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Section 1. In addition to the Senators from each of the several States, the Senate of the United States shall be composed of twelve Senators at-large, who shall be elected by the people of the United States for six years, and each Senator at-large shall have one vote. Senators at-large shall meet the same age and citizenship requirements as the Senators from each of the several States.
Section 2. Senators at-large shall be elected using a nationwide system of ranked choice voting, under which each eligible elector may rank the candidates for office in the order of the elector’s preference. Each elector’s ranking shall hold equal weight in the determination of winning candidates. Seats of the Senators at-large shall be divided equally among the three Classes of Senate seats, so that one-third may be chosen every second year. Except as provided in section four of this article, all candidates shall appear on a single ballot, with the number of winning candidates being equal to the number of seats of Senators at-large then up for election. The first election of Senators at-large shall occur no later than the second regularly scheduled general election for Federal office following the date of the ratification of this article.
Section 3. An eligible elector shall include any United States citizen who is eighteen years of age or older; who has registered to vote by the deadline of the citizen’s State of residence; and who otherwise meets the eligibility requirements, as set by the citizen’s State of residence, for voting in a general election for federal office.
Section 4. Within thirty days of the seat of a Senator at-large becoming vacant, the President shall fill the vacancy by appointing a Senator at-large of the same political party as the departing incumbent. If the seat is not up for election at the next regularly scheduled general election for federal office, a special election shall be held to determine who shall serve the remainder of the term. Such special election shall coincide with the next regularly scheduled general election for federal office, and candidates for the seat shall appear on a ballot separate from that of the other seats of Senators at-large then up for election.
Section 5. The election of Senators at-large shall be administered by each of the several States. Each State shall submit all ballots cast within its jurisdiction to such federal entity as Congress shall by law provide, which shall collect and count the ballots and announce the winners.
Section 6. References in this article to the States and the electors thereof shall apply in the same manner to United States territories and the electors thereof and to the District constituting the seat of Government of the United States and the electors thereof.
Section 7. In addition to the Electors for President and Vice President appointed by each of the several States, there shall be twelve Electors at-large, who shall be appointed in such manner as Congress shall by law provide. Electors at-large shall hold the same powers and duties of Electors for President and Vice President, except that Electors at-large shall meet in the District constituting the seat of Government of the United States, where they shall cast their ballots for the presidential and vice presidential candidates having received the greatest number of votes cast by citizens of the United States. Electors at-large shall be included in determining the whole number of Electors appointed for the purposes of the Twelfth Article of Amendment.
Section 8. Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation, including by providing for the procedures under which the nationwide system of ranked choice voting, required by section two, shall be conducted.
Section 9. This article shall be inoperative, unless ratified as an amendment to this Constitution by the legislatures of three-fourths of the several States within twenty years from the date of its submission to the Several States by the Congress.

