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I'm really sorry for a really long post but I wanted to make sure I did not misrepresent anything that happened.
Context:
Me (21F) and my boyfriend (28M) have been in a serious relationship for 3 years (currently LDR). Our relationship started in very dire circumstances when he was in desperate need of therapy and medical intervention because he had been suffering from undiagnosed condition (nothing that affects his everyday behavior, had to remove the reference because of the sub's rules). I helped educate him about the it and he sought help from professionals and is doing a lot better now. The first year of our relationship was very tumultuous with daily arguments, ugly fights, near-breakups but we managed to work through our issues and build a stable relationship. For the last year and a half we've barely even been arguing or bickering and were getting along really well. I noticed him changing his demeanor during fights where earlier he would walk out or just try to win the argument to him actually trying to sort out issues. However, I noticed a pattern where since the beginning of our relationship we'd get into really ugly fights right on my birthday. I have always felt a bit morose and dull on my birthday since I was a child which can be annoying for people who want to celebrate the day with me.
Birthday 2: ( I can't remember what exactly happened on birthday 1 but I'm sure a fight broke out and I had to apologise to him)
Last year, he lashed out at me for not wanting to do anything special and being sad as he was trying to cheer me up. He decided to walk out and said he has decided to not speak to me ever again aka break up. I also have a lot of anxiety issues so whenever there's a fight of this intensity and he walks out, I go into panic mode for some reason and bombard him with texts and calls because I can't bear not knowing what's about to happen next (or if I manage to not do that, I still have bad anxiety attacks). We've spoken about how that makes me feel before but I'll admit it we haven't really brought it up again since we haven't been fighting for a long time. I was deeply hurt that he had to lash out like this on my birthday (even though I don't really celebrate it). I don't think he ever apologized for it and even I never brought it up with him again even though I sort of resented him for doing that. I think I ended up apologizing for him for my behavior and asking him to not leave me. He never addressed the birthday issue again even though it was hard for me to get over it but we moved on eventually.
Birthday 3:
Last night, we got into an argument again. It wasn't a serious issue but it snowballed into one. One thing he tends to do during conversations is if he wants to hear me say a certain thing (apology, for example) or answer a question he will not listen to anything else I say UNTIL I say the exact works. For example, his only reply to anything else I say would be "That's not ___. I'll speak to you when you actually say __. I'll be waiting until then." And he really says this over and over for like 10-15m ore more until I either I cave in and do it or one of us leaves the conversation. We've had conversations about this too but I don't know if they were taken seriously enough. So the same thing happened last night which was actually my birthday and he kept on replying "waiting" to every single one of my messages until I got fed up and started mirroring his own behavior to show him how annoying it is. I admit, it was not a good way to handle the situation but he was literally not ready to listen to anything else I said. And in the middle of all that I realized that we were fighting on my birthday again. Then I dropped all this and brought up how he acts like this (probably unintentionally) on my birthday every year and that deeply saddens me. He got extremely mad at me bringing this up and thought I was changing the subject and said goodbye and left. I, as usual, had anxiety attacks because he simply stopped replying to all my messages so I left him a couple of voice notes explaining the entire situation. A few hours later he replied saying he's broken his phone and won't be able to reply to my texts like he usually does-completely ignoring what I was telling him.
I decided to not to let this drag me down and focus on how I could enjoy my day without thinking too much about him (I did not talk to him the entire day) and I managed to do it well for the most part. But I don't know how to speak to him again. I don't want to be the one having to bring up what happened last night since that makes me look like I'm starting a fight again or nagging....but I also don't want to let this go like last year because it builds up resentment. I feel disheartened that he can't let things go for a day (especially when it isn't a huge issue) and let me relax on my birthday instead of breaking up with me for 2 consecutive years. I suspect he'll try to avoid talking about this due to fear of us breaking into another argument again, but in that case, it'll always keep replaying in my mind until I get closure so I'm not sure how to address the situation moving forward.
For those of you who know, I have an anxious attachment style while he has an avoidant one. I would again like to reiterate that we haven't had a single fight in months and had been in a stable relationship for a really long time so these things don't happen frequently.
Question: How should I approach this issue now?

Probably a boring post, since asked all the time, but still, I need to start somewhere and get opinions:
I'm currently running a Gigabyte Aorus RTX 2080S waterforce. A solid GPU that served me well for many years, but now it's just not enough anymore for the games I run.
Those are open-world RPGs, but mostly flight-sims like DCS world in VR, which are very demanding.
I ran a GTX 1080 before, the next obvious choice would be the new TX 4080, but that's out of question, since I'm not willing to pay more than 1.000€ for a single piece of hardware.
Atm. I'm struggling between the RTX 4070ti or a used RTX 3090/RTX 3090ti. (All options watercooled only)
I'd favour the 4070ti, but I'm aftaid that only 12gb of Vram are just not enough for the near future, especially for simulators like DCS, which are not very optimized and require lots of Vram in VR.
So, given those facts, which GPU would you recommend? Please don't suggest any AMD-cards or anything more expensive than 1.000€.
(Nothing against AMD, just personal preference and bad experience)

I quit my job last week. The reason was because I was going through a depressed period. The job I had was high paying, had benefits, and tried their best to keep me there by even giving me more opportunities. However, there were things that happened in that area that got under my skin. I walked out because I couldn't take living in the area and working around that area anymore. I did this without checking if I had saved much of any money. Luckily, I have enough to manage a month... That's it. I have been looking for a job, but can't manage to find one. I have no clue what I am gonna do. My family can't pay the rent alone, nor the car payments. I screwed myself and everyone else over because I am severely depressed. I honestly wish I could get hit by a bus right now and just die on impact.

I 24f am getting married to my fiancé 27m next month. We share a 3 year old daughter together and I am pregnant with our second daughter.
Our wedding will not be child free as I have younger siblings that are below the age of 10, as well as my nieces and nephews.
My cousin has a son 4 who is not invited to my wedding. He in the past has behaved incredibly inappropriately towards my daughter and other children. He is incredibly destructive and throws tantrums when he can’t get what he wants and his parents do nothing about it. I don’t blame him for this behavior, I know toddlers are difficult but I can’t have a child whose parents can’t and won’t control them at my wedding.
My family is telling me I’m being incredibly rude and my cousin threatened to never talk to me again and ban me from family outings because most of them are hosted at her home if her and her son cant attend.
Am I the asshole and being too harsh toward them?

Hi. I am 33, 3 months post miscarriage and 6 months post birth control. I discovered I have Turner Syndrome as well as low AMH LEVELS, possibly Diminished Ovarian Syndrome. 6 weeks after going off BCP for 9 years, I developed night sweats and under arm day sweats. This lasted 2 weeks and then I was preg. All symptoms faded. I lost our baby girl at 7 weeks. Under arm sweating and night sweats started again 6 weeks later. The night sweats subsided but under arm sweating is on/off all day between hours of 10:30 AM-4:30 PM. Then it stops. I now have excessive back sweat and legs/behind knees while driving. This just started a few days ago. Please help me. I never sweat. Is this hormonal? Hyperhidrosis? Duradry doesn’t work for me. Trying Drysol soon and seeing Endo.

