Volunteers of lorain county dog kennel | | How do other NYers feel about ACC’s stellar record rehoming dogs?

To be clear from the jump: I know that the ACC is bomb. I used to volunteer there, I’m currently fostering a dog from there through a New Hope rescue partner, and I’ll always recommend them to people who need to surrender or are looking to adopt. The people who work/volunteer there are so kind to both humans and animals.
But I’m increasingly uncomfortable with how good they are at maintaining their practically no-kill status. I worry that the pendulum has swung too far: from euthanizing too quickly, to not euthanizing even when it’s called for. I just feel like some of these dogs shouldn’t be sharing our narrow sidewalks with people, kids & other dogs.
I have immense sympathy for these dogs, but I have more sympathy for the randos they may encounter on the street, or people who adopt them.
Some notes from dogs on their emergency placement list (statistically, all or almost all will be sent to rescues): “intense reactivity to other dogs in her kennel and during walks,” “mouthing hard, grabbing clothing,” “increasingly reactive to dogs and aroused with handlers, grabbing and tugging on clothing,” “lunges in his kennel, slamming his whole body when dogs walk past,” “displays a high level of reactivity toward dogs (growls, lunges).”
I’m all for giving dogs a second chance outside of the kennel environment, but several dogs on this list seem like too big of a risk to adopt back onto our streets. I’m curious to hear what other people think.

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"Minutes before it happened, I was under the Cypress structure that collapsed during the 1989 Loma Prieta earthquake in California (which was a magnitude 6.9). I was traveling north underneath the double-layered structure and felt creepy and claustrophobic on the brightest day. I raced to get out, as I always did, because I hated being under it. After getting out, I felt like my tire had gone flat and started to weave around in my lane, then I noticed that everyone else was losing control and hitting their brakes too. That was the earthquake. I didn't find out until later about the collapse, and felt like I had been punched in the stomach. I'd never felt so close to death before."
"I was rappelling off the top of the tallest building in Bangkok (200 meters, or 656 feet) as a promotional stunt. I was supposed to rappel down to the 10th floor, land on a small balcony, and then traverse over to another building. The wind shear off the building was enough to blow me 20–30 feet away from the side of the building. Picture a spider hanging by a thread in the wind. As I got close to the 10th floor, I noticed that my rope had been cut and no longer reached the balcony, let alone the ground. The rope was about 10 feet short of the landing. So, still blowing away from the side of the building, off and on I waited until I was just above the balcony and dropped the last several feet onto the deck. Super pissed but alive."
"Going to school in San Francisco, I got off the bus to get cigarettes and a soda at a liquor store. I stopped at the trash can on the way out to open my cigarettes and soda and walked half a block up the street when a crane fell off the roof right where I'd been standing 30 seconds before. The crane operator was killed, and half a minute earlier, I would have been as well."
"Although being an ironworker comes with its fair share of risk, as long as you don’t become too incompetent, things can be safe. But that is easier said than done, seeing as the days are long and the work is physically draining. One day, I was about 60 feet in the air rigging a beam to be lowered to the ground. I signaled the crane operator to 'cable up' (lift the beam), but the beam wasn’t budging. I decided to look down the beam to see what was wrong...BANG! Before I knew it, the beam broke free and came up at my face with about 2,000 pounds of force. It knocked off my hard hat and hit every edge of my safety glasses, missing the side of my face by a quarter inch. I thought I had died, it was so sudden. I should never have put myself in what we call 'the line of fire.' I’ll never forget how close my kids were to losing their father that day because I let my judgment slip. Still gives me goosebumps talking about it."
"I got hit by a car and walked away with no injuries. The Sunday before final exams during my last semester of college, I went to the library at 6 a.m. to study. At 2 p.m., I needed a break and started walking back to my car. At an intersection, I stopped, made eye contact with the driver of a car at a stop sign, and started walking across the street on a crosswalk. The next thing I knew, I was up on the windshield of a Jeep Grand Cherokee. He hit the brakes, and I rolled off the hood of his car and landed on my feet. I was so freaked out that I told the guy I was fine and left. Later that afternoon, I went to the hospital to get checked out and had no injuries. The doctor told me to buy a lottery ticket on my way home because I was so lucky."
"While I was doing the dishes, my hip bumped the dial on my stove, turning it to ignite, but I didn't notice, so the stove was leaking gas all night. In the morning, I could tell something smelled off, but I have a hard time smelling things, so I just figured it was some old cauliflower rice I had thrown out the night before. To deal with the smell, I lit not one, but two candles, one of which was right next to the stove. Later, after coming back from running errands, as soon as I opened the door, I felt instantly violently ill, like a migraine and the flu all at once. Probably 20 minutes later, I finally saw the knob on the stove and realized what was happening."
"One time, I was watching TV in my lounge room and I was sitting on the floor eating. We have a really big TV and we had an earthquake, but I thought it was a train passing by. It wasn't. I ran out of the room as everything started to wobble, and the TV nearly fell on top of me."
"I went to summer camp when I was 15, and for our last weekend activity, they took us to Martha’s Vineyard and rented us bikes. Now, I loved riding bikes in the park as a kid but had never ridden in the street. But since 'you never forget how to ride a bike,' I figured I could do it. I headed out and tried to go up a street that was very steep. I started to lose control of the bike, and I fell into the street in between a truck that was hauling a trailer (I fell in front of the trailer). I saw this huge wheel coming at me, and my leg was stuck from the fall. I screamed as hard as I could and hoped it wouldn’t kill me (others told me they heard it a few streets away). The driver luckily heard it and slammed on the brakes; I was scuffed up but otherwise fine. You can indeed forget how to ride a bike."
"I got hit by a train. I was living and working at a college that has train tracks running through it and only a stop sign before you cross them at the vehicle intersection. You had to cross the tracks to leave campus. I was headed to the gym in July, and the windows were rolled up and the AC and radio were blasting. I’d crossed that crossing a thousand times, so I stopped a bit, passed the stop sign, and looked right, but the train was coming from the left. Its horn blew, but I panicked when I heard it, so I hit the accelerator but braked immediately. I was already on the tracks. It only hit my front end and dragged me about 200 feet down the tracks. I only had a broken rib, three cracked ribs, and a pretty gnarly cut on my finger. The people at the next crossing probably thought they saw someone die."
"My last day of driver’s education class, we were just about back to school. We were all feeling pretty good because we’d passed our tests that day. I was in the rear driver’s seat and had a classmate driving, one next to me, and a teacher in the passenger seat. We went through a green light at LITERALLY the last intersection before school when a car blew through the red light going 55 mph and slammed into us on my side, just a few inches back from where I was sitting. It spun our car into the intersection and kept going! We were all concussed and had to be taken to the hospital, but that was it. When we went to retrieve my bags from the trunk of the wreckage at the salvage yard, the shop owner admitted he hadn’t answered my ringing phone because he didn't think we had survived, and didn’t want to break the news to everyone calling me. Two inches between me and being crushed alive. In driver’s ed!"
"I was walking to class one day, and the shortest route went under a viaduct. It had been snowing and melting on and off for the past few days. The viaduct is about 100 feet high, and just as I was about to walk from under it and onto the pavement, a 6-foot icicle fell those 100 feet and smashed into the ground in front of me. Suffice to say, I took that as a sign not to go to my lecture and turned back home!"
"I was asleep in the passenger seat of a car on a highway when we flipped going about 80 mph. We rolled a few times and landed in a ditch. Airbags did not go off, and I shattered the passenger-side window with my skull. I literally walked away from it and didn't go to an ER until a few hours later. I literally had a concussion and one teeny bruise on my right arm, but nothing else. The nurses told me that if I had been awake for the accident, my neck would have snapped and I'd have died immediately. Whenever I tell people, they're always stunned — imagine my reaction waking up to a missing side window and a crushed car and being fully functional! I feel lucky every day that I was asleep and still have my life."
"There was one time my sister and I were driving down a long road with a huge cemetery. I thought it would be funny to hold my breath because people say if you don’t, the spirits of dead people will haunt you or something. When I held my breath, my sister slowed down to torture me. I was a little annoyed, but at the stop sign at the intersection, this car going really fast didn’t even bother to slow down. They even swerved into our lane, so my sister had to barely dodge. I swear, though, if my sister hadn't slowed down to torture me, we would have been in a bad wreck. Now I’m not annoyed that she did that, I’m lucky."
"This isn't dramatic, but it's continued to impact my life on a daily basis. When I was 11, I was playing baseball with the rest of my gym class. We took a time-out to argue about who was batting next, and I stood behind home plate, staring into left field. Play resumed, and no one told me to move. The strongest guy in the class laid down a single...and hit me in his backswing...with the baseball bat...in the middle of my forehead. I suffered skull fractures and a brain bleed. To this day, I have anxiety driven by the traumatic brain injury. The neurologist said that the fact that he hit the ball saved my life. Had he swung and missed, I would have died."
"I was in college and I had just finished my last class of the day. It was a short walk to my car that consisted of crossing a pedestrian crosswalk on the street separating the school from parking. On each side of the crosswalk were speed bumps so cars were forced to slow down. At this time of day, a good number of students were getting out of class, and a large herd of us started crossing the street at the crosswalk. There must have been 30 of us. I was stupidly looking down at my phone and was walking rather slowly. I didn’t realize that I was lagging behind. Everyone else was on the other side and I was still in the middle of the street. At the same moment, I noticed a freaking DUMP TRUCK whizzing by in front of me. It was probably 1–2 feet in front of me. Either he didn’t see me still crossing or he didn’t care. After I got to my car, all I could do was sit there in silence for a while and contemplate what could have just happened. Even as I write this, I shudder."
"This is definitely not the craziest cheating-death story, but it was definitely scary. I was at a waterpark with my family, and I don’t do well with heat and stairs — something about the combination makes me faint. We went on a waterslide that uses tubes, and it was a long trek up. I apparently was so sick from heat exhaustion, I passed out as I was next in line and hit my head on the tube. If it weren’t for the tube, they aren't sure I’d be alive right now."
"It was during Christmastime, and my mom, my little brother, and I all wanted to go look at Christmas lights near the middle school. There was a hill and then a lane where you would wait for the light to turn green and then you had to turn left. Well, the main light had turned red, so it was our turn to go, and thank god my mom checked before going, because if she hadn’t checked, a truck would have hit us, going like 60 mph, straight through the side of our car where my little brother was sitting."
"I was 4 or 5, and we were living in Estes Park, Colorado. At that time, I was challenging myself to go closer and closer to a river they have there. I was caught by the current and would’ve run into several rocks and a waterwheel if it weren’t for my cousin, who reached down, grabbed my arm, and saved me."
"I survived hitting an elk in the Canadian Rockies and going down a mountain 15 times end over end, stopping 20 feet short of a whitewater river. I gave myself first aid. Doctors said I would never walk normally again and I'd have brain damage. I sent one of them a picture of me with three gold medals around my neck."
"In the fall of '15, I was riding my motorcycle to work on a foggy morning. A truck with an enclosed trailer ran a stop sign in front of me while I was driving on a 55 mph road. I was unable to stop, ran into the trailer, and was pinned underneath the trailer, being crushed to death. A farmer was on his dirt bike behind the truck going to meet another farmer for coffee who lived on the corner of the intersection. Once he realized I was pinned, he ran to get his friend and his friend's skid-steer loader. They then used the skid loader to lift the trailer off of me and began CPR. Luckily, right as they started, a sheriff's deputy arrived on scene and took over. I owe my life to those two farmers. If they hadn't acted, I would have died underneath the trailer, as there would have been no way for first responders to lift it off of me (it had thousands of pounds of equipment in it) in time."
"I've always been handy with tools and taught myself how to do things; I've been changing flat tires for anyone who'll let me. However, one day when I was about 18 years old, my buddy came over to chill, and he had his dad's brand-new Tacoma. So we chilled for a couple of hours, and when it was time for him to leave, we noticed that his front tire was flat, so naturally, I volunteered to change it (no prior experience with independent suspensions). I placed the jack on the frame and started to go at it — lifted the car enough to take the flat out. But when the fully inflated wheel was fitted, it didn't have clearance. My first thought was to get a second jack. Half my body was underneath the car, putting the jack in, when I heard a creek, and the next thing I knew, the car slipped. The car ended up with the front end touching the ground, and I got a big scrape mark on my shoulder. To this day, I don't know how or why I did not die under that Tacoma."
"I lived alone with my dog. There was a hole in my gas heater, so it was leaking carbon monoxide, but of course I didn't know that at the time. My dog woke me up one morning, barking and whining, and I thought she had to go out to potty. When I sat up in bed, I got so dizzy and thought I would throw up. I ended up passing out twice, once hitting my head on the bathroom cabinet, very close to my temple, and once hitting my chin on the toilet seat. I called my boss — the only phone number I remembered at the time. (This was before cellphones.) She called 911 and they came to get me. They figured out I had carbon monoxide poisoning, and I was in the ER for eight hours that day. The doctor told that when blood gases are at a certain amount, the victim goes into a coma, without fail. Mine were more than double whatever that number was. He said no matter how much my dog was barking, I should not have woken up."
Finally, "I was at the beach with several of my friends, my sister, and my mom. Mom was sitting on the beach watching us. We were around 11–14, I believe, but no younger than 9. Kind of out of nowhere, we started getting sucked under the water in a rip current. I was being sucked under the pier and slammed my face into the barnacles. We were screaming for help, but at first, no one came. As I was being dragged under the water and coming up screaming for help, I could see people just staring and could hear my friends also screaming for help. Finally, people started jumping into the water to save us, including my mom. She jumped in and instantly got sucked into the current but managed to grab one of my friends. She used her body to shield him from the razor-sharp barnacles."

