the event of a forfeiture claim if ground rent is unpaid. My solicitor asked them if indemnity insurance would do instead but they put their foot down and demanded the clause be added by deed of variation.
This is so disappointing and I am tearing my hair out. The sellers are going to ask the freeholder for a deed of variation to add the mortgagee protection clause but I think they are unlikely to agree due to a history of being difficult. In the meanwhile my solicitor is trying to write to Barclays explaining that I am pursuing a lease extension to peppercorn the ground rent, and that there is a law called the CPR requirement which requires the freeholder to serve them notice in the event of a forfeiture claim (albeit no obligation to notify them prior to issuing it).
This is just a disaster and I am really stressed especially as I thought everything was solved. I appreciate this is a very specific situation but any advice at all would be appreciated.
2023.06.09 09:38 Admirable_Adagio4419 Nightmare
I’ve just woken up. And after the dream I just experienced I had to get it on paper.
I haven’t really posted on Reddit for a while but I remember this subreddit so I had to post this as this was intense plus I’m questioning it. So;
My father was in my bedroom complaining about his side. On about a medicine (tablets) I told him to calm down and chill out. I remember the sepsis he had at that point.
Then I was on a mountain/ hill with dad and spud …. There was a boxing ring being built to which I said ‘when are you doing this then?’ Spud replied ‘doing it bit by bit’ I replied ‘that’s the best way in it’
Dad then showed up and was really tired, almost in agonising pain, struggling. I tried to get him down the hill. He put his arm around me and I couldn’t take his weight, I fell on to the one arm I had free which then caved and I screamed ‘argh my arm’
I was then back in my house and it was early hours (3am) My dad still struggling, I could hear a grinder in the distance and thought ‘what the hell is this guy playing at?’ I looked out my bedroom window and could see someone in the distance making his way towards my house. Using a chainsaw to cut through everything. This psycho was dressed in overalls, welders helmet and equipped to destroy.
They cut through my neighbours walls and entered and then I could hear them starting to cut through my wall. My dad was passed out on the floor down stairs with cardboard wrapped around him.
I panicked and tried to pull him in to the kitchen to hide from this psycho but he was nearly through in to the living room. I ran to the kitchen to grab knives and waited on the corner of the door ready to attack.
The psycho jumps in to the room. Looks at my dad on the floor and I was about to rush him because I thought he was going to swing his axe at my father but he didn’t. He broke the front window and jumped out.
I then woke up.
My father passed away in January from sepsis and I was really close to him as he was to me.
What the hell?
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I haven’t really posted on Reddit for a while but I remember this subreddit so I had to post this as this was intense plus I’m questioning it. So;
My father was in my bedroom complaining about his side. On about a medicine (tablets) I told him to calm down and chill out. I remember the sepsis he had at that point.
Then I was on a mountain/ hill with dad and spud …. There was a boxing ring being built to which I said ‘when are you doing this then?’ Spud replied ‘doing it bit by bit’ I replied ‘that’s the best way in it’
Dad then showed up and was really tired, almost in agonising pain, struggling. I tried to get him down the hill. He put his arm around me and I couldn’t take his weight, I fell on to the one arm I had free which then caved and I screamed ‘argh my arm’
I was then back in my house and it was early hours (3am) My dad still struggling, I could hear a grinder in the distance and thought ‘what the hell is this guy playing at?’ I looked out my bedroom window and could see someone in the distance making his way towards my house. Using a chainsaw to cut through everything. This psycho was dressed in overalls, welders helmet and equipped to destroy.
They cut through my neighbours walls and entered and then I could hear them starting to cut through my wall. My dad was passed out on the floor down stairs with cardboard wrapped around him.
I panicked and tried to pull him in to the kitchen to hide from this psycho but he was nearly through in to the living room. I ran to the kitchen to grab knives and waited on the corner of the door ready to attack.
The psycho jumps in to the room. Looks at my dad on the floor and I was about to rush him because I thought he was going to swing his axe at my father but he didn’t. He broke the front window and jumped out.
I then woke up.
My father passed away in January from sepsis and I was really close to him as he was to me.
What the hell?
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2023.06.09 09:37 unfinishedmango Narcissistic and bipolar Mother
Hello!