Small back story I'm a sex Addict in and out of recovery I struggle a lot fall down and get back up, my addiction finally caught up with me, my ex after a break up wanted to come over and hang out, we haven't official been together in about 8 months but we recently agreed to be exclusive, we break up again I fall asleep she goes through my phone see's every one I've been dealing and outs me to my closest friends and family well apparently, most my friends don't like me any more finding out I'm Bi won't talk to me won't speak to me my car got stolen told some of them about it and only got a "Damn how you let that happen" these are friends I've fought ,for carried guns with , held their children and vice versa. Now I feel like I have no one I told my friend that I wanted to take a break sexually to get my mental together and would she still be there to support me(we watch each other's kids) now since I removed sex from the equation we can't even be friends or continue to help each other. I never really expected this the feeling of being exposed the fear I've always had under the surface under neath it all coming to light I tried to kill my self over it didn't think it would ever be that bad lol

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Spring 4984, 9 Kuromoth, Spring Equinox
“Archmage, I thought you had already gone…” Brom’s voice, beyond Her door. She didn’t move, didn’t bother to look towards the closed portal. Had it been months or years since he'd last come to sit with Her?
“I will be leaving presently…” Archmage Morndancer’s cold voice answered. She squeezed tighter into Her little ball in the dark corner. It didn’t matter that he would be gone. He left the tower often, but it didn’t stop Her punishment. Even as the season turned from winter to spring, She'd stayed locked in Her room. With no books and no company. Occasionally being taken out to give samples in a lab completely separate from that of Her treasures. Only their yowls and barks from down the hall offering any comfort.
“It’s an important day, isn’t it, Archmage? Perhaps Sellon will pass the test.” Ran’s voice. Did he sound nervous? Her head tilted, just a little, towards the door. The half-circle of light from Her window did very little to banish the darkness of the room. She hadn’t bothered to light the candles. What was the point?
Morndancer scoffed, “Doubtful. Ronni didn’t manage it. And just as his sister before him, Sellon will join the Mages Guild whether he passes or not.” Sellon and Ronni, Archmage Morndancer’s children. She'd heard of them from Brom and Ran. So they were Mages as well. Perhaps they would be the ones to come take Her blood and cut Her hair in future. It didn’t matter. Nothing had ever mattered.
“But a Wizard-Cleric of Saint Bede might…”
“Enough.” Morndancer interrupted Brom, “Bede is no god, he wasn't even a decent Mage, he was and is a villain. We would not have this responsibility to save the world if he and his lot hadn’t doomed it.”
“Of course, Archmage, yes.” nervous feet shuffled outside Her door.
“Even now, Shaloon is trying to locate the next storm.” Morndancer continued his chastisement, “They come more frequently and destroy greater swaths of land. If we continue to be as useless as the other Talons, there will be no world left to save. So rather than waste your time on prayers to usurper gods, you had best refocus and redouble your efforts while we are away. Do you understand?”
“Yes, Archmage,” Brom and Ran said in unison.
“Good. And be sure to return those to the library when you have finished with them.” the hiss of fabric on stone accompanied the Archmage's exit.
Her door handle jingled, and Her head came up a fraction, but, “Wait…” Brom’s whisper. Silence followed, and She dropped Her head again, pressing her closed eyes into Her knees. Minutes passed, or was it hours? Did it matter? Maybe She would crawl into Her bed and try to sleep. Time passed faster that way. Or maybe She would just stay here in Her little ball in the corner.
“He should be gone by now…” Her lock clicked, and the door creaked open, but She didn’t bother to look up, “Goldy? Maybe She’s sleeping…” Brom whispered.
“Damn, it’s dark in here. Red, can we get a light?” She didn’t answer Ran’s request. What was the point? They would find Her and they would take Her for samples. She didn’t have to help them do it. “Grab the candle from the table, Brom. My hands are full.”
She could feel the life of a tiny flame beyond Her door. Felt it draw closer and enter Her room before it flickered and died. “Oh, Goldy… please don’t…” the shuffling of feet moving carefully in the darkness came closer. She tried to pull in tighter, tucking Her head against Her chest and letting Her now shoulder-length hair fall forward to further hide Her face.
They crouched at either side of Her, Brom setting the useless candle down to Her left with a soft ‘tink’ of brass on stone. Something much heavier was placed on Her right, the familiar scents of hardbound leather, paper, and ink… “We brought you some books, Red…”
She lifted Her head, looking through the tangled strands of golden hair and seeing a pair of worried faces looming in the dark. “If you light up the room a bit, we can read,” Brom slowly pushed Her hair back, careful not to touch Her skin. As though She would burn him. She might have. If She could find the energy.
“You’re not supposed to...” Her voice crackled from lack of use, making Her whisper even more inaudible.
“What?” Ran leaned closer, but She didn’t repeat Herself, “It’s been months, Red. You’re not in trouble anymore.”
She blinked silently at him.
“Look, Goldy,” Brom shuffled forward, still in his crouch, “things can go back to normal now. The Archmage will be out for a few days. We can take you to play with the animals tomorrow.” She shifted Her blank stare to him. Brom waited for a moment, searching Her face for a familiar flicker of excitement. She didn’t give it to him. He sighed, “We’ll leave these with you then. You can read them when you’re ready.”
Brom made to stand, but She grabbed the hem of his sleeve, “Stay with me…” On the candle, the smallest of lights began to flicker to life. Brom sat down with a groan, and on Her other side, Ran plopped down even less gracefully.
He leaned his back against Her bed and picked the top book off the small pile they'd brought Her, “We can stay until lunch, Goldy.”
“But we still have a lot of work to do…”
It was enough. The candle burned brighter, and She shifted Her legs down, taking the book Ran passed to Her. Things would finally be returning to normal. As they always had been, and as they always would be.
***
Shon woke long before the kitchen servant would come to fetch him. Everything was the same, and yet nothing would ever be as it was before. Sitting up, he ran his fingers through his hair, only to realize that everything wasn't the same. The other two boys who'd reached maturity were also awake. It looked like Gaven hadn’t slept at all, his sandy hair tousled and his dark eyes bloodshot.
“This is it then… the last morning in the dorms?” Gaven whispered the useless question. Nan, the oldest by a month, nodded in silence. Shon didn’t bother with even that much, swinging his legs off the bed and kicking something. Another difference. A final gift from the Church. A leather pack for him to carry everything he owned.
Shon dressed in silence only broken by the shuffle of the other two joining him. After tying his boots, he started packing the bag. It was large enough to fit all of his clothes and even his seven journals, though the eighth made it a very tight fit.
“Should we make the beds?” Nan whispered. Again, Shon didn’t answer. Instead, he stripped the blanket and sheets from the mattress, folding them neatly and placing them with the pillow at the foot of the bed.
“Yeah… they'll have to strip them to wash anyway…” Gaven said, following Shon’s example.
They'd just finished when the door creaked open. Normally woken by the morning bells, Gaven and Nan both jumped, looking from the dark window to the door then at each other.
The servant girl who usually woke Shon looked in on them with some confusion, then hummed in understanding before holding the door open for them, “Come on then. There may be some leftover dessert you can have while we make breakfast…”
Shon doubted he could eat anything at the moment. His stomach worked itself in knots that put an uncomfortable pressure on his heart that in turn seemed as though it wanted to beat its way into his throat. The entire sensation made him feel a strange sort of nauseous. Nan and Gaven looked no better than he felt, and they both swallowed before exiting the room. Gaven took a moment to look back over his shoulder before shaking himself and setting his eyes forward. Nan seemed to rush from the room, too afraid to look back. Shon took one last look around before following, the door clicking closed behind them.
He let the other boys walk ahead of him and wondered what they were thinking. Gaven would be taking the test with him today, but Nan had been selected to join the Masons Guild and had opted to accept the offer right away rather than try for one of the divine orders first. Perhaps Nan was the smartest of them.
“We'll miss you…” the servant girl whispered so only Shon could hear, “It isn’t glamorous, but it’s honest work... if you want to join the Servants Guild…” the Servants Guild was a loose association of otherwise privately employed cleaners and cooks. It was the last choice for orphans, but also their most common destination. She'd meant the offer as a kindness, so Shon nodded in thanks, though nothing but the most desperate situation would ever see him join.
The head cook looked up as they entered the kitchen, nodding in understanding, “Couldn’t sleep?” he asked Nan and Gaven, who mumbled incoherently in response. To Shon, the cook smiled, offering only a silent nod.
The girl who'd reached maturity with them was already in the dining room, staring mournfully at a plate of hastily scrambled eggs and a few cookies from the night before.
“Hey Lara, couldn’t sleep anymore either?” Gaven asked with a strained smile. Shaking her head, she picked up her fork and tried to force down some of the breakfast. She'd been accepted into the Tailors Guild, but unlike Nan, had chosen to take the test with Shon and Gavin. Just in case.
The cook himself brought the boys their plates of eggs and cookies, and they ate in silence until the morning bells sounded. The three unused to being up early jumped at the sound, exchanging nervous looks. Their juniors and the priests would come flooding in soon, laughing and talking and enjoying another breakfast with friends and the closest thing they had to family. It would be the last time the four of them ate with the others in this room.
Shon didn’t know if he could take the bustle today, even if it was the last. Or maybe because it was. He stood, taking his mostly full plate and returning it to the kitchen. The cook looked from the untouched food to Shon and back again, then picked up a pair of cookies and held them out to him, “You might not be able to eat now, but you can save these for after.”
Shon took the gift, meeting the cook's eyes and nodding in silent thanks. The cook returned the nod and Shon left the kitchen without looking back. He slipped the cookies into one of the side pockets of his new pack as he made his way to the courtyard. He passed the bathroom, its wall lined with low-hanging sinks and a single long mirror. He'd practiced arching his eyebrows in that mirror...
Entering the courtyard, Shon hesitated, remembering his first early morning. When he couldn’t sleep for excitement at the mere possibility of training with a real adventurer. He'd wanted to learn to fight, but more than that, he'd wanted to learn how to train. After all, he would be doing a lot of that once he joined the Temple. It would be helpful to have a head start… Or, that's what he'd told himself back then.
Shon shut the door with a click of finality that rang in the still morning air. To his left were the classrooms where the city's children took lessons. Just thinking about his last lesson, with only those coming of age, still made him blush. To his right was the door to the chapel, where he'd sat with the other orphans through the weekly sermons. Shon respected the god of life and healing, but Soleil had never been his patron. Across from him was the clinic, where the Clerics of Soleil saw to the needs of the sick and injured. He'd only been sent there once, after breaking his arm trying to climb the tree in the courtyard.
Shon would have no need to pray to Soleil specifically, and the Temple kept their own clinic... if he passed. If he didn't... There was a chance he would see the clinic again, perhaps the chapel...
Shon stepped off the walkway surrounding the central tree, and a familiar voice sounded from its roots, “Feeling up to a few exercises?” Master Veon-Zih asked, rising from his cross-legged seat in one fluid motion. Shon stopped in their little clearing and nodded, letting his pack slide off his shoulder and flop heavily to the ground. “I take it there's nothing fragile in there then?” Veon-Zih asked with a chuckle.
The idea that a thirteen-year-old would have something valuable or fragile enough to break just by dropping the bag finally pulled Shon all the way out of his contemplations. He arched a skeptical eyebrow at his master.
“There, that’s more like it. You looked like a rather well-preserved zombie.” Veon-Zih took Shon by the shoulder, shaking him, “Not a thought in your head, or skip in your step.”
Shon shook his head, sinking into his horse stance to start his drills. He punched with his left fist first, and Veon-Zih took position just out of reach, so Shon’s knuckles barely brushed the fabric of his tunic. Shon held the position until Veon-Zih also threw his first punch. He aimed for Shon’s face, sending a wave of air and ki over his skin and nearly touching his nose. Shon didn’t flinch.
They worked through their punches in unison, nearly touching but never quite connecting. Shon worked in silence for a while then said, “Too many thoughts…”
“And none of them new, I’m sure,” Veon-Zih commented.
Shon nodded, “The same ones circle again and again. Even though I can’t do anything about them... yet.”
“Not until after the test.”
Shon had to swallow a sudden lump in his throat and nodded again, unable to speak even if he'd wanted to.
Veon-Zih moved on to the next strike, and Shon copied him. He'd lost count of the punches but followed his Master's lead. “I don’t suppose you want to talk about it?” Master Veon-Zih asked.
Shon shook his head but then sighed. Most people seemed to like thinking out loud, especially when troubled. He didn’t understand why, but his usual quiet contemplation wasn’t working, so maybe… “If I don’t pass…”
“I would think of all days, today would be the one to take a break!” Father Branston called from the chapel door. He began strolling towards them with a broad smile, “Do you think you’ll be done in time to join me?”
Was it time already? Shon glanced around, noticing Nan, Gaven, and Lara approaching from the living quarter, all looking pale, their lips drawn in tight unsmiling lines.
Veon-Zih hadn’t come up from his stance, so neither did Shon, but the Monk did laugh, “Keeping a routine can be soothing in times of great change.” he winked at Shon, “Even if it’s a positive change.”
Shon tried to smile at Veon-Zih’s apparent show of faith but wasn’t sure if he'd managed it. What if…?
“Well, I don’t want to rush you. Can I trust you to get Shon to the Chapel on time if I take the others now?” Father Branston laughed as though he'd said something particularly humourous, his great belly bouncing with mirth.
“We'll be there.” Master Veon-Zih assured Father Branston, and Shon nodded mutely, resuming his drills and trying not to watch the others leave. “We have plenty of time,” Veon-Zih whispered, “Take a few deep breaths. It's the end of your childhood, not your life.”
They moved from drills to kata. Master Veon-Zih stayed in front of Shon, moving with him and matching his routine strikes with the appropriate counters. “You were saying?” it had been awhile since Shon had tried to speak, though his head continued to spin with the half-formed thoughts.
“I don’t want to think about not passing,” Shon said, kicking high and hitting Veon-Zih’s waiting arm.
“Do you believe such thoughts will jinx you?”
Shon dropped his kick and punched as the kata dictated. Veon-Zih was right; working through their regular routines did seem to help calm his pounding heart. “I don’t know… Maybe? It’s stupid, though. Whether I pass or not was decided when I was born. It won’t change just because I think about it.”
“Emotions are rarely logical.” Veon-Zih smacked Shon’s punch aside at the last moment, and Shon moved smoothly from that strike to the next, “It’s normal to be nervous. One of your peers is just as nervous, and he already knows where he’s going.”
“They all do…” Shon mumbled, snap kicking straight in front of him, confident in his Master’s speed to dodge and counter.
Veon-Zih did indeed dodge, but instead of the usual counter he hooked Shon’s foot with his own and tried to pull him off balance. Shon only stumbled for a moment, shifting his form to a different kata and counter, his body moving before his mind could catch up. Veon-Zih spoke as they continued the different form without finishing the first, prompting, “Even those taking the test have other plans, just in case?”
“Lara was accepted by the Tailors, and Gaven is going to enlist in the guard…” They had sped up the pace, and Shon needed to concentrate, now on edge in case Master Veon-Zih decided to shift the practice again. A few more strikes in, the Monk dropped below Shon’s punch and swung at his ribs, forcing Shon to block. Shon switched the kata to his most recent on instinct, using the block to redirect the punch rather than stop it as the original kata would have dictated.
Veon-Zih smiled, his eyes twinkling at the move as he picked up the pace even further, “Both of those are honest jobs and noble callings.” Shon could only grunt in response, now moving too fast for him to think of anything but the exercise. Veon-Zih continued, “The enlisted make up the bulk of Hengist’s armies, and their loyalty is admirable. The Tailors Guild not only clothes the populace but often creates beautiful works of art that serve to enhance the natural beauty of the human form.”
The Master hadn’t even broken a sweat, but Shon had to gasp out, “But I don’t-” before he was interrupted by another unexpected punch. He countered but then disengaged, breathing deep and slow, “What will I do? If I don’t pass? I thought about joining the enlisted too but…” but the idea of being so close, and yet so impossibly far from his failed dream, pained him in a way he couldn’t put into words.
When Shon didn’t continue, Veon-Zih asked, “Will you reconsider joining me then?”
Shon blinked at the Monk, his eyes going wide. He'd thought he'd lost his chance with the Monastery when he'd denied Veon-Zih for the Temple three years ago, “You mean you'll still take me?” he stammered out.
Veon-Zih closed the distance between them and placed a firm hand on Shon’s shoulder, “So long as you are an obedient and willing student, remember?”
Shon’s eyes burned and another lump rose in his throat, preventing him from speaking. He nodded, and Veon-Zih smiled, turning away from him so Shon could rub his eyes without the Monk seeing. He still wasn’t comfortable with the thought of failing, but he felt a little more at ease, knowing he wouldn’t be alone even if he did.
“Shall we go then?” Veon-Zih scooped up Shon’s pack and held it out to him, “Destiny awaits no man.”
***
The Grand Chapel was dedicated to all the gods of the kingdom, and though today it was closed to the public, the doors were still crowded with families from every walk of life. Merchants and craftsmen mingled excitedly with one another while their children nervously awaited the start of the test that would determine the trajectory of the rest of their lives. A smaller group of only two families stood apart from the throng. Dressed in fine clothes and protected by private guards, the nobles surveyed the commoners with a detached air as though above the gods themselves. The boy Shon often saw at the Temple was among them.