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Hi everyone, as the title says, I'm wondering if my mother is an alcoholic and looking for advice on the entire situation. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I'm a young adult (21F) and I don't remember much from my childhood, but according to my family members, my mother has had problems with relying on alcohol since she was only 12 years old. However, no one has ever intervened or tried to get her to seek treatment. My mother's drinking problems were not obvious to me until I was 13 years old (my father left my mother then, which he says is due to her drinking problems, and he told me he successfully hid my mother's drinking from me until he moved out of our house). Due to my parents splitting up, my mother began to drink much more and began dating another man which further encouraged her to drink. I remember my mother being very drunk, falling down, and injuring herself most nights... I was also forced to be in the car with her while she drove around while intoxicated.
As the years went by, my mother drank less, but her behavior worsened. She goes a few days without drinking now, but when she drinks, I have to entirely leave our house because I can't take it anymore. A few of the things she has done in the past year is: fallen down the stairs in our apartment complex multiple times and our neighbors had to carry her back upstairs, drove to the liquor store while extremely drunk and the staff wouldn't let her leave until someone picked her up, let our dog escape because she was drunk, left our front door and back door wide open all night while passed out drunk, constantly calling/texting random men and going out with them while drunk, driving around recklessly, etc. A few times, she has missed important events or appointments because she drinks during the day and forgets to attend. She gets so angry while she drinks that she has done things such as throwing our entire TV off our balcony, thrown out half of my personal belongings, and one time she even tried to set our apartment complex on fire. She also usually blasts music and "parties" (I put it in quotes because she dances and screams to music alone) all night, resulting in multiple noise complaints to our apartment unit.
Her behavior causes me extreme anxiety because I usually have to care for her while she is drunk. She becomes incontinent when she is drunk and I always have to clean her up... she also becomes extremely abusive, racist, and homophobic while she is drunk, and screams racial slurs at my family/significant other. I have to walk on eggshells around her while she drinks. As the years have passed, her behavior while sober has worsened too. My family says it's because of alcoholism but again, I'm not sure. She behaves erratically -- she doesn't cook or clean at all anymore, she doesn't run errands, she lays in bed most of the time unless she is at her friend's house, she screams slurs and insults at random people in public (if she doesn't like what someone is wearing, or she thinks someone is overweight, she will scream it in their face), she sings and dances loudly in public or in restaurants, and always finds a reason to curse out restaurant staff, cashiers, etc. I find it really disheartening because while she was always somewhat like this, it has definitely worsened and there is nearly always a verbal altercation between her and someone else when we go out together. I hate to say it but she really does appear insane, I can't describe it with words, she thinks it's entirely appropriate to scream at random people over anything. It's also hard to do all the housework and cook for two people entirely on my own, I work a full time job in healthcare and attend college full time and also volunteer part time and I can't handle this all anymore.
The only reason I doubt if my mother is truly an alcoholic is because she owns her own successful business, can go 2-3 days without drinking, never shows physical symptoms of alcohol withdrawal, has no health issues from drinking, and maintains the few friendships that she has (it is worth noting that all of her friends are diagnosed alcoholics though, with multiple DUIs and health problems). She only showed up to work drunk once.
I want her to stop drinking because it is truly negatively affecting our relationship and her relationship with our family, but I just don't know what to do or if I should bluntly tell her she needs to seek treatment.

Hi everyone, as the title says, I'm wondering if my mother is an alcoholic.
I'm a young adult (21F) and I don't remember much from my childhood, but according to my family members, my mother has had problems with relying on alcohol since she was only 12 years old. However, no one has ever intervened or tried to get her to seek treatment. My mother's drinking problems were not obvious to me until I was 13 years old (my father left my mother then, which he says is due to her drinking problems, and he told me he successfully hid my mother's drinking from me until he moved out of our house). Due to my parents splitting up, my mother began to drink much more and began dating another man which further encouraged her to drink. I remember my mother being very drunk, falling down, and injuring herself most nights... I was also forced to be in the car with her while she drove around while intoxicated.
As the years went by, my mother drank less, but her behavior worsened. She goes a few days without drinking now, but when she drinks, I have to entirely leave our house because I can't take it anymore. A few of the things she has done in the past year is: fallen down the stairs in our apartment complex multiple times and our neighbors had to carry her back upstairs, drove to the liquor store while extremely drunk and the staff wouldn't let her leave until someone picked her up, let our dog escape because she was drunk, left our front door and back door wide open all night while passed out drunk, constantly calling/texting random men and going out with them while drunk, driving around recklessly, etc. A few times, she has missed important events or appointments because she drinks during the day and forgets to attend. She gets so angry while she drinks that she has done things such as throwing our entire TV off our balcony, thrown out half of my personal belongings, and one time she even tried to set our apartment complex on fire. She also usually blasts music and "parties" (I put it in quotes because she dances and screams to music alone) all night, resulting in multiple noise complaints to our apartment unit.
Her behavior causes me extreme anxiety because I usually have to care for her while she is drunk. She becomes incontinent when she is drunk and I always have to clean her up... she also becomes extremely abusive, racist, and homophobic while she is drunk, and screams racial slurs at my family/significant other. I have to walk on eggshells around her while she drinks. As the years have passed, her behavior while sober has worsened too. My family says it's because of alcoholism but again, I'm not sure. She behaves erratically -- she doesn't cook or clean at all anymore, she doesn't run errands, she lays in bed most of the time unless she is at her friend's house, she screams slurs and insults at random people in public (if she doesn't like what someone is wearing, or she thinks someone is overweight, she will scream it in their face), she sings and dances loudly in public or in restaurants, and always finds a reason to curse out restaurant staff, cashiers, etc. I find it really disheartening because while she was always somewhat like this, it has definitely worsened and there is nearly always a verbal altercation between her and someone else when we go out together. I hate to say it but she really does appear insane, I can't describe it with words, she thinks it's entirely appropriate to scream at random people over anything. It's also hard to do all the housework and cook for two people entirely on my own, I work a full time job in healthcare and attend college full time and also volunteer part time and I can't handle this all anymore.
The only reason I doubt if my mother is truly an alcoholic is because she owns her own successful business, can go 2-3 days without drinking, never shows physical symptoms of alcohol withdrawal, has no health issues from drinking, and maintains the few friendships that she has (it is worth noting that all of her friends are diagnosed alcoholics though, with multiple DUIs and health problems). She only showed up to work drunk once.
I want her to stop drinking because it is truly negatively affecting our relationship and her relationship with our family, but I just don't know what to do or if I should bluntly tell her she needs to seek treatment.

