2023.06.11 02:22 AutoModeratorreddit is killing itself
https://i.imgur.com/NVtR1Ho.png What's going on? A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users. On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader. Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface . This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free. What's the plan? On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love. The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action. What can you do? Complain. Message the mods of reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post. Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at ModCoord. Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support! Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. Further reading https://www.reddit.com/Save3rdPartyApps/comments/13yh0jf/dont_let_reddit_kill_3rd_party_apps/ https://www.reddit.com/apolloapp/comments/13ws4w3/had_a_call_with_reddit_to_discuss_pricing_bad/ https://old.reddit.com/ModCoord/comments/1401qw5/incomplete_and_growing_list_of_participating/ https://www.reddit.com/SubredditDrama/comments/1404hwj/mods_of_rblind_reveal_that_removing_3rd_party/ https://www.reddit.com/redditdev/comments/13wsiks/api_update_enterprise_level_tier_for_large_scale/jmolrhn/?context=3 edit: Open Letter regarding API pricing every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader. Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface . This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free. What's the plan? On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love. The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action. What can you do? Complain. Message the mods of reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post. Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at ModCoord. Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support! Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. Further reading https://www.reddit.com/Save3rdPartyApps/comments/13yh0jf/dont_let_reddit_kill_3rd_party_apps/ https://www.reddit.com/apolloapp/comments/13ws4w3/had_a_call_with_reddit_to_discuss_pricing_bad/ https://old.reddit.com/ModCoord/comments/1401qw5/incomplete_and_growing_list_of_participating/ https://www.reddit.com/SubredditDrama/comments/1404hwj/mods_of_rblind_reveal_that_removing_3rd_party/ https://www.reddit.com/redditdev/comments/13wsiks/api_update_enterprise_level_tier_for_large_scale/jmolrhn/?context=3 edit: Open Letter regarding API pricing ---
2023.06.11 02:21 I_need_a_plan-t-Selling my girl Shego and wanted to give the people of this sub a chance first. Orlando, FL area. $650 all items. Almost everything you need.
She’s about 3.5-4 and over 2 feet long. She’s a normal. I got her impulsively and was taking great care of her, but I’ve been going through a tough breakup and other issues and I’ll admit my care has fallen off the wayside. She is dehydrated and possibly a bit skinny. I haven’t taken her out in a while. I’m moving soon and can’t bring her with me. I’ll list all the stuff I’d be selling along with her. 40 gal. Glass enclosure Large water bowl Large climbing stick Large corner hide Large bonsai hide Small rock hide Various vines and leaves 2 large lamp hoods 1 halogen flood bulb 1 herpstat 2 4x2x2 black pvc enclosure 1 large cork flat 1 pair feeding tongs Small plastic enclosure for keeping live mice until she’s ready to eat (she’s a bit picky and I haven’t been able to work on getting her to eat f/t) All you would need are a dhp, 22” t5 ho bulb, and a humid hide. I’m asking for $650 for everything as it’s a great deal, but helps me cover a good amount of what everything cost. Also weeds out those who won’t take good care of her hopefully. If nobody here would like to come get her, I will look for somewhere else to post her.
I made some significant changes to my contextual system. I apply a moving goalpost concept to my design method. That is to say, I address complaints, they complain about something else, I address those complaints, they complain about something else...until I eventually reach a point where any complaints are matters of pure taste and I can't meaningfully address them. Basically: force criticism to the individual level of subjectivity. For example, the loudest voices don't like crunch. Fuck 'em. Anyway, here are the changes...
Attack choice is direct
Resolution is 1d6. 1 is crap and 6 offers a special technique. Sixes are typically fight finishers if they're thwarted
Low skill levels will cause high numbers to flip to their inversion. High skill levels will cause low numbers to flip. 6 flips to 1, 5 to 2, 4 to 3, and vice versa. People seem to love this mechanic in various contexts and I do too so it's chiseled in stone as a "perfect mechanic"
Defenses are based on the attack roll. I'm not a fan of opposed rolls. The range of defenses is based on your contextual position, such as a fighting stance. The better the attack roll, the less utility a defense has, although not necessarily less useful. If the attack roll is 1, that means you can freely choose your defense along the range of valid maneuvers
Your contextual position will determine dominant actions. Dominant attacks take the best of two rolls. Dominant defenses allow for a complex response. Some fighting stances may offer a broad range of dominant direct actions and some
A simplified combat scenario will look like this. First round, each combatant will typically use their action to move slightly outside attacking range and choose a stance. Second round, they may adjust their stance or maneuver, or choose a low risk assault. Meanwhile all other characters on the skirmish field are likely to do this unless if it's an ambush situation or some other chaotic event. Think of it like chess. Develop the pieces first, then launch an attack. Rounds are intended to go fast with the single action economy so this isn't a problem. Third round, they may settle on a stance, then commit to an aggressive attack or an attack that is intended to set-up the target for a finisher. Evenly skilled combatants with good armor are likely to have an attrition battle until someone gets outnumbered or lucky.
If any of this seems confusing, highlight a point and I'll clarify using the formal rule
2023.06.11 02:20 code_hunter_ccParse nginx ingress logs in fluentd
Kubernetes I'd like to parse ingress nginx logs using fluentd in Kubernetes. That was quite easy in Logstash, but I'm confused regarding fluentd syntax. Right now I have the following rules: type kubernetes\_metadata And as a result I get this log but it is unparsed: 127.0.0.1 - [127.0.0.1] - user [27/Sep/2016:18:35:23 +0000] "POST /elasticsearch/\_msearch?timeout=0&ignore\_unavailable=true&preference=1475000747571 HTTP/2.0" 200 37593 "http://localhost/app/kibana" "Mozilla/5.0 (X11; Linux x86\_64) AppleWebKit/537.36 (KHTML, like Gecko) Centos Chromium/52.0.2743.116 Chrome/52.0.2743.116 Safari/537.36" 951 0.408 10.64.92.20:5601 37377 0.407 200 I'd like to apply filter rules to be able to search by IP address, HTTP method, etc in Kibana. How can I implement that? Answer link : https://codehunter.cc/a/kubernetes/parse-nginx-ingress-logs-in-fluentd
2023.06.11 02:19 scaper8Socialists of Catan/Communists of Catan?
