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2023.03.30 13:41 Crasher610 Is it just me or is the remake WAY scarier
Just as the title says i don't know if i just get really easily scared or if the game is simply way more scary. Not sure how much of a impact playing on hardcore has but certain segments are absolutely terrifying, Ashley segment would be the perfect example it terrified the shit out of me same with sewers part, vertugo fight and first regenerador encounters. I am playing on hardcore but outside of making fights more tense i don't think it has much of a impact on the scariness of it.
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2023.03.30 13:41 legallyblondeeee96 Boyfriend 32m f28 bf blindsided me with ex at his party!
We have been together nearly 2 months.
So she walks through the door to his house with a guy assume her bf and he goes oh that’s my ex sorry I should have told you about this earlier. He is a psychologist so I thought he would be more emotionally intelligent.
I just felt a chill down my spine I felt so awkward and uncomfortable and blindsided and on the spot. I just wanted to leave
It was also the first time I was meeting any of his friends so it was kind of overwhelming since there was like 15 people there
He asked me just during the week to discuss histories and he asked me about my ex and why it didn’t work out considering the party was in a few days I thought he would have mentioned this. I didn’t ask him too much about his ex because he said it was ages ago!
How would you react to that scenario? What would you do?
I had an amicable split with my ex but we aren’t friends
TL;DR BLINDSIDED BY BOYFRIENDS EX
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2023.03.30 13:41 CrazyDaisy764 I'm so tired and I want out (TW: suicide)
Okay first some context: my fiance/partner Melissa and I were in a car accident Feb 25 that killed pretty much instantly. I broke both my legs in the accident so I moved back in with my parents because my injuries make taking care of myself difficult. My old room is being used for storage, though, so I'm staying in the guest bedroom. I was looking for work before the accident but because of my injuries and grief, it doesn't make sense to keep going with that for awhile since I don't know when I'll be able to function well enough to work. We were together for 3.25 years and were hoping to get married in the next year or two. She was only 23. I am on antidepressants and I am seeing a therapist twice a week. I have a history of depression so this isn't my first rodeo. I've already told my parents I feel like this as well as a few friends.
Anyways, it's been a month without my girl and I don't want to do this anymore. I'm exhausted. Mentally, emotionally, physically. I never feel rested when I wake up, no matter how much I sleep and I rarely sleep through the night. I dread going to bed because whenever I try to fall asleep, her absence becomes excruciating. I'm not at home, I'm not in our bed, and she's not there. The feeling that something's wrong is unavoidable. I can't hide from the horrible truth that she's gone, that she's dead. That I'll never see her again, that I'll never feel her embrace or hear her voice or hold her hand again. Never be able to bury my face in her thick, sweet-scented golden-brown hair or look into her gorgeous brown eyes or caress her beautiful face again. Never be able to nestle my head against her warm chest with her arms around me and listen to her heartbeat. That I'm here in this unfamiliar bed in this unfamiliar room alone because she's dead and I'll never be able to lie beside her again. It kills me every time it hits me. I want to scream and howl, tear at my skin and rip myself apart. The pain is overwhelming. I can't endure this nightly torture much longer. I know she'd want me to keep living but I don't think I can. I don't know how to live the rest of my life without her and I don't want to.
There's no escape or distraction from my pain because everything reminds me of her. I also can't concentrate for more than 15 minutes and my injuries mean I can only do activities sitting down so I can't even try to do anything fun or interesting or productive. I can't go outside for walks, concentrate on books or do any of my old hobbies and I can't enjoy movies or TV because they all remind me of her. My brain feels like mush and emotionally, I just feel broken. I feel like the part of me that can feel joy or anything good like love or happiness is broken and I don't think it's fixable. I wish I could convince myself that she still exists somewhere and that she's still with me, but I just can't. If she doesn't exist, it's much harder to care about what she would have wanted. She's dead which, in my opinion, means her consciousness no longer exists. She is just dust. At the same time, the reality of her not existing anymore is agony. I don't know how I could ever get used to this wretched reality and I certainly don't think I can last the 2-5 years grief psychologists say it takes to get back to normal functioning after something like this. It hurts too much. I don't think I have that kind of endurance. The pain and numbness is so intense. I just want out. I want it to end. I want the pain to stop. I can't do this anymore. If she can't feel anything anymore, why should I care? She won't know if I die and what she doesn't know can't hurt her.