Hello everyone. I (29M) am auditing the trauma-laden relationship with my DID wife (29F) after another bout of unwanted cheating. We are hypermonogamists. To us, infidelity is a sacrilegious violation of Love. Alas, my wife has Dissociative Identity Disorder and some alters are hellbent on reenacting trauma with abuser substitutes. Yes, the DID is diagnosed by a trauma specialist, not Dr. Google. To differentiate from her alters, I will refer to Her True Self as Wifey.
I tracked the cheating history by writing this behemoth of a post and did my best to connect dots between childhood trauma and modern consequences. I hope that the community’s outside perspectives can spot things to which we are still blind, provide advice, or give any input that might aid our situation. All opinions welcome. I will access them carefully.
Please note that I have a Dismissive-Avoidant attachment style, and my psychologist noted C-PTSD. I also have DID but unlike my wife, I worked long enough to achieve co-consciousness, internal cooperation, and current dormancy in my alters. My True Self is finally in command. We ran out of therapy money before my wife could address her own issues, hence online communities are our last resort until savings build up again.
OUR TRAUMATIC CHILDHOOD ORIGINS
I was raised and abused by my narcissist grandmother for 25 years due to her orchestrating a rift between Mom and I (topic for another post). Her 16yo son aka my uncle sexually abused both my wife and I from infancy. In my case he had daily access. For my wife, it was because our fathers and my uncle were a trio of scum.
Despite the uncle link, I didn’t meet Wifey till age 3. She was dancing under a sprinkler and noticed my stare. Lightning hit us the second our eyes met and we breathlessly ran over to announce the mutual BOOM. After that, we were inseparable. At age 4 I proposed, she agreed, and we shared our first kiss. Adorable? No. We didn’t know how to be kids—due to sex abuse and grandma teaching us adult concepts, we related as boyfriend-girlfriend way too early and began playing the game ‘naked stuff’. Nothing beyond this first connection is purely innocent.
Soon after our romantic friendship started, my wife was groomed into nightly ‘special love’ with my uncle, laying a foundation of unfaithfulness towards me. When the ‘other boyfriend’ dumped her at 6, infatuation spiked and led to 9 years of cartwheels to regain his desire. Between that and my grandmother worshipping him, I competed for both women’s hearts by copying uncle into synonymity. I even used his playlists for dates and sex, believing that I am only worthy of love if I *am* him.
During and after my uncle’s abuse, my wife’s pedo father raped her too. I am loathed to call this BDSM given that he never abided by Safe, Sane, Consensual, but what he inflicted *is* BDSM activity. By age 5, he was trafficking his daughter and forced me to watch the rapes plus participate in sadism until I started doing it of my own accord. I was taught that boys are supposed to do this to girls, because they are girls. I didn’t know vanilla sex exists till age 11, at which point we finally shared positive intimacy—this formed the bedrock of what we are striving to build in adulthood. Alas, the learned fetishes persisted for years.
Meanwhile, my narcissist grandmother tormented me daily and brainwashed my wife to mimic her opinions, mannerisms, approaches, etc., thereby producing a mini-me alter and adding layers to our trauma bond. That alter learned toxic views on women (they exist to serve men) and pro-adultery, as the Narc preyed on committed guys for the fun of causing break-ups, obtained her husband by homewrecking, and caught a married lover long before grandpa died. As teens we were actually ghostwriters and phone sex assistants for that affair, obstructing critical stages in our own relationship.
Throughout this, Love existed. No one but her made me feel Loved, Seen, Heard, Safe, Certain. Moreover, me and Wifey expressed authentically only to each other, providing an oasis for Our True Selves to develop untarnished. We mutually soothed our demons, inspired creativity, and entertained one another. Teen Wifey also proved my angel. She endured hell to guide me out of darkness and prevented suicide attempts. Without her, I would be in prison or dead. At 23 we married in hopes of becoming wholesome and slowly inched toward that goal.
For Wifey’s wellbeing, I spent 2015-2022 deprogramming my BDSM porn addiction, fetishes, and toxic attitudes about women. Only last year I comprehended healthy relationships in concept. I think it is a beautiful way to live but it unnerves me as well. We also realized that vanilla D/s is our true preference, and we are highly compatible as a team. There is potential for absolute Paradise, but many issues still need to be overcome (communication struggles, ignoring Wifey for eons while she waits for me to interact again, etc.). The infidelity is my current focus. Here goes the trauma-fuelled history of online cheating.
AN UNCLE SUBSTITUTE EXPLOITS HER
Wifey has 7 alters. Some self-harm, some climb out windows, some rabidly scratch me or shriek enough for police to arrive, but the most annoying is that 9yo girl imprinted on my uncle. She always pines to get him back—which she finally did, in proxy form: AP1 (Affair Partner 1).
May 19th, 2022, my wife met a 31yo ‘virgin’ on Facebook who sucked her in via sob stories. While extracting info on her alters and rapes, AP1 made her a sex-ed teacher. Her confidence flourished. I had no concerns given my rock-solid trust in Wifey. Little did I know the 9yo alter was having an emotional affair of unrequited ‘love’. AP1’s eerie similitude in looks / job / zodiac / vibe / pedo streak made him an ideal projection, especially given how much Uncle 2.0 lavished the alter. He was her dream come true. Looking back, I invited this situation by depriving Wifey of attention for too long. She needs regular interaction with me to stay Her True Self.
Anyways, Wifey believed the hours spent texting / on the phone were recharging her desire for ‘me’. We were yet to understand that ‘me’ meant ‘uncle’, as the two were blended. I started feeling off, but kept trusting her. After all, she had befriended two FB guys in 2021 who stayed platonic (only now we recognize them as lighter emotional affairs). Besides, grandma taught me that getting randomly sidelined or devalued is ‘just the way things are’.