Hello redditors! I’m looking to find someone within a reasonable distance (Orange County, Los Angeles, South Bay, etc.) for some casual fun or an ongoing friend with benefits/sneaky link. Who doesn't miss cuddles, intimacy, teaching each other new things, netflix & chilling, and occasional outings?
About Me:

Asian
ENFP (I work well with both introverts and extroverts)
Born and raised in the South Bay/Los Angeles area
Vaccinated, full of antibodies 💉 & Disease free
Talkative (great through text/chat message but better in person and saves our fingers from typing)
Employed full time, have my shizz together, and love to work on side hustles/gigs (love entrepreneurship)
Positive attitude, drama-free, and open-minded
Down to earth, prior meeting experience, and drama-free
Usually free on week nights, Thursdays, and sometimes weekends depending on plans

Random other interests include: youtube, video/board games, hiking trails, intellectual conversation, entrepreneurial ideas, documentaries, comedy, DIY, E-Commerce, golf, anime, dogs, working out, home improvement, trying new foods, festivals/concerts/conventions (going to: Seven Lions: Beyond the Veil, EDC 2023, Illenium Trilogy, Escape, Countdown), meeting new people, and whatever gets me off my phone. I am frequently complimented on my conversational flow, hygiene, and approachability.
You:

Vaccinated & disease free
Preferably in the Los Angeles/Orange County/South Bay area

Hoping we could be consistent – I understand there should be some mutual attraction and chemistry (even though I don't really have a type). We could see if we click, and go from there. If you’re interested, shoot me a brief description of yourself / what you’re looking for and a pic! (More than just a hi!) You don’t have to send a pic, but I’m more likely to reply if you do.
If this post is still up, it means I'm still searching

I have three medium sized dogs that are crate trained. When we travel we typically bring their wire crates. This has been fine but even when folded down they take up a lot of space in my small car (even less room now that we have a baby). This last trip we purchased three “pop up” kennels that had mesh siding. We practiced with them for a few weeks before leaving and they seemed ok with them. However on the trip two of the three dogs tore holes in them and escaped while we were out to lunch. Anyone have recommendations on travel kennels/crates that don’t take up a lot of room in the car but are sturdier than the mesh ones?

I (40f) love my mom (60s), but we don't see each other very often. She says she feels guilty not seeing me as much as my brother, who she sees a few times a week as they share a mutual love of gardening. They volunteer together and swap plants and seeds, so this shared hobby brings them together often.
I have a ft office job, husband, dogs, a few friends, other parent (divorced), and personal interests that she doesn't share. As she and I don't really have a shared hobby, I think this makes it difficult to find things to do to spend time together. She also lives about 25 minutes from me, so frequent, short pop ins aren't ideal.
Anyone in the same boat? If you don't share many common interests with your parent, but still see them fairly frequently, what kinds of things do you do together?