I know my friends and family would suffer like this if I give up, but I resent that. I resent them for making me suffer so they don't have to. I love and care about them, but it's hard to care enough to subject myself to this much suffering, especially when I can't feel my love for them. My love for Melissa was the only thing that could push through this kind of apathy. During past depressive episodes, I had a reason to hold on because I had her cheering me on and I wanted to live for her. I wanted to keep going because she needed me and because I wanted to be there for our life together. I had faith in us and I believed in her. I made us my purpose. Our happiness, our success, our future. Her death sent a wrecking ball through all of it, all of our plans and dreams. I don't have anything like that to believe in or depend on anymore. My life will be objectively more painful and lonely without her and there's no way for me to know that a life on my own will be worth enduring all this pain for. She was there at my lowest moments to help me feel less alone and to remind me why life was worthwhile and why I mattered. I don't feel like I'm any good to anyone anymore.
Why do anything if I can't share it with her? What's the point of continuing to pursue my career if I can't share it with her and make her proud? She made it all worthwhile. We did everything, everything together. We are/were both autistic so we helped motivate each other to do everything we needed to do to be independent adults by doing it all -- showering/hygiene, cooking, hobbies, exercise -- together and it was all so much better together. She encouraged me so much in everything, helped me want to do and to enjoy everything I need to do to live. Why do any of it alone when it's so much lonelier and less rewarding? How could I find anyone willing to support me like that, who would love me that much again?? She understood me so completely and accepted and loved it all. I could be my full, unfiltered self with her, which means a lot and is pretty rare for an autist. It made me feel so free. I don't want to live the rest of my adult life (I'm 24 so that's potentially a long time) alone, lonely, and without that kind of love, freedom and support. I know what it's like to have it and I don't want to live without it. I don't know how to be happy with my life without it. I don't know how to be the woman I want to be without that or without her. I want happiness, joy, love and fulfillment in my life. I don't know how I could possibly have those things without her and while carrying this pain and I don't feel that life is worth living without those things. Even if I could, I don't think I'll make it through however long it's going to take to get there. I just want out.
Ik this was quite long so thank you to anyone who got to the end. I'm posting this because my self preservation instincts aren't completely gone and I guess the teeny tiny part of me that hasn't given up yet hopes that I'm wrong. So thanks for listening to a desperate woman's ramblings. I'm so sorry we're all here.
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2023.03.30 13:41 AShroudedTraveller 32M Ireland - Anywhere. Tattooed travelling photographer, seeking expedition partner for cozy books & good times on the road
Hello fellow travellers of the interwebs!
I have recently just quit my full time employment in favour of adopting a new career that allows me the fulfillment of travel, new adventures and plenty of time to experience the great wide world!
After spending the last 6 years feeling less than fulfilled I have decided that I am going to start living for me and with that hopefully comes new people, friends and hopefully a little spice. I would love to meet some new people that share a love of travel, tattoos, books and movies! Even if only one of those things is your jam, then please feel free to slide on in to my mailbox...(not a euphemism.. 😂)
I love travelling and outdoor adventure! I will often take mini vacations to remote parts of the country, set up camp and enjoy nature with my dog and a good book. I also love photography and creating my own prints, which is weird because I would never describe myself as creative.
I'm an introvert that loves spontaneous eruptions of extrovertism! I'll get my social fix then ramble back to my cosy abode to recharge those social batteries.
Anyways, I like to keep a somewhat air of mystery around myself, makes for more interesting reading and conversation later. Or so I choose to believe 🤔.
Happy to swap pictures and move to another app should we hit it off 📸.
I Look forward to chatting with you 😊
!unlock
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2023.03.30 13:40 Wheatley_core_01 Question for all of the people who are dissapointed that ToTK looks to be taking after BoTW, how come?
I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade here, far be it from me to tell anyone what they can and can't enjoy. This is just a question that's been swirling in my head recently and I was hoping for some explanation.
Recently (especially since the gameplay demo), I've seen a lot of comments to the effect of "I found BoTW dissapointing in [x] way, and ToTK looks to be the same." Of course, in most cases this is perfectly healthy discourse that boils down to one's individual opinion about particular design decisions. The part that confuses me however is that I often see it in regards to the main design philosophy of the game. Stuff like the open world and the (apparent) non-linear structure.
To those of you who feel this way, why do you find it surprising/disappointing that ToTK - the direct sequel to BoTW - would take strong influence from the latter's design? Hell, do you feel that way, or am I just getting a false reading from the comments I've seen? I totally understand why you might not like it, but were people genuinely expecting a game that did away with the core foundational philosophy of this branch of Zelda games?