Shon stopped just outside the crowd, arching his neck to try and see the doors. His quiet dread had turned to jitters of nervousness as he and Master Veon-Zih walked through the city. He wasn’t sure if he'd wanted to run or stop moving altogether. Now that they were here, he tried to distract himself by studying the faces and movements of those gathered. Though if he tried to draw them now, the shaking of his hands would probably make the pictures impossible to decipher.
The differences between the nobles and commoners, in particular, caught his eye. One of the nobles, a man of middling years, wore long robes with a high collar buttoned tight to his neck and looked as if he would rather be anywhere but here. Shon had just finished scanning up the man’s robes when their eyes met. A shiver, entirely unrelated to the general anxiety of the test, ran down his spine.
The noble’s eyes went wide, and he started for Shon, the edge of the crowd giving way for him like the sea before a ship. “You…” his voice was breathy, and he reached out. Shon stepped back and ran into Master Veon-Zih, “They are back, truly?” the strange man asked, his eyes fixed on Shon who could only stare in bewilderment.
“My good lord Morndancer!” Father Branston’s joy-filled greeting sounded from the side, “So your youngest has come of age has he?” the Abbot seemed to snap the noble from his focus, and he turned away from Shon as Branston made his way through the crowd, Lara and Gaven close behind.
“Yes, Abbot.” Morndancer surveyed the Cleric with what Shon could only describe as contempt, though the look hardly wiped the wide smile from Branston’s face, “Will we be starting soon? Sellon and I have business with the Mages Guild.”
“Though if young Sellon should find himself capable…” Branston started, but the noble snorted. “Ah well, to each their own.” Branston finished, turning away from Morndancer to address his young charges.
From a pouch on his belt, Father Branston pulled forth three small books that shouldn’t have been able to fit in the little bag, “I present to you, your papers.” He fanned the books out before him, and each of them took the one closest to them. They were bound in leather with the seal of the Kingdom of Daanlin embossed on the cover. The knight on the kingdom seal rode a horse and held a shield with the seal of Clearhelm on it, three tall pine trees in front of a snow-capped mountain.
Their papers were proof of their citizenship and would serve as a record of their lives and accomplishments. Master Veon-Zih had shown Shon his own papers months before. It held a record of every border he had ever crossed and every teleport he had ever taken, as well as proof of all of his adventures and every job performed for any of the kingdom’s organizations. Veon-Zih’s papers were a veritable tome compared to Shon’s meager notebook. Opening it to the first page, Shon saw his name followed by his presumed place and date of birth. It detailed that he had been raised in the Church in Smildna and when he had come of age. At the bottom was a place labeled but left blank for the date and results of today’s test…
Branston was still speaking to them, but Shon only partly registered the words, “You should keep your papers on you whenever possible. You will need them to reenter the city any time you leave…”
Veon-Zih placed a hand on Shon’s shoulder, and he nearly jumped out of his boots in surprise. Leaning down, the Monk whispered in his ear, “Soon this book will be full of your adventures and accomplishments. Regardless of what happens today.”
“Abbot,” Morndancer interjected as Father Branston finished his explanation, “the test? Some of us have places to be.”
“Yes, yes, patience is a virtue, my dear Lord Morndancer. The sun will rise no faster with you tapping your foot at its pace.” he lowered his voice and continued to address the anxious children, “I am so very proud of all of you. Know that no matter what is discovered today, the light of Soleil will always shine with joy at what you have and will accomplish in your lives.” Shon wondered if any of the adults realized that their constant efforts to comfort their nerves seemed to be having the opposite effect. Shon’s palms were sweating as he closed his papers, and he had to wipe them on his pants to try and distract himself from his pounding heart.
“Follow me,” Branston turned away, walking through the middle of the crowd that had suddenly grown hush at his movement towards the door. Veon-Zih gave Shon one last pat, then slipped Shon’s pack from his back and tossed it over his own shoulder. Letting his student know without words that he would be waiting for Shon to return, one way or another.
Shon could feel the eyes of the noble Morndancer boring into him as he followed Father Branston through the throng towards the Grand Chapel. What was that man's problem? Who was back? Shon was too distracted by the test to dwell on it, but the man had made his skin crawl, and having him at his back wasn’t helping his nerves.
Father Branston turned to address the crowd as the doors began to swing open, “The testers will enter alone and present their papers to the clerks by the door. Families and friends may wait outside until the test is complete.” Nervous adolescents made their way forward, careful not to jostle one another, many accepting last-minute hugs and well wishes from their families.
Shon thought he remembered the Grand Chapel well from his visit almost six years ago, but was struck again by the beauty of its art. The masterwork statues and carvings were outshone only by the stained glass dome that painted the round floor in bright light of every color he could imagine.
Of the ten gods, eight representatives stood opposite the doors, waiting quietly while the testers handed their papers to the clerks and shuffled nervously in the middle of the majestic holy site. Neither the Temples of Horsa nor Saint Giorgos were present. Their absence wasn’t surprising. The Temple of Saint Giorgos only took those of noble birth and would give their tests separately, and the Temple of Horsa was openly shunned in Clearhelm, its only branch located in the capital city of Tarorn.
Shon handed one of three clerks his papers. She took them with only a glance, hastily scribbling Shon’s name on a long list before handing the book to one of the others who wrote the date in the spot allocated. By the time all the testers had filtered in, there were about twenty young boys and girls huddled in the center of the room.
The Cleric of Hengist, in robes of white and blue, stepped forward to address them. “You are gathered here today in the hopes of being chosen to serve. To serve the province, the kingdom, and most importantly, the gods. But before the gods can choose you to act as their divine hands and voice, you must train and study hard their tenants and virtues. And before even that, your body must be able to hold and direct their power. For a feather that cannot hold ink will never be a quill. This is not a test of your worth but of your natural, innate ability.”
As he spoke, two other Clerics, Father Branston of Soleil and a female in the colors of Lune, stepped forward, each holding something round covered with a dark cloth. The Cleric of Hengist continued, “Very few are born with the capacity to touch the divine, there is no shame in failing.” the Clerics of Soleil and Lune removed the protective coverings and everyone had to shield their eyes from the brilliant light that flared in Father Branston’s hand.
Squinting as his eyes adjusted, Shon could just make out an orb glowing in a bowl in the Abbot’s hands. The Cleric of Lune held a similar sphere, though it appeared dead beside the brilliance of the other. “When we call your name, you will touch the empty vessel,” the Cleric of Hengist gestured towards the unlit stone, “and then you will touch the vessel filled with divine magic,” with his other hand, he gestured towards the light. “Do not hold the stone for longer than a moment. If your body is unable to channel the magic it could do serious harm,” he warned.
“Trase,” one of the clerks called from the door, reading off the list they'd compiled. A tall boy stepped forward on shaking feet. He approached the Clerics, who nodded solemnly, all encouraging smiles gone. Reaching out, he touched the unlit orb, then with a deep breath, reached for the glowing vessel.
Nothing happened. Trase pulled his hands back, and Branston whispered -though all could hear in the stillness of the room- “It’s alright lad, you may go…”
“Anhala,” the clerk called, and a girl jumped before rushing forward to try.
The first six failed before a girl named Gena reached shaking hands to the orbs. As her fingers brushed the light vessel, the dead sphere in her other hand began to glow. She gasped, holding tight to both globes, now both shining brightly.
“Congratulations, my dear, you may choose an order…” the Cleric of Hengist gestured to the altars around the Chapel. Gena pulled her hands back slowly, and the unlit stone died once again. Shon watched as she walked to the altar of Soleil to await the end of the test before beginning her life as an adept in training at the Church.
“Shaclin Ebonheart,” the noble boy Shon often saw at the Temple stepped forward, rubbing his hands on his pants before reaching for the orbs. Nothing. He held on, and Father Branston gently removed the boy’s fingers from the light orb. Shaclin pulled away sharply, clutching his hand to his chest and whimpering. His skin had grown red and blistered.
“I’m sorry…” the Cleric of Hengist whispered.
Shaclin turned away without a word and strode for the door, still clutching his burned hand, silent tears staining his cheeks.
I won’t cry… I won’t… “Shon,” Shon closed his eyes, imagining himself in the Temple chapel with its calm silence and soothing scent of incense. He could almost smell it when he opened his eyes and moved forward.
Time slowed down… it took hours to reach the Clerics. Days to raise his hand to touch the dark orb. Now that he was closer he saw that they were actually crystals, tumbled into perfectly smooth spheres. His palm covered the dead stone, and it felt cool, as though it had just been dug from the ground by adventurous children. He reached for the stone bathed in light, feeling the warmth radiate off it before he even made contact. It wasn’t nearly hot enough to burn, and yet Shaclin’s hand had shown blisters.
Shon touched the stone. The warmth filled his fingers and crawled up his arm. It flooded his body like a vessel being filled with water before flowing out his other arm and down his hand. The dead stone came to life, its coolness replaced by the warmth of the divine magic, using him as its conduit connecting the two.
“Congratulations, son, you may choose an order…”
Time sped back up, and Shon let his hands slide off the stones. “Congratulations,” Father Branston echoed, nodding towards the altar of Hengist, “The rest is up to you.”
Only two others passed the test. A girl with long auburn hair and green eyes had joined the Temple with Shon, and a boy had gone to the Church of Saint Bjarki. They stood by their respective altars as the last of the failed testers left the Chapel. Gaven and Lara managed strained smiles at Shon as they left. He attempted to return them but wasn't sure if he'd managed it. The eight Clerics all breathed sighs of relief as the last left, and Branston and the Cleric of Lune returned the covers over the stones. Though still lit by the light through the colored dome, the Chapel seemed so much darker without the divine light to fill it.
“Four this year! An entire fifth!” the Druid of Cathbad exclaimed, her brown and green robes rustling as she danced in place.
“Yes, quite remarkable. Twice the average.” the Cleric of Saint Bede agreed. Though he resisted dancing for joy.
The Cleric of Hengist was also smiling broadly, though when he spoke, it was to the kids, “You may spend the afternoon with your families. Report to your chosen order before sixth bell.”
The girl who also joined the Temple of Hengist, Daisy, gave Shon a warm smile and hurried with the others to retrieve her papers. Now marked with their status as divine conduits. Shon walked behind them, his nervousness replaced with excited anticipation. He felt somehow full and empty all at once. With one door open, another had closed...
Shon stepped into the morning light to find the crowd had cleared. Only the three families of his fellows remained, hugging and kissing their children in joy. “We shall have a feast fit for the King!” Daisy’s father exclaimed, lifting her into the air as if she were no more than five. Shon’s stomach growled.
“Hungry?” Veon-Zih asked, stepping out from beside the door and presenting Shon with his pack. Shon felt his cheeks go red, and Veon-Zih laughed, rubbing his own belly, “I could use some lunch myself.”
Hastily Shon dropped his pack and rifled through the outside pockets, finding the cookies in the last one left to check. They were cracked and crumbled in some places, but he held one out to Veon-Zih regardless.
The Monk took it with a bow, “I am trying to resist being disappointed.” he confessed as Shon eagerly shoved his own broken cookie in his mouth.
He nearly choked, and Veon-Zih patted his back hard, not helping. Shon managed to swallow, then stammered, “Master, I…”
Veon-Zih interrupted with a laugh loud enough to fill the empty entryway, “Just promise me you won’t let your new studies dull your old. I plan on testing you with each visit.”
"Visit?" Something Shon couldn’t name filled his chest with warmth reminiscent of the divine light, "Test? You..." He thought he might burst with barely contained hope. No one could be so blessed... "You'll still train me?" Shon asked.
“I happen to be good friends with one of your future teachers at Hamerfoss.” Veon-Zih stated for the first time, “I’m sure he'll welcome my visits. If you'll have me…”
Shon didn’t have words for an answer. Instead, he lunged forward, wrapping Veon-Zih in the first and only hug he could remember giving anyone.
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Hey all! My name is Katie. I'm a woman (she/they pronouns) in the San Francisco Bay, 28 years old in July, finishing up my BA in literature, and looking for a woman (preferably in the area but I'm open to something long-distance as well - it's not a dealbreaker at all) for friendship with hope of it turning into something romantic down the line once we know each other well.
I am bi and demisexual, single, and monogamous, and I think I am discovering that I'm more interested in women even though I am bi.
A little (or a lot) about me:
Physically, I am 5'6" and average in terms of size, though I'd call my build a little more on the "stocky" side. I'm not overweight, just "Hobbit-like" as one of my friends put it. I currently have bleached hair as I wait to go blue, but it's usually ash brown, and my skin is very faiburns easily. I have terrible eczema, so I have some scarring on my hands/feet. And my eyes are hazel/light brown with flecks of green.
Personality-wise, I am generally very bubbly and ambitious. I have ADHD and autism, so I have a lot of energy and usually get very into whatever I'm doing, but I can also miss some key social cues. It's not intentional, but it does happen. I'm finishing a BA in literature from Berkeley, and my hope is to continue on to an English MA at my local CSU campus so I can teach at the postsecondary level in a community college. I really value very direct communication and when people clearly express what they need and want from me, and I make a concerted effort to do the same. Another thing that's very important to me is being able to rely on people to do what they say they will. It's a huge pet peeve of mine when people say things and then I realize later that they weren't serious. I take things literally a lot of the times, so if someone says "let's do ____", I will fully commit to making those plans happen and it can be really devastating to find out that the other person wasn't serious. So, dependability is something huge for me, and I consider myself dependable as well! Aside from that, I love to joke and share memes and TikToks, and I'm a big goofball. Family is very important to me, and I want to someday adopt and foster kids. Though, due to some health issues, I am choosing not to have biological kids so I hope that's something we can see eye to eye on.
Some hobbies of mine include reading and writing (I write YA fantasy novels and I'm hoping to publish soon!), video editing, video games, and swimming. I have a youtube channel where I "vid" - edit TV shows/films to music - and it's one of my favorite things. It's about to hit 1k subscribers, too, so that's fun and I'm very proud! For video games, I really love Assassin's Creed Valhalla, Odyssey, Black Flag, and almost all the Pokemon games (currently playing through Violet). I love watching ASMR, "overnight" and "haunted" videos (yes, I believe in the paranormal even if I don't understand it fully - it's a dream of mine to go ghost-hunting), and I watch some playthroughs of games if I don't have the time or money to buy them. I also read, love to swim in pools, lakes, or rivers - but I have become lowkey terrified of the ocean in recent years - and camp/hike. It is my dream to have the gear, friends, and funds to take an annual camping/glamping trip to some forested place near a body of water! Imagine being the bougie group with a portable projector and watching Star Wars or something while roasting marshmallows around a cozy fire. :) In fact, if I ever get married, my dream wedding location would be at this place in the mountains that has a bunch of cabins, tent sites, RV sites, and a little amphitheater and river views/swimming nearby for all the family/friends to stay and play.
A few life goals of mine are to be a successful published YA author, go to some festivals in the woods, own a home with a pool (lmao, pipe dream in this economy, but I can dream!), teach at the California Community Colleges, and have an enviable garden space for activities, my dog, and parties. In case you can't tell, I'm a really outgoing person albeit still an introvert. I love pets (have one cat and one dog, both seniors, and I plan to adopt others once they cross the rainbow bridge... not looking forward to that sad day, but I am loving them as much as I can in the meantime), I love kids, and I am huge into fun outdoor things.
What I'm looking for:
Tbh, I don't have many "deal-breakers" or "must-haves", aside from like... don't be a Nazi. Ideally, though, I think I want someone dependable, down to do outdoor adventures or go to places like Disneyland with me when I graduate from my BA program next year (I haven't been since childhood and want the experience as an adult), and kind. Compassion is a huge draw! It'd be awesome if you're also a book-lover or into gaming, and have your own things that you're doing (school, job, hobbies, whatever it is), are really passionate about the things that move you, and like animals. I am not religious but I don't mind someone who is as long as we can both be respectful. I'm also big on boundaries and healthy communication, so let's just talk if we have any issues. Ummm, I'm really comfortable talking online because written word is my chosen medium, but I feel like I forget everything I have ever learned in my life when I try to talk to someone irl so be aware of that, haha. Honestly, let's just talk and be pals, no expectations, and see what's up and if we connect. No pressure on either of us to force anything, let's just see if we enjoy talking with each other. :)
If there is something I didn't touch on that you'd like to know, just ask me and I'll probably give you an equally long-winded answer as this post, lol. Sorry for the verbosity. I write!