I was playing Settlers of Catan with some people, and the game is generally pretty fun. However, I've thought several times that a cooperative version of the game might be fun. So, my question is two-fold: One, does anyone have some good home-rules to use a Catan board as is for a Socialists of Catan? Obviously, balanced and fun still, just more cooperative rather than competitive. And, two, is there a game(s) out there that are more or less Catan but made to fit that idea? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
2023.06.11 02:18 aKidNamedSteven[USA-VA] [H] DJI Mavic Air Drone + Fly More Combo [W] Paypal, Local Cash
Timestamp and Photos of Drone and Accessories Product Page Selling a drone that I have owned since 2019 but used only a handful of times for a total of less than one hour of flight time (as indicated in screenshot of DJI app). Currently live by DC where regulations do not permit the usage of drones in most areas, so do not have much use for it. Includes a formatted 64gb microSD card that I bought for it. Asking $325 local, $360 shipped. Located in Arlington, VA - willing to drive up to an hour to meet for local pickup.
2023.06.11 02:17 lilbabydevilFor anyone interested in a rexxit alternative
Just in case anyone is interested, and feel free to remove my post if it breaks the rules, but I just feel the need to post. Also, I don't know which flair to use as I rarely ever post to Reddit, just lurk. Because of everything happening with Reddit right now, I know a little of people are unhappy, myself included, and have started looking for an alternative. I've signed up to several, but the only one that's vibed with me is Squabbles. It's very early days there, and there's still loads of teething problems, but the dev is (singlehandedly, I think) doing a knock out job of updating stuff as more and more people join. They've just got a witchcraft community set up, so maybe if anyone's interested, pop over to https://squabbles.io/s/Witchcraft and take a look? Oh, and I'm not affiliated with the site at all, I'm just a sad long time lurker about to lose her favourite app, trying to build a community somewhere that isn't here.
2023.06.11 02:17 Verygoodcheese3 year update, on post “life is different when you aren’t depressed “
I still get people asking for updates 3 years after this post so I thought I would do an official update. It’s 3.5 years down the road. I microdosed for 3 months total and it changed my brain and life. About 6 months into the pandemic I figured I would microdose again to adjust to the new normal but quickly realized I didn’t need to. My brain just got used to creating the changes I need after that initial 3 months. I initially stopped microdosing because I wasn’t even thinking about mental health anymore, and it’s improved incrementally ever since. At this point near daily I consider I might be too happy, or too peaceful but no I’m still motivated to work and discover new things. I’m just unusually happy for a human being. When you work diligently on healing your inner stuff there is great rewards. So I went from 3 decades of treatment resistant depression, anxiety, diagnosed OCD, post concussion syndrome complete with impairment to being better than I ever was. Happy, balanced, peaceful, grateful. Learn the skills, learn every mental health skill you can, develop a great tool box then microdose once you are really ready, to really apply those tool. I wish you all this level of happiness to where you wonder if you are somehow breaking rules enjoying simple moments so much! ⛰️➡️
2023.06.11 02:16 justwantedhappy19M. recently my mother was getting dragged and strangled. it's all very sudden. if someone could please guide me. sorry for long post.
TLDR: 18M, Australian first year uni student, have a mother and an elder sister. Father is abusive. Mother was hurt, strangled on multiple occasions. What actions can I take, especially in addressing financial situations. My mom can speak English, but extremely complicated phrases and lesser known laws for relationships and finances she probably doesn't know. Me and sister are fluent, grew up here. I really don't know what divorce processes are like either. Dad works and earns the money from his small business. Mom can start working elsewhere but we probably won't earn nearly as much. Sister technically can start working with her degree, although she is completing further studies right now. Live in Victoria, if it helps. The biggest problem I'm thinking of is financial security, especially since me and my sister are still in uni. I wish I studied more instead of messing around. I'm in Australia. I'm only half a year into my degree, but my older sister has one and is currently doing another further degree. I'm probably going to start part time work soon to go along with my studies. Sister has some saved up from working part/casual time but probably not enough. Ideally, me, her and my mother could move out after a divorce. As soon as possible would be great, but I'm not sure when, and probably unlikely. The violence has recently escalated to strangulation, choking her from behind (like a rear naked choke, google for reference), and dad trying to pull her into one of rooms further back rooms where he was probably going to do something worse, but she got away from him. These accounts are from her, and although both hate each other and are toxic with warped perspectives, they are probably correct or at least accurate enough. I don't know anything about the legal system in Australia, nor anything about the court and stuff. maybe it'd be too expensive or unlikely to bring a successful case to court, or not, I really don't know. I guess they are staying together for some reason, maybe in their heads it was for us, maybe he didn't think she'd tell us, I don't know. Mother refuses to let dad get his way and argues back at him too, so the violence usually escalates when she brings up sensitive topics. There's a lot of things I don't know. I think I'm going to confront and ask him about what happened, and see if it's really true. She said he would probably lie. I hope not. He's a bit religious and a "family man", so I'd probably ask him to swear on his passed parent and god or something. I'm thinking of plans if things go south, maybe I'd talk to him in one of the open rooms so I won't get locked in with him, but there's a lot of things that could be used to harm me there (broken glass shards, hard objects, etc.) Maybe I'm thinking too far. He's never really hit me after I turned like 13. I remember I yelled at at him when he slapped my sister (on the shoulder or something, because corporal punishment at that age is clearly healthy) when she was like 15-16, though I was younger, I think he was a little surprised. Maybe I'm thinking too far. Maybe nothing will happen, but I want to be prepared. I'm the only one as tall as him in my house, my sister and mom can't compete. Still makes me angry that he could do that to someone like my mom. He must feel real strong and mighty. I was thinking of recording the conversation or something, but I don't know how. what if I need to use my phone mid-conversation something, what if I have to leave the house without it, how will it be retrieved? What if things get physical? I might do it while mom isn't home. I don't want my sister to get hurt. She's older, but very weak and frail. My physique is somewhat tone but I have muscle, but I don't want to bet on an unpredictable fight with him, it's too risky. He also has like 10-20 kg on me, although it's not all muscle, he still has some strength from some labor. Right now I'm just thinking of talking to him in a room while my sister could listen and pay close attention in the corridor next to the front exit door, ready to record or call the police from a safe location and be able to immediately leave if something does happen. I'm thinking of the worse possible scenarios right now unfortunately. Maybe some would advise me to not ask or confront him about it. I have to. I'm sorry, I just need to hear it from his perspective. Maybe it's my naivety, thinking there's any explanation from him for his actions. I understand there's no justification for him, and that there's never a situation where you can harm someone like that. But I need