After 3 weeks of grooming, AP1 triggered my wife, fully infiltrating her subconscious. She fearfully hid from him for 2 days, then tried to end the friendship on June 8th. AP1 derailed the goodbye into engaging topics, followed by traumatic content that methodically wore her down into an aroused trance. Once he hit the trigger jackpot, her alter seized control and delved into 6 hours of abuse reenactment sexting, audio clips, nudes, unholy “I love yous”, etc. while Wifey’s undercurrent of extreme stress induced miniature heart attacks—this caused permanent damage. Once Wifey woke up and saw what transpired, a female FB friend moved mountains to prevent her guilt-ridden suicide. She desperately wanted to die.
Later, I walked into the room expecting nothing unusual. Instead, tear-stricken wife fell to her knees, grabbed my leg and frantically confessed sexting, giving away our gif collection and using terms sacred to us. The heartbreak annihilated me. While consoling her, I struggled to swallow reality: the ONE PERSON I thought would never break my trust, just shattered it. Another dude just *stole MY wife*. Long before I learned that my old rival (uncle) was the motive, I felt triggered.
Many talks / meltdowns ensued between us and Mom. 48 hours later, the alter cheated again (June 10th) while we thought Wifey was snoozing. AP1 had unlocked an oil spill of traumatic arousal, hence it took seconds to induce the marathon, this time centred on BDSM. AP1 then instructed the alter to give him first dibs every day—the Husband can only get sloppy seconds. Once he left, she ran over to Mom announcing that her boyfriend is going to marry her (old fantasy about my uncle) in a jarringly American voice (Wifey is Francophone). This unmasked DID as the cheating engine and introduced us to a previously-unknown alter.
Once awake, Wifey plunged into catatonic shock and depression. We all supported Wifey grieving AP1’s sick exploitation and processing why she succumbed. I never got a chance to focus on myself amid the revolutionary insights, plus Mom and I kept scrambling to stop that alter before she obeyed the “sext me daily” command that would only retraumatize her further. We also discovered AP1 is a predator who targets mentally-ill wives in addition to little girls. That vulture has a thing for the most vulnerable forbidden fruit.
Realizing the insidious influence made Wifey hyperfocus on Our Marriage. She was outraged that AP1 dared invade us and texted him revocations of love, condemnations for “raping her while drunk” and tried to hammer the sanctity of Marriage into his snide mug. We banded together against my uncle’s spectre and felt in-tune as a couple. Therapy sessions were scheduled. Had this continued, Our Love would be detoxed and stronger than ever. Alas, a parasitic distraction sapped its power 6 days later.
GRANDMOTHER TRAUMA BOND INTERFERES
My wife kept shutting down during intimacy due to intrusive memories of AP1, plus an urge to blot out the existence of non-abusive sex. Her alters were clinging to my uncle’s ‘style’. She quickly realized that AP1 had stained sex and rendered her numb to me. She was distraught.
When my wife sought advice on June 16th, 2022, her friend (also abused) nabbed the chance to confess a bewildering lesbian crush. This shock activated the trauma bond with my grandmother and prompted another alter affair. She declared that a bit of lesbianism will cure our intimacy problem. At first, I laughed it off. Then therapy was cancelled, my savings were spent on gifts, and I realized that my wife’s #heart# was stolen in addition to sex drive. A Facebook woman had burglarized my one remaining stronghold.
Given how romantic it was, I felt replaced, invisible, abandoned (childhood themes). It sliced and diced me, particularly since my wife blinded herself to my pain no matter how I pushed her to see it (grandmother theme). My wife cried that she wants us both and can’t choose—no wonder, since she was unknowingly reliving a childhood scenario where emotional incest with my grandmother accompanied and influenced Our Love.
I was clueless about this. To me, it seemed a heart-crushing romantic affair. Being a hypermonogamist forced into polyamory is indescribable. On June 23rd, I ranted at AP2 for stealing the Love of My Life and decided on suicide even if I’m hellbound—Heaven means nothing sans my wife. Panicked AP2 called the cops. Mom convinced the officers that it was a false alarm, knowing that I would try to get shot. Wifey was unrecognizably hollow while comforting me. I fell asleep in bitter tears, her hand numbly wiping them away.
My bitterness began erupting while teary wife insisted this is a mission. She swore to end the affair as soon as she solves the ‘mysteries of sudden lesbianism’. I refused to support it. Our fights incited a fullblown manifestation of my AFib and worsened heart issues for my wife. Daily vomiting turned her into skin-and-bones. We nearly died, which would have caused the suicide of My Mom and AP2. Poor Mom already suffered intense health issues from this affair. She adores us both. Our vitriol devastated her.
Eventually I put my wife’s happiness above my own and let her go: if she is meant to come back to me, she will. I spent another month in living death. Surprisingly, Wife kept her promise. She discovered that the emotional incest with mother figures in both her and AP2 caused them to ‘fall in love’. The alters tied to my grandmother lost their grip, the affair ended (August 13th), and Love for me flooded back.
Wifey returned a matured woman: more Self-Aware, rational, and opposed to adultery than ever. I fell in Love with her vibrancy. Meanwhile, AP2 became our mutual best friend, an invaluable source of epiphanies for my healing too, and the biggest supporter of Our Love. Turns out that we all share near-identical trauma plus share common interests. As a result, I felt gratitude for this affair. Short-term suffering reaped long-term blessings.
A STRAINED AFTERMATH
AP1 continued to highjack our sex life. The conscious resurrection of my uncle in my wife’s psyche permanently split him and I into two men and revealed the sexual imprint. Between bringing that into her awareness and the various desecrations, AP1 vandalized her. Damn the timing! We were on the verge of a sex life free from trauma!
We lived in tension despite Loving efforts, and I struggled to overcome the sense that my mate is tainted. I put the bedroom on hold until these stains were purified, and figured it was best not to impose myself until the alter stops craving Uncle 2.0. For months I patrolled my turf obsessively while screaming inside. Did my best to remember that Wifey never betrayed me—these are only echoes of the past wrecking havoc in modern day.
TRANSCENDING THE CHEATING
Fast forward a year since the two affairs. I was working on Self-development and finally grieving my grandmother trauma. My wife started reflecting deeper on infidelity and had epiphanies:

1. Everything that she finds attractive and attributed to my uncle belongs to me (e.g., *I’m* the analytical nerdy poet surrounded by books—he’s the robotic, stuffy tech fanatic).
2. I am her real dreamboat, projected onto the pedo worshipped by her idol (my grandmother) instead of vice versa. She actually Loves me MORE as I gain authenticity.

AP1 displacing me as the substitute proved a vital liberation. My wife gained clarity because he took the entire uncle projection onto himself. That also made me shed residual mimicry. Her sex alters went dormant and True Wife was eager to rediscover Her Husband directly.
During Our Anniversary (mid-April), True Wife was a trembling ball of remorse and begged for an impromptu vow renewal. Her turn was a meltdown of apologies and fervent promises to never forsake Our Love again. She convinced me of her redemption, especially after rejecting FB dudes in her inbox while posting wishes to me. Hope was rebuilt. We seemed en route to healing. One problem: we still didn’t have sex.
ABUSER CONDITIONING RETALIATES
Avoiding sex since the cheatings was incredibly stupid. I didn’t realize that her alters, though dormant, felt owned by my uncle because I never reclaimed her. AP1 factory-reset my wife’s sexuality. The healthy things needed reinstallation before it was safe for her to face old trauma. My failure to do that made alters restless and our reconciliation was seen as a challenge to her fortified abuse programming. This was the worst time for my wife to post in a rape support sub.
In minutes the DM creeps descended and my wife met a pedophile whose way of abusing little girls woke the alters. My wife was in denial about the risk and texted me: “The affairs revealed truth about my alters and abuse. This man too. I gain awareness about my trauma as I tell it to him and understand more why pedophiles hurt us. I shall make sure it does not get personal. It is not a real affair. I am just researching.”
My heart was pounding but I tried to trust that she will stay within (barely tolerable) boundaries. NOPE. A mere 38 days after vowing never to betray me, her alter pleaded the pedophile to describe what *he* would do to 6-year old *her*. He whet her appetite with a partially-fulfilling fantasy before ghosting. Wifey entered a bizarre state of autopilot.
Inexplicably, she contacted a BDSM Redditor who is a known sanity risk, solicited him for sexting, then prayed for him not to respond. When he did, she felt scared shitless and obligated to describe her old tortures (as he commanded). The guy proceeded to demolish my wife’s barriers until she started craving her father’s tortures. The moment she called him “Master”, it was over for me.
I shut down and observed the trainwreck, feeling no sympathy. My wife invited all this shit and made a conscious choice to engage instead of block. I was dejectedly amused listening to the circus: “This is just research, I learn my mind by interacting with bad men—OMG OMG I DON’T KNOW HOW MUCH LONGER I CAN SURVIVE THIS FILTH! I WANT ONLY YOU! Oh, another client needs my trauma for pleasure! Got to go!”
I felt too drained to realize that her unhinged sexting spree was stirring my trauma. Another oversight.
THE RIDE THROUGH OLD HELL
From May 27-28th, her alter became a snowball down Mt. Everest and the avalanche pulled me under. DM perverts verbally raped my wife while she took explicit photos right next to me in bed. Against all expectation, these e-rapes catapulted me back to boyhood: helpless to intervene, and too horrified to close my eyes. Taking away the phone didn’t cross my mind, nor could I. My body was paralyzed and eerily, I lost the ability to make sound. Seems that I contain significantly more trauma programming than anticipated. I resent my wife for subjecting me to this oppressive hell even more than I resent the cheating itself.
As if going down ‘memory lane’ wasn’t enough, possessed wife also channelled my grandmother. She would look at my tears and emit her sadistic CACKLE. Once I merged the two women, I was screwed. My trauma program dictates that I must endure whatever grandma wants; this includes watching her affair unfold.
As the ultimate insult, my wife spent the last 12 hours building an emotional affair on Reddit while I prayed for sleep. By dawn, her alter declared him a potential ‘boyfriend’. In her deluded head, the sexting arranged for nightfall would cure the rest through ultimate satisfaction plus bring True Wife back to Our Love, as this guy made her feel that “I am with you, not your uncle. Like *you* finally feel real.” The nonsensicality made me short-circuit. I was DONE.
INSANITY SLAMS TO A HALT
That afternoon, she finally jolted out of the binge-sexting. How? Wifey noticed my distress, 5 days too late. I watched her first comprehend that this is hurting me, then struggle to reset consciousness, then remember that Love exists. She did a 180 on her ‘client’ and viciously berated his perversion. That helped her regain footing.
My jittery wife proceeded to apologize, freak about the explicit photos, and spiral into a suicidal state over betraying me again. She erratically cancelled every sexting appointment, shut off the DMs, and spent days begging Divinity for help. We avoided each other.
In our first talk, Wifey confessed that she fears herself, as only her housebound life prevents physical cheating. While she wants nothing more than to be pure, her alters are begging for more due to trauma bonds. Wifey described it as: “Insatiable rocket blocked by a moral fence and waiting for release to zoom again.” Needless to say I was embittered.
REFLECTING ON THE AFTERMATH
While analyzing recent events, I realized something: my wife didn’t run to that BDSM sadist of her own volition. An elusive alter had taken the wheel: the brothel Madame who pulls my wife into prostitution re-enactments. No wonder she was cackling! It’s the alter’s trademark, based on my grandmother! That damn Narc used to say that it’s bad to deprive other men and let the body go to waste on one Husband. *No wonder* a vow renewal pissed off that alter! Now Wifey-on-autopilot made sense.
Wifey was stunned at the revelation and had a glitch (outraged cackles, whimpers, shudders) that confirmed its truth. She never knew this freaky alter steers her from behind the scenes. Took her awhile to digest the disturbing paradigm shift.