Hi all
My brother is 47 years old, 2 children, lives in rented accommodation and has next to £50k in debt. He works part time earning around £1,200 a month and gets around £1,100 in Universal Credit. I am trying to help him get out of this situation but really need your help as I am not too sure how to deal with debt you can’t afford to pay.
Most of his debts he has defaulted on so is only making regular payment to his car loan. He’s speaking to with StepChange and also discussing an IVA with a company called Bailiff Rescue. I’ll try to break it down by the biggest and different types of debt but do let me know if you need more insight.
The biggest one is his car. The debt is £19k and there is an additional arrears of £3k which he is paying for separately. The value of the car is around £12k. The interest rate is something stupid beyond 30% and he’s on a hire purchase agreement. My main question around this specific one is if there is a way to get out of the agreement; giving the car back etc. A quick Google Search says it’s when half the loan is paid off. Is there any way to get out of this loan early? What’s the best way to tackle this? He needs a car, but not the fancy one he got. Currently he’s paying over £1,100 in payments, insurance and petrol. Should be a fraction of that in a standard car. The initial loan was £21k.
He then has another £21k in loans from 4 other lenders. A lot of these are in default. He’s also mentioned that half of them, though they appear on his credit report, haven’t chased him for the money. One of the debts he took out over 20 years ago. Any advice for this particular situation?
Lastly, he has a number of small debts totalling over £2k. Most of these are mobile phone bills that have missed payments or defaulted. There is also a council parking ticket.
I have suggested a plan to deal with his monthly spending – Moving to sim only contract, cancelling his higher tier TV package and look at reducing his £650 shopping bill. However, I have no idea what’s the best course of action regarding the debt. I don’t fully understand an IVA, but it sounds like a debt consolidation where you end up paying someone else with interest instead. Then there is bankruptcy which I also don’t fully understand. How does that work and how will it affect his job (works in a school), housing, phone contracts etc. Any help on the particular situations of overall will be MUCH appreciated.