to know what he was thinking. My mother could be considered toxic and hurtful with her words, and would be annoying when yelling and following you to nag and keep yelling, but I understand it's no excuse for her to be treated in the way she was. I don't know when to ask him, I was slightly heated and planned to ask him as soon as he got home tonight, but now I realise I don't really know what to say or ask, other than if things really did go down how my mother described it. But that's basically the outline of it. What should be my plans now? Assuming maybe things chills for a bit, ideally until I finish my degree (unlikely), since fights would only start if they argue. But I suspect something will happen and dad will do something unfair or something with finance or work or some shit that gets mom heated since she's somewhat emotional. This abuse has happened a few times now, and my short, certainly weaker mother refuses to back down, probably because it would mean that him strangling her would mean he won and successfully silenced her bickering with violence or something, I don't know I'm pulling cards. I know she's probably scared, but she refuses to show it or to back down from him. I think I've heard, and I don't want this to be taken too severely, although it is if I heard correct, him saying death threats to intimidate her. Be mindful I could have heard wrong, and it might be some intimidation tactic he tried to scare her with, but if I heard it correct, I heard it with clarity. A whole month went by before she told me about this most recent strangulation event, but similar abuse can be tracked back to few years ago, although it was never this severe, and recently escalated to this level. Now that I think about it, it really has escalated. It went from shouting, to spitting, to slapping, to throwing things around, to front hand chokes and recently he tried to choke her in a rear naked choke kinda way while pulling her to a room. (This last event detail is from my mother. I don't know, I don't like cementing facts based on perspective, because they both view each other horribly and have warped perspectives of what is and what occurred, although I understand that there is no excuse for what happened if it occurred, and I'm almost certain it did. The other events happened with certainty, I witnessed it in time.) For those who might be curious as to if my father is really guilty, I've seen him front hand choke her in the throat before. While I was in the house. He has been noticeably more violent when I'm not in the room or if he's in some corner of the house with her, where it escalates from shouting to physical contact. I've seen slaps, spits, plenty. He is guilty. I'm only looking for his sick perspective. I want clarity on the events, I want to see what he saw when he put his hands on the woman that birthed me. Maybe I'm being to hopeful and calm. Maybe I should call the cops and bash his head in right before they arrive. The more I think about it, the angrier I get. Fortunately, I'm covered in uni work, and kept busy for the rest of the weekend, to distract my mind. I'm kind of excited? Maybe it's the wrong word. I can't wait to ask him, for closure on what happened. I want to see how he would react. Maybe I shouldn't ask yet. I'm scared of change and pretty nervous. If they get divorced immediately, then my complete lifestyle will change, house moving etc. We're living a somewhat average household right now, although they always complain about bills and such. What would happen after the divorce? Maybe we'd live in poverty, idk. I have no idea about the cost of living in Australia to be honest, I had very little interest in politics and financial situations when I was still so far from such matters, but now I wish I read more about it. My life could be upside down. I can really see how ungrateful I was now. I really thought that I was going to live a normal life. That is all for detail about the situation. Sorry for the long, untidy, stream-of-thought mess. I basically typed and added all conscious thoughts into one giant text wall. I'll add a tldr; to the front. Please let me know where else I can post this for advice. I'm really lost. I was thinking about posting it in Australia but I don't know the rules of the subreddit. I mean, I'll probably do it anyway who cares if it gets removed. I also don't know how I should be reacting. I'm pretty sure I just described a dire, alarming and severe situation. As I read my own post, I'm kinda realising how fucked it is. I was told of the most recent violence (the choking pulling one) around 30 minutes ago. My first couple of thoughts were aggressive and hostile, but now I'm stressing thinking if there's any way out, preferably peacefully, although if he peacefully had a heart attack it would make things easier. And if there's helpful ways or mindsets to cope, I'm all ears. I'm kinda stressed with uni right now, I'm already having trouble with a course worth double the units, now I'm job hunting while thinking of all this, it's a rather large plate for me. This post was long winded and improperly expressed in some areas I suspect, I am willing to elaborate or fix details if I notice or if someone asks.
2023.06.11 02:16 IllustriousBuy465AITBF for ending my relationship because of how we met?
I (21M) attended a friend's party three months ago and met a girl (20F). she invited me to drink, we talked exchanged phones and we slowly started to get closer until we were sitting head on shoulder and holding hands, it was kinda nice until she said she was going for her phone, we stood up and I went to the bathroom, when I got out she was making out with someone else I was planning to sleep at my friend's house but I just felt too bad for it, I just up left and if cried until I fell asleep Next day she asked me why I left and I just said I felt bad, we kept talking without mentioning what happened, she asked me out and I accepted The date was nice, I felt happy around her and I though "Maybe she makes me happy enough for me to not mind it", "We weren't dating or anything at that moment". I could bear what happened but always was an itch, we talked about it a few dates after and she told me she did it because she thought I didn't like her because I didn't kiss her and because that guy was her friend and he asked if he could kiss her, she told me that when she stopped kissing him she found her phone and when she saw him again he was making out with someone else, probably trying to make me feel better When we started dating she made some ground rules 1 No meeting friends or family 2 No talking in too deep about us 3 Not adding each other on FB Until we started a more "Serious" relationship because some insecurities she had about dating Those rules started to get broken time to time, she said I'm a "Decent guy" and offered me to meet her family and friends, I was hesitant because one of his friends was the one she was making up with at the party, so every time she offered it I had to find a way to decline This last month I've been going through some hard times because college stuff, made me more anxious and depressed, that made me have a lot of "Intrusive thoughts" about what her like "How could you not know I did like you? We held hands, we were so close together" and I just kept feeling again how I felt that night, I just wasn't feeling the same We had a conversation, and although she offered solutions like not being friends with the guy or ensuring he wasn't present when we hung out with her friends, I decided to break up with her. I knew I couldn't be okay with what had happened We ended things amicably, but later, she posted a selfie on IG with teary eyes and lyrics like "Allow me to stay." Today I woke up with a call from her, when I texted her she said she was drunk, and probably was going to cry and ask me if we could get back together then told me to not worry about it, I said I'm sorry and she replied "It's okay, it wont happen again" I feel guilty because I could have made her insecurities worse, she told me once that since I was a decent guy she didn't want to ruin her relationship with me, but the more I think about it the more I think she ruined it since we met, and that I should have blocked her that night after leaving AITBF?