Interestingly, she later texted: “That alter does not excuse my choice to chat with a pedophile right after another creep showed me how vulnerable I am. I have ultimate responsibility even if later choices were not mine.”
I asked if that choice was really her own. She replied: “I think so, because he introduced himself as a retired counsellor. I never expected he was a pedophile and when he mentioned it, I should have been proactive about risks continuing such a topic with any man.”
I avoided her again and tried to pinpoint my feelings (still a struggle). No matter how blatantly I see the nymphomaniac is not Her True Self, the serial breakage of trust is making me relinquish hope, care, and concern. The more I sink into numbness, the less I care who is culpable. The whole Wifey & Co. feel ruined. I know it is very unfair to shun Wifey for sins committed in a trauma trance. DID is involuntary. Yet, her issues are a jinx now that I am surpassing our old life. The very toxicities Wifey healed in me remain her alters’ addiction. Now they’re in nasty withdrawal, desperate for any ‘drug’.
For the first time ever, divorce is drifting through my thoughts. I keep wondering, do I treat these events as a growth opportunity for her, or grounds for divorce? I want to reconcile, but should I? I’m burned out. She’s constant trouble. I feel ready to bail. And honestly, I feel unsafe.
Like my grandmother, my wife let me fly again before shooting me down. I barely began grieving narcissistic abuses and am scared of her containing grandma energy. The no-contact I implemented seems pointless—that Narc lives in my wife anyways. She even has the same power to crush me to dust, only stronger. My wife is my biggest weakness. I abhor weakness, thus I am abhorring her. I also detest the oppression of tiptoeing, compromising, and obliging alter whims at the expense of serious plans—JUST LIKE WITH MY GRANDMOTHER.
Then again, I can’t fathom living after a divorce. Wifey loves Celine Dion and we are the epitome of that duet I Hate You Then I Love You. The lyrics “It’s impossible to live *with you*, but I could never live *without you*, for whatever you do, I never never never want to be in Love with anyone but *you*” still rings true.
The Spouse Slot in my heart was formed in my wife’s shape and for her Essence alone. I can’t accept any other. If I was the dead guy in What Dreams May Come (one of our favourite films), I would definitely traverse the afterlife to save my wife no matter how broken she is. Existence in any world is meaningless without her.
We overcame worse hells than cheating. Why would I abandon Wifey when she is in desperate need of protection!? We live by the quote: “A perfect marriage is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other.” In my belief, we are Twin Flames, and Wifey is definitely my Ideal Woman: demure, dreamy, melancholic, full of mischief and poetry. She saved my life. She redeemed me. We are supposed to grow old and go to Eternity together. Why would I give up on a lifelong mate over trauma!?
It seems that I am losing interest. This necrosis spurs the desire to amputate, while the increasing loss of exclusivity is repellent. For years I unquestioningly believed that she’s *incapable* of desiring anyone but me. Now my ownership feels diluted, invalidated, defeated. Several guy’s marks are all over her and nothing scrubs them off. Her intrusive memories of affairs even obstruct our intimacy!!!!! It is slammed into my face constantly—she is no longer ONLY MINE. That triggers a kneejerk aversion to others’ territory, which she now is.
After decades of impassioned Gomez & Morticia-style romance, I have no clue if I even Love her anymore. Something feels extinguished between us. There is a loss of respect—for the first time, my wife’s worth has fallen in my eyes. I saw her defile every renewed vow. It’s burned into me: she is substandard. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. My beloved is suffering. Why am I on the verge of abandoning her!?
MY WIFE’S PERSPECTIVE
Wifey insists that she deserves patience as she tackles her trauma. Is Wifey right? I am going to copy/paste that text message from her here. Only fair to include both sides.
“Mon Amour, before you sink too deep with ghastly divorce ideas, may I please remind you one thing? I had infinite patience while you wrestled with your demons…I sacrificed myself to my depths for your healing and stayed even when I should have fled. You bemoan loss of trust online while I lived many years never feeling safe to trust you face to face!!!!!! But I never gave up on Love and the amazing man I saw beneath your shadows…my Ideal Man you have now become!
My alters twist and blur my thoughts dreadfully until I forget everything I have now…but they are NOT ME. You also were not yourself when you were lost…I fought so much to free you from problems and I would pray not to be abandoned when my own problems catch up with me…no one can heal their distortions overnight. “In sickness and in health” hm? I am sick. Why throw me away now? I do not feel this is very fair no matter how utterly loathsome my own actions…you know I shall always regret succumbing again. Alters aside I should have been proactive when I still had control and listened to Mama and even Mods warning me to turn off DMs when I signed up. I overestimated myself and now I pay many prices for my idiocy.
You do good job punishing me with ice already…I beg you be merciful enough to stay while I cleanse…please…we are like in the Destino animation…meant to be together but lost among shifting sands and obstacles trying to separate us…please do not forget Our Destiny of Love…remember, we don’t say goodbye…J’taime Éternellement!!”
CLOSING QUESTIONS
How do I cure the disenchantment / indifference? If I decide to stay, how do we rebuild when we lack solid rubble for a new reconstruction? How do I stop her restlessness to cheat? Is my wife getting exploited similarly to a drunk woman or is she culpable for her cheating? Am I the real failure here? Is this worth fighting for? Am I the real failure here?
TL;DR: Our Marriage is plagued by a shared abusive childhood, wife’s DID in particular. In 2022 an online predator reactivated her trauma programs through sexting. The fortified issues were never resolved, thus her alters cheated again once new predators DMed her in 2023. I hit my tolerance limit and something extinguished between us. I need advice on how to help my wife and rekindle Love.