Again, I want to reiterate that I'm not trying to tell anyone what they can and can't like or enjoy. We all love Zelda for our own reasons and that's what makes the community so interesting. I'm just looking for answers to a question that I've been trying to figure out for the past little while, so any honest answers are appreciated.
And to be clear to any over-zealous defenders of ToTK, I'm asking for discourse and opinions from people who don't think the game looks all that flash-hot. Please do not downvote people for giving their honest opinions when I am expressly asking them to do so.
Thanks everyone :)
(Oh, and in case they're relevant to your reasons, I [and others] have been avoiding art book spoilers, so if you could keep those as vague as possible I'd appreciate it)
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2023.03.30 13:40 AShroudedTraveller 32 [M4F] Ireland - Anywhere. Tattooed travelling photographer, seeking expedition partner for cozy books & good times on the road
Hello fellow travellers of the interwebs!
I have recently just quit my full time employment in favour of adopting a new career that allows me the fulfillment of travel, new adventures and plenty of time to experience the great wide world!
After spending the last 6 years feeling less than fulfilled I have decided that I am going to start living for me and with that hopefully comes new people, friends and hopefully a little spice. I would love to meet some new people that share a love of travel, tattoos, books and movies! Even if only one of those things is your jam, then please feel free to slide on in to my mailbox...(not a euphemism.. 😂)
I love travelling and outdoor adventure! I will often take mini vacations to remote parts of the country, set up camp and enjoy nature with my dog and a good book. I also love photography and creating my own prints, which is weird because I would never describe myself as creative.
I'm an introvert that loves spontaneous eruptions of extrovertism! I'll get my social fix then ramble back to my cosy abode to recharge those social batteries.
Anyways, I like to keep a somewhat air of mystery around myself, makes for more interesting reading and conversation later. Or so I choose to believe 🤔.
Happy to swap pictures and move to another app should we hit it off 📸.
I Look forward to chatting with you 😊
!unlock
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2023.03.30 13:40 Fragrant-Hamster-325 Auto Import Not Working
Is anyone having issues with auto-import?
It hasn’t worked for over 10 days. I’ve tried removing and re-adding my accounts and it only partially worked. My Chase accounts seems to be working now but my AmEx card is not.
I’ve been using YNAB for several years now and it feels like I’m flying blind when I can’t monitor my budget.
Such a bummer, Personal Capital and YNAB used to be my key financial apps and both have dropped in quality. They are becoming fairly useless to me now. The only thing I can assume is the Plaid service used to import bank transactions doesn’t work.
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2023.03.30 13:40 Cultural-Barracuda86 Any fun summer classes/jobs on campus to stave off summer time loneliness?
Time moved fast! Before we know it the semester will be over! However i have a major problem! I go to UMD but then go back to my parents in Florida in the summer who live around a retirement community. (Florida is overrated its filled with old people! Don't see anyone under 50 years old! (IDK why my folks had to live near a literal retirement community!)
My therapist suggest i stay around campus during the summer, rent a place, take a class or two or maybe find a job on or near campus. Problem is I noticed this place becomes a ghost town in the summer and is filled with old people as well! (in the suburbs).
Any summer classes I can take (that are not too rigorous). Where I can frankly meet some acquaintances (not even friends). But just people to chat with during class who are not as old as my grandparents but 20-somethings like me lol?
Any art classes or something?
I apologize for being ageist, however sometimes the senior citizens I know back in Florida can be out of touch/tell the same lame stories OVER and OVER and OVER again! They are nice people however them being DECADES older than me is hard to relate! (A kindergardener would have trouble relating to me etc)
This issue has gotten so bad I fall into BAD depression in the summer back in Florida that I need to do something about it.
-can anyone help me? -thank you
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2023.03.30 13:40 AShroudedTraveller 32 [M4F] Ireland - Anywhere. Tattooed travelling photographer, seeking expedition partner for cozy books & good times on the road
Hello fellow travellers of the interwebs!
I have recently just quit my full time employment in favour of adopting a new career that allows me the fulfillment of travel, new adventures and plenty of time to experience the great wide world!
After spending the last 6 years feeling less than fulfilled I have decided that I am going to start living for me and with that hopefully comes new people, friends and hopefully a little spice. I would love to meet some new people that share a love of travel, tattoos, books and movies! Even if only one of those things is your jam, then please feel free to slide on in to my mailbox...(not a euphemism.. 😂)
I love travelling and outdoor adventure! I will often take mini vacations to remote parts of the country, set up camp and enjoy nature with my dog and a good book. I also love photography and creating my own prints, which is weird because I would never describe myself as creative.