2023.06.11 02:16 Elgarnam[Spoilers All] Although Awakening is (perhaps) forgettable, the DLC presents a lot of interesting things in the lore...
I recently finished the Awakening DLC (I'm preparing my canons for when DAD arrives). That said, I think the DLC, even if it's a little forgotten, presents very interesting things in the lore. Politics: I find it very interesting that in the DLC the Wardens (more precisely your Warden-commander) are in charge of an Arling. Centuries ago, in Ferelden, there was a controversial episode when Sophia Dryden led a rebellion against King Arland. It's interesting that they are now being given a second chance in Ferelden and the implications of that. Even the First Warden (top leader of the order) is interested in the repercussions of this. That is, the way your character deals with leadership, governance, nobility, trade and commoners can impact the role of order in Ferelden. Darkspawns: I thought it was cool that intelligent darkspawns were featured in this DLC. Not only that, it's quite interesting that here the Darkspawns are more cast as a real race rather than a mindless bunch of monsters. Faction fights between them even give them a ``political'' feel. The Arquiteto and The Mother: I think the way each one of them deals with the Calling issue is really cool. We learn in DAO that darkpsawns are mindless beasts driven by the Calling to seek out the old gods. Then we have the Architect, an intelligent and special darkspawn (one of the 7 magisters who invaded the black city, although he doesn't remember it) who, despite his highly controversial methods, wants to give free will to his race. Then we have The Mother, a darkspwns who was freed from Calling by the Architect but, contrary to what he thought, didn't like the result and went crazy due to the lack of Calling. Two Darkspawns, both intelligent, both with totally different views of Calling and who rule two factions of Darkspawns against each other. That's quite nice. Orlesian Warden: I find it super interesting that with the death of the Hero of Ferelden in DAO it's an Orlesian Warden who takes over in Amaranthine. From a lore perspective it's pretty cool to play an Orlesian character on a quest in Ferelden who has a long rivalry and bloody history with Orlais. Seeing this character be received with distrust and prejudice at the beginning and, over time, gaining the trust of the Fereldens and making them overcome this distrust in favor of a common enemy is very interesting. Gray Wardens (in general): here I would just like to talk about how I liked that the entire party was made up of Wardens and how diverse it was: we have an apostate human mage with strong criticism of Chantry (Anders), an elf dalish mage with strongly suspicious of humans (Velanna), a dwarf of the legion of the dead (Sigrun), a dwarf veteran of the 5th blight and an acquaintance of yours (Oghrem), an abomination in the body of Warden (Justice), and a noble heir of the man you killed in the previous campaign (Nathaniel). Although they didn't have that much time, it's interesting how diverse this group is.
The Iconoclast was very different on the inside than it was on the outside. The outside was painted a dark, rusty red and kept simple to help blend into the void of space. It was large, sure, about a kilometer and a half long, but it was also bulky in a sleek way, two words that shouldn't have fit together but did in this case. The ship had a lot in common with those of tilfish design; substantial in tonnage for its purpose but still practical and efficient. But it was also clearly pieced together from several salvaged tilfish ships by humans, making it thinner and and more predatory in nature than what you'd normally see constructed by the aquatic insectoids. The inside, however, well that was a different story. It was a warm orange color throughout, and filled to the brim with things you wouldn't expect to see inside of a warship. The first place she saw just down the hall when she entered the ship was the dining hall. The dining hall was actually more like a very large dining room, with dozens of wide circular tables that were bolted to the floor surrounded by elegant dining chairs. Two red vintage soda machines sat side-by-side next to a series of glass-door fridges containing all sorts of drinks from soda to bottled water. A buffet was to the far side of the hall, next to a pair of push doors leading to the kitchen. A few dozen members of the crew were already seated, most of them being Arxur and Humans, although she spotted a few Gojids and Harchens in the mix. Babushka Polina hobbled past them back to the kitchen while mumbling about something, a Venlil wearing an apron opening the doors to the kitchen for her before following her inside. Everybody was chatting and socializing, dinner apparently not having been served yet. She preened her feathers nervously, scared of what would be served. Even if it wasn't a sentient, the idea of these predators tearing apart a live animal terrified her. She didn't want to be here to observe their eating practices, even if she had seen some outliers. Would they even serve anything other than meat? Sure, Song Lui had served her vegetables, but these people were very different; they had different accents, skin tones, names, clothing, and probably a different culture. She couldn't assume they would act the same as Song Lui, as it would be both foolish and unbecoming of her. She felt Sargen's clawed paw squeeze her shoulder in a vain attempt to comfort her. "Whatever you think is going to happen, it wont. Just sit down and relax, and I promise I'll be right next to you." Silijima took a deep breath in the vain attempt to calm down. "What will they be serving," Silijima hissed, the panic in her voice readily apparent. "I don't want to be eating meat from some carcass like a predator. I know that the predators on this ship won't eat me, but that still doesn't change the fact that they eat like predators." Sargen just chuckled. "You really don't have a clue. Let's just go sit down, I'll introduce you to some of my coworkers before Igor gives his speech and Babushka announces the beginning of the feast." Silijima fidgeted but relented, allowing Sargen to steer her into the dining hall and to a table with a few crew members along with a tall, white bottle containing some kind of potent and clear liquid; alcohol maybe? Their presence didn't ground her at all, rather it only made her even more anxious, but she pulled herself together and shooed Sargen away before sitting down. The largest of the humans, practically a giant in size and only a few inches shorter than Tarlim himself, looked at her and she nearly jumped out of her feathers. He was young, but still mature enough to seem jaded, and he had a mop of messy black hair that covered his dark hazel eyes. His lip was scarred, and his neck had a few nasty scars as well that reached down under his loose t-shirt and onto his chest. He was muscular and toned, reminding Silijima of a tree trunk you'd find on her homeworld, and his arms were the size of bridge cables. He was sitting in a larger chair than usual, probably because any normal chair would've seemed comically small in comparison, and probably break under his weight. "Who's your little friend, Sargen? Is she the new blood?" Sargen nodded. "That she is. This is Silijima, our newest hull engineer and weapons maintenance coordinator." Sargen gestured to the truly massive human gently. "Silijima, this is Haran, also known as Goliath. He's one of our assault specialists and heavy gunners." Silijima waved meekly, and Haran nodded. "She doesn't seem too confident. Lucky for us she isn't a grunt." Sargen scowled at Haran, obviously not happy with how he spoke about Silijima. Silijima, on the other hand, wasn't too offended; she understood she wasn't exactly