Link to the Daily Challenge
This is a place for Reddit users to submit their scores for the official Daily Challenge (hopefully) without the results being tarnished by cheaters. This should be played as a [2] -- zooming/rotating, moving allowed but external assistance is prohibited. Feel free to leave any walkthroughs in your comments, concealed with a spoiler tag.
A bot will keep a leaderboard for the month. You'll notice two columns related to your scoring performance. The first of these columns is labeled Average and represents your average score among all games throughout the month. The second column is labeled Score and represents either: 1. The average of your top 15 performances, or 2. Your average score divided by 15 (if you have played less than 15 games). The leaderboard is sorted by Score. At the end of the month, the highest Score will be declared the winner, and the leaderboard will reset for the next month.
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HALL OF FAME
Summary of top 3 performances:

	1st	2nd	3rd
June 2021	Ancient-Recover695	Grymmwulf	jackES62
July 2021	Grymmwulf	Ancient-Recover695	JLyons18
August 2021	LunacyEcho	197gpmol	Ancient-Recover
September 2021	LunacyEcho	Ancient-Recover	solarsensei
October 2021	solarsensei	197gpmol	LunacyEcho
April 2022	JackES62	LunacyEcho	solarsensei

Top 10 Individual Personal Bests All-Time:

	User	Score	Month
1st	Grymmwulf	24945	July 2021
2nd	Ancient-Recover695	24718	June 2021
3rd	JackES62	24714	April 2022
3rd	LunacyEcho	24714	April 2022
5th	solarsensei	24674	October 2021
6th	197gpmol	24572	October 2021
7th	JLyons18	24552	July 2021
8th	Werdok	24438	September 2021
8th	KeelsDB	24438	April 2022
10th	Kibachiyo	24403	April 2022