I'm an introvert that loves spontaneous eruptions of extrovertism! I'll get my social fix then ramble back to my cosy abode to recharge those social batteries.
Anyways, I like to keep a somewhat air of mystery around myself, makes for more interesting reading and conversation later. Or so I choose to believe 🤔.
Happy to swap pictures and move to another app should we hit it off 📸.
I Look forward to chatting with you 😊
!unlock
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2023.03.30 13:40 Socialecontheory Should I stay and get promoted or leave to another role?
Hey y’all!
I’m a 27M who works at a large company. I’m kinda in a predicament.
Recently went out and did some networking and found an opportunity that would be a promotion at my company doing what is absolutely my work passion at the moment. If possible, my pay would nearly double what it is now due to some technicalities of the move. Now this opportunity would not allow me to manage a team for awhile (1-2 years) which I really, really want to do. For me managing is something I’ve always wanted to do. Helping people reach their goals and coaching would be really fulfilling.
I let my manager know that I was interested in learning more (before knowing the specifics of the job) and he told his boss who then told his boss. Well turns out I’m one of the top performers in my org for my level and they want to keep me. I was already on the path to promotion here and it would probably happen this year. Now, they’re basically giving me everything I want which includes a team and some high value projects, however, my work passion is low value for this org so it wouldn’t be my main focus but I’d get to manage a team! Also the promotion wouldn’t net as much income as moving would.
So I’m at a crossroads and could use some help.
Stay:
Promotion
Manage a team
Become a large contributor potentially rolling me into an easier promotion down the line
Retain some of my work passion but it’d someone on my teams responsibility
Lower net pay
Go:
Get to focus on my work passion
Pay is doubled
Don’t get to manage a team
Learn a whole new business
Make a name for myself again
Any advice on ways to think through this would be really helpful.
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2023.03.30 13:40 Shesaiddestroy_ Professionels de l’édition, auteurs publiés, j’ai besoin de vos conseils avant rendez-vous avec maison d’edition en vue de faire publier mon livre. Que dois-je savoir pour bien preparer cet entretien ?
Je travaille dans une niche et j’ai écrit un premier livre pour « apprendre à… » dans cette niche.
Je vends mon livre en auto-edition sur Amazon et sur mon site internet.
J’ai ete contactee par une maison d’edition « pro » qui publie une collection sur ma niche au sein d’un grand groupe d’edition que tout le monde connait.
Forcement, je suis hyper contente d’avoir cet echange et j’ai espoir que cela puisse aboutir a une plus grande distribution de mon travail.
Et comme je n’ai jamais eu ce genre d’entretien de ma vie, je ne sais pas comment le preparer au mieux ?
Quelles questions va t on me poser ? Quelles sont les attentes de mon interlocuteur dans ce cas ? Que faut il que je sache pour ne pas passer pour une cruche et mettre les chances de mon coté ?
Merci pour vos lumieres, pros de l’edition ou auteurs publies !
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2023.03.30 13:40 IrvingsGhost [M4F] A nostalgic 90s Halloween themed plot? Looking for a partner!
I’m a Halloween lover, and an Autumn lover in general. To me, it truly is the greatest season of all time and I think it’s the perfect season for a romantic and dramatic story. That’s what I’m hoping to find here!
This story would be set in the late 90s, where films like the craft and scream are part of the common consciousness, and Halloween still held magic. Halloween town is airing for its first time and hocus pocus is essential. Neighborhood kids ride bikes to each other’s houses while teenagers meet at misty Autumn lakes for impromptu campfires filled with urban legends of hook-handed psychos. Halloween held a power over that era, and I want to recapture it in this roleplay!
Here’s an overview of my idea for the actual plot:
Our characters are young adults, possibly from the same town and possibly familiar with each-other (or you could be new to town, up to you). It’s early October and the summer heat has retreated, leaving chilly mornings and the first hints of dying leaves. My character’s best friend is planning a massive Halloween party, and the time is ticking for him to find a date.
Here is where I have two separate but equally ideas, this could simply be a boy meets girl slice of life story, or we could take it in a supernatural direction!
If we keep it just a romantic story, then obviously our characters would get to know eachother, go in cute fall dates to the pumpkin patch, haunted houses, costume shops, etc..
If we take it into a supernatural direction, I’d like to add a whimsical horror element to the mix! Maybe the spirit of Halloween is angry and begins to bring Halloween entities to life and our characters are the unlikely heroes? Could be fun!