confident even if she was a trained soldier. "Haran, please try to show some respect; she's our newest crew member." Haran shrugged. "I didn't mean to offend, just pointing out that she doesn't exactly have nerves of steel." "No, no; it's fine," Silijima interjected. "Don't worry about it, Sargen, I know what he means." And she did. She wasn't brave at all, or at least she didn't think she was brave. Sure, she had fought before, but she was just an engineer. Her combat experience was limited to assisting the ship guard in defending the more vulnerable parts of the ship. It wasn't her job to go out of her way to be face to face with predators, and thus she wasn't used to it. In fact, that was one of the reasons why she was able to last so long inside civilian society after her temporary discharge; most of her fellow soldiers were desensitized to predator glares, a surefire symptom of predator disease, while she was merely capable of reacting in time to not be gutted by an Arxur. Haran simply nodded. Next to him was a tall, youthful and pale-skinned human with brown hair and green eyes. He gave Silijima a friendly human snarl and a small wave. "It's good to meet you, hun, I'm Timothy." Silijima imitated him, waving her wings nervously. "It's nice to meet you too, Timothy. What's your role on the ship?" Timothy chuckled for a moment before responding. "Oh, me? My job's pretty boring. I'm just the quartermaster, essentially the guy who manages the ship's stores and assigns rooms." Sargen nodded behind her. "Timothy's a good man; he helped me through some hard times and he still does from time to time." "Yep, I try to help everyone on the ship when I can; Sargen is just special to me because he's one of my close friends." Timothy then turned his attention to Sargen, who seemed to shrink under his carefree gaze. "That reminds me, Sargen, you missed dinner last night. What's that all about?" "I… something came up." The enormous Gojid stuttered, obviously nervous. "Oh really? Well, we have a few days before our next assignment. You should come over tonight." Sargen didn't seem too amused by that idea. "Timothy, you don't have to invite me over every week." "Oh, but we do," Timothy countered. "Sargen, when you're at home on the station you subsist off of takeout and whatever junk food you pick up at the insta-mart. Me and Madison want to make sure you eat at least one healthy meal every week." Sargen grumbled for a moment, but didn't resist causing Timothy's smile to only grow. "Good, I'll expect you to be there. Siijima ,hun, you're invited too if you want to join us. We don't serve meat at the table when our crew members join us for dinner, I promise." Timothy's kindness shocked Silijima. Inviting someone over for dinner on Nishtal was only done for business or if the individuals in question were good friends. For Timothy to invite Silijima, a relative stranger, over for dinner showed that he truly saw her as a potential friend. "I would be honored, but I wouldn't want to intrude on whatever… this is." Haran snorted in amusement at Silijima's synopsis of the odd relationship between Timothy and Sargen, obviously having experienced this conversation beforehand. "Nonsense," Timothy replied, "We always make extra, and any friend of Sargen's is a friend of ours." Silijima didn't say anything in return, but Sargen spoke in her place. "Timothy, let's just get through lunch before you start inviting people to dinner." Timothy shrugged, a smile on his face. "I understand. Just make sure you come tonight; Gabbie misses her Goji." Silijima had never seen a Gojid blush so deeply before. "Please don't use that name in public, it's degrading." Timothy made a face that implied he obviously wasn't going to respect Sargen's request, causing the Gojid to fume. To the right of Timothy was a Venlil female. She didn't wear anything except for a simple pearl necklace, but her fur was meticulously combed and groomed. She gave Silijima a soft, motherly smile, a smile that put her at ease. "Don't mind the boys, dear, they're just acting like fools as usual. My name's Varka, one of the resident nurses under Dr. Kaczemeric." Venlil stuck out her paw, and Silijima was confused until she remembered to take Varka's hand. Varka simply giggled, obviously amused by Silijima not being used to human social norms. "It's nice to meet you too, dear. Why don't you sit down next to me? Carphano and I are probably less intimidating than our human friends." Varka gestured to the final crew member at the table, a male Harchen with a scar across his face. He waved as well, his side facing eyes droopy and full, as if he hadn't had much sleep recently. "My name's Carphano, communications officer, nice to meet you." Silijima sat in between them, the feeling of being amongst a group of species she was familiar with making her feel much more comfortable. Sargen and Timothy were still arguing quietly, while Haran watched with an amused look on his face. Suddenly, she heard the loud and repeated clinking of a spoon against a glass. Across the dining room, Igor stood on a podium made from inlaid mahogany, a bright snarling smile plastered on his face. "Friends! Today is a good day! In the past week, we made history!" The entire dining hall went silent at the sound of his voice. This must be a man that commanded their respect. "Five days ago, we returned from what may just be the greatest group liberation in Commonwealth history. Thirty two cruiser-class cattle ships were captured, their prisoners saved and their guards captured or killed. Today, the Coalition has finally given us the exact number of cattle liberated, as well as our cut of the spoils!" The entire dining hall was dead silent, the anticipation palpable. Finally, Igor gestured to a man next to him, a shorter human with a thin brown mustache and olive skin. The man passed him a paper, which Igor opened like a giddy child receiving a birthday card. Finally, he read the contents, his snarl only growing. "The final number of liberated cattle was… one hundred and twenty-two thousand, three hundred and seventy four; the largest liberation in history." The entire room broke into cheers, aliens of all races holding each other and yelling. It was pandemonium, but Silijima couldn't help but join the crowd, both the news and her herd instincts causing her to join in with triumphant squawks. The idea of saving over a hundred thousand sentients from slavery was so incredible that it invoked a euphoria inside of her that she hadn't felt for a long time. Igor gestured for the crowd to quiet down, and as they did so he spoke up again. "We must remember, however, that this was not only our doing. We must congratulate our comrades who assisted us, all seven ships, their crews and captains, as well as mourn those who were lost while fighting for the freedom of others." With that statement, Igor held up a small glass of the clear liquid, as did many of the crew members. Then, he shouted at the top of his lungs "mortem tyrannis et oppressoribus!" Before downing the liquid in a few gulps and slamming the glass onto the podium with a loud thump. The rest of the crew followed suit, the largest arxur to the tiniest dossur drinking and shouting the motto Igor had proclaimed. Silijima didn't have a glass, so she just watched expectantly, waiting for Igor to continue. "Now, for the part all of you have been waiting for; payroll. Even after the Coalition took their cut, and we split the profit eight ways, we made out like bandits. Needless to say, you'll all be getting the maximum bonus on top of your commissions." More cheering, even louder this time. Silijima didn't blame them; Igor seemed like a good boss if he was giving out the maximum bonus for a job well done. Even Sargen had a bright smile on his face, as if he was already planning on what he was going to spend