Last week's post https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13ubbfv/roundup_bats_bugs_and_ufos_reported_on_here_in/ held as of 5:12 pm released at 7:41 pm eastern https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13ubdrc/roundup_ufos_and_potentially_related_things/
.1 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13ucs3i/ultra_colorful_light_ball_flys_in_the_night_sky/ video, nighttime sky, single light object, multicolored 🌈, observed moving, color change observed, flew overhead, first observed red with a white center, As it flew it started changing colors .
.2 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uc5jk/may_27_2023_1239am_1246am_central_texas/ video, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, fleet, following one after the other, 9 objects observed, orange 🟠, central Texas , fire lanterns
.3 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13ua44u/multiple_ufos_moving_slowly_across_the_sky/ video, daytime sky, fleet, one with pulsating lights, Chicago Illinois, urban area, bird for comparison, moving slowly
.4 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uw9xo/what_is_this_in_the_sky/ video, nighttime sky, hard to see
.5 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uvzb0/remember_the_ufo_over_ohare_in_2006_i_do_and_i/ sighting description, Chicago O'Hare incident, daytime cloudy sky, single object stationary duration 40 minutes, over airport, sudden departure upward
.6 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uh4fm/south_shore_long_island_52823/ video, nighttime cloudy sky, single light object moving fast, contemporaneous report, South shore long Island New York state, similar sightings in comments , flew over the witness home
.7 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uir4j/drone_pic_caught_tonight_may_28th/ photo, nighttime sky, from drone, fourlights, contemporaneous report, similar sighting in comments, Cumming Georgia
.8 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13unyx1/sphere_over_my_garden_only_visible_with_thermal/ video, nighttime, single light object, from infrared, not visible to eye, low over backyard, Cologne Germany 🇩🇪
.9 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uwo25/seen_over_naperville_il_52823_10pm/ video, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, Naperville Illinois, silent , single light object, multicolored 🌈, observed moving fast, sudden acceleration
.10 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13v36gv/fort_myers_florida_52623/ video from live image, daytime cloudy sky, fort Meyers Florida, single dark object moving fast downward, batman balloon type
.11 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13ujn1k/ufo_or_satellite/ sighting description, nighttime, single light object moving fast, trajectory change observed, curved to the left, multicolored, Puerto Vallarta Mexico 🇲🇽
.12 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uvohu/plasma_ball_shoots_away_from_me_when_trying_to/ video, nighttime sky, from telescope, single light object, possible reaction to being filmed, vanishing, two witnesses
.13 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13umkqu/three_years_ago_i_had_a_dream_about_a/ dream description, information, Had a dream, in which I was on board a ufo and was taught about an alien society. They valued happiness, self-actualization, and belonging. They understood the existence of thoughtforms and embraced temporary identities. Their economy focused on equality, less waste, and innovation. They had an AI-operated bank and emphasized education and direct democracy
.14 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13td1at/the_exact_spot_where_the_girls_spotted_the_alien/ original research, varginha incident, photo of location
.15 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13utjka/followed_weird_light_that_jumped_over_anothe video, nighttime sky, moving stars, north Florida, contemporaneous report, similar sighting in comments, it would move rapidly, stop, backtrack and then go forward again all at varying speeds and there was no sound at all., silent
.16 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13uy3g7/mantis_phobia/ childhood experience description, entity, mantis type, emotion of fear
.17 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13uh7g1/spotted_above_columbus_oh_today_still_hovering/ photo, daytime cloudy sky, single dark object, observed stationary, Columbus Ohio https://old.reddit.com/Columbus/comments/13ty4an/power_outage/ possible electronic effects power outage
.18 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13v97pu/visited_the_site_of_the_rendlesham_incident_today/ photos, site of the rendlesham forest incident, art 🎨, sculpture, daytime
.19 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vwqjs/my_girlfriend_just_sent_me_this_is_it_a_drone_a/ video, daytime cloudy sky, contemporaneous report, single light object, tictac, low over rooftop, Umbria Italy 🇮🇹, "Airplane"
.20 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vbo2g/legit_curious_are_there_other_experiencers_on/ discussion of close events, sighting description and drawing, family story, Texas, nighttime, low over rooftops, flying saucer, three objects, three witnesses, [GOODPOST], possible reaction to being observed, trajectory change, similar sightings in comments
.21 https://old.reddit.com/Cleveland/comments/13uvy4e/two_f16_fly_by_west_cleveland/jm4pdu9/ sighting description, cylinder, Cleveland Ohio, possible military response, jets https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vaa33/f16_flybys_near_cleveland_on_memorial_day/ description, airplane anomaly , unusual flight path signs and appearance
.22 https://old.reddit.com/StLouis/comments/13vook6/anyone_else_see_some_weird_shapes_in_the_sky/ photos, daytime cloudy sky, st Louis Missouri, contemporaneous report, single dark object, irregular blocky shape, angular, stationary, urban area, three objects, possible partially cloaked triangle
.23 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vz1mo/possible_ufo_sighting_in_west_nashville/ video, daytime cloudy sky, tubulapill shaped metallic object, tictac, silent, plane for comparison, very bright , Nashville Tennessee , downvoted to zero, OP comments downvoted, ignoring OP data, big debunker energy
.24 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vc0cl/happening_right_now_in_buga_columbia_755pm/ video, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, happening at time of posting, buga Colombia 🇨🇴 , single light object, zigzag movements observed, up and down, flareup observed
.25 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vcezf/strange_drones_before_drones_were_a_thing_in_the/ sighting description, three witnesses, three objects, nighttime, fleet, grid pattern trajectory., repeat three times, approach, flew overhead, wasp 🐝 shape , stationary, sudden departure,
.26 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13uul0m/4chan_gov_ufo_whistleblower_video_i_made_using_a/ video recreation of sighting description, underwater UFOs
.27 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vdn76/starlink/ photo, nighttime cloudy sky, fleet observed, blue 🔵, following one after the other, Miami Florida, contemporaneous report, two witnesses
.28 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vx1ma/the_four_major_categories_of_ufos_reported_in_the/ image, ufo shapes by decade
.29 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vkwz5/i_saw_multiple_lights_dancing_in_the_sky_last/ sighting description, contemporaneous report, fleet, moving stars, dancing, up and down and left to right, single object flashing
.30 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13vzh5u/orb_sighting_over_norther_arizona/ video, daytime cloudy sky, from airplane, over northern Arizona, duration 20-30 seconds, single dark object, black ⚫️ dot observed , lighting configuration change observed, began to glow and shimmer , interaction with clouds, cut a channel and illuminated
.31 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13vraeh/are_ufouap_sightings_increasing_or_am_i_just/ discussion of sighting frequency
.32 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13vudz1/i_need_to_get_this_sleep_paralysis_episode_off_my/ experience description, sleep paralysis, information transfer
.33 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13vx3du/saw_a_shape_burned_into_my_eyes_after_meditating/ experience description, crop circle, hexagonal shape
.34 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13uuioy/2_flashing_ufos_caught_on_cam_in_broad_daylight/ video, hard to see, daytime sky, twolights observed, flashing, oldham England the UK 🇬🇧, very bright
.35 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13w48i0/moving_56_objects/ sighting description, moving stars, two witnesses
.36 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13w6q2q/my_younger_brother_saw_this_flying_through_the/ photos, daytime sky, single light object, tictac, downvoted to zero, contemporaneous report, Middlesex County Massachusetts, OP comments downvoted
.37 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13w8np3/same_object_different_video_to_corroborate/ video, nighttime sky, single light object moving fast, similar sighting to number.6 above., coastal Maine, downvoted to zero, OP comments downvoted
.38 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13woova/bright_orange_fiery_lights_in_the_sky_turned_into/ video, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, three witnesses, single light object appearing and vanishing, orange 🟠, Oregon, mothership also observed, described as a huge ship covered in bright orange lights and i mean covered. it was like the movies., my brother said it opened up like a mouth, but like an accordion. he said it closed after that and it vanished.
.39 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13wvq41/ufo_sighting/ video, nighttime sky, single light object, moving star, observed vanishing and reappearing, two witnesses, fleet observed, diverse trajectories
.40 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13wpbhl/ufo_spotted_in_albuquerque_new_mexico_early/ sighting description and map, contemporaneous report, Albuquerque new Mexico, has anyone seen?,nighttime, two witnesses, from car, flying saucer, very bright, yellow lights 🟡, low to the ground , emotion of fear, duration 30-40 seconds
.41 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13weffz/i_caught_a_ufo_above_the_tree_line_right_before/ video and still image, hard to see, daytime cloudy sky, single dark object , from dashcam, Olympia Washington
.42 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13wpjjy/those_who_have_seen_ufos_did_you_have_this_same/ sighting descriptions, two flying disks that were silver, and silver sphere hovering over a military base, discussion of thoughts, possible telepathy, "tell no one, nobody will believe you.", similar experiences in comments, [GOODPOST]
.43 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13x1akm/my_sister_saw_this_on_her_way_home_in_normal/ video, nighttime cloudy sky, twolights, diffuse, buzzing noise, sudden departure
.44 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13wgv5t/white_orb_may_13_2022_video_analysis_digital/ video, nighttime sky, single light object
.45 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13v3cj2/took_this_in_december_2020/ photo, daytime cloudy sky, two objects, single light object, single dark object elongated, possible cigar or disk shape
.46 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13uxpa9/close_encounter_3rd_type_alien_witnessed/ experience description, entity, Ballarat Victoria Australia 🇦🇺, dark humanoid figure, possible reaction to being observed, vanishing, then the object it was standing on had a single orange light turn on, it raised slowly in a side to side motion turned vertical and then flew off faster than anything I’ve ever seen in my life, sudden departure , nighttime, contemporaneous report
.47 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13vaxw3/what_is_this/ photos, nighttime sky, single light object, vanishing, low over rooftop, duration 10 minutes, red 🔴
.48 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13wgi7a/amazing_shapeshifting_ufo_video_i_captured/ video, shape change observed, Cincinnati Ohio
.49 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13wgcrv/2_uaps_escorted_by_2_fighter_jets_israel/ video, hard to see, daytime sky, UAP and jets, possible military response, Israel 🇮🇱
.47 https://old.reddit.com/space/comments/13wxi24/nasa_group_studying_ufos_stresses_need_for_bette CBS News getting downvoted on the space sub for posting about the nasa UAP panel 🙃
.48 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13wc4r0/another_one_for_your_consideration/jmeu5lh/ sighting description, contemporaneous report, new jersey, nighttime, emotion of fear, fleet and mothership, close, rectangular
.49 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13xnod4/sighting_53023/ video, nighttime sky, threelights, starlink
.50 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13xoxn1/a_weird_set_of_lights_i_saw_tonight_above_new/ video, nighttime sky, two witnesses, plasma stuff, blue 🔵 and white, elongated, stationary, shimmering, lighting configuration change, new Delhi India 🇮🇳, contemporaneous report , silent, observed duration 10 minutes , low over rooftops, [GOODPOST]
.51 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13xl795/this_video_was_taken_by_a_good_friend_of_mine_on/ video, daytime cloudy sky, from airplane, from Denver Colorado to el paso Texas, western USA, single light object, possible disk shape,possible reaction to being observed, sudden departure
.52 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13xsywv/bizarre_experience/ experience description, location anomaly, unfamiliar surroundings, from car, emotion of fear and unease, duration 5 minutes
.53 https://old.reddit.com/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/comments/13xvgrx/what_did_i_see_as_a_child/ childhood sighting description, bedroom, nighttime, entity, humanoid figure, blue lightning 🔵
.54 https://old.reddit.com/RBI/comments/13wthum/eerie_radio_transmission_interrupting_regula audio anomaly, radio, it was almost like what the 1980s would expect a robot to sound like if it communicated in bleeps. There was no static. The “bleeps” were clear and included pauses. It continued for about 15 seconds
.55 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13xu1o0/not_sure_what_this_is_call_for_help/ photos, evening cloudy sky, over water, Atlantic ocean, kitty hawk north Carolina, rectangular shape
.56 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13y4t9c/lightsorbs_over_my_home_in_merced_county/ video, nighttime sky, Merced County California, contemporaneous report , fleet observed, witness went outside, two groups, V formation, two witnesses, duration 10 minutes All together there had to be like 12-15 and there was always one slightly larger one in the back of the v formation., triangle, threelights , silent, emotion of fear, spooked, orange 🟠, animal reaction dogs barking, went nuts, objects did not seem hostile, just passing through, [GOODPOST]
.57 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13y9yp8/i_think_i_saw_a_ufouap/ sighting description, contemporaneous report, single object, two witnesses, daytime, Michigan, shaped like a cylinder or flat in some way., haze around it, electronic effects did not show up in photos, emotional reaction awe, it was awesome
.58 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13xyfnh/6123_santa_ana_ca_522pm_zig_zagge video, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, santa Ana California, zigzag movements, single dark object, repeat visitor
.59 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13y1zxm/does_anyone_know_anyone_whos_seen_an_alien_or_ufo/ discussion of sightings
.60 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13y979c/color_changing_orbs_house_vibrating_morse_code/ sighting description, nighttime, two witnesses, fleet, low below treeline, multicolored, changing colors from reds to blues to greens 🔴🔵🟢, green flash, passed the window, multiple passes, physical effects vibration, pulsating, Morse code "hello, hello, hello" over and over for another 10 mins
.61 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13yar5q/abduction/ experience description, possible abduction, onset of fatigue, anomaly inside home, moving blur, sensation of floating, family history, brother experienced the same, event amnesia, This then unlocked other dreams that I had from when I was much younger that I have still yet to process, repeat visitors
.62 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13y5evm/i_saw_a_ufo_in_australia_in_the_1980s_ama_i_guess/ sighting description, Australia 🇦🇺 , three witnesses, silent, close, observed moving and stationary, sudden departure, golden, oval, pulsating, physical effects paralysis
.63 https://old.reddit.com/space/comments/13yiyt4/which_planets_are_this/ nighttime, single light object https://old.reddit.com/space/comments/13yg1lq/what_is_this/ more pictures https://old.reddit.com/astrophotography/comments/13xyc5w/venus_approaching_half_phase/ reference image of venus at half phase, contemporaneous report
.64 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13yhkgv/very_strange_phone_experience_with_reddit_app/ experience description, eyes 👀 looking back
.65 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13y2j94/i_had_seen_2_big_circular_crafts_above_the_clouds/ sighting description, lights above the clouds, diffuse, circular, twolights, storm, nighttime cloudy sky, Tucson Arizona
.66 https://old.reddit.com/CLOUDS/comments/13y23vi/weird_line_in_clouds_no_idea_what_is_going_on/ photo, daytime cloudy sky, cloud anomaly, horizontal line, separation , possible blue light in clouds
.67 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13xxdav/i_saw_aliens_today/ experience description, entity, contemporaneous report, daytime, information transfer, they needed help
.68 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13ykdho/tic_tac_ufo/ video, daytime sky, single light object moving, tictac, silent, possible splitting or jumpy movement at the end of the video
.69 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13yj9t1/for_your_consideration_june_1st_2023/ video, daytime sky, Ohio, duration 20 seconds, cubensphere, boxy orb,
.70 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13yr2ud/could_someone_help_make_sense_of_these_pics_taken/ photo, nighttime sky, possible disk, "long exposure of airplane", no craft visible to witness, Southeast England the UK 🇬🇧
.71 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13xzz05/semi_edited_video_of_the_one_i_posted_on_here/ video followup to previous post, nighttime sky, single light object, Decatur Alabama, vanishing
.72 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13yk4yp/odd_lights_in_the_sky/ video, daytime sky, Glendale Arizona, two witnesses, duration 30 seconds, fleet, flashing, [GOODPOST]
.73 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13y5mvg/strange_light_moving_slowly_in_the_sky_ove video, nighttime sky, single light object, observed moving erratically, multicolored 🌈, Queensland Australia, duration 20 minutes, Moving slowly up and down and seemingly from side to side at times
.74 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13ysp3v/orange_orbes_over_naarden_the_netherlands/ video, nighttime sky, twolights, orange 🟠, naarden the Netherlands 🇳🇱 , urban area, nice long 4 minute video, vanishing and reappearing , contemporaneous report, [GOODPOST]
.75 https://old.reddit.com/RBI/comments/13ytkzq/strange_pink_jellylike_substance_from_the_sky/ experience description and photo, pink jelly falling from sky, transparent, reddish
.76 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13ys1ug/my_friend_sent_me_this/ video, nighttime sky, single light object, multicolored, blue, purple, red, white and green 🔵🟣🔴⚪️🟢, contemporaneous report, happening at time of posting
.77 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13yvvmp/tumbling_uap_vancouver_april_30th_2023/ video, daytime cloudy sky, Vancouver Canada 🇨🇦, single dark object moving straight, tumbling, similar sightings in comments
.78 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13yxk6b/what_is_that_a_satellite_top_left_it_was_moving/ photos, nighttime sky, single light object moving, contemporaneous report, urban area, near Washington DC, physical effects it felt like a magnet pushing the phone away
.79 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/13yz1yz/waking_dream_vision/ experience description, dream or vision, entities, blue 🔵, physical effects felt grabbed on left arm, information transfer, He said to me, "As I have grabbed your arm, someone has grabbed mine" and then let me go
.80 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13yepi7/pan/ experience description, entity, the god Pan
.81 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13zihv5/an_honest_question/jmrvkd6/?context=3 childhood sighting description, upper Peninsula Michigan, two witnesses, nighttime, dim circle of lights, physical effects paralysis
.82 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13zn6jc/portal_thingy/ photo, daytime cloudy sky, single object blackwhite, shield 🛡 shaped, Temescal Valley California
.83 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13zpvp6/my_ufo_sightinghas_anyone_ever_seen_fibonacci/ detailed sighting description, nighttime, camping, Galeton Pennsylvania, Suddenly I noticed when I looked into the sky that the entire sky - I mean every inch of night - was a swirling mass of interlocking Fibonacci spirals., two witnesses, additional objects observed moving and stationary, they stopped, flashed back and forth in strange blue and purplish light as if talking to each other, and then simultaneously shot straight up into the air, side by side, and vanished.🔵🟣, sudden departure upward, [GOODPOST], luring, splitting,emotional reaction anxiety, sleep disruption
.84 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13yz5m3/the_phenomena_of_things_flying_off_the_shelf/ discussion of things flying off a shelf.
.85 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13zl7d7/uap_in_pic_zoom_in/ photo, daytime cloudy sky, Nevada, single object, blackwhite, possible pyramid
.86 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13zsj7q/seen_in_boston_ma_62/ video, nighttime sky, from home security camera, contemporaneous report, Boston Massachusetts, urban area, fleet, "birds", downvoted to zero, OP comments downvoted, deleted
.87 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/13zv038/light_at_night/ sighting description, single light object moving fast downward, entering the earth, contemporaneous report, thuringia nordhausen Germany 🇩🇪 ,nighttime , duration 4 seconds, blue 🔵, silent
.88 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13zw86p/can_anyone_explain_these/ video, nighttime sky, st Petersburg Florida, single light object moving erratically, similar sightings in comments, downvoted to zero, OP comments downvoted
.89 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/13zy7d5/ufo_drone_stationary_plane/ sighting, possible drone, very bright, observed moving and stationary, silent
.90 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/140c1th/the_mysterious_event_that_my_father_witnessed_a/ sighting description, family story, earthquake, purple smoke cloud, diffuse, 🟣, electronic effects radio interference, jellyfish, entities, shape change observed, flying saucer, red lights 🔴, rotating, sudden departure upward, duration 5-10 minutes, nighttime, Izmet Turkey 🇹🇷, similar sighting in comments
.91 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1409rk4/looked_like_a_satellite_but_it_disappeared_quickly/ video, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, single light object moving, observed vanishing, Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺, Chinese space station (TIANHE-1).
.92 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1403t51/a_couple_days_ago_i_heard_a_weird_almost_hovering/ audio description, wawawawawa sound, over the witness home, nighttime, two witnesses, ongoing activity, entity, animal reaction dog noticed it, contemporaneous report, similar audio experience in comments
.93 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13zw6sv/got_a_few_ring_notifications_and_this_is_what_i/ video, from home security camera, inside home, single light object moving , Tennessee https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13zza39/update_2_got_a_few_ring_notifications_and_this_is/ more video https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13zxfd0/update_got_a_few_ring_notifications_and_this_is/ more video
.94 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/140bmuo/ufo_sighting_when_i_was_younger_wonder_if_anyone/ sighting description and reference image, triangle, Red lights 🔴, has anyone seen?, similar sightings in comments, perception discrepancy other witness didn't see it , nighttime, from car, pacing car
.95 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/140gfkp/2008_october_6/ sighting description, dawn, fleet, dancing, moving erratically, approach or flareup, urban area, two witnesses, duration 20 minutes
.96 https://old.reddit.com/RBI/comments/140d2pd/source_of_high_pitchfrequency_sound/ audio description, high pitched sound
.97 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13zz6dz/unidentified_lightning_fast_creature/ video, nighttime sky, from home security camera, entity
.98 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/13zukt3/are_aliens_real/ experience description, entity , aftereffects drawing shapes, and illness
.99 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/140i2ob/help_id_drone_or_something_else/ photos, nighttime sky, single object, Scottish Highlands on the North Sea Scotland, repeat visitor, possible military response jets, "lens flare"
.100 https://old.reddit.com/RBI/comments/13ytjc6/strange_phone_calls_what_is_this_thing_that/ audio anomaly, strange noise, phone call, repeat visitor
.101 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/140jvta/can_someone_please_describe_what_the_orange_orbs/ childhood sighting description, nighttime, single light object, orange 🟠, flareup, splitting into threelights, moving horizontally and descending down, very bright, darkness bright as day, multiple witnesses, made the news, "comet", similar sighting in comments , downvoted to zero
.102 https://old.reddit.com/CLOUDS/comments/140jt9i/storm_clouds_after_dusk_do_you_see_the_squiggles/ photo, nighttime cloudy sky, anomalous lightning, possible blue light in clouds, storm , Colorado
.103 https://old.reddit.com/RBI/comments/140n3f6/just_heard_a_boom_that_shook_the_house_a_few/ audio description, loud boom, contemporaneous report, physical effects house shook