My boyfriend has a narcissistic and bipolar mother. We have been dating for almost 3 years and when I lived with them, it was a nightmare. After living with his family for only a couple of months, it was clear that she played favourites and manipulated everybody to get her way through guilt and shame.
For context, she is divorced, and her daughter and her son (my boyfriend) live with her. She kindly opened her home to me when I was having family issues, however, that turned into a quick transaction for her. I paid rent, but there was an emotional transaction. Near the end of my stay at their house, she started to blame me for all of their family issues. She blamed me for my boyfriend and his sister not being able to get along, even though they never had a good relationship to begin with. She continues to shame, guilt and her victim complex to abuse my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is currently still living with her due to his financial situation, but he has come to terms that his mother is a narcissist, and will never have the same empathy as a normal person. He continues to defend me and respect my wishes to not have a relationship with her.
I no longer felt welcomed and returned to my home where I was able to rebuild my relationship with my family. Fast forward a lot of traumatic events, I have blocked her on all social media, and I do not want a relationship with her.
Recently, my boyfriend had heat exhaustion and drove to my house because it was the closer option. He left his car at my house under the impression that he would grab it the next day. Unknowingly, his mother took it upon herself to pick up the car at my house. My boyfriend pays for the insurance, gas and the car itself. He got this car when he was 17 years old and I don’t think he’s a principal driver on it but he is the primary driver.
She rang the doorbell four times even though she knew I wasn’t at home. It was all caught on video and it was creepy since my boyfriend said he would pick it up tomorrow but she still came anyways and took it upon herself to pick up the car.
I don’t want my boyfriend’s mother to go to these lengths to keep controlling him. It’s difficult due to his financial situation and inflation but what do you think should be the best course of action? For the most part, as long as my boyfriend is working and making money, she stays off his back. But from time to time she goes crazy and becomes unhinged. She also hates the fact that I’ve set a boundary with her and will do anything to keep a relationship with me, despite how much she shit talks me and calls me derogatory names to her friends.
His mother is 64 years old. I have tried to repair the relationship multiple times but everything that comes out of her mouth is different than her actions.
Should my boyfriend just get a new car under his name?
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My boyfriend has a narcissistic and bipolar mother. We have been dating for almost 3 years and when I lived with them, it was a nightmare. After living with his family for only a couple of months, it was clear that she played favourites and manipulated everybody to get her way through guilt and shame.
For context, she is divorced, and her daughter and her son (my boyfriend) live with her. She kindly opened her home to me when I was having family issues, however, that turned into a quick transaction for her. I paid rent, but there was an emotional transaction. Near the end of my stay at their house, she started to blame me for all of their family issues. She blamed me for my boyfriend and his sister not being able to get along, even though they never had a good relationship to begin with. She continues to shame, guilt and her victim complex to abuse my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is currently still living with her due to his financial situation, but he has come to terms that his mother is a narcissist, and will never have the same empathy as a normal person. He continues to defend me and respect my wishes to not have a relationship with her.
I no longer felt welcomed and returned to my home where I was able to rebuild my relationship with my family. Fast forward a lot of traumatic events, I have blocked her on all social media, and I do not want a relationship with her.
Recently, my boyfriend had heat exhaustion and drove to my house because it was the closer option. He left his car at my house under the impression that he would grab it the next day. Unknowingly, his mother took it upon herself to pick up the car at my house. My boyfriend pays for the insurance, gas and the car itself. He got this car when he was 17 years old and I don’t think he’s a principal driver on it but he is the primary driver.
She rang the doorbell four times even though she knew I wasn’t at home. It was all caught on video and it was creepy since my boyfriend said he would pick it up tomorrow but she still came anyways and took it upon herself to pick up the car.
I don’t want my boyfriend’s mother to go to these lengths to keep controlling him. It’s difficult due to his financial situation and inflation but what do you think should be the best course of action? For the most part, as long as my boyfriend is working and making money, she stays off his back. But from time to time she goes crazy and becomes unhinged. She also hates the fact that I’ve set a boundary with her and will do anything to keep a relationship with me, despite how much she shit talks me and calls me derogatory names to her friends.
His mother is 64 years old. I have tried to repair the relationship multiple times but everything that comes out of her mouth is different than her actions.
Should my boyfriend just get a new car under his name?