the money on. "And finally, our future work; we won't be taking part in any liberation fleets any time soon. Instead, the Coalition sees fit to assign us on a defensive rotation, so it should be a calm few weeks. This means that if you've been on a few back to back missions, you should go home and rest for the month. Spend time with your family, or vacation planetside for all I care; God knows you all need it after our last victory. The rest of you; be prepared to take off on Friday and be space-born for at least a week at a time. And be prepared for a fight; NeoSec has detected a small Farsul fleet in the area, at least five thousand ships. Nothing cataclysmic, mind you, but still a worthy challenge." There was murmuring now, people discussing the change of pace and whether they liked it or not. From the corner of her eye, she saw Sargen practically pouting, arms crossed and eyes refusing to make contact with Timothy's. Timothy, to his credit, seemed very pleased with himself. "So hun, what brings you to our little slice of chaos?" Asked Timothy, eyes twinkling. He took another sip of his drink, a bottle of soda so green it almost looked radioactive. He seemed really nice, like a preacher, but without any of the feelings of hesitation she'd get from speaking to one. He lightly tapped the wedding band on his ring finger against the neck of the green glass bottle, causing it to make light clicking noises. "I uhh… I wanted to get away from Nishtal. Too much is going on there for me to be comfortable with." Timothy nodded. "That explains why you came to the Commonwealth, but not why you decided to become a Corsair. It's not an easy life, you know." Silijima pondered his query for a second before responding. "Military life is all I know. When I finished secondary school I joined the navy because I had nothing better to do, but now that I'm out I can't imagine any other life. Sure, it's hard, and especially dangerous, but without that certainty and structure that I get from being on a warship, I feel lost." Timothy nodded, his face becoming a little somber. "I understand that feeling. I'm ex-military, although I didn't see much combat. Getting out is the hardest thing I've ever done, although I'm pretty sure I never really left the service, I just changed who I served." Silijima nodded. "It's refreshing to talk to someone who understands. That life… it changes you, and not for the better. Everyone at home, well, they're scared of me, they say I'm diseased and it's a matter of time before they throw me into some clinic where they drug and shock me until my brain melts. Even the people I served with, if they weren't already taken away for 'treatment' then they're too terrified to say anything because we don't know who we can trust." For the first time since she had met him, Timothy didn't seem amused or amicable. He had a deep frown on his face and his eyebrows were bent downwards, an expression she had been told meant anger. She backed away a little, but he held up his hand. "I'm not mad at you, it's just the idea of an entire society treating those who risk their lives to protect them like dirt is despicable. On earth, we celebrate our heroes, not vilify them." Silijima nodded. "In a perfect world maybe, but I'm used to it." "But that's the problem; you shouldn't have had to live like that, in fear of the same people you swore to protect… it's not right." "Maybe, but what's done is done. I left Nishtal and now I'm here, so maybe I can experience that respect for once." "You don't have to hope, because I know you will. The people here are different, even the former feds, you'll see." And with that uplifting though, dinner began. Polina and her assistants, two Venlil and a Sikvit, rolled out massive wheeled tables filled to the brim with different steaming pots, pans and bowls containing all kinds of food. To her dismay, there was meat on the table, but there was also a section entirely dedicated to vegetarian dishes, and it was even longer than the table dedicated to meat. Some of the naval staff ran up to help, with Polina shooing them away stubbornly. They simply ignored her and helped anyway, rolling the tables to the far wall next to the kitchen. Soon, a massive feast was gathered, with over two dozen tables of all sorts of human delicacies. The crew quickly made their way to the tables, forming lines at each. Plates, bowls and cups were passed out by the kitchen staff, and soon people began piling their plates high with all sorts of food. Sargen had two whole bowls of what seemed to be a deep red colored stew, which she first foolishly assumed was blood, but quickly realized was just the liquid taking on the red color of the beets and cabbage. Timothy had a bowl of hearty cabbage stew that she had learned was called Schi and a shallow plate of small, ear-shaped dumplings on the side called Pelmeni, swimming in a fragrant broth and topped with a dollop of sour cream and a sprinkling of black pepper. There were other dishes, so many that Silijima couldn't count them all, but she was introduced to many of them by Timothy when he led her up there to get her a plate. There was all sorts of vegetarian dishes for her to try, ranging from cold soups like Svekolnik, Okroshka and Botvinyah, all sorts of salads with based on salted pickles and beetroots, several variations of hot soups like Schi and Borscht, Vareniki dumplings, farmers cheese shaped into cakes and shallow fried and so much more. Timothy insisted on making sure she got her fill, so he made her plate for her, filling her a bowl of Svekolnik and some Vareniki dumplings on the side with Smetana and black pepper. Only then did he let her sit down, after he quickly said grace, of course. Silijima didn't know what saying grace meant exactly, but she guessed that it involved them thanking their strange human God for their food, which felt anything but predatory. Timothy took a bite of his Pelmeni. "So, how're you liking the station so far? Anything peak your interest?" Silijima chuckled. "Everything, actually. This place is so unique and alien compared to anything in the Federation; it makes me think about what my species would be like if the Federation hadn't erased our old culture." Timothy gave her a small smile, but she could tell he was troubled. "And you don't mourn for that lost culture?" Silijima paused, thinking about his question. "I suppose I do sometimes. The idea of us being freer and less… inane with our thinking really strikes me as a wonderful change of pace. I could never see myself as an omnivore… no offense!" But Timothy wasn't offended. "I don't blame you for not suddenly being enamored with omnivore; the same happened with cloned meat on earth. A bunch of elites tried to make cloned meat the rule and not the exception through all sorts of government restrictions and subsidization schemes. All these rich influencers and wealthy magnates who can still afford to buy the real thing, and still do to this day mind you, told us how we were supposed to live and what we were supposed to do, that we were supposed to sacrifice while they enjoyed every luxury imaginable. To this day it doesn't sit well with a lot of people on the station." Suddenly, Silijima's mouth dried up and her appetite disappeared. "You guys don't clone meat here?" Timothy shook his head. "Nope, not a single pound. In fact, it's been lawfully and democratically voted into illegality by the citizens of the station, to protect our cattle farmers planetside. Most humans on earth aren't vegan and vegetarian by choice; it's really expensive to buy meat because of meat cloning, and that was before the war and the deals with the Arxur. Now you have to be vegan because of the massive decrease in available cattle. That doesn't stop the rich from eating their fill though." Silijima looked away, internal disgust battling moral