So I'm a nontrad applicant for the future cycle and my experiences are a bit spread out. I tried searching through this community but didn't find an exact answer. I graduated high school in 2013 and haven't worked at a vet since 2019 but have animal experience with horses until 2020. I know experiences don't expire really and I plan to get more recent experience but if I don't have a ton of more recent experience how bad will that look if I apply next cycle or the following cycle? I'm a mom of toddlers and we just moved to a new state so I'm having trouble finding childcare. So until I can, it's a little skimp. I was just curious how it all looked for admissions!
Thank you!
Edited to add: I have >4000 hours experience as a vet tech in a small animal practice

1000 hours general animal experience (farm/animal sheltedog sitting) 300 hours general volunteering (no animals)

TLDR at the bottom.
My (27M) mother-in-law (92F) is in the hospital for at least the next week getting treatment, her nephew (50 possibly 60 M) has been staying with her the last few months but as of late has been acting strange, & neither me nor my wife (26F) know him that well.
First off, my mother-in-law is my wife's adoptive mother. She adopted my wife's birth mother, then my wife at age 12 after her birth mother was deemed incapable of caring for her daughter. I'll refer to her as my mother-in-law or my wife's mom. Secondly, my wife is her mom's power of attorney.
My mother-in-law is infamous for being naive, letting people take advantage of her for my wife & I to come clean up the mess. We've tried to get her to move in with us, or move into assisted living near our home but she refuses. She's still of sound & mind about 80% of the time, she handles all her own finances, groceries, takes care of three cats & a dog, usually without help because she doesn't allow anyone to.
But if an outcasted family member (usually from drugs, being abusive, or both) comes along with a sob story, she opens the door & lets them either live with her or come in anytime they want. Currently it's her nephew, who at the time of letting him in, had recently made an attempt at his own life.
He used to be a contractor & actually spent most of his time fixing up things around her house, the main project being her fireplace. Since then he has started working on clearing out the garage, one that my deceased father-in-law had hoarded an unfathomable amount of junk in, along with possible sentimental or even valuable items. It's kind of like a few golden needles in the biggest hay stack I've ever seen.
While my mother-in-law has been in the hospital, he's continued to clear out the garage & also had two men we've never met before in her backyard. I confronted them & the other two men left, while her nephew became suddenly emotional about his aunt's wellbeing, & also about me being slightly suspicious of him continuing to clear out the garage while she's in the hospital. Any time it's brought up that we just want to make sure nothing of sentimental or monetary value owned by her is mistakenly hauled off, he thinks we're accusing him of stealing & begins to cry.
On top of that issue, according to my wife & my mother-in-law's sisters, he has been sleeping most of the day & up all night. He wouldn't even wake up when they first took her to the hospital, only after to be upset that the stray dog he'd picked up had been accused of trying to bite family members while trying to get all the pets out of the living room before the paramedics to showed up. He also claimed to believe that the next day my wife & her mom were sleeping in her room all day, & that he didn't know she was in the hospital.
I talked to him on my own, appearing more open so he would talk to me & most of everything he said contradicted what happened or what I had heard from my wife or her aunts.
He has somewhat of criminal history & drug abuse, currently has warrants in a different county for fishing without a license & driving an ATV on private property. My wife looked into his room, which is her old room when she lived at home that actually still has some of her stuff in the closet. She saw a few strange items (a torch, a butter knife, notepads with stuff scribbled all over & several pens, some sort of red light newly installed on the wall) & it was so messy the entire floor was occupied with stuff. But no actual proof, because she didn't want to search the room & alarm him.
Lastly, we found the deed to her home, another property she owns, & something called a "quit claim deed" that was blank, all in a plastic sack on her kitchen table this morning. This was not there yesterday. We took that with us on our way to the hospital today.
I may be leaving out some details, I spent about an hour typing this to make sure I got everything right, but it's been a long three days. My wife has dealt with her brother as an addict, & her birth mother before she passed away. But this situation is completely new to both of us & are not entirely sure what to do, or what we even can do before something goes wrong. We're also worried even if we do get him out of the house, that she'll let him right back in when she gets better. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TLDR: My mother-in-law is in the hospital, her nephew is being suspicious as far as her property & what's on it, also is possible back on drugs. My wife is her power of attorney, & are looking for advice on what we can or can't do about getting him out of the house permanently.

We have a boxepit mix (Henry) that 5. In the last month or so, he has become food and toy aggressive towards two other dogs we have in the house. One of them (Chip) has been with him for the last 3 years and is an "old man" mutt. The best guess is around 11, according to the vet. The other is a Black Mouth Cur mix (Tito) that is 6 months and has been with us for the last 4 months.
Today, while in the kitchen, no food or toys, Henry went after Chip and bit his ear. A little bleeding, but Chip seems fine. Every now and then, we dog sit my dad's huge Lab and Henry and him play just fine. Henry previously has always been protective of other dogs, especially smaller dogs. Never had any fears of taking him to the dog park. But that has all changed recently.
Does anyone have any ideas what may be causing this? Is there a special trying I should get him into? If so, what? He has had normal obedience training and has always listened pretty well. I'm just nervous to leave them home alone now, and even though we have a kennel, we have never had to kennel any of them before. I will be doing this for now until we get a handle on this, but I'm just not sure what else to do. Any help and suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you ahead of time.