Hello, I am looking to put together a team of founders and am inviting anybody who may be interested to reach out to me on here or DM, this is an open interview style attempt to fill out the core founding team of what will be the worlds next megacorporation. A bit about myself and what im doing is that I am a aspiring inventor (no official patents or the like yet) who is working to develope a multitude of designs I have come up with over the years as a result of consistent research into a library of thousands of patents and documents pertaining to the most advanced technologies imaginable. Everything you can think of from advanced systems that turn farms into ecological rejuvenation hubs while growing crops up to 10 times faster with twice the nutrient density while also eliminating any need for fertilizers, pesticides, herbicides, fungicides, antibiotics, etc. to antigravity, cures for virtually any ailment, thought based computer interaction, specialized AI programs, and waveform based technologies that can enable seemingly magical capacities for the user to name just a few of the technologies I intend to bring to the public sector.
In line with this goal over the last year or so I have been making efforts to the best of my abilities to establish my company and develope these technologies into prototype ready states and am now beginning to make the prototypes as I am able to do so. I have also established and expanded my professional network on LinkedIn to include specialist and investment related professional contacts around the world and have discussed these technologies and products I am working on at length with many of them and have received exclusively praises, aid, and encouragement in my endeavor. As a result from these networking efforts I have recently been invited to present at a 3 day global networking and investment conference taking place in July.
This development has refueled my efforts to continue to build a team to help me run this company that once funded, will quickly disrupt multiple major market sectors and create a couple new ones all together. Beyond that I also intend to Create a social media platform that will provide inventors and other creatives with a platform to showcase what they have to offer to the public at large where they will vote on it and we will then get the winner's offerings to market for zero upfront cost to them and 20% on all sales going forward. I am also working to establish a coalition of sorts made up of companies that cumulatively agree to ensure eachother's continued existence through various means that are created and made available by and within the membership of the group, there are a lot of details to that one that I'm not going into here but we will obviously cover after you reach out.
As you can see there is a lot, and even more to this plan, and because of the scope I need a lot of people, people who know how to run a multi national corporation, People who know how to build AI, electricians, engineers, project managers, etc. To help get this off the ground and solve a large number of the major issues plaguing society today. I can't offer you money for your help until we all start making it together. With that Said anybody who joins up now will be a founder alongside myself and will be entitled to all the expected benefits and responsibilities. Once we get the first design on the market everybody will be paid generously. The first product is a heating system intended to replace the standard gas, electric, etc. heating systems that people use for their homes and businesses today. In short it can be run on as little as a car battery and a cheap solar panel if need be and is to be sold for a $50 monthly subscription in lieu of the wildly fluctuating gas and electric bills that we all contend with today. It also provides on demand hot water as well.
If you made it this far and this interests you, and you want to know more let me know and we can talk.