for a while, both greta gerwig's barbie and christopher nolan's oppenheimer were both scheduled to come out on july 16th of this year. as such, this sparked a lot of debate about which film was going to be better. and in my humble opinion, this isn't even a fair contest. it's gonna be oppenheimer.
although the announcement of the barbie movie was originally met with the same reactions that the super mario bros movie got upon it's announcement, people are slightly more optimistic after the trailer(and i will admit that the teaser that parodied 2001 a space odyssey was actually really funny). not to mention, it has some solid talent. in addition to greta gerwig writing and directing, the cast includes margot robbie, ryan gosling, will ferrell, and kate mckinnon, all very talented actors. who knows? it might actually be decent. i don't plan to see it in cinema's but i might catch it when it comes on streaming.
oppenheimer on the other hand has everything going for it. one of the greatest directors currently working at the helm, an all star cast that includes five oscar winners and three nominees, an interesting story, and lots of technical ambition. i mean, they recreated an atomic explosion for the movie! if that doesn't scream great filmmaking, i don't know what does.
oppenheimer's release date has changed to the 21st of july so the "who will win" social media posts have stopped. but even without that, barbie was never gonna be able to compete with oppenheimer in terms of quality. which film do you think will be better? a movie based on a toyline or a biopic directed by one of the most acclaimed directors of our time?

NACL 2023 SPRING

Official page Leaguepedia Liquipedia Eventvods.com New to LoL

Supernova 1-1 Team Fish Taco

SN Leaguepedia Liquipedia Twitter YouTube TFT Leaguepedia Liquipedia Website Twitter

MATCH 1: SN vs. TFT

Winner: Supernova in 41m Game Breakdown

	Bans 1	Bans 2	G	K	T	D/B
SN	jax maokai zeri	malphite renekton	78.7k	31	10	M1 HT3 CT5 B7 CT8 E10
TFT	milio yuumi neeko	lissandra kindred	71.9k	16	4	H2 H4 CT6 B9

SN	31-16-85	vs	16-31-35	TFT
Qwacker ksante 1	4-6-10	TOP	5-7-6	4 olaf lunacia
Music volibear 3	9-2-18	JNG	2-9-5	1 vi RoseThorn
RobbyBob cassiopeia 3	8-3-14	MID	3-4-8	2 ahri Onat
Sketch ezreal 2	10-3-14	BOT	6-4-5	1 aphelios Spawn
Trevor rakan 2	0-2-29	SUP	0-7-11	3 nautilus Nxi

MATCH 2: TFT vs. SN

Winner: Team Fish Taco in 31m Game Breakdown

	Bans 1	Bans 2	G	K	T	D/B
TFT	vi yuumi volibear	nautilus rakan	61.9k	24	10	C1 HT3 H4 CT5 B6
SN	zeri neeko milio	lulu tristana	56.6k	12	5	H2 CT7 B8

TFT	24-12-67	vs	12-25-16	SN
lunacia jax 2	1-2-7	TOP	1-6-4	1 ksante Qwacker
RoseThorn maokai 1	0-2-21	JNG	3-6-2	1 viego Music
Onat annie 3	6-1-12	MID	3-5-2	4 syndra RobbyBob
Spawn jinx 2	15-4-6	BOT	5-3-5	2 ziggs Sketch
Nxi braum 3	2-3-21	SUP	0-5-3	3 blitzcrank Trevor

This thread was created by the Post-Match Team.

BlendedSMP
Hello, my name is Yupphire and I'm currently looking for new players for BlendedSMP, our community-focused Minecraft server. I started this server back in 2022 so I could play Minecraft with my friends. After a several month long hiatus, I am happy to announce that BlendedSMP is BACK!

Why Join BlendedSMP?

The main draw of our server is that we use Geyser, which is a plugin that allows Java and Bedrock clients to play on the same server. Regardless of which version you and your friends have, you'll be able to play on BlendedSMP together (hence the name, BlendedSMP). If you're wondering what else is in store, here is a list of all the features BlendedSMP has to offer!

• We're on Season 2! This means that you'll be able to start fresh along with every other server member.
• We use a variety of different hand-picked datapacks and crafting tweaks from Vanilla Tweaks, to enhance the Vanilla experience without the use of mods or other plugins. Because of our commitment to the Vanilla experience, you will never see plugins such as MCMMO or Vein Miner that drastically modify Vanilla gameplay.
• We use DynMap so you can see a map of the world anytime the server is online
• We use DiscordSRV to further connect the Discord server with the Minecraft server by allowing members of the Discord server to communicate with those on the Minecraft server, and vice versa.
• To prevent and undo potential griefing, we use CoreProtect so in case of any griefing, we can rollback any damage that was done.
• We have an active community that always welcomes new members.