The main thing is, I want to capture that comfy nostalgic feeling of the era, and inject it with a healthy amount of romance and character growth! I think using settings such as pumpkin patches and costume stores would be a ton of fun, whether it gets supernatural or not!
Now for the technical stuff! I’m in EST time zone, and I only RP on discord for simplicity sake! I am semi-literate and will never one line you, as I always strive for multiple paragraphs! I am usually working during the day but I will try and get responses out on my town time which is pretty often!
If you’re interested in this, please be willing to discuss with me! If you’re expecting me to have everything meticulously planned out and ready, I will disappoint you! But if your down to brainstorm and make this something we both care about, I can’t wait to chat!
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2023.03.30 13:40 rainbowbunny_1004 My hair dresser cut my hair too short and I didn't say anything about it bec I'm too introverted to... I hate myself being like that!! How to fix?
Today I had the urge to cut my hair so I went to a random hair salon. I told my hair dresser to cut my hair a little short but I have to be able to do a ponytail. I always say this because I can't really pull off a short hair style. But this lady ended up cutting my hair too short just like her hair and she kinda grabbed my hair to see if she can make a ponytail as I requested and quickly released them which was funny... I knew she did because she screwed it. She asked if I like the length and I just said yes altho inside I was complaining a lot... I think I've never complained about my hair to a hair dresser when I was not satisfied with the outcome.. Part of me think that I am too introverted and have unnecessary fear of being treated badly bec of complaining... How do normally people say when the outcome doesn't meet their satisfaction?? And if I do, will my hair dresser hate me? Or in the first place, should I just leave without saying anything bc whats done is done and u cant put the hair pieces back?
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2023.03.30 13:40 SunderedValley What are your POSITIVE experiences with complete strangers in the EDM scene?
Was just reminded the other day of the time I ended up overdoing it and nearly had a breakdown. Stranger helped me center myself, and - despite how weird I might've sounded at the time - even agreed to sit in my lap and hold hands until I managed to no longer go through it. Then they just left with a parting hug never to be seen again. I'm a very touchy person in situations like this so that person probably helped keep me from calling the ambulance on myself or getting kicked out or even having the law involved.
We need more people like this.
ITT: Positive experiences
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2023.03.30 13:39 StepwiseUndrape574 Hey Rockstar, GTA Online Has A Bad CPU Bottleneck That Slows Loading But There's A Fix
GTA Online is Rockstar's incredibly popular cash cow that has been keeping gamers busy since 2013. Although the game should be relatively mature at this stage in its life, it still has plenty of flaws, such as horrendous loading times. These loading time issues have annoyed countless players, and now one player has tracked down the root issue to improve performance.
GTA V fan T0ST recently picked up GTA Online again to finish some new heists that have come out since he last played, but he was "shocked (/s) to discover that it still loads just as slow as the day it was released 7 years ago." With some grit, determination, and perhaps even some spite, T0ST decided it was "time to get to the bottom of this."
gta online ridiculous load times fixed benchmark
In the process of digging into GTA Online, T0ST had to do due diligence and research to make sure no one else figured out the problem. Once it was established that no one had, he ran some benchmarks on his PC with an aging FX-8350 CPU, NVIDIA GeForce GTX 1070 GPU, 16GB of DDR3, and a "cheap-o" Kingston SSD. Though these parts may be old, they should be plenty to get GTA Online off the ground in decent time, but that is not what happened. According to the data in the blog post, T0ST got into the story mode in approximately one minute and ten seconds, whereas it took nearly six minutes to get into online mode. After some polling, it appears that many other users are having the same issue . What could be happening here?
gta online ridiculous load times fixed taskmanager
Using the task manager, T0ST found that his CPU was being eaten for around four minutes during GTA Online's load process. Perhaps it was just a bottleneck happening on his CPU alone, but that would not make much sense. To track down the issue, T0ST went to dump the running processes' stack, showing where the offending process is happening in RAM. This information, acquired through Luke Stackwalker, gave T0ST a place to look for whatever was causing issues.
gta online ridiculous load times fixed lukestackwalker
After falling down the rabbit hole of trying to track down where the memory pointed, it all started to come together through assembly code reading and obfuscation. Evidently, when loading into GTA Online, a whopping 10MB worth of JSON is being parsed. It seems that it is data for something called "net shop catalog," which is likely just all the things purchasable in GTA Online using in-game currency.
gta online ridiculous load times fixed parseloop
Why this parsing takes so long is due to a function used called sscanf, which, in this instance, can be loosely equated to reading Romeo and Juliet by reading one word, then rereading the play, and then jumping back to the next word in the play. Furthermore, there is another bad programming issue just beside sscanf, which goes through the entire list of JSON entries in an array, one by one, and checks to see if there are duplicates by comparing a unique ID assigned to each item called a hash. Ultimately, it is a lot of extra and unnecessary work that slows down everything.