Me and my gf broke up 2 months ago. It was our first relationship, which lasted 4 years. She dumped me because she thought our relationship was going nowhere, the reason for that is because we both go to the same college and have to graduate first before doing more serious things. The other reason was because she always wanted to have marriage, but i wanted to wait more because there were some divorces in my family due to early marriages, and i did not wanted to make the same mistake.
The breakup happened at a very sad point in my life, when my grandma got ill, i have argued with my friends a lot, and my workplace was full of stress, i thought my gf will help me get over the general sadness but she has broken up with me. At first i was angry, and then i realised i have made mistakes as well, and tried to fix my life in order to get back together.
I have changed my job, got some new clothes, started learning judo, and focus more on myself.
After some weeks of trying get back together, i started doing no contact. Sometimes she texted me to ask what am i doing, i was happy for that. Then i went to a club started dancing with other girls and my ex gfs friends attacked me what was i thinking, she went home crying while i was having a good time. I replied that she broke up with me, why couldn i dance with other girls?
Well after that we talked a little, went into no contact and 2 weeks earlier i started talking to her again to see if theres any chance, we had a good time, and 1 week earlier i wanted to have a date to see if theres any chance if we could restore things. Well she didnt want to go because she was afraid that we will break up again. After that i told her my deepest feelings about our future potential kids, our marriage and our home, while i heard she was crying on the phone and we finished the talk because both of us had to study for our exams.
2 days later i called her again and asked that the things i told her made her feel good or bad. She said it made her feel very good i replied that we should go on a datr then which she declined, and i told her that this is the last time im calling her, i dont wanna look like fool, and will not contact her, i wished him success, and her to find someone who will love her as much as i did or even more.
She told me that if our love was true then our paths will cross again, which hurt me beacuse it made me feel like i was out on a shelf until she wants me again.
I think our love was true, is there any chance of getting back? Until then i will spend my time with girls who tried to seduce me in this period, and maybe only want sex but at least they know what they want.