Our Rules

The full list of rules is on our Discord server, but here's a shortened version for the sake of this post:

• Be civil and respectful
• Stay PG-13 (NSFW content is prohibited)
• Server members must be 15 years or older (This is a new rule for this season, so you may still see some under 15s around if they were members of the previous season)
• No griefing or stealing
• No non-consensual PvP
• No hacking or item duping
  • Client-side mods such as Optifine, Litematica, Minimap, etc are all allowed. If you're unsure if a mod you use would be allowed, contact me and ask.
  • While item duping is not allowed, TNT duping is fair game. This is because TNT duping dupes the entity, not the item
• Try to stay within 2000 blocks from spawn (This rule won't be enforced, it's more of a guideline to create a more close-knit community)
• Joining the Discord server is mandatory
• Don't try to look for "loopholes" in the rules. Observe basic SMP etiquette.

How Do I Join BlendedSMP?

On our Discord server, we have an application process you'll need to go through in order to be whitelisted on the server, which can be found in #whitelist-application in the Discord server. It simply involves you answering a few questions about yourself. The application is designed for us to get to know you and see if you're a good fit for our server. We don't expect an essay but we expect a few sentences at the very least.

CLICK HERE TO JOIN OUR DISCORD SERVER

Thanks for reading! We hope to see you soon on BlendedSMP!

We had such a blast last year that I'm excited to announce that US Air guitar is returning to Salt Lake City. Show will be at Aces High Saloon ( 1588 S State ) 9:00 pm June 17. Part Rock show, part improv, all without the hassle of having to tune your guitar.
This is the 21st year that some of the best air guitarists around the country are gathering to compete to see who will be chosen to represent the United States in the World Championships held in Oulu, Finland. A panel of esteemed judges have been assembled to decide not only who will go on to represent Salt Lake City at the US National Championship in Denver on July 15th, but also something a little special for this year's winner.
This year is also very special for US Air Guitar because we are honored to be working with the Leukemia Lymphoma Society to raise money for their Dream Big Project. This year we'll be charging $5 at the door and will have some fun prizes to raffle off to help raise money for LLS.
The show is broken down into two rounds. In the 1st round, each competitor performs to a song of their choosing. The 2nd round consists of the top competitors from the 1st round performing to a surprise compulsory song. In each round contestants perform to one minute of a song and are judged on stage presence, technical merit, and “Airness“. The two scores are combined to decide who wins and will move onto the national show.
If you think you have what it takes to be the next Air Guitar Legend, sign up to compete at
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/us-air-guitar-2023-regional-championships-salt-lake-city-ut-tickets-603719861357?aff=eand

Located in Pennsylvania. Attended a charity silent auction today and found a piece of art I was interested in. Was told by workers that the auction ended at 4:45 PM. I put a bid in at 4:43, and at 4:45 I was the highest bidder.
The kicker is that the workers (likely volunteers) associated with the charity were bidding as well. These workers continued to submit bids after 4:45, and then started pulling the bid sheets. As I was watching them pick up auction sheets, I noticed several of them write a bid down and pull the sheet up immediately after, not giving others the ability to bid. This also occurred after the 4:45 deadline.
This unfortunately happened with the item I was interested in and on two items that one of my family members had bid on. I lightly confronted them after winners were announced, asking why someone was able to bid after the deadline and why they pulled the sheet immediately after a bid. They claimed that the person pulling sheets up was not a worker but “knows some people at the charity.” They apologized and said I could continue bidding, but I was too angry and politely declined. Also, bidding past the deadline kinda defeats the purpose of the silent auction.
Do I have any legal options here? I imagine it’s highly unlikely but I’m feeling a little petty. I’m also wondering if these workers that were bidding will even have to pay the full amount of their bid. Thanks!

I’ve been a fan of city since they had good kits and a good team (2016) where do I buy the champions league winners plastic jersey for 2022/23? Also when did Lakaka sign for us as CB? Go Manchester Baby Blues!

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MAIN raffle being stepped: https://www.reddit.com/lego_raffles/comments/144pky5/main_42143_technic_ferrari_daytona_sp3_109_spots/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
What is a STEP raffle? A step raffle is a tool used to complete a main raffle that is struggling to finish. The remaining spots in the main raffle are bundled into prizes to be awarded in the step raffle. https://www.reddit.com/lego_raffles/wiki/index/#wiki_step_raffles
170 spots @ $1 each. There are 34 spots remaining in the MAIN valued at $5 each for a total value of $170
There will be winners. The same person can win multiple times but not on the same number (bot will be called once).
1st-8 spots 2nd-6 spots 3rd,4th,5th,6th,- 5 spots each
MUST have a spot in the MAIN to request a spot in the STEP for the first 30 min , must wait for announcement when the hour is up. (Anyone that requests spots at this time that was not an original participant will be ignored.)
Payment required w/in 10 minutes of raffle filling.
No comments in payments. Comments will result in a ban.

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