I unfollowed this sub years ago because I let myself be convinced that my mom was trying her best and I am to blame. After getting a very illuminating autism diagnosis a few months ago (+ ADHD at 14 - 34f), I’m feeling pretty good about not doubting myself anymore, but narc moms gonna narc. Super long rant ahead TW: for childhood and financial abuse and questionable animal care
For context, I’m the middle of three girls, and the only one to move out, and my dx explained the lifetime of shame from my toxic family. Like when I was 10, I remember saying how excited I was to move out and be an adult when I graduated high school, and the following trademark twist-pinch my mom is known for, when she told me I made my dad sad for wanting to ever move out. Like fuck stupid ass 10yo me, right?
I’m working through shaking off the 34 years trauma. My parents haven’t always been well off, but probably have been since my teens. My mom works hard as a breadwinner, and never lets me forget how hard I need to work to have even half what she’s been able to provide for us…or that I’m bad with money.
I’ve done ok for myself, and things were good enough with her that when I needed to move back home last year after a nasty (police involved) breakup and living alone during most of the pandemic, they let me. I offered rent, they promised they just wanted me to be safe and refused. I said only 1 year max, but delayed moving out to find the right place. I moved last month. My younger sister (29) though, left her 2 dogs to go abroad to finish her bachelor’s last August and my autistic ass couldn’t let her old dog die in my parents care. They spend $1k on bed sheets, but think it’s idiotic to pay a vet more than $50.
She’s back at the end of the month, and holy hell if keeping her old dog alive (“Methuselah” as he’s well past life expectancy), while having to ignore big younger dog (“Pepper” too much shedding, poor training, parents keep her exclusively outdoors even in rain and yell at me for bringing her in), hasn’t been the most stressful thing on top of working full time. Methuselah sleeps 20 hrs a day and is pretty healthy, but prone to bladder stones I’ve found out 2000 stressful dollars later.
I wanted to take Pepper with me too when I moved, but Lil Sis saw an ig post I made with Pepper (I tagged her) while I was taking measurements and ratted on me to mom saying Pepper is too stressed out, so I can’t take her for 6 weeks. Why? Pepper’s tail was down in the picture. Who cares I got everything I’d need for an at-home grooming salon to deshed her that same day or that she hasn’t had a bath in 3 months? Apparently I sure as fuck shouldn’t because I “act like I know everything” too much.
I haven’t asked for a dime until yesterday because I’m now financially bruised from spending ~$2500 on the two dogs that aren’t mine over the past 10 months (I added up the “pet” and “vet” charges because my budget was wonky, so that’s an estimate).
Yesterday, I asked my mom for only $1000 to help split the care costs with my folks because of course, Lil Sis is broke and I finally realized how fucked up it is for them to expect me to eat all those costs and delay my life plans for someone else’s dogs.
Mom gave it to me immediately, while arguing that I moved in with my bf so I shouldn’t need to be reimbursed if he’s pulling his weight and I chose to take care of Methuselah because no one asked. She and Lil Sis literally cornered me and Big Sis (blocking hallway path) about dog care two days before Lil Sis left, but she somehow doesn’t remember. How convenient.
I thanked her and left, but she called me a couple hours later to keep up the barrage of insults.
I hung up on her because when I answered, she opened with “how dare you…”
It was the first time and fuck did it feel good. Even if she called me r-word for autistics in text after because I asked to be partially reimbursed. Not to be paid a fee for sitting, not for the cats I want to get, but to be partially reimbursed for keeping Methuselah alive.
I finally told her she needs a better therapist and to read up on financial abuse.
Family should be expected to take care of their siblings pets for free my ass. Fuck that noise. I do want any feedback because I’m struggling with the guilt: I did volunteer to take care of the dog, but am I wrong for asking to split the cost?
Thanks for letting me vent, apologies if this is the wrong place, but I tried to do a throwaway AITA post and am done feeling shame, so if Lil Sis sees this - sup?

So most of the information can be found online easy enough but I’d much rather engage with actual users who will give an honest rundown of what it’s like.
Planning a trip next year and rather than stick the dogs in kennels we thought why not drive, bring them and we can even show our German Shepherd his fatherland(we are those kinds of people).
So I get it’s a 35 minute shuttle and your car is, to my understanding, parked in a big queue inside a train?
I know we can stay in the car, but can we get out, take the dogs out, walk about whilst on board and in motion?
What’s the actual departure times like?
Basically what’s a real persons experience and not the photo finished models on the website