To solve this issue, T0ST decided to write a .dll (Dynamic Linked Library) and inject it into GTA so that sscanf is effectively streamlined. Also, rather than running duplication checks, they can just be skipped as items inserted into the storage array will always be unique, as was set up during the parsing effort. Once T0ST injected the DLL into GTA with both issues fixed, he saw his load times go from around six minutes down to a solid approximate two minutes.
As T0ST explains, this "won't solve everyone's load times - there might be other bottlenecks on different systems, but it's such a gaping hole that I have no idea how R* has missed it all these years." Ultimately, Rockstar needs to dig into this issue to save all GTA Online players headaches during loading. If you want to see what T0ST did exactly, you can check out his GitHub here and see what is going on. In any case, perhaps we will soon get an official statement from the development company, so keep an eye on HotHardware for updates.
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2023.03.30 13:39 katiekachow how do i cut off a toxic friend that won’t leave me alone
i’m a senior in high school right now and i’ve had this one friend since we were born basically. we’ve never been like best friends or super close, our moms just knew each other and we used to hang out a lot. i have a lot of memories with her and she’s a good kid.
lately though, she’s become like the worst person i know. she is excruciatingly insecure. she always bashes on herself and when that’s not enough she bashes on other people. she’s so extremely rude and negative towards everything and it’s unbelievably draining. because of this hateful perspective, she tends to think everyone hates her too and gets really mad for no reason.
she body shames everyone. EVERYONE. first she calls herself fat, dresses herself up in a slutty outfit to feel better, and then hates on a girl wearing the same outfit. it’s like dude, why are you being such an asshole?
she tries her hardest to be part of the popular girl group. she has many friends that are very normal girls, but she ignores them and tries to force friendships between the popular kids and it’s actually so sad to watch. she always used to tell me “do you think they actually like me?” while literally doing everything in her power to get their attention.
she also indulges in extremely reckless behaviors, like unsafe sex, just because she likes the attention she gets when she takes a plan b. i got very mad at her for this and told her to stop making stupid decisions that could ruin her life and she just laughs and ignores me, saying yolo. her boyfriend is also sick and tired of her for this.
my breaking point though was her 18th birthday party. the popular girls didn’t show up so she drank herself into oblivion and passed out throwing up. i was the ONLY one to take care of her. i stayed up with her all night, my hand on her neck feeling her pulse and waking her up every 30 minutes to make sure she was okay. the next morning, she treated me like i wasn’t even there and made it a spectacle, saying “guysssss! my 18th was crazyyyy!”
after this i cut her off. stopped talking to her completely. however, she doesn’t seem to get the memo. she is constantly texting me asking to hang out, asking me to get drugs for her (i don’t even do drugs??) and SPAMMING my phone telling me to check my messages.
i’ve been avoiding her in school but idk what to do much longer. i don’t want to just straight up say “i hate you please leave me alone until you fix up”. what do i do?
TLDR: a friend from childhood is a terrible, reckless, selfish, rude and insecure person and i’m trying to cut her off to save myself from being dragged down with her, but she won’t leave me alone. what do i do?
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2023.03.30 13:39 faahy Time for a new look dilemma
Hey so I’m a man with 3b-3c hair whos had it afro long for a few years now (varied from puffy afro with no care to calm defined curl afro with products for a good minute) and I feel like I’m getting tired of it. It’s been so long and it’s been part of who I am for a long while and I’ve had my fun with it I truly have been loving every minute of having this hair but I think it’s time for a change.
However, like I said it’s been so long since I last got a different haircut that I am anxious at the idea of getting a normal haircut. Many people who have met me after I started rocking this hair keep telling me they couldn’t imagine me without this hair and that I shouldn’t get a haircut. But I’m truly tired of it. It takes a lot to take care of and showers are kind of a hassle.
Also, my face is big and I have a relatively big nose and I have been comfortable in the idea that my hair is providing coverage and taking the attention away from my insecurities but I think it’s time I grow out of this.
So, could you guys provide me with advice and pics on what haircut to get (no fades)? I would reallly appreciate it.