indecision. On one hand, the idea of eating love cattle was far more disgusting to her than cloned meat, but on the other hand she understood his metaphor clear as day; it was about the Commonwealth and the Federation. "You support cattle farming not because it's better, but because it benefits humans more." "It's not about 'you' or 'me', Silijima, it's about 'us' and 'them'. At the end of the day, a government is supposed to represent everyone and see to their requests, not what the government thinks they need or want. That also means everyone should be equal under that representation, and not that the rich and wealthy should receive all the attention and benefits while the lives of you and I get harder and harder. Sadly, people had to learn the hard way that when you give governments the right and the power to provide you with everything, suddenly they provide you with nothing. Medical care, for example, started out as a right after the satellite wars. It quickly became a privilege for the 'good citizens' who voted the right way, and said the right things, and if you didn't suddenly you got a bill in the mail for hundreds of thousands of dollars for your daughter's chemotherapy, stating that you had waived your right to state-sponsored medical care the moment you chose to practice your right to free speech in a way that was deemed unsavory by the UN." Timothy looked straight at her, his eyes boring into her soul, and she quickly realized that he was speaking from experience. "What are you getting at," Silijima stated hastily, nervous over Timothy's sudden change in tone. "What I'm getting at, Silijima," he stated, his eyes downcast as he ate another dumpling, "Is that rights shouldn't come with caveats. Just like you shouldn't be punished for coming back a changed woman after you dutifully served your people, I shouldn't have my daughter used against me for practicing what should be a universal right. Unchecked power is a cancer, and the Commonwealth was created to prevent that from ever coming into being." Silijima mulled over what he said. Would humans really do that to each other in the name of power? Deprive each other of basic rights? Silijima was used to the Federation deceiving her people, but what punches had humanity pulled in the name of retaining power. "Timothy, if I may ask, what is humanity really like?" Timothy chuckled. "What made you think I implied we were any different from what the UN had shown you?" "The reveal of my species' former omnivory, and your statement about caveats and free speech. You made it sound like humanity was hiding something." Timothy sighed, obviously weary. "It isn't humanity that's hiding anything, Silijima; it's the UN. They want you to think that they were all these wonderful, misunderstood balls of cloud fluff. In reality we're assholes. We hate each other with a passion and we're not afraid to show it. War, racism, misogyny and misandry, prejudice; we'll find a way to hate each other even if it's impractical because we need some great enemy to battle or otherwise we'll start asking questions, questions that will be of a detriment to the UN. The rich and powerful used this for a long time to make us forget we were fighting a class war and not a culture war. They made us enemies of each other because of how strong our convictions could be." Silijima's heart sank. She had guessed as much. But Timothy wasn't done. "Before you start judging us too harshly, I'd like to add that the pendulum swings both ways. Humans, we often hate each other, but we can be even more passionate. We love, we love, and we protect those who dedicate themselves to our cause with a fury like no other. And even though we have problems with race, we are equally able to see beyond it when the reality of how petty it is is presented to us. And to me, Silijima, you aren't a Krakotl; you're family, and there's no bond stronger than family." Silijima considered whether she liked that or not. Then she realized that her standards had been far surpassed. These strange primates had been everything she hoped for and more. She figured she could pull a human and looked past race from now on. "I'd like that," she said, tears welling up in her eyes. "I'd like that very much." Timothy smiled again, that bright, mischievous smile, and for once she wasn't alarmed or frightened. She was comforted. "I'm glad you do. But there's something else I wanted to tell you. There's a city from my old nation, and at the entrance of that city stands a great statue. Most of it was obliterated during the bombing, but one piece remained; the plaque. It read as followed;" Then Timothy spoke poetry that reached into Silijima's soul, and her tears became unbearable. She cried as he spoke it, as if they were the words she wished to hear all her life, a promise that could set her free. "Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame, With conquering limbs astride from land to land; Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand Glows world-wide welcome; her mild eyes command The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame. “Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, The wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”" "We took the plaque with us when we fled, I helped carry it myself," Timothy said, a shadow of a smile formed on his lips, as if he was reminiscing the moment, "they're still demanding it back to this day, which is why we welded it to the wall behind the seats of our council chambers; the UN doesn't deserve it back, they lost the right to speak those words long ago. But the message is universal; you are welcome here, as is your family, and you will not be silenced or suppressed. We want you at your best, and we are willing to deal with your worst. All we ask is that you have an open mind, and do the same for us." Silijima nodded, tears streaming from her eyes. "I can do that." Timothy's smile grew even brighter, and he wrapped his arm around Sargen's shoulder, pulling him in close. "Then I'm sure me and my family would gladly welcome you, isn't that right Sargen?" "Hmmmkmfh?" Sargen said, confused and with his mouth full of borscht. Silijima laughed, and for the first time in years the stress that had built up in her chest was gone. She was free. She was where she belonged. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________ I'm back. This is officially the end of the first Gunbirb Saga. I won't be focusing on Silijima for a while because I'll be focusing on other places, and other topics. The Galaxy of Interloper is even bigger than the standard NOP galaxy, and I've got so much to show you (; I posted the first chapter of the next Part prematurely: that was a mistake on my part but I was dying to write more about Dojur and his consolidation of power. The next five or so chapters will be of a very different tone than the first five, much darker but also filled to the brim with Arxur and Dominion worldbuilding about culture, religion and daily life. If you like what I've written so far, and you like my terrible writing and my inane worldbuilding, go check out other stories that I've written: Waking Dreams: An insane pokemon/bleach crossover, and my first real attempt at writing something. It's a long story that's nowhere near finished, and it's got the deep worldbuilding that I'm not really known for [: The Spider's Stronghold: Another insane fanfic crossover between Pathfinder and PJO, primarily Jason-centric. Take that as you will. I also just wanted to thank everyone who either helped with this story or gave me support in the form of art (That would beu/BushBacon69) Or simply taking the time to comment (u/A_Tank_With_Internet,u/AcceptableEgg5560,u/bltsrgewd, u/WonderfulMagpie, u/se05239, and others.) Thank you all; without the motivation you all have given me, I wouldn't have finished this fic.