Hey reddit, let me start out with an apology for any errors I make, I'm dyslexic, this is my first time posting here, and I'm still really anxious and upset about everything going on, in particular as I have diagnosed PTSD and G.A.D. It also is probably appropriate to give a trigger warning for just about anything one could be sensitive too, from assault, to cancer, to death, because my life has had it all lately.... This is the very long winded story of how my neighbor couple, who are a toxic combination of entitled and addicted to some kind of uppers, are trying to make my life a living hell, and, how I am not retaliating and it's somehow making them even more hateful...
Relevant backstory about me/my home situation- I (36F) bought my house all by myself (yah!) in 2016 before everything got super expensive. I am a career musician, but because what I make performing in an indie band and in royalties varies WILDLY from year to year, I also am proud to be the primary child care provider for my niece, and three other long time family friend's children who are now between the ages of 5 and 7 but have come to my home for daycare and even over nights and weekends sometimes since they were infants we're all like a little extended family. I live alone other than my little pets and the children who are often here.
In June 2022 I was misdiagnosed with Inflammatory Breast Cancer (most deadly kind of breast cancer) and spent 6 weeks helping my parents and the kids and my friends get ready to help me... then lose me basically, before it was determined it was NOT inflammatory breast cancer (yah!) I just had Regular old precancerous tissue being made to look even worse than it was because the tissue had also developed an antibodic-resistant infection allll over the tissue under my breast. Ultimately good news except the very next day one of the moms in our little childcare group died instead. Like some kind of nasty joke God was making that wasn't funny and I'm still not over. Then, my insurance company decided to fight me over surgery to have the tissue and infection removed while cycling me through endless rounds of antibiotics and more invasive (but cheaper for my insurance) treatments. I did the best I could to keep up with my home and life and still help with the kids but I was *really really* sick until February of this year (2023) when I finally got my surgery, and I'm still really struggling with the lose of my friend both for myself and her son. I also have no money or savings or anything of a safety net left anymore. I had to access it all while I was sick and paying for my surgery/medical care (so you now know I'm American I suppose).
Now, onto the neighbors...
In August 2022, this couple moved in nextdoor and have been single handedly changing the block vibe from "Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood where a few of the parents smoke weed here and there" to "Nightmare on Elm Street featuring Crack" and I am not sure that I have ever seen so up close and personal the inner workings of.... sociopaths? Or whatever the correct name for people who are habitual lairs and take pleasure in causing harm to others (and maybe each other?). They are heavy drinkers, heavy cannabis users (no shade, I got my med card before surgery and with edibles I didn't even need other prescription pain meds!! but anything can be a problem for some people), and most unfortunately they do some kind of pills or something that make them very "up". While the wife is typically too "out of it" to maintain work, the husband works from home as some type of an accountant and seems to keep it together, and make just enough money, to maintain their "lifestyle" which basically means they do a lot of drugs and super weird addict things, but with an aura of entitlement. It's a toxic combination.
The couple, who I will call Sackie (44F) and Jam(41M), originally presented themselves as an older couple with Sackie in particular having many health issues.... and I will admit I first mistook her for being older and originally assumed her manner of speaking (a bit low, mumbled and slurred, without a good awareness to social cues or appropriateness, like trying to talk to me about how her brother molested her but her mom payed off the law to make it go away or how later she started a business with said mom, but her mom started having an affair with Jam's boss and that's how they met... in front of the children and/or in maybe my second conversation with her) for some kind of stroke. It was only after many awkward rambling conversations with Sackie that I realized they were actually not much older at all, and her many health issues (more on this later) were fictional or simply from withdrawals/drug use. I did learn, however, that Jam and Sackie have a long, sorted, unpleasant history, with just about everyone they'd ever met... and somehow, it was always they who were the victims.
Now, I try very hard not to victim blame and I know from personal experience that sometimes good people have strings of unfortunate events in their lives-- but Sackie's recounts of events were often hard to understand, or contradictory to previous stories she had told, sometimes even within the same conversation. So I knew almost right away she wasn't a reliable narrator, but, with our houses being located about 12 feet apart, my original misinterpretation of them as an older couple, and with Sackie intentionally lying about some things to get my sympathy.... I had no idea how bad they both really were or what I was in for...
I first spoke with Sackie more than just saying hi in passing sometime around Thanksgiving (American Thanksgiving) when she knocked on my door to ask if she and Jam could give me an extra out door Christmas ornamental they had. I thought they were just being Christmasy and kind. I didn't have the kids at my house that week and Sackie smelled the cannabis I had been enjoying on my couch (a rarity honestly) and said, "oh is that what I think it is?" Paranoid that she was offended I blurted out, "oh yes I have a cannabis prescription, this is probably TMI but if you notice me home and slagging a lot it is because I am waiting for breast surgery."
Sackie's face lite up, "Thats not TMI, I'm waiting for breast surgery too! I had uterine cancer and now I'm waiting for a double mastectomy. And don't worry I'm a medical user too" Now, I have since learned this to be a lie, but at the time it definitely made me feel sorry for her and I was just relieved I hadn't been "caught" by a neighbor who was offended by cannabis.
However, once Sackie learned I had weed.... well, she wanted to be my best friend. In fact, she almost invented a fantasy friendship with me. Asking for my number in case they needed someone to look in on their pets during the holidays to quickly turned to her calling and texting pages and pages of messages-- about how Jam abused her, and was cheating on her, how she had nobody and was so scared approaching her (fake) upcoming double mastectomy, how he'd made sure her name wasn't on the house when they bought it and he'd locked her out of all their money... and could she please have some weed because she was so sick? Oh she had a seizure because she was so sick could she please have some weed?? It went on and on, always about wanting weed, rides places, confusing pages of texts about how she was watching "dead to me" and how it was so unfair she didn't have a friend like those characters?? Could I be that friend??
It was intense. And I didn't handle it well. I did my best to just respond to her slower and slower apart and just be nice but short and say no that I didn't have or couldn't do XYZ for her.
Her begging and neediness intensified rapidly, sometimes she would come to my door and knock and ask for weed and I would feel obligated to give it to her just to get her away. She was always on something a lot more intense than weed when she'd knock. It was scary and sometimes the kids were here. She started texting me asking if I had "anything stronger" than weed and when I was understandablely like "no I don't do those things" she sent me about four pages about how she just meant "xanxa" because she used to have a standing prescription for xanxa and it helped her so much but she had "quit all her medicine except good ol weed and seeing a chiropractor" and was doing oh so much better now but just needed some but it was okay because she found another friend to give it to her.
This was the first time I expressly told her no and not to ask me about that type of thing and where she started to turn her fantasy friendship into me into a fantasy feud.
Shortly after she sent me another page long text saying, "not to be a bitch but I'm done with our one sided friendship." I responded that I understood, at this point it was Dec 22nd (2022) and I was just trying to spend time with my family. I said something like, "I understand, I have some health problems that make it hard for me to make new friends or even keep up with my current friends, but I will see you around as a neighbor." And hoped to never hear from her again.
Oh, how short that hope was. Several days later I started getting pages of frantic apologies, but also trying to make me feel guilty, and more frantic apologies, and letting me know that Jam is not cheating on her and evil and leaving her with nothing, and they're both such great people and always here if I need anything!!!
It's honestly hard to explain how unstable even her "nice" texts would sound and I'm not sure if we can post screen shots in this sub, but trust me, this woman and her husband are just constant, intense, invasive drama. While she and Jam both made me uncomfortable, almost like watching for when I would first let my dogs out in the morning or when a friend left my house and texting me about it... waiting on their front porch chain smoking for me to come outside then rushing over to talk-block me into conversations about other neighbors they hated, Jam's bosses affair with Sackie's mom, to tell me how sick they were, about how Sackie had to quit multiple jobs because her bosses would always sexually harass her... And stupid me would just try to kinda smile and nod and get out of the conversation.
I was so uncomfortable and somewhat scared of them because of the way they would talk about other people and each other and... its hard to describe but if anyone has even been close with someone using something like meth, you know how crazy their behaviors can be, even if they are being "nice." But until April 2023, they were just a bother, not a danger.
April was when Sackie's fantasy friendship with me turned into a full blown fantasy feud...
In early April, I was supposed to be recovered enough from surgery that I could work again so I to started to watch the children every week again, and apply for music gigs again... but unfortunately got a staph infection in my left breasts wound. I ended up being in a lot of pain and back on antibiotics and pretty out of it on my couch for a few days, though I managed not to be hospitalized again (yah!).
During the few days I was pretty much out of it during the infection, Jam and Sackie decided it would be a good time to get really "uppered" to rip up all the ornamental ivy in our shares breezeway (fine) but also OFF THE SIDE OF MY HOUSE AND OUT AROUND MY FRONT PORCH. They pulled down wires on the side of my house and did this during rainy season meaning they exposed my homes foundation to massive amounts of water no longer protected by plants and top soil.
I was in total shock. They hadn't asked permission, or even mentioned disliking the ivy, and they were clearly on something and STILL trying to rip up things around my front porch.
My kind, 70 year old father was over on April 14th, to help me do some weatheseason appropriate yard work I was struggling to do one my own because of the staph infection and we decided we had to try to say something to them about it, because at this point they were out front talking about what they were going to do AROUND MY FRONT PORCH. But again, wanting to keep peace my dad and I went outside and my dad just politely asked Sackie about what they were doing and, said something along the lines of, "well okay, just please don't do anything else on our side because we are going to take care of that ourselves..." and before he could even finish Sackie suddenly, in her slurred speech, yells "Do you think I'm fucking Stupid??" at my dad.
Now, at this point I can't take it anymore. My father thought he was going to have to change my diapers while I DIED this year. He does not deserve to be yelled at by some methed out neighbor. So I said, "Sackie, don't speak to my father that way, he is just looking out for me."
At which point Sackie LOSES IT and starts hollering to Jam and possibly just herself about how my dad and I are "so rude and trashy" and how they can do whatever they want because, they want things to look nice, etc etc, at which point I was just like, "come one dad let's go inside."
My dad and I worked on some chores in the back yard, then he was like, "I know we didn't do anything wrong, but let's go apologize because you don't want to have neighbor issues."
However, when we went back out front Sackie was literally pacing back and forward in the breezeway ranting to herself about how she had every right to do whatever she wanted with what I can only describe as a look of pure and total unhinged insanity. You know how when actors play their first role on screen after doing stage acting for years and so their movements come across as completely over the top? That's a lot how Sackie looked that day stalking up and down alley talking to herself, like a director had just told her, "act really nuts!" Except Sackie wasn't acting. My dad said, "okay, well, we tried, some people just want to be upset," to me, and we went back to working on my house.
Keep in mind, I was still on heavy duty antiboditics and fighting a staph infection at this time, and was trying to get the house in shape for my kiddo who's mom had passed away to be able to sleep over at my house that night to give his dad a little break. I figured Sackie would bitch about me to Jam and whoever else she could get to listen (like how she would speak about others to me) but eventually get over it and go back to trying to have her fantasy friendship with me, because after all, she was able to nag me into giving her free weed occasionally, and all my dad and I had done was ask her not to do anything else on my property, right? How mad could she be?)
Well, apparently, something I have now learned, is when someone addicted to uppers decides you are their fixation, they are as addicted to causing you hell.
The following day Sackie (and Sam according to her texts) sent me pages and pages of texts, again I'm not sure on the character limits or screen shot policy here, but basically she sent me about 10 text pages about how my dad and I were so rude and disgusting and she and Jam had the right to do anything they wanted as the breezeway is "their's " (again, that is their property on that side but only up until a foot and half or so away from my house, and definitely not around my front porch) and how she and Jam have always been so nice to me and I'm just such a terrible person, and "YOU'RE WELCOME " for how that side of my house will look?
She used a lot more curse words and details than that, many of which were not even truthful and were hard to understand, and kept bringing up a Tupperware container and a cloth canvas bag that she had left some kind of soup she made for my friend (my friend who Sackie also made extremely uncomfortable but would try to be polite to her when she was outside smoking) when my friend had to stay with me for a few weeks after she had to get a hysterectomy and needed help recovering, and saying "and just throw out that Tupperware I gave you, you have no idea the kind of niceness I've constantly given to you!" (remember friends, even this major pushover knows-- kindness done with the expectation of something in return is just manipulation) Like, somehow this unwanted soup she'd left my friend when she was recovering here in March 2023, made it okay for her to do whatever she wanted on my property?
This also feels like an appropriate time to add that it was when my friend was recovering at my house that I learned the extent of Sackie's lies about her health. Remember how I said she'd gained my sympathy by pretending she had breast cancer and was waiting on a double mastectomy? Her story was that she had found out she had uterine cancer after a miscarriage and she'd had to have a full hysterectomy and the cancer had spread and so she needed a double mastectomy now but she was having trouble with her insurance and her husband, that is why she wanted to mold me into her "Dead to Me" friend, right?
Nope. Apparently not. As, she told my friend that, "she knew exactly what she was going through because she had just terrible, terrible, periods and has endometriosis too, just like my friend, but she hasn't been able to get the hysterectomy she needed yet because she didn't have a doctor because she didn't do Western Medicine anymore, all she needed was a chiropractor and weed... oh and the hysterectomy for her terrible endometriosis just like my friend." She also said something that implied her husband was getting her a boob job, for cosmetic reasons, and there had never been cancer at all. I have no idea if the miscarriage was a lie too or not, and it isn't really relevant other than to stress, that Sackie and her husband really have a hard time with the truth.
Anyway, after her round of nasty texts after the ivy incident, I sent her back an extremely polite and short text, saying I was sorry she felt so offended by my dad and I asking her not to do anything else on my property, and I was very happy to respect their wishes for us not to communicate and I wished them well.
The next two weeks or so, until April 29th 2023, Sackie and Jam made me uncomfortable but were manageable. They did things like intentionally stacking hay against my fence, talking loudly to each other about how "trashy" I was, and at one point in time even pretending to do yard work but actually just smashing the side of my house with shovels! They even had someone else over at some point they were intentionally loud explaining too about how disgusting the ivy was and what a favor they were doing "cleaning it up".... but honestly I didn't even really care.
My paralegal friend recommended I start documenting things though, because she said some of the worst people she's seen in court are functional, entitled, drug addicts and I should not assume they would return to reason, and that it would be a good idea if I let the Neighborhood Stabilization Officer know what was going on, start documentation, and draft up a cease and desist to send if they did anything else and man, she was right, so right in fact, we didn't even have time to send the cease and desist.
On April 24th, out of nowhere, she sent me another several pages of unhinged texts, once again talking about how I should thank her for ripping up my ivy, throw away her Tupperware, how I was a terrible person and she and her husband and everyone think I'm on the Spectrum (hey man, autism is highly under diagnosed in women and that isn't the insult they think it is, but I could tell she thought she was calling me the R word), and just nasty absurd abusive things.
I sent her a text simply saying "Do not communicate with me or anyone at my house or threaten me or my pets again."
I found that dumb Tupperware and canvas bag she kept bringing up like it was gold, and put them on a porch along with another letter saying the same as in my text.
Jam responded this time, by smashing the Tupperware and leaving it back on my porch....
Now on April 29th, while I was hosting a sleep over for 3 of the children, and, as bad as this couple had been, I honestly believed they weren't bad enough to cause me trouble when the children were here with me. Looking back, I can't tell you why I gave them that kind of credit. Sackie self published a childrens book in her early 30's, and spoke of volunteering at children's libraries, at least according to her, and I suppose I thought that meant she'd have a respect for kids even if they did not have respect for me.... once again, I was wrong.
Around 5 or 6pm, the kids and I went out onto my front porch to bring our pizza inside at the same time as Sackie was getting out of getting out of her drug dealers car with him, she began screaming profanities at me, saying I was disgusting, threatening the pets, and other things I couldn't really understand fully due to her slurred speech once again but verbally assaulting me but this time, in front of the children was the last straw I had.
I quickly got the kids inside, away from her, and served them the pizza. I told them not to worry about the neighbor, that she was a kind of sick that made people yell when they shouldn't sometimes and they should just ignore her. I made sure they were content talking amongst themselves and eating pizza and strawberries- and went to call the police and finally told them about all the ongoing harassment, threats, begging, drug use, and now screaming and profanities in front of the children and asked for help.
Then I got ahold of one of the other moms who came and picked up all three of the kids, and we just pretended that we decided it was a better idea for them have a sleep over at her friend's house than mine. The kids were fine, but as soon as they left I lost it. Just big gut crying. The months of being nagged for weed, rides, and favors, getting passive aggressive texts about not being Sackie's new insta best friend, feeling like I was being watched constantly, worrying about Sackie saying inappropriate things in front of the children, dealing with Jam's creepy stares and used car sales man persona, the past weeks of their new upper fueled obsession with my property line and being the new fixation of their abuse, trying to be kind to them even as I struggled with my breast disease and Sackie trying to me as an emotional punching bag and free weed. I was finally crying so so so hard, my neighbors on my other side (a lovely couple my age) heard and rushed out and had me come wait inside and were so so so nice to me while I looked insane (did I forget to mention I'd let the kids 'do' my make up, meaning they'd painted my whole face with eye shadow including giving me a sparkly beard?) until the police arrived.
Now I live in a really nice neighborhood, but I am in one of the highest crime cities in America and our politicians and police staff are internationally questioned, so I was actually really impressed that the police came, cared, and, that somehow in my state, I *still* apparently looked less insane than Sackie and Jam.
They responded fairly quickly, and patiently looked over the wild texts from Jackie, my accounts of her and Jam passively terrorizing me, and checked out the side of my yard which they had originally ripped up the ivy and started this whole insane fantasy fight with me over.
They very much believed me and said I should have called them sooner, which surprised me. Sackie refused to come out and speak with the police but Jam came out to speak to the police via using his back door so Sackie could keep hiding.
The police came back and let me know that if Jam was the lesser of my two issues that I needed to becareful because they couldn't do anything on "hear say" but that Sackie had refused to speak with them and Jam reeked of alcohol. They said they told them to leave me alone, and that I had already agreed to do the same, and to just leave me alone, but that if they did anything I needed to call them because of how bad Jam, the lesser of the two, looked.
They left, I thanked them and my kind neighbors and felt like, it must be over right? Because if you do things like send pages of rambling violent, threatening texts, destroy property, and take so many drugs that your speech is slurred 24/7, and the cops come and tell you stop bothering your neighbor, you'd be scared right?
Again, I was mistaken to assume that Sackie and Jam's line of thinking would be at all on the side of logic, even in terms of simple self preservation. As soon as the cops left, Sackie and Jam came into my front yard and began to loudly talk about how disgusting I was to each other again. At this point I have both of their numbers blocked on my phone, but Sackie must has used one of those apps that allows you to text people who have blocked you and messaged me... "Have a great weekend"
So I go ahead and call the police who again, I am both pleased, and surprised, and a little scared by how quickly they return because my city is very high crime and for them to pay any attention to my calls means they must have clocked the neighbors as actual threat.
Sackie and Jam did go inside before the police came back though, and this time they both simply refused to open the door to the police. I imagine they had done many more drugs at this point.
The police said that they couldn't do anything since technically nothing had a record yet, but suggested that I file for a restraining order and provided all of the information I needed to do so. I was still sort of wishy washy about having a legal issue with my neighbors, but after talking it over with a few close girlfriends, one of them messaged me passionately outside of our little group chat about how much this couple, Sackie in particular, was behaving like a lot like her mother, a meth addict with a sense of entitlement who made her neighbors and everyone around hers life hell, obsessing over property lines and turned down begging, until eventually went to prison for 13 years for stabbing my friends dad. He lived thankfully.
But she was right, and my earlier mentioned paralegal friend helped me put together my paper work and evidence for a restraining order which we filed that Monday (April 30th).
They were served their papers on May 4th and thankfully, that *did* scare them into leaving me alone. Jam and Sackie would still intentionally talk badly about me to each other outside when they knew I could hear, and I imagine Sackie was trying to tell anyone who would listen what a bitch I was, but as long as myself and the children were unbothered I felt fine.
The court date came and I made the mistake again of assuming court mediation would be enough. Sackie showed up using a cain and pretending to be feeble, sickly and older, like she had done to me when we first met. Jam still looked creepy but wore a suit. My lawyer, who is also my middle school boyfriends father as an aside, was pretty confident I could get a full restraining if we went to court, but they agreed to restraining order terms as long as it stayed off their record for the purposes of background checks.
The way this works in my city is if they violate the terms it then automatically becomes a full order of protection-- but if they don't it gives them a chance to keep their records clean. It also would save me some money, because even though my lawyer was handling things at friend prices he couldn't do it for free. So I agreed to that. They were to stay away from me, my guests, not contact me on any platform, not harm me or my pets, it all seemed pretty fair and reasonable to me.
But alas, Sackie and Jam are not reasonable people. Literally the moment they got home from court Jam began working on some kind of project in his back yard, cursing about me to himself and clearly back on some kind of upper, he assembled and drilled this... strange tarp thing to my fence ???? Yes, my fence, and yes, this is illegal but I didn't have any luck getting the police to come out this time.
It has continued on this way. Them trying to do everything they can to harass me as much as possible without technically violating the order.
They're still trying to make my life hell, and, I am pretty sure my only option is to wait for them to physically harm me, on camera, for anything to happen.
So yes. That is how I kept trying to give my neighbors the benefit of the doubt, and in exchange, they're making my life hell. As I type this now Jam is out in the front yard, hovering on our property line, watering the grass, breathing heavy, grunting, and giving my ring camera dirty looks.
I don't have a good way to wrap this up, but, it felt good writing it all out to share anonymously. Thankyou reddit.
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So I know it sounds bad, but just read this and you will find out why we won't give her back.
Ok so rewind a few months ago (about 3-4) we was driving down the road and there was a van in the middle of the road and this guy was shoving a dog out of his car, at first we thought he was rescuing it or it was his and it got out, but he was pushing it out of the car and as soon as he seen us behind him he slammed the door shut jumped in his van and sped off, the dog was desperately chasing after him but he did not stop. For the next few weeks we noticed the same dog(a brindle and white female dog) running down the street with another dog(very overweight tan female dog) desperately looking for someone or something with NO collars or a harness on, we finally caught them, and we was 100% sure this brindle dog was the one that was abandoned. we put them on Facebook. Nothing came from that, and we went to the vet and got the brindle one checked for a microchip because she is fixed. We already have 2 dogs of our own and we have some cats, so we couldn't bring both of them in because we didn't know if they were sick or had fleas or ticks(we rescued kittens, so we can't risk that. We have already delt with a flea outbreak in both of our dogs and all of our cats because of bringing them in constantly) we do however have a outdoor kennel/run for our dogs (it has shelter, dog houses, straw or blankets, heater in the winter if they go outside, and more then enough food and water, plus a big area for them to run in) so we made the decision to put them out in the kennel until we got them treated for fleas and got our dogs some prevention, they only stayed out there for a few days and we constantly stayed out in the kennel to give them attention and feed them, my sister took the tan one, and so we decided to keep The other, one day she got out and we had to find her because we live on a very busy road, we found her in some neighborhood right behind us, one of the neighbors that we almost caught her at told us that she does have an owner, she showed us where he is and told us that he doesn't take care of his dogs(the brindle one and we later found out the tan one is also his), we wouldn't have taken her back to him, but it was his dog so we did. We took her there and he opened the door, and as soon as he seen her he said "I wish you didn't bring her back" and he also said he had the other one but we didn't take her and we definitely wasnt giving her back, the whole entire time we was there he talked badly about them "oh those darn dogs, they poop and pee everywhere, they knock the grandchildren down and chew on the walls!" None of that was true(we had brought them in, they didn't do that at all). Apparently she was his daughters dog and the other one was her puppy, his daughter and wife passed away and he didn't want the dogs anymore, he even said "Ive tried everything to get rid of them! I've called shelters and they won't take them!"but yet he still took her back(before telling us how much he wished we didn't bring her back and how horrible she was) We told him that we work in rescue and we could take her and get her a home, and he said "no, I'll give her another chance. But if she 'gets out' again you can just keep her" we checked her as much as we could for the next few months after we left, she was always outside chained up and in a chain link fence with no shelter, no shade, no food and water that we could see, and no one ever came outside to her. Well just yesterday about 2-3 months after we gave her back, we seen her AGAIN no collar and no harness, just roaming the street with her tongue hanging out of her mouth, so we caught her again, this time if she hears yelling or shouting she just freaks out, she starts whining and tucks her tail and runs and hides, she didn't do that last time. She is different, but still a sweet and friendly dog. We might keep her, and if we don't we will re-home her, we will not even consider giving her back.
Are we in the wrong for this? We haven't told the pathetic excuse of an owner that we found his dog again, but we think he knows considering we drove by his house to look for her the day we seen her and he was peeking out the door like a coward, he has a limp or something but that's not an excuse to just abandon your dog not one time but two times!
(Sadly we have no proof that he said this, so we don't really know if we can report him to animal control, considering it would be our word against his)
What would you do in this situation?