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2023.03.30 13:39 sonezu My S5-story... so far
So here goes my S5 story so far...
I ordered my S5 in September. You have already heard about the multiple delays. Last time it was supposed to come in April - but it came already in March. UPS delivered the package (from the Netherlands) very quickly and I was pleasantly surprised. The box had minimal damage, everything was fine.
The assembly succeeded us with the video on the Vanmoof YouTube channel without any problems. Only the pieces of cardboard on the handles/brakes, which strangely remained on until the end, irritated us a little.
By the way, after all (estimated 20) pieces of cardboard and padding were removed, it was already clear to me that I could never pack the bike again like that. I had even taken extra photos in the packed state to be able to reconstruct the whole thing.
The first charging took longer than expected, but was no problem overnight. The next day I couldn't wait to take my first ride. Before that, I had updated the bike to the latest firmware (which required completing, or at least interrupting, the charging process) and added FindMy to my iPhone 14 Pro. The latter actually took (thanks to the tip on Reddit) about 20 resets before I could find it in FindMy. Still some catching up to do there.
On to the first ride:
A dream! I never test drove it before and had bought it blind. I was thrilled and drove right through our town. The weather was cloudy but dry, the temperatures ideal for cycling.
I went up and down hills (always on the street or bike lanes), rode full throttle, was able to lock and unlock the bike without any problems - perfect!
So in an hour quickly came together comfortably ridden 8 kilometers.
Then, however, the fun came to an end:
On a large, absolutely flat place the size of a soccer field I suddenly slipped with the pedals when starting, it cracked and about 10 meters later blocked the rear wheel when pedaling. I got off a bit roughly and scraped my hands slightly for lack of balance, but again the bike never touched the ground!
I couldn't understand what was happening at first. The bike had not experienced any shock or damage. At no time did it suffer any kind of damage. Even when I locked it, I had a permanent view of the bike.
I had no choice but to carefully push the bike the one kilometer home without pedaling.
When I got home, I found that the e-shifter had rotated 180 degrees and was broken in two places. The timing belt had eaten into the cover of the bike chain. There was no way I could fix the problem myself.
So I contacted the support and was warned that the current wait time would be an hour and a half. Fortunately, after only a MINUTE and a half, a friendly employee got in touch. He took a fairly pragmatic approach and showed me the options:
Either send the bike in (they would have it picked up) or drop it off. Sending it in would take longer.
I knew that Hannover (100 kilometers away) had some sort of Vanmoof base/store/hub. However, I couldn't drop off the S5 at this one, as the employees were probably not yet trained for this model (Certified Workshop). The next service hub the support was offering was Berlin, which is 250 kilometers away! But they would immediately take care of me as an early adopter. If it was the e-shifter, it could be replaced within a few hours. For me, this meant that I would have to take a day off work and drive 250 kilometers there and 250 kilometers back. I would have preferred to be able to call the hub beforehand to ask when it would be most convenient for them, so that I could be sure to take the bike back on the same day. But the service employee assured me once again that no appointment was necessary and that my concerns about going to Berlin and then being rejected there were unfounded, he promised. I would never get the bike back in the box like it came anyway, and the prospect of being able to drive my S5 again as early as next week was tempting.
So I organized a car with a bike rack (difficult enough) and drove the 250 kilometers to Berlin on a Friday...
After about 3 hours of driving, I arrived at the service hub in Berlin with the S5 and was indeed greeted openly and sympathetically right away. "Oh, an S5... E-shifter? That's new!". In fact, I was probably the first customer with an S5 and a defective e-shifter. The mechanics looked at the problem and the first prediction was that the rear axle was bolted way too tight. So the E-Shifter was virtually jammed. Whether I would have screwed the screws of the rear axle they asked. I assured them that I had only installed the front wheel and then bolted it in place - although I would find it questionable if you were not allowed to at least recheck and retighten the rear wheel bolts without the e-shifter imploding.
Anyway, this new problem on the new bike would mean that they would have to document the case for R&D in additional detail. In addition, they would still be getting the replacement parts and the staff overall was not yet as quick with the new model. The employee estimated that it would take about 4 days to repair. After that I could pick it up. PICK IT UP!
After such a long wait, four days didn't really matter to me. But what almost made me lose my composure was the fact that I had to pick it up. Remember: 250 kilometers there, 250 kilometers back. Taking a day off and organizing a bike rack - apart from the fuel costs around 150-200 euros for two trips.