2023.06.11 02:16 -Sairax-How were you introduced the game and what helped you learn the rules the fastest?
I deal with a lot of new players and something I’ve noticed is that almost everyone gets taught in different ways and it got me wondering what helps people learn the fastest. I was taught the rankings like this; Single, Double, Triple, Straight, Suited, Triple Double, Quads, Straight suited. It helped me understand it in a few seconds and the betting made sense pretty quickly after. How did you guys learn the rules and what do you think is the fastest way to teach a newbie?
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2023.06.11 02:16 IllustriousBuy465Am I wrong for ending my relationship because of how we met?
I (21M) attended a friend's party three months ago and met a girl (20F). she invited me to drink, we talked exchanged phones and we slowly started to get closer until we were sitting head on shoulder and holding hands, it was kinda nice until she said she was going for her phone, we stood up and I went to the bathroom, when I got out she was making out with someone else I was planning to sleep at my friend's house but I just felt too bad for it, I just up left and if cried until I fell asleep Next day she asked me why I left and I just said I felt bad, we kept talking without mentioning what happened, she asked me out and I accepted The date was nice, I felt happy around her and I though "Maybe she makes me happy enough for me to not mind it", "We weren't dating or anything at that moment". I could bear what happened but always was an itch, we talked about it a few dates after and she told me she did it because she thought I didn't like her because I didn't kiss her and because that guy was her friend and he asked if he could kiss her, she told me that when she stopped kissing him she found her phone and when she saw him again he was making out with someone else, probably trying to make me feel better When we started dating she made some ground rules 1 No meeting friends or family 2 No talking in too deep about us 3 Not adding each other on FB Until we started a more "Serious" relationship because some insecurities she had about dating Those rules started to get broken time to time, she said I'm a "Decent guy" and offered me to meet her family and friends, I was hesitant because one of his friends was the one she was making up with at the party, so every time she offered it I had to find a way to decline This last month I've been going through some hard times because college stuff, made me more anxious and depressed, that made me have a lot of "Intrusive thoughts" about what her like "How could you not know I did like you? We held hands, we were so close together" and I just kept feeling again how I felt that night, I just wasn't feeling the same We had a conversation, and although she offered solutions like not being friends with the guy or ensuring he wasn't present when we hung out with her friends, I decided to break up with her. I knew I couldn't be okay with what had happened We ended things amicably, but later, she posted a selfie on IG with teary eyes and lyrics like "Allow me to stay." Today I woke up with a call from her, when I texted her she said she was drunk, and probably was going to cry and ask me if we could get back together then told me to not worry about it, I said I'm sorry and she replied "It's okay, it wont happen again" I feel guilty because I could have made her insecurities worse, she told me once that since I was a decent guy she didn't want to ruin her relationship with me, but the more I think about it the more I think she ruined it since we met, and that I should have blocked her that night after leaving Am I wrong?
2023.06.11 02:15 TKTS_seekerI finally figured it out
Figure out whatever description of this self evident truth, resonates the most with you, and cling to it/identify with it strongly. This is your belief system. This is your set of rules. This is order. Once you realize that you don’t actually have to identify with it in order to experience it, that is when living in this blissful reality becomes effortless. ef·fort·less /ˈefərtləs/ adjective requiring no physical or mental exertion. Without effort… without order… anarchy. This is chaos. an·ar·chy /ˈanərkē/ noun a state of disorder due to absence or nonrecognition of authority or other controlling systems. Effortless anarchy. Adjective-noun. Perfectly balanced. On the fine line of chaos and order (Jordan Peterson). Yin and yang (Zhou Dunyi). Father, son, and the Holy Spirit (Jesus). Taqwa (Muhammad). Nirvana (Buddha)
2023.06.11 02:15 Essay-FineEarning nice things/experiences does not encourage good behaviour
I want some back up here because my husband continues to be angry about our kids “getting away” with “everything”. if they don’t have something taken away or an activity completely stopped when they’re “not listening/being rude/fighting with each other” then we’re not parenting them and they’re winning I guess? For example, as we speak, the kids are being told that they don’t deserve the movie they’re about to watch because they didn’t eat as much as dad wanted. We never discussed this as a consequence and it’s just him trying to get them to “learn” through punishment which is really exhausting. Kids are annoying and don’t listen most of the time but they’re trying and they make mistakes plus they’re really bad at regulating their emotions. Just yelling at them “you don’t get to watch your movie because of how bad you were at dinner” will not yield wonderful behaviour. They will displace their disappointment squarely into dad and replace it with anger at him: there’s no reflection with 5 and/or 7 year olds! I’m just tired of his style of parenting. I try to frame their misbehaviour as a mismatch between what they’re able to do in any moment and what’s expected of them. I offer them help and empathy with a comment like “something about finishing your plate is tricky tonight” followed by “it’s my job to keep you healthy so if you’re still hungry you can have (insert something not exciting here) instead to eat”. I’m just tired of this hair trigger response anytime there’s “disrespect” and just yanking the rug out from under them like 5x a day. Ugh. Am I permissive or something?
2023.06.11 02:15 ImQsq[WTS] Benchmade Mini Griptilian, Ridge Wallet, Metonboss Top
Hey EDCex! Timestamp/pics: https://imgur.com/a/Mzgu0B2 Got a few items for your consideration. You know the rules, so feel free to skip to the goods. If not... YOLO > PMs and chats PPFF with NO NOTES in the comments section Prices include shipping to the CONUS only No international shipping even if you're willing to pay for it The GOODS... Take $5 off for each additional item purchased. If someone wants the whole bundle, I can do $300 shipped! Benchmade 558-1401 Ritter Mini Griptilian SV: $225 No idea how to price this one as this an older and rare model before Ritter went to Hogue. I've polled the Benchmade subreddit group and got a value of $225. So let's start there and see where it goes. Like new condition with no scratches on the m390 blade or pocket clip. Includes box and baggie. Boker Kalashnikov: SOLD on KS Ridge Wallet SV: $50 Cool wallet, but a little small for me. Bought it from a member on the edcexchange. It was lightly carried by him and I carried it for a week. Still in great condition. Includes the box and the tool. Metonboss Top SV: $50 Another edcexchange catch and release. I honestly know nothing about these. Bought it to fidget with in the office and never did. So it just sat in my drawer. It was sold to me as metonboss, but I can't confirm or deny. No scratches that I can see. Includes bag. Thanks for looking!