I am in a contentious situation with my co-parent. He has continually sent texts in violation of our custody agreement (all communication on an approved app) asking to get back together.
On the advice of counsel, I have been documenting all such violations on the app, with a reminder he is not to text me.
After my recent capture of a string of texts in violation, he responded stating, since I like to document things so much, he would be bulk uploading all the pornographic content he has of me, because both lawyers and the court deserve to see that.
Given this escalation, I am filing for a DVRO next week.
Is the revenge porn threat a thing that needs dealt with in any kind of a different way (criminal vs civil, etc.?)
I am self-representing in the DVRO on the advice of the lawyer I consult with, but want to be sure I speak of it properly when called to give testimony.
(The attorney I consult with is overseas for the next month-- and, no, that's not Reddit equivalent of "asking for a friend." She really is.)

I have been on 20 mg for a little over 3 months. I felt as though it wasn’t working well enough for me so my doctor recently upped me to 40 mg. It’s only been 4 days but I am having trouble sleeping as well as feeling more depressed. I find that I’m dealing with really bad brain fog and slight dizziness. Is it normal to experience side effects this soon? I also deal with being hyper aware of how my body feels and anxiety revolving around my health so I am paranoid that it’s not just the meds and I have some other issues going on.

This is going to be a long story but stay with me I meet my husband in high school we wasn’t very close or anything so I didn’t know much about him years after I graduated we happened to run into each other again so we started a small conversation which we ended up getting each other social media we started talking for almost 6 months then we started dating and I moved out so I could live with him ( I’m skipping some information because it’s not to relevant to the story but he was in a different state for work and I needed to get away from my family for awhile) soon after we moved in together I became pregnant everything was good until he started “to become stressed with work and a new child on the way” we found out in about November that his mom had sadly passed away I had done everything I could to be by his side but he would always go running to one of his closest friends which I did not mind they’ve known each other for years let’s call her Shelly I never had an issue with them talking for some more information Shelly was 14/15 year old at the time of the story I know she was younger than us but I never knew how young she was I never really bothered to ask either around this time is when everything started to go wrong it he started talking to me about the idea of Shelly moving in with us because she was having a bad time at home constant fights with her parents her grades were slipping and she just wasn’t happy so he asked if I would be OK with the idea of her living with us I didn’t really think about it I didn’t know much about her story I just told him that I wasn’t sure and it would take some serious talking between me and him that was the last time he ever brought it up at least to me me and him started fighting it was constant at this point almost every day we would find something new to fight about him not caring enough about my pregnancy and my pain ( at the time I was having a lot of health issues because of my pregnancy) or me not caring enough about what he has to deal with that work and every single time we would have these fights he would run to Shelly and pretty much describe that I was attacking him I didn’t care about him I didn’t love him as much as he cared and loved me at this point he started to play mind games with me telling me if I loved him enough then I should be OK with having someone who he sees as a sister move in with us telling me that I am just over reacting with my pain and at this point I started to believe him I was so far away from my family and I had no new friends where we were living so I just started to think that I was going crazy due to the pregnancy hormones he had me believe in all of that up until February 2021 about four months after I ended up having my daughter me and him were sitting on the couch when out of nowhere I got a message from Shelly showing me screenshots of their conversation him asking her for inappropriate pictures him sending pictures to her which led into another fight between me and him started telling me that he was unhappy and he was sorry and he wanted to make it work how it was a mistake At this point I was over it I ended up packing all of my things and left by that weekend and moved back home with all of my things and my daughters things into my old room at my dads me and him didn’t really talk after that and when we did it was us fighting once again until Out of nowhere I get a call from coworkers asking me what was going on because they had seen him get pulled over and arrested so I start calling all of his bosses to try to figure out what was going on I found out that he threaten to shoot his bosses to a point where the police ended up calling me and asking me why I had left because it looked like I had left in a hurry I told him the truth showed them the screenshots and gave them all the information I had an investigation started it lasted about six months they found out that he had an inappropriate relationship with Shelly who is 15 at the time and found out in the past 4 years he did the same thing with two other 15-year-old girls who are now over the age of 18 and did not want to press charges his family after they found out that he was arrested and charged for not only physically and mentally abusing me but also the sexual assault of a minor they blame me because there’s no way that their precious little boy could be capable of doing such things it was my fault I pushed him to it now I’m on a production order so he cannot talk to me but his family is now harassing me too for me to be taken off so he can have the right to talk to his daughter I feel like the asshole because I feel like I’m keeping him from having a relationship with his daughter but I just can’t get over what he had put me through the constant fighting him actually choking me while I was pregnant with his child to point to where I couldn’t see straight and I just remember the look in his eyes where it looks like he actually wanted to kill me

About Me
Hey there, my name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game itself.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:

• Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
• Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
• Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).

Community
In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
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Coaching
As a coach with over 6.500 hours of experience, I have a passion for helping others improve and reach their goals. By studying the techniques of renowned coaches such as LS and MagiFelix, I have developed my own unique coaching approach that has helped countless individuals and over 20 teams advance their competitive play across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University E-Sports Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:

• Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
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I am dedicated to continuously honing my skills and providing the best coaching experience possible to all of my clients, regardless of their rank or location.
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We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:

• Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
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All sessions will be personalized and created specifically for each student's needs. By following this plan, you can feel confident that you are taking the most effective steps to achieve your goals.
Personalized Support (Available 24/7)
In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.
AvailabilityPricesPayments
I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs. Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.
Contact?
Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at Shelbion#8832
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.