There was no provision for shipping it back to me, according to the employee, who had really gone to a lot of trouble and assured me that we would find a solution. I explained to him that I could not take on this trip on a regular basis. In fact, I found it extremely frustrating that I was expected to take on this trip again as a customer. After waiting so long, my bike lasted 8 kilometers. Now I was expected to spend a total of 1000 kilometers of driving time and two vacation days to pick up my bike. I even leave out the fuel costs. That knocked the bottom out of the barrel for me.
The employee, promised again that he would talk to his manager and clarify the issue. He would really give everything, which I also believe him so far. I have decided for me, however, that I will definitely not go to Berlin again. If a return shipment should not be possible, I will also request a refund.
What if the bike should have other problems? Should it be like this every time? Am I being too harsh?
The employee said he would get back to me this week as soon as he had more info. I will be happy to keep you informed.
I want to reiterate that I fundamentally understand what it means to be an early adopter. And I also consider myself frustration resistant to a certain degree. I don't hold a grudge against Vanmoof and think they really have built a great bike. For me, it stands or falls on the issue of service and how they handle the expected (?) problems. I hope that Vanmoof gets my S5 back together and I don't have to pick it up from Berlin. It's really a lot of fun to drive and fits nicely into my life - those time consuming and expensive trips to berlin not so much.
In the end, however, it must be noted that there are other e-bike providers, even if I see the S5 after the 8 kilometers in 1st place. Keep your fingers crossed for me!
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2023.03.30 13:39 Murky_Editor_6872 Aggression with no goal?
Hi.. hoping for some insight from anyone here that can hopefully explain this for me..🙏.. I have a 21 year old severely autistic son… he has struggled with “sudden” unexplained episodes of INTENSE aggression… it’s like a flip of a “switch” .. his pupils dilate, and he becomes violent.. no provocation.. he will throw things, run outside, head bang, and pinch and scratch anyone who comes close to him to try and restrain him… He doesn’t hear anything we say, he won’t respond to his preferred items, like candy or soda to try to help bring him “back”.. we’ve had the police called several times, he even pinches the police during an episode. It usually lasts anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes, and then afterwards, it’s like a reboot and he’s fine for a month.. he’s very mild mannered in between.. these episodes are not an indication of his true personality.. his psychiatrist has him on several antipsychotics, but because he’s non responsive, his thought was these “episodes” are temporal lobe seizures… then, in November 2022, he had his first grand mal seizure … so now he’s got a neurologist as well, and she put him on Keppra initially, 1000 mg a day, and now he’s on the slow titrate of Lamitrogene.. the goal is to get him to 300 mg and then taper off the keppra.. so, I guess his psychiatrist was right for the most part about these episodes. But I just don’t know for sure. Has anybody here experienced that kind of black out rage? Are they related to brain activity? Seizures? Aura? I just don’t know because my son is nonverbal and I’m trying to figure it out. I so appreciate any advice or tips. Thank you all.
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2023.03.30 13:39 Bvt8280 30M looking for chats that can turn into long term friendships!
I’d definitely consider myself introverted and someone who keeps to himself for the most part, but I’d like the opportunity to make some friends and get to know some people online!
I have your basic generic hobbies (tv/movies/games) but eventually i think it’d be cool to find someone to watch a show or play a game with. Missing that daily connection in my life, so if you’re looking for something similar, just shoot me a message!
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2023.03.30 13:39 iamguydangerous Zero confidence in my ability to keep my classroom safe in a shooting
I’m a first year teacher (7th SS). Yesterday the high school down the road from us was locked down because of a shooting threat. It was a hoax but I’ve been on edge since.
My classroom management and ability to stay cool under pressure are lacking. I have two class periods where minor emergencies have happened earlier in the year and students did not react to me telling them things like “don’t go near the broken glass” or “take your books off the broken table.” There are groups of upwards of ten students roaming the halls in packs and I have students constantly hanging out in the doorway to join them. Some even open my classroom door to let random students in. Students are constantly yelling which makes any announcement completely inaudible. Two of my 5 classes and my homeroom are both majority ELL which makes quick communication difficult even when everyone is behaving properly. I’ve given detentions and referrals, I’ve offered incentives, I’ve contacted home, I’ve done conferences and circles, I’ve tried being the mean teacher and the nice teacher and every degree in between but everything I’m told should work hasn’t.
If a shooting happened at my school, I feel like my classroom, my students, and I would be easy targets and I don’t know what I could do differently.
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2023.03.30 13:39 haydonatorx My current chair-off (help plz)
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