She’s a rescue pup, six months old, and her first five months were spent with parvo and in recovery in a kill shelter and then at the animal rescue here. I think she probably has some trauma from her early life in kennels. I’ve been trying to gradually introduce her to the crate for three weeks and she had a brief streak of entering for a few moments to eat, but quickly stopped and started running away when it was time for meals in the crate. I had been putting her in the crate for short periods of time when I left the house, and earlier this week she broke her crate open on the side and squeezed out so she could get out of it. I came home and found her asleep under the couch, which is “her” spot where she goes to rest and where she keeps all her toys.
I have just decided to not attempt crating anymore as it causes her severe anxiety. She loves sitting in the living room when I’m gone. I make sure it is dog safe, I separate my cats, leave the tv on, and she barely cries when I leave. I always find her peacefully sleepy when I get home, rather than in a torn up crate very upset and anxious when I was trying to crate her. She goes under the couch to sleep at night and even when she’s tired in the day, which I think is mimicking what a crate would do for other dogs in terms of creating a safe space.
My major dilemma is that she’s a foster and I am worried that not crate training her properly will prevent future adoption - but the amount of stress and anxiety for us both while attempting to crate was unsustainable.
Am I making the right choice here?

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My dog is 110 pounds, I got her right before the covid lock down, so socializing wasn’t an option. She was friendly with my family, my roommate, and my best friend who lives 5 minutes away. But that was pretty much it. Never saw other dogs or more than just me. I got her into training which cost an arm and a leg but I thought it was worth it because I also very small and want to be able to control her. She’s 3.5 now and has slowly started become more reactive and had to revert to previous training methods. Such as staying on her bed when I answer the door (takes forever but my guests can hear me) or if their is someone new she’s never met we put her in her kennel, have the new person sit on the couch, then let her out (either on a leash or not) and have the guest ignore her. After about 5-10 minutes she will sniff and let them pet her. After about 30 minutes she’s bored and upstairs sleeping on our bed doing her own thing.
I now live with my partner and we have had two friends who have said they don’t want to meet her at all (which is fine I’m sad, but I also won’t hold it against them). That being said I don’t want them over because if she’s is going to be in her kennel, I want there to be a reason.
My partner disagrees and says if we go out she’s going to be in her kennel so why not just put her in the kennel when guests are over. Says it’s not that big of a deal.
I think that if we’re going to compromise it’s try to meet my dog or don’t come over and we can hang out somewhere else. Any advice on this situation would be greatly appreciated.