I ask for your help cause we have a 2 and a half yo golden retriever who enters my little car but stubbornly refuses to get into my wife's car. We actually need to put him inside physically and I have already injured my back a couple of times with the need of recurring to medical treatment. He is now beginning to refuse jumping into my car too but not as stubbornly as with my wife's car. He doesn't have car sickness, we just don't understand what happened at a certain stage. Let me start from the beginning:
when he was a puppy, I had retina detachments and had to stay in bed for a month, so my wife put him into her car and went to the dog trainer with him. According to my wife, during those trips, she braked hard a couple of times and he was a bit thrown around. When I was able to drive again, I introduced him to my car and with the use of little snacks he accepted it without problem and to these days he gets on even if 90% of times appreciates if there is a little "stimulus" based on snacks. As for my wife's car, we have been trying every trick and method, including a little stool to reduce the gap, multiple snacks, peluches, but to no avail. I have seen how trainers force dogs into cars and we went once but he was a puppy and this idiot threw him around and basically dragged the puppy so we said no more, that's not the method we like. Any idea that could helps us and Taro?

About Me
Hey there, my name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game itself.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:

• Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
• Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
• Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).

Community
In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/TuTZAeRbx5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.
Coaching
As a coach with over 6.500 hours of experience, I have a passion for helping others improve and reach their goals. By studying the techniques of renowned coaches such as LS and MagiFelix, I have developed my own unique coaching approach that has helped countless individuals and over 20 teams advance their competitive play across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University E-Sports Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:

• Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
• Helping a Silver 2 player climb to Platinum in three weeks.
• Guiding a Diamond 3 player to Grandmaster in six weeks.

I am dedicated to continuously honing my skills and providing the best coaching experience possible to all of my clients, regardless of their rank or location.
How Does it Work?
We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:

• Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
• Practical sessions: These sessions will either be VOD reviews or live games, and will be used to put theoretical knowledge into practice and analyze gameplay.
• Reviews: These sessions will occur periodically and will be used as checkpoints to track your progress and identify any additional areas for improvement.

All sessions will be personalized and created specifically for each student's needs. By following this plan, you can feel confident that you are taking the most effective steps to achieve your goals.
Personalized Support (Available 24/7)
In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.
AvailabilityPricesPayments
I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs. Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.
Contact?
Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at Shelbion#8832
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.

Hey y'all F 24 M 26 almost 4 years together, lived together for 3 of them.
TLDR; We've both done bad stuff, lied, been sneaky. We were open and a lot of boundaries that were put in place to help that work got broken. I feel like she always gets her way establishing boundaries, breaking her own boundaries, refusing my boundaries, etc. A lot of this has to do with how we interact with others on social media. We finally sat down and I wrote out a detailed explanation of this and made sure we agreed to some hard boundaries to move forward with, and then just this morning she breaks the boundary we set 2 days ago and gaslights me about it again.
The first year we were dating she moved in with me because of covid. It was a bit overwhelming, we had discussed being open, she decided against it, I just went along with things. I ended up talking with some girls from the NSFW subs on here and trading pictures. My GF was very admit about being sex positive and non judgmental at the time. I thought it was p*rn, she didn't, it hurt her a lot and sparked this forever lasting issue.
Over the next two years she goes through my phone and computer a number of times. She had asked me to block all the people I had talked to and I had stopped doing anything but she was paranoid and I tried to fix things by allowing her to look for herself (probably a bad choice). She does fashion stuff and during all of this she is posting see through shirt pics/ludes/butt pics on her story and profile. I also try to be progressive and non judgmental jealous so it wasn't an issue for me really, but there were a number of guys who would reply to her stories constantly and flirt etc etc. I asked her to block these two particular people who would always message her and she refused because she "didn't want to effect her follower count".
Then last summer we finally decided to be open. We talk a lot and sometimes communicate well so we thought we had reached a point where things seemed like they would work well. We go on dates, issues arise, feelings come up in both of us, we work though them, we talk through them etc etc etc. I wasn't having much luck with dating and she was and I had asked her to slow down repeatedly and she didn't want to.
The morning after a date last winter she tells me the person is in this band, I look the band up, and guess who it is. One of the guys I asked her to block two years prior. We had even made a specific rule not to hook up with anyone we had talked to before being open. She had been hooking up with him and keeping it from me. Albeit we were open, but for sure breaking boundaries, lying and being sneaky. We fight we get through it, we work things out. I tell her gif she really likes the guy who cares she can still see him.
Then randomly one day she starts asking em all these weird questions regarding people I've talked to/been on dates with. One thing leads to another, shes on a date and I decide to go through her computer for the first time in our relationship. Big mistake. JFC was there a lot of stuff I wish I wouldn't have seen/read. Again, we were open, so I knew things were going on, but no this.
She had gone through my phone the day before without me knowing. I sensed the weirdness and went through her stuff for the first time ever. How f-ing toxic right. She was sexting with guys she had promised me were platonic friends who she talked to constantly, she was sexting while around me and my family on holidays and telling people about it like it was a turn on (after we established not sexting while together). She had been talking to the guy I had asked her to block for months, about me, about me controlling her and wanting to see him etc etc.
So then somehow this all turns into we both did bad stuff past and present lets just move forward. Even during this talking it out period she is lying through her teeth. She says one girl I dated had a roommate who told her something, she says she only slept with the guy I asked her to block once and he said it was twice or three times. Just totally confusing me.
The whole time weve dated she asks why I follow someone, or why I liked a pic. Or comments about how she saw I was liking someones stuff, or how I commented on something. We talked 3 weeks ago and I said that this needed to stop. We had gotten back from a trip, we decided to close the relationship. Then shes sitting and messaging someone and I go oh who's that and shes says my friend asking about my senior thesis. Then it comes out it was someone she had matched with and she lied again and was telling him we were closed for now but maybe she could see him this summer.
Then on the couch a week ago I liked a girls story while sitting next to her and she started complaining about it. I was just like look stop. We had a big fight. I ended up staying up super late reading self help stuff and writing a whole doc to talk to her about. We sat down 2 days later and talked about our boundaries and how to work through all of this and move forward. I made like 3 big boundaries and said ok here is the new rule from here on forward. I repeated it and said can we both agree and respect each other and uphold this. She agreed. I didn't coerce her, I didn't threaten her, it was a mature mutual agreement.
Then today, she comes out of the bedroom and says, I saw you followed this person on IG. I was just like WTF, did we not just agree to this. She says its not fair because this is an issue from the past and that was a new agreement, and then she says that she thought about it more the next day and wanted to change her mind but didn't tell me.
I'm soooooooo sick of this. We are supposed to move to New York together this summer after graduating from college but I'm confused. Sorry for such a long story but I need help. I want to preface things by saying I love this girl very very much. I thought that I would stay with her forever. But the more and more time goes on and these things keep happening Im getting scared. I have definitely messed up as well, i'm not perfect at all, but reiterating this I'm kinda like wow am I crazy for sticking with this person. I'm TERRIBLE at ending relationships or judging when things should end or letting go of love. I just want to make things work and I think I allow myself to get taken advantage of, even if not purposely, because of this. Like she wants to change for sure but nothing has changed in 3 years.
I'm kind of just like when is the last straw?

I met the man of my dreams who checked every single box, and I screwed it all up. I always get moody and irritable during that time of the month. Now is that time of the month and this time was too much.
It started out with him doing one thing that upset me, and he never apologized so I was upset for the rest of the day about it. Instead of talking about it, we swept it under the rug and went to his friend’s party, which just made things worse because now I had to pretend to be happy and bubbly and not like we were in the middle of a fight. And I asked him if we could leave the party early and he reluctantly took us home. I went back to my place from there, and we haven’t spoken since.
I’ve spent every single day with this man for almost a year. Planned an entire future in my head with this man. And it’s all gone because I was moody and couldn’t just let things go. I don’t know where to go from here. My eyes are swollen and my head hurts from crying, and I have no one but to blame but myself.
It’s the realization I had exactly what I wanted and couldn’t keep it because I’